General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[JLM73]

Dobs We DTD at like 5am, but dude was not finishing ( if you recall my hassles TTC with him before) well I was determined if I was up all night anyhow and we started the deed waaay late, then I damn sure wanted the goo, so I ventured to the nether lands and even tho HE said he wanted to finish IN me, things went faster than I could spin round and *ahem* mount the saddle lol
So it came down to use the mouth or hand catching it...
I went with door #2 and it gave me a reason to play off heading to the bathroom, as well as not trying to mumble some chatter nonsense and not sound like I had a mouth full of marbles
I just repierced my lip myself again since it closed up when I had surg, so that has been my go to excuse to hop up and scoot to the bathroom- gotta rinse my mouth, use mouthwash etc hehe.

Flu I'm not committing to all out getn back with exhub given all his drama still and how little he's changed, so I figure keeping my TTC efforts from him is best for now.
I could easily tell him Np, and he'd be fine I'm sure, but then I would be giving him the idea I want our relationship fully on another level, and as Dobs said- ummm nooo...you can't do such a drastic act as filing for divorce outta nowhere, then go thru months of the process never changing your mind then, or withdrawing it etc only to decide the next year when your life is spiraling down the hole YOU dug, to want me back "like"a wife, but not AS a wife
So we are close, affectionate, living together temporarily etc, but I am keeping the relationship there regardless of how many statements he makes about, "we...us...our blah blah"

Not to mention if TTC worked, at 44 I damn sure am having everything done thru the amnio this time, so I would get back to my house to keep distance btwn us if/when showing till results were in and I knew what I was dealing with. The I'd tell him.

He's a spazzy stressball, and "ain't nobody got time for that" lol
My opk today was a sneak buy too lol he paid, and I hid it between everything on the belt, then stashed it in my purse before he grabbed the bag .
Opk verrrry negative, so hopefully temp way up tomoro

CB eeee excited no af just the spots! I can't wait for you to either!

 

[gigglebox]

Cbbbb teeeessst omggggg

 

[JLM73]

Gigs it's way late on that side of the pond.
Let's hope she bought some tests today for fmu

 

[JLM73]

I'm bored lol but here's my 4 days of opks,today's Def neg
The 14th is when i think i O'd, and the pic makes the opk look+ cd14 but it was just starting to be lighter than the cd13 opk
when wet i could tell, hoping for temp rise tomoro, as i think today's small rise was the start of it

 

[shaescott]

So Friday night SO went home for his spring break, mine was this past week, his is this week, and he stayed at my house that night cuz it was our only crossover time. His car is having issues so I went to his house to pick him up and his mom asked if we were too tired to drive because it was 10 pm. We said no, but SO said “if you’re so worried why don’t you just let her sleep over here?” And she was like “yeah no” and he was like “Mom I’m 23” and she was like “I know. Still no.” And he said “what if I put a ring on it?” And she said “you did not just say that” and he was like “what? It’s a song” and laughed, then said “but seriously, if we were married would it make a difference” and she said “of course it would make a difference” and he said “well then you’re lucky I can’t afford a ring”. He’s never made his intention of marrying me that clear to his mother. She wasn’t upset, just a bit shocked cuz she still thinks of him as a kid, ya know? Also she probably still hopes just a little that she can get rid of me previously he’s said that although he does plan to marry me, he’s not ready to commit and propose just yet. After he said the ring thing to his mom I talked to him and asked if that’s changed and he says he thinks he’s ready to commit now. Unfortunately he has literally $19 in his checking account. His savings is his college fund. So I’ll be waiting a while lol

 

[claireybell]

Aww shae hehe how lovely your SO wants that definate commitment at such a young age & he obvs adores you my mum was the same with any prev boyfs staying round even when id left home-moved back & i was like 23/24! They just dont like the idea of jiggy under their roof lol!

I tested but nothing.. il upload the pic, it still looks like a hazey blur if anything like the neg tests last week, af in the post i reckon. Unless i ov’d loads later & i had no pains & its waaaaaaay too early

 

[claireybell]

My non existent line porn lol

https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=1028713&stc=1&d=1520860794

 

[wookie130]

J!!!!! So glad you've rejoined us!

Dobs- Do not cut those beautiful curls!!! A is so friggin' adorable, seriously. Such a cute little boy. Screw ex-SO and his racist hair attitude...what a messed-up thing for him to say, seriously. Ugh.

Shae- Pics of the new hair color are in order!!! How sweet of your fella to bring up puttin' a ring on it! He's serious about you, for sure!

AFM- My big girl Hannah turns 5 years old today! Happy birthday, sweetheart!!!!!! . .

 

[JLM73]

Shae ahhh : ahhh how sweet! Glad he has the cajones to put his intentions in mom's face and stand up for you2. Alot of men NEVER do that their whole lives!

CB ahhh....that's confusing, but still rootin for ya! And I def see the haze you are seeing.
What brand test is that?
Other than the fact that my O 99%around cd13, unless I use soy or something that alters the timing, I would deffo have to temp and opk to know when I likely O'd, cuz my cm is not ever EW, nor do I get any reg Ov pains etc.

Wooks!! Thx. Been away ages and missed soooo much, but I'm baaaack!
And I hope Hannah has a GREAT time today!

 

[claireybell]

Ahh happy birthday Hannah! Hope she has a lovely birthday

I get ov pains & watery cm, once in a blue moon do i get ewcm! Had loads the first 2 cycles off of my pill back in Sept but that was it.. i dried up Lol! I would temp but because of my erratic sleep pattern of not really getting much sleep due to a certain lil 19month old my temp wouldnt be that accurate i dont think.. :-/

Its a Lloyds pharmacy 4 day early test, i had positives on them last pg & with nuala at 10dpo, def trustworthy just pissed at my bod ha ha

 

[claireybell]

Your temps getting nice n high J eeeeep!

 

[gigglebox]

Ahh cb i was hoping for a different outcome where does hubby stand on ttc? Did you have "the talk" yet?

J it's too bad you don't have the excess funds or means to further investigate why those eggos haven't been sticky :/ i agree your opk's look like you o'd cd14; hooe your temp confirms so you aren't left guessing or having to figure out how to ninja in some more man goo!

Ahh wook happy birthday! They grow so fast don't then? Des will be 6 soon and Lev will be 1 not long after! Hard to believe! It feels like i last gave birth yesterday, and ages ago at the same time. And with des...it's hard to remember life before he was in it!

Finally feeling better today! I'm still weak but my fever is finally gone after almost 3 weeks! Yay!

 

[claireybell]

Aaaaaand....... Period

What a waste of a 4 day early test & £6.20p uhh!

On the plus side, il order dome OPKS online this month so i can have extra help to determine ov’ing this cycle

 

[claireybell]

Yay no fever Gigs! Fx your starting to get on the mend now! Are u taking a good multiVit + Iron to help get yourself healthy & energised

Nooo not had the talk.. im just rubbish. I know it’ll be 100% no from him & then if i fell pg again say in a few months time, i wouldnt want him thinking i had stitched him up as such knowing how much id like another one idk., :-/ plus the rejection of being told no, i would just start crying, im so hormonal Lol! Crying never works in my favour with him pfft! i reckon hes happy carrying on with ntnp but actually trying would be a

 

[JLM73]

CB
So sorry the flew in..ole bat musta misplaced her broom a few days grrrr
I think you are right not to ask him outright. As we always say, he knows what can happen during NTNP, or just without protection, so in my mind he KNOWS you can fall, and def knows how you feel, but isn't so against the idea he feels the need to press condoms or you back on BC.
I like your plan, opks for the win hehe!

Gigsey so glad the temp is gone, and you are feeling better!
I am soooo behind on your vids gotta get my birdie cuteness in asap lol

 

[claireybell]

J you have half a red chart line

Exactly! Hes a big boy & knows about the birds n bees.. tbh glad the witch is here as the test addiction is expensive hahaa!

I went to Drs to get something for my skin as my spots are horrendous atm, have been for a year now, Dr gimme prescription to put me back on pill i not told SO as he’ll say ‘yeh why not, we not ttc or anything’ .. uhhh i went their in hope of some Acne meds & came out with BC .. Drs! He asked of i was ttc & because i said no, he was like ‘oh here u go then’.. Thing is im apprehensive of the combined 30mg pill as im now classed in the higher risk catergory! Ohhhhhh gaddaaaym!

 

[DobbyForever]

Lame!!! Tell the doctors you changed you mind now that you’ve processed and want another option boooo bcp

Also boo af

Been reading but so tired I had tummy trouble and A had a fever last night so I was rocking him while on the toilet joys of single motherhood lol

 

[Flueky88]

Shae that's great he feels comitted to you.

Wookie happy birthday to your little Hannah!!

CB oh no, I'm sorry AF arrived. I hate wasting a test to have AF arrive

Oh and I'll call back, it's awful bcp is the go to drug.

J nice temp rise. It's looking like you definitely Od

Gigs woot woot. It's hard to believe our babies will be turning 1 soon.

Dobby I hope you get some sleep soon. Call in reinforcements?

AFM had a bit of a crappy day. My throat is scratchy, I'm hoping it's just allergies. If I'm getting ill then I'm sure O will be delayed. I left my laptop charger at work and my laptop battety is junk. So i drove over 3 hoursnot counting my initial drive to work or drive home. Ugh.

But worst of all my cousin's brain tumor has returned. It's small but they have been fast growing in the past. She has surgery the 29th.

Sorry for debbie downer post

 

[JLM73]

CB I'd personally skip the BC pills, there's other ways to treat acne besides the hormone route, and I wouldn't tell your SO about the BC
I'm mode tho lol

Dob sorry about the tummy trouble

Flu sorry about the bad day
Hope surgery goes well for your cuz!

odd thing for me tonight
we went to a buffet tonight and given i been drinking coffee allllll day ( exhubs woke me like every HOUR last night bumping me patting me or snoring grrr) and I have peed more times than I can count today.
So I go to the loo and when I wipe it felt slimy...i been taking an assload of guaifenessin till today, so just figured extra cm, but the TP was very light pink?!
I did the ole wad of TP internal wipe on the hot pocket and just clear cm???
no idea what the hell that was about, but def pink first wipe...chalkin it up to an O related thing

 

[gigglebox]

Fluek so sorry about your rough day and especially about your cousin i hope they have no trouble getting rid of it again. Yes I can't believe it's been a year already! So crazy, so fast!

Cb i agree with the others, don't take it! Have you tried any over the counter remedies like face washes, wipes, etc?

J that is odd, hope your "ttc cocktail " isn't doing more harm than good :/

Afm...still haven't ov'd this month no doubt because i've been sick...playing with the idea of ttc although i know it's probably best to wait two months like we decided when i got the antibiotics...

I mean we do have a wedding to attend in December, probably best not to have a newborn...