General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[shaescott]

Dobs Lol the red is more obvious if you compare the roots. It’s meant to be a more subtle color, I wanted it to look natural. It’s not a huge color difference, my natural hair has gold tones so it’s not like I’m going from ashy brown to bright red, I’m going from dark blonde to kind of a darker strawberry blonde/light red ish lol

J I definitely don’t think I’d look good in a line green Mohawk but thank you haha, I appreciate the Disney princess sentiments.

 

[DobbyForever]

Def looks natural to me. Has the Dobby stamp of approval

Lol j I totally would hahaha yay for well time pressed and soft cup!

Jcuckyxrixyk it A is so cute I can’t deal

 

[JLM73]

Not a bfp, but my line porn contribution
Took my opk late as F*, but Def +

 

[shaescott]

Dobs do we get to see A’s cuteness? Pleeeeasee

 

[DobbyForever]

Oh someone asked if growth spurt nope this has been ongoing since Jan. The fact we’re down to just two wakes us a miracle. He was STTN but then once he started getting sick a lot mid January it was gg. Sometimes he eats; sometimes he just wants paci or to come in bed with me. When he eats it’s anywhere from 2oz to 5oz. I know people say things about making night time feedings smaller and eliminating them but idk if he’s hungry i’m Ok with him eating cuz he needs it. Idk idc lol

J deffo positive so great timing fxed you can get another round in today

Btw we have only attempted food chunks twice and both times he maybe got five pieces in his mouth, immediately decided they were gross, and spat them out. Likes to suck on the juice of his hand but won’t actually it it lol so they dogs end up getting it because it ends up on the floor and i’m Too tired so I just let them eat it haha

 

[DobbyForever]

To better show off his curls which everyone else in the world thinks are f’adorable

 

[blablamana]

Aww dobs he's adorable!

Sorry, kids still sick. DH and I now too so yay.

 

[gigglebox]

J!!! You've returned!!! When you're ready to share the drama, please do! Sounds like you've got things well calculatfor this month and dang, what a very positive opk! Sorry to hear exhubs isn't any better off than he was, but I guess it's not really your problem. Is he still drinking? Glad to hear his little gonad bump is nothing serious.

Dobs, wtf, he does not have "black kid curls"...??? I mean it's the soft, whispy type of hair, not the thicker, tighter curls (although that is also cute!). Lord help that man if he cuts those off! Anyway. He is cute as a button! Did the drs say how long A will need the helmet? Honestly it will be nice to have extra protection for bumps etc...i'm just thinking about Lev, that kid is constantly falling and hitting his head

Fluek I bet ttc takes shorter this time then, especially since things are pretty regular and you've been off bc for some time now. Eeee I can't wait for someone else to get pregnant!

 

[claireybell]

J ahhhhh your here so glad your back on the chat board hehe!!

Shae i can see the colour diff straight away, looks really nice & suits you. Your so you g & fresh faced! Lovely.

Omg Dobby A is sooooo blooming cute LOVE those curls hes a lil heartbreaker!

 

[DobbyForever]

Thanks ladies . Yeah his curls are clearly mixed curls. I’m curious to see the end result because i’ve Seen them stay loose but i’ve Seen them tighten up as well. We’ll see but I loooove it

And lol yeah every other week A hits his head at daycare to the point they rearranged the furniture lol you can see his shiner in one of those pics haha usually 4 months so I am fxed it is off by his first birthday part . I was planning a cake smash photoshop as well and I def don’t want it with the helmet on

 

[claireybell]

Aww i love the birthday cake smash type things uber cute hehe! Whens his birthdsy Dobs?

 

[DobbyForever]

It’s in July so it’ll be 4 months 2 days after his first appointment but it takes two weeks to make the helmet =\. We got held up because the cranialogist was completely booked until March so we had to wait a month and a half for his appointment . We’re having it at a ritzy Gymboree type space (not Gymboree). I’m hoping I can get my friend to drive up from gilroy her daughter is a month off from A. Otherwise i’ll See which kids he likes most at daycare and send a couple invites but i’m also fine it just being close family and A. It’s nice because his birthday is a Saturday so I can do it on his true first birthday . Cake smash will be another day idk yet I kind of want to do it in SoCal and have my old friend so the pictures since she’s cheap and amazing but idk

 

[claireybell]

Ah how lovely its so nice having a party on their actual birthday! Not that he’ll have any idea whats going on lol but lovely all the same! Rileys first birthday we had loads of people there & it was scorching hot heatwave plus i was pg & never knew, i was dying haha! Swore id never do a party again as its stressfull but the kids love it you should def ask your friend about pics, they would be lovely

 

[DobbyForever]

Awww yeah being pg in the heat is no fun. This is pretty low stress because they do everything. You legit just show up lol I’m all about not doing it myself my baby shower was enough stress

I’ll drop the pics regardless just a matter of where, when, who at this point. I’m really content with A. So at this point it’s just about when he turns 3/4 if he wants a sibling otherwise it’ll be just him OR if I meet a good guy and he wants one but even then idk definitely not having more than two I just can’t manage that many lives lol

 

[gigglebox]

Shae I can't believe I forgot to comment on the hair! It looks very nice, the red tone certainly suits you.

Dobs even if it's not ready to come off at his party i'm sure taking it off for smash cake wouldn't be a big deal, especially being the end of his treatment period.

 

[JLM73]

Thx Ladies
Dobbers F that! A is Gorg! and his Curls are THE best type!
Trust me coming from a fellow Mixedlet lol
I have tighter curls/waves than A, and my dad had straight up Afro hair, and my mom has Hair like A's right now being Portuguese.
My hair requires very little care now that I figured out I Don't have to relax it like I have all my life ( 80's/90's brainwash lol).
I use leave in conditioner, that's it, tho I do tie it back as needed to minimize tangles overnight.

My daughter is 1/2 Black 1/2 Portuguese, Her dad is 1/2 Italian 1/2 White
(super white with straight brown hair/blue eyes) and she had hair JUST like A's as a babe, and Beautiful Large Ringlets/waves as an adult.

My 2 sons both have Black dads with Afro Hair...
Oldest son's dad was Black as Midnight - and my son had tight smooth baby curls, that later grew into Afro hair. It does do the "wave kit" thing naturally tho when cut low

Youngest son's dad is Black but very light like Creole complexion with straight up afro hair like his parents. BUT, my lil boy has Afro type hair so to speak, but it def forms tight curls on the top where it's kept longer

I am a Punet square freak, and love mixed kiddo genetics anyhoo hehe
So in your case I am 99% sure You having the beautiful curls we have all seen in pics, and being mixed combined with "baby daddy's" very White background, A is gonna end up with hair the same texture ( smoothness) he has now, and the curls will stay very similar- not getting tighter than those ringlets everyone loves.
( I soooo still need that Nerd Emoji with glasses and buckteeth )

His dad is a total FOOL to wanna cut them off A is GORGEOUS with them, and in no way looks "black" by his words. He looks to me like a mixed kiddo- and I can assure you as he grows, people will keep asking if he's Spanish, etc, as THAT is how their babies hair looks as well when young.

No matter tho, cutting them does not change WHO he is, nor WHAT his parents have in their backgrounds. His hair is not gonna become Afro like, nor is cutting it off constantly gonna make him look diff unless you keep him bald- which I am sure neither of you wants.
In my experience- kids who are forced to Not cut their hair DO as soon as they can, and kids that are forced TO cut their hair will grow it out into wild styles as soon as they can.

Save yourself the headache for the next 18 years, and make SURE your co-parenting paperwork spells out you BOTH must agree to major changes in the child's activities, schedule, schooling, altering his appearance etc...
My A hole ex aims for every loop hole possible to annoy me, and has kept my son't hair cut with HIS barber since 2, and freaks when I use temp color on his hair for school events or Halloween
Personally the cut isn't bad, so I let it go, but as soon as my DS can speak up in court, I KNOW he will ask to live with me majority, since his father doesn't let him have fun, be a kid, and do anything outdoors

 

[JLM73]

Gigs when I got to ex hubs apt, he had Sake and some Fireball here, clearly he brought it from the move from t he other house, and a couple beers in the fridge.
He's always been an all or nothing drinker, and I think my health kick of no alcohol has him avoiding it while I'm here.
Far as I can tell in 3 weeks he's had 1 beer and a small amt of fireball about 2 weeks ago
With his job drama right now, he is stressing BIG time and admitted he is not drinking cuz he would go hard with all his stress.
Part of why I am here. He spins into left field mentally a couple times a day, and I am the type that doesn't stress walking into burning buildings lol so I am anchoring him for now and reeling him back in to the rational thought process as needed.

He did admit having an anxiety attack earlier while out doing errands bcuz apparently he got an email from Uber that he can't drive anymore till he completes a course, due to repeat low customer feedback.

He is an ass in his way of speaking and tone, and I have to remind him constantly about it. I can brush it off cuz I know him, and he apologizes later, but that does not work with customer serv jobs
He's also waaaay over educated in many things, so he comes across as a know it all, debating, arrogant prick...
He told me the other night about arguing with a customer and was peeved when I agreed he was wrong- it went like this:

He gets a call to pick up a couple. Due to heavy heavy trafic on the road there due to a local huge fair going on, he is at a stand still. They called to ask what was taking so long after waiting over double the time he was estimated to arrive, and bing impatient, he sharply told them he was stuck in traffic and they needed to walk 300 yds to him at a diff meeting spot or just wait a while. The girl said that was too far, but they would just wait.
The girl relayed this to her boyfriend, and didn't hang up right away, so he overheard the BF say "WTF? Let's just start heading toward this as*hole..."
So exhubs calls them back and starts yelling at them saying "Did he just call me an as*hole?!?" The girl tried to be the cool middle man, but too late, ex hubs - no doubt mad about traffic, took it out on them as he often does in life with others lol, and he yelled "Here is me cancelling your ride....and THIS is me hanging up on you!"...and he did both

I told him he was gonna get a bad review, but he could not see how he should have just ignored it being on the cust serv side ( another reason I won't go into biz with him).
I told him- Maybe one of them is feeling sick, injured, has a bad knee, or is in a wheelchair?? Maybe the girl broke a heel, or twisted her ankle so 300yds is ALOT to her!
I keep telling him "someone else's bad day does not have to be YOUR bad day, have more empathy with your thinking!" You never know what someone was going thru right before they cross your path...

He finally understood, but seriously, way late in the game since their bad feedback/complaint was instant while they either booked another Uber or complained to Uber then vowed never again to use their service and switch to Lyft

 

[JLM73]

Dobs I'm sure I haven't scrolled back far enough, but what did they find with A that requires the helmet?
Also perhaps you could just have it off during the BDay party?

 

[JLM73]

Here's yesterday's +opk (marked 2) wet pic
And a line up of these 3 day's opks,today's wet is the#3
Deffo neg cd12, + cd13 (done late in the day),
and today's cd 14 going negative again
ExHubs is grouchy over work stuff, and my ute is achy so may not be anymore man goo this weekend

 

[gigglebox]

No worry on the man goo, you had some well timed! Yeah my hubs is always making jabs at customer service jobs but it really does take some finesse! I've calmed many an irate customer in my day (he has too)...not everyone can stay calm under attack, clearly, as exhubs has proven. Empathy is definitely the name of the game!