General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[Flueky88]

Crappy reply but wanted to say Myles is absolutely perfect!!! Sorry you are having sore nips. Hoping this little lady will breastfeed, but if not I'll pump for a bit and ff until I dry up.

The insta-love. Felt it with V as they laid her on my chest before taking her to NICU. Maybe that fear about what shape she would be in helped me bond so soon?? Meh nothing wrong either way. Labor can be so traumatic it can be hard to have that instant love I think.

Shae hope you get some rest soon. Nothing like having loads to do and feeling exhausted. I hope clinicals go well too. Oh and I actually never had a successful IV stick in nursing school. For my 1st 6 months I always got out of sticking people. I realized I couldn't avoid it forever and finally started trying. 1st try was on a staff member. I got pretty good at it too. My skills are a bit rusty since I'm not bedside nursing though.


Michelle yay for another bfp. You should upload the pic. We are all due for more line porn

 

[Michellebelle]

I’ll have to take a photo of tomorrow morning’s test if I have time!

Telling DH was pretty casual. I just told him before I left for work yesterday... I thiiiiiink I see a faint line on a test. But I don’t know if I’m imagining it. But I may be pregnant. And then I’ve kept him updated. He knows how cautious I am and hesitant to get excited too soon. We both like to have the beta numbers to confirm before it feels real.

 

[pacificlove]

Thanks ladies for the reassurance even though gigs brought it up I feel better about my feelings towards L when he was first placed on me...

On another note, controversial too: my mw asked me on monday if we knew the gender. Reason on that was if we wanted to circumsice if it was a boy. So I said no, and I don't think we were even asked for L so both boys could be the same. I told DH about this conversation tonight. His reply:" actually we asked you 3 seperate times! And you chose not to answer!"
I have no recollection of it!! According to DH, one of the times I was asked was when the (black male) gynecologist was fist deep inside of me, making wet sounds in there checking how far I was dialated.. yeah, I have memory of that wet sound and how red I wanted to turn, not any questions
Anyway, circumcision is off the table again, as there is no one here who will do it I was told. L wasn't done because of my lack of answer


Shae: I have heard of lyme not necessarily showing on all blood tests, something to look into if it's still on the table.

That's all I remember to respond to for now...

 

[pacificlove]

I wonder what it's like for men: insta love?

 

[Jezika]

Yeah I didn’t have that insta-love either, and mine was an uncomplicated, fast vaginal delivery and Tilly places straight on my chest for about half an hour after she was born. Depends on what insta-love means though, I guess. I’ve seen mums in floods of happy tears as they cradle their babies for the first time, and I was definitely not like that. I remember just being quite shocked and finding it all surreal. At home, I remember looking at her in awe and feeling a lot of love, but tbh NOTHING compared to how much love I have for her now when I look at her (in general). So yah.

Re: epidural consults, I guess that explains why they forced me to carefully listen to a spiel about possible risks etc. while I was 8.0/8.5cm dilated.

Gigs sore nips are the worst! Mine definitely got better pretty quickly too, so hang in there. Btw I love your pic of Myles in the pink hat on insta. Post here!

I was going to reply to a few other things but forgot. Hate that!

In other news, my bestie who has preeclampsia is currently being induced. The pre is progressing fast and baby is only estimated to be 3lbs 8oz and may have some issues, so they’re freaking out, the poor things. She’s only 33+2 (for reference, one day behind Flueks!).

 

[gigglebox]

Erin yes if your tests are getting stronger i'd say you're fine! Congratulations!

Shae well that's good. You can still have it and test negative but hopefully that's not the case here. Hopefully they figure it out and the remedy is simple

 

[gigglebox]

Jez that is a very sweet sentiment about Tilly and grr I knew that had was too girly! it's got pink and blue stripes (hospital hat) but O felt the pink was super dominating. Funny thing about the hats -- this is the first kid that didn't have a head too big for the hospital hats!

Yikes so sorry about your friend! Hopefully the fears or issues are just the type doctors have to mention to cover their own asses. I can't imagine having a baby so small though...I'm having a hard time wraping my head around this ones size and he's basically the size of an average full term baby!

 

[ErinC]

Erin yes if your tests are getting stronger i'd say you're fine! Congratulations!

Shae well that's good. You can still have it and test negative but hopefully that's not the case here. Hopefully they figure it out and the remedy is simple

Thanks. I will take another test either tonight or tomorrow morning to check

 

[PrettyInInk42]

Michelle - Congrats!

Gigs - Sorry you're having pain with BFing, but at least your home. And it sounds like your boys ar taking to their new brother well. Your pics are so sweet.
Jez - Sorry to hear about your friend. FX for a safe delivery and as healthy a baby as possible.

Erin - That all sounds normal.

Re: insta-love. I don't remember having it with Alex. I laboured for 19 hours, unmedicated. Then had an epi for 8 hours and the only pain I remember feeling was the widest part of his head coming out and at least the last 3 (of 6-8) stitches. I remember being in the verge of tears for a second, but then recomposing myself. Obviously, I love him, but I can't really pin point when it happened. The only thing I can think about is how much I hate myself for getting the epi and how no one stopped me.

AFM, gonna start doing opks tomorrow. And SO and I were just brainstorming tonight about moving furniture in the bedroom and how to fit a slighty larger bed for Alex in there (cuz he's still just in a pack and play). We could probably leave the bed and pnp where they are though and just put a convertible crib in the opposite wall; we'd just need to move a shelving unit into the living room. I always try to be careful and not talk about more kids for fear of him making a comment about not wanting more. However, during our convo, he used "they" and "them" a couple times and joking suggested a "bunk crib", so it kinda sounds like he's in the parent-of-2 midset as well.

 

[Jezika]

Oops! Sorry about the link hat Gigs. I totally thought your emoji was in reference to that too. Might’ve totally been my screen brightness though haha.

Erin fingers crossed for you!

OH MICHELLE! I forgot to say a huge but understandably very tentative congrats!

 

[shaescott]

I’m having awful insomnia. Been trying to sleep since 11 pm. It’s 3:20 am. I have to get up at 4:45 am to get ready for 12 hour clinical. F*ck my life, man. Idk what’s causing this, I’m so confused. I did take a tiny 2 hour nap because of a migraine but normally I’d be asleep by now anyway. I’m really unamused. I just want to sleep. I feel like crap and I’ve been feeling like crap since 3:30 pm and I wanted to sleep it off and I can’t frickin sleep! I feel like there’s no point now, it’s so close to my wake up time. I’m gonna be a mess and it’s the first regular clinical where we actually do stuff, I’m gonna be doing assessments and we’ll be there the full 12 hours. Idk how I’m gonna manage it, honestly. I can’t afford to miss it, I’d have to make it up, so I have to go. I just don’t understand what’s going on with me. Sometimes I’ll get some insomnia but never where I’m lights off eyes closed for *this* long and I still can’t sleep. Aaand my fridge just started going off. Again. I should be used to it by now but it still annoys the crap out of me every half hour.

 

[ErinC]

Well, I think the worst is coming. the cramps have been steady all day and when I went to the bathroom there was a small amount of brown spotting. I think it was a chemical pregnancy this time round. I will monitor over night and take another test tomorrow but it's safe to say I'm pretty doubtful it's good news

 

[shaescott]

Finally fell asleep, probably got about 30-45 minutes. And of course I wake up and all I wanna do is fall back asleep. Sigh. Coffee time.

Erin dang I’m really sorry. Def test again to see if the line is lighter and watch if the spotting increases. Fx’d it’s nothing.

 

[Michellebelle]

Erin I’m so sorry. I hope everything is fine

 

[Michellebelle]

Just used my last test!

 

[wookie130]

Michelle awesome line progression! Hopefully your progesterone and hcg levels double, and are nice and high! I understand your caution after having recurrent miscarriages, though. I was always so hesitant to allow myself to feel joy for this same reason during those early days.

Insta-love. I feel like a smarmy dork for saying this, but I was fiercely besotted with all 3 babies, the first time I heard their cries over the curtain, and laid eyes on each of them. And once they were in my arms, I had a lot of trouble sharing, even with my DH. But, I'm sort of ridiculous about newborns. I could snuggle them all day and night, and with my own 3, I was a huge baby hog.

Erin...brown spotting can be harmless. I spotted (and even straight-up bled) with my second and third kids. I did have low progesterone issues, however, and needed vaginal suppositories until around 16 weeks.

PL - Are you feeling that baby is another boy? I had my son cut, but looking back now, and having better info on it, I wish i hadn't.

Gigs, hopefully the shield helps with the soreness. I used a lot of lanolin nipple cream...that actually worked a bit better than the breastmilk trick for me. You're still engorged after he's fed for 20 mins on both sides? You could try pumping some of that off after he feeds, to drain them a bit more thoroughly, but it will tell your body to make even more milk...but if you want freezer stock, it'll help.

 

[gigglebox]

Mich great line progression! Eeee!!!

Wook ikr? They look and feel like i just got implants. Firm and big and sore. He's a champ latcher but he's only finishing up day four of his life so I'm thinking he just can't express all they're making quite yet. I actually have pumped, not a huge amount but enough to give them a little relief. I am definitely hoping to get some decent freezer stock this time!

My nips are still crazy sore. I (stupidly) attempted a feed without the shield and it was excruciating...seriously felt like someone was cutting into me with a razor.

Shae I am sorry about the insomnia! What are you doing right before bed?

Erin have you tested again? Cramping and spotting in early pregnancy can be quite normal.

 

[pacificlove]

Wookie, I have been feeling girl all along, at this point only DH knows! I don't regret not having L done! The last 2 years I thought I wasn't asked about it because maybe they see it as an outdated procedure.... I mean, our province outlawed docking dog tails and cropping dog ears which is done under anesthesia and pain meds . Why would we allow something as private as cutting off foreskin? Anyway, controversial topic... And I am rambling.
DH has been doing his homework: coming up with acceptable names, not that he has shared any. He'll share the "wrong" ones with me and then tease me about just putting me on enough drugs that he could get away with naming the child anything

Erin, sorry about the spotting, could still be implantation. Don't give up hope yet!

 

[pacificlove]

Well, poop. Sickness is starting to hit our home. Ls sneezes sent snot all the way down to his chin.... And he had a half hour nap this morning already. The signs are all there, haven't taken his temperature yet, but he does feel warm. Id bet he picked it up on Monday when we went to the momma group and he played with 2 toys there. Who knows when they were last cleaned. He was the only child there that was over a few weeks/months old and touched those toys.

 

[ErinC]

Hi Lovely Ladies. first I would like to say thank you so much for the support and kind words.
I tested again today at 10DPO and I thought I'd give you your line fix for the moment. Although I am cramping and spotting this seems great.

Pacificlove sorry about the colds.
Michellebells congrats on the line