first cycle actively trying (June 2015)

[gina236]

I add maca to a smoothie every morning. Works so much better than trying to take it. I can barely taste it in the smoothie. Your cervix sounds like it's getting fertile. Hopefully the opks start following suit. I've given up checking my cervix. After my chemical in august it has just been all over the place. Never even fully closed last month.

And yes I hate when dh won't dtd. I never tell him when it's really important because he will get stressed and not be able to finish. This time his hip was bothering him all day so he wouldn't even try because he said he knew he wouldn't be able to finish. I had an urgent feeling that we needed to DTD that day but he was only interested in "taking care of me" -_- he's not getting away with that this month.

 

[Velathria]

Awww gina im so sorry... I was so sure you were. It sucks when you are so sure and then you get a bfn.... I really hope next month works out. Maybe all that healthy living will make it happen

I got af two days early so I guess yay for that. I'm excited because in about a week it's every day and this is kind of the first month of really ttcing.

@Rex I know what you mean. I wanted to buy a basal body thermometer and he said why I need that... and that he doesn't see the importance of that and that we will just have sex around the time when my O is supposed to be. He thinks it's all super easy...

Sigh... men... they don't understand that. And just found out my opk kit is going to take anothe 3 weeks to get here from amazon... where the hell are they sending it ??? Maybe I'll be pregnant by the time they arrive. XD

 

[FertileFlower]

Gina I am so sorry to hear you did not get the bfp yet. You'll get it!

I know what you are saying about DH not wanting to BD on the important times!
Mine loves to bd, but if he has other things going on he doesn't make it a priority to make it on time.

This time I ovulated cd12/13 had a opk+ on the afternoon of cd12 (18th) and that day was the ONLY day we did not bd for over 30 hrs! DH was busy elsewhere.
We've covered all other days so much though that I am afraid of low sperm count!

Both my ovaries were aching. The left one only a bit, but I don't ever notice anything in that one and don't think I ovulate from it. But maybe this time! I'll end up getting twins! lol!
So now I'm in the dreaded 2ww also!

But Gina, can you help DH ejaculate and maybe you can insert it and use soft cup? I know that is not romantic or that sexy, but I've read quite a few women who does it and has been successful getting their BFP that way.

Peace and wellness to you Mini!

Baby dust and blessings to the rest of us!

 

[gina236]

I wish that was possible FertileFlower. But when his hip is acting up he wouldn't be able to even finish himself. The pain stops his body from ejaculating. Not sure why. Every once in awhile he can do it but it takes a LOT of determination and persistance.

But I'm sure that you had plenty of good sperm in there. All it takes is one! A 30 hour gap isn't that bad. Especially if you ovulated right after your surge or something. Ooo twins would be so exciting. After waiting so long to get 2 would be amazing.

Velathria, don't wear that boy out too early I'm happy for you that you get to really try this month! Men will never understand how much goes into ttc. I just tell my dh here eat this or do/dont do this. I just tell him everything is good or bad for his sperm so he listens. Haha. I have learned so much about my body during this journey. I never planned on ttc but now that we are I couldn't imagine getting pregnant without knowing everything I do now. Prenatal care is so important, even before your pregnant.

 

[FertileFlower]

Gina, I'm sorry to hear that about your DH's hip. That must be frustrating for you both and difficult to deal with for him.

I got a second positive OPK+ just now. I've tried to research it to see what it might mean but I am pretty sure I ovulated already so I don't know. It's definitely positive though. I just hope it doesn't mean that I have a cyst that is blocking the egg from releasing or something.

 

[gina236]

Some people get +opks for 3 or 4 days. I believe it means you haven't ovulated yet as lh is supposed to dip after ovulation. Or maybe it's just taking longer for the surge to end? I wouldn't think anything is wrong. Some women just have longer surges.

Or you could be right about the both sides ovulating and one surge was for one side and the second was for the other side!

 

[gina236]

Found the inspiration for our nursery! Hehe

 

[Velathria]

Hahaha I hear there are different perspective about having BD too often. Some say there won't be enough sperm or some say that if you wait too long they will start dying off before they even get out. Oh well... guess we will see next Month

Gina I hope you find a way around that horrible hip problem. I can't imagine how hard that must be. For your dh too... he must feel like he can't provide you with what you want.

I really hope it finally works out for you

Fertile flower that definitely means you ovulated on both ovaries.... I read a lot about twins and when you have a surge and then another it just means you ovulated twice.. just cover all those days. maybe you'll have two have you been taking anything to help with ttc? I hear vitex and that stuff can make your chance of having twins higher.

 

[gina236]

Thanks. He's been dealing with it his whole life. It will have to be replaced in about 10 years, if he can wait that long. Definitely makes things challenging but hoping for no rain during my fertile period this month (that's a sure thing that will make it act up). I'm excited to see af leave and get started on this cycle. We have both been taking our vitamins and drinking our fertility smoothies. I have been trying to relax as much as possible. Taking a bath twice a week, drinking tea at night. We have even started reading at night instead of watching tv in hopes to sleep better at night. Putting all my eggs in this basket and really hoping it doesn't backfire.

Just found out the other day there are only 2 more baby blankets that my grandma made before she passed away in January. Every first baby gets one. She made about 7 in advance and there are only 2 pink ones left. And my cousin is about 15 weeks along right now with her first. So there will only be one left. If I don't get one I will be devastated. My grandma meant so much to me. The only other cousins who don't have a child are about 18 so hoping they won't beat me to it. Just puts the pressure on even more.

 

[Velathria]

Oh that's horrible. Now you have even more pressure to get pregnant... I know what you mean. I can't wait till My AF is over and then the trying comes.

 

[gina236]

Im down to spotting today. My cheapie opks will be here Saturday shouldn't O until next weekend but I'm excited to start. Determined to DTD more than the past 2 months. Lol.

 

[Velathria]

I am only spotting today too.. should be over tomorrow. XD looks like we are on the same cycle xD
Well my app says I ovulate around next week so starting BD the start of next week. Ordered my opk kit already like 2 weeks ago but now it says they will take a month xD might be pregnant already till I get them xD

 

[FertileFlower]

Gina, make sure DH doesn't take too hot baths. I've read everywhere that it is not good for the sperm. Otherwise, that sounds really cozy with the tea etc. I'm sure you know this already, you seem on top of things but thought I'd mention it anyway just in case and also if others read this thread later.

Velathria, yes, vitex, maca, damiana, folic acid, prenatals, and B6. I also tried epo for the first time this month and it did seem to help with ewcm.

I definitely ovulated two days ago. I've never seen the opk go so dark! It was positive yesterday too, then this morning finally negative. Now my nips hurt, and so does both ovaries. We have timed the bd perfectly! I'm feeling quite hopeful!!

Twins, that would be something! I'd love it, but I am framed really tiny. Not sure there would be room! I'd be carted around in a wheel barrel.

 

[Velathria]

Well I don't really have a problem with ovulating... I just have different cycles every month. Sometimes really long or sometimes really short. Me and bf are just gonna BD the whole next week so we don't miss it. And I hope that works.

It be so cool if you had twins wouldn't that be cool... trying for ages for just one and then come two hahahaha... I got my fingers crossed for you

 

[gina236]

Thanks fertileflower. I do know that. He doesn't take the baths with me, our tub is wayyyy too small for that lol. That's what I blame for our first month. We DTD right after/while still being in the hot tub on our honeymoon. It was the only day the tub worked so we had to try it out. Lol. So hoping it is twins for you!! I've still got about a week until I O. Blahhh. This part of the cycle is always so boring lol.

 

[Velathria]

I ovulate around the 30th and it's still so far away. I know how you feel gina.... but me and the bf are gonna do or every day starting tomorrow xD

 

[gina236]

I wish we had the time to do that lol. DH works one job 5 days a week, the other 4 days a week and all free time is spent renovating our kitchen or working on his truck. DTD usually takes last place on the priority list. I'm hoping we will be able to DTD every other day to every 3 days starting tonight or tomorrow. It will definitely be a change for us. Usually we are lucky to get 3 or 4 times a month in. But I want this so bad this month I am going to try everything I can to get dh to forget how exhausted he is lol.

 

[Velathria]

Yeah we have to DTD when my son is asleep so that's hard to... cause lately he is having a growth spurt and that means he has a hard time to sleep because everyrhing hurts. So it's hard to find that time after he is in bed to DTD... especially by then I'm exhaustedd. But I still go ahead and jump him xD

 

[Velathria]

But I hope this is our month gina we should be on the same cycle it be so cool if me and you would get a postive this time

 

[mininun1]

Good luck Gina and Velathria, I'm keeping my fingers so crossed for you this month!!!

I'm experiencing lots of hormonal changes, breakouts especially! Ugh! But no pimple treatments because those ingredients are bad for baby, so I'm suffering through it I go in for another doctor appointment and a follow up ultrasound to make sure the placental bleed isn't any bigger. We decided that we would tell family around thanksgiving instead of waiting until Christmas (I'll be majorly showing by then), so we are pretty excited about that. Baby dust to all!