General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[shaescott]

Gigs yikes that’s awful about his botched circumcision. SO has mixed feelings right now because he wouldn’t want to put the baby through any pain but at the same time he prefers the look and ease of cleaning of circumcision. We have lots of time to talk it over and research though, and who knows if I’ll even have a son when I do get pregnant. My family is almost all girls, my mom had 2 girls, but SO is 1 of 2 boys. So it could go either way. My family is mostly girls because of the miscarrying most boys. Idk if I got that gene and there’s no way to test for it I don’t think. My aunt didn’t get it, she had 2 boys. But it’s a 50/50 shot of getting it, it’s an x-linked fatal recessive. I think my mom probably has it, she had one miscarriage and 2 girls, but she did timing ovulation for gender for my sister (I was a post-miscarriage oopsie, no timing involved). So if she has it, it’s 50/50 that I have it.

The survey says at the top that it’s anonymous. Though things I said would make it obvious to the previous instructor who wrote it. I don’t expect a response, I just hope she loses her job.

 

[pacificlove]

Shae, good for you on writing the review. And even if it does come back at you for whatever reason, you just take it to the next higher level.

Gigs, that's horrible on the botched job. I had read horror stories like that which is why I was leaning against it. DH is, and he didn't see anything wrong with a well done circumcision because he is. So we never actually fully agreed on a decision which is why L wasn't done. I agree, if L wants it done later in life, he can get it done and it's his decision. This time we don't really have an option, because they don't offer it here. I am happy but then I have been leaning girl all along, only the last few days I may have swayed.

As for coconut, thanks on the compliments. I will say things like "uhoh, someone put some rum in the Coconut" when shes having her crazy moments ... Considering her background (free farm give away, took me literally driving to the farm, and someone getting the kitten from a shed and immediately letting me leave with her, took 20 seconds) she has turned out to be the best cat we could have. Loves L, patience, hunts, friendly, etc we got very lucky with her: considering I basically got her blind.

 

[ErinC]

Michellebelle Pacific love & claireybell thank you for the nice words and everyone else for the support along the way
the spotting seems to have stopped for now... YAY but still with these cramps
here is some line porn for ya'll as it's 11DPO today!
I was nervous cause at first the line looked lighter but after 3 minutes it came back good

 

[gigglebox]

Nice lines! Did you say if this was your first? If you did i missed it. Were you ttc?

 

[claireybell]

Lovely dark lines

 

[Flueky88]

Pacific about coconuts naming!! I think it's a cute name for a cat. I hope L feels better soon and you keep from catching it.

Jez hope everything went well for your friend. I can't imagine being induced due to complications. Hope her baby and she are doing well. Oh and yes it is nice to not go through all that when you are so far dilated. I'm glad they do them here. I think even if you don't want an epi they want you to because you may change your mind.

Erin your tests are progressing fabulously and spotting could be implantation bleeding. Crampy feeling is very normal in 1st tri. I think mine eased off around 8 weeks?? They were never really strong, just dull and annoying. I try to remind myself it's baby snuggling in. Have you told your DH/partner??

Pretty I'm glad he's not totally against more. Seems more like he doesn't like "committing" to something. Then again I'm just an outsider with limited info.

Michelle beautiful progressionand yay for beta!!! Sorry Z is ill, I hope she feels better soon.

Shae good for you putting up that review. She does not need to be precepting with that attitude/behaviour. I hate when nurses eat their young. Working as a team and helping each other is key in nursing. Glad this clinical is much better

CB I know it doesn't seem possible that he is 6 weeks!!! Right now 6 weeks into the future seems ages away though I'm somewhat ready. My labor bag is mostly packed except for items I can't pack until last minute. Plan to work on nursery this weekend, get NB and 0 to 3 clothes laundered. Want to be prepared this time.

Gigs yikes about your nipples especially even with the shield. I hope it recovers soon. I liked the lanolin when mine were irritated and then rubbed breastmilk on them to prevent irritation. V would just sleep on the boob though so mine wss really more from the pump.

Circumcision, I have mixed views on it. I have seen many cottage cheese penis when changing a foley on uncircumcised men. I also had to use a nasal aspirator and warm soapy water to loosen said "cheese" in order to get a foreskin pulled back..... he had tried soaking it in vegetable oil earlier that day unsuccessfully. Yet, I also feel a bit wrong taking that decision away from someone. Thankfully, I've not had to make this decision and most likely never will.

AFM I woke up at 5 with moderate AF like cramps that were probably 5 to 10 minutes apart. It lasted 2 hours with me lying in bed and drinking water. I called OB office even though it did stop and had a check up this afternoon. She didn't say it was this or that but I'm guessing "irregular contractions". I'm 1cm dilated and 50%effaced. She said this can be normal at my gestation. I'm still a little concerned just because of my history. I'll just keep an eye on things and try to take it easy-ish.

 

[claireybell]

Oh Gigs bless Des.. how long before he was fully healed??

4hr cluster feed, you trooper lol! The soreness will ease off in a few days, the nips arent used to being sucked on. My right nip with Nuala looked like it was gonna peel right off but afyer a week - 10 days it wasn’t as bad, from an initial bad latch also. Your doing fab hun, hows it for you moving around?

 

[pacificlove]

L, has a bit of a runny nose and sounds stuffy. Looks pale, but other then that hes acting fine. Thanks for asking. Hopefully hes fighting it off.

Erin, great progression! Awesome, have you told your so?

Flueky, official baby watch for you as well! Fx baby does stay put for a bit long.

Michelle, sorry z is sick too. It sucks.... For them and us us wishing to take it away from them.

Gigs, oh wow. Big cluster feeding, someone is growing already I remember L having one of those Christmas eve, could not put him down, all he wanted was boob (about 6 weeks old then). Not the most enjoyable Christmas for me.

I finally washed all the nb and 0-3 clothes that I plan to use. Also found some more nb size diapers in that box of clothes. We should have lots of diapers now, hopefully not too many before baby outgrows them (left overs from L, he outgrew them too fast!)now i only have to pack something for the hospital, probably Monday because I plan to use those bags this weekend for our trip to the big island

 

[shaescott]

PL coconut is a cute name for a cat, I love the rum in the coconut joke!

Gigs yikes on cluster feeding, I did that and my mom said it was the worst!

Flueks yeah cottage cheese penis is why I worry about not doing it, but at the same time if they’re made that way you should be able to keep that from happening pretty easily, right? Idk. It’ll be a hard decision.

Erin definitely darker, congrats!

AFM time for homework, blech

 

[gigglebox]

Pl not long now! You could go any day, really...I am sooooooo excited to find out the sex!

Fluek that was about what i got to at 34 weeks (1.5 cm and 50%) and held in there until 38+2! No need to worry too much too early.

Cb oh man it was several months of healing, I can't remember exactly. There was a lot of crying from us both.

The key with un-cut peens is to teach your kid proper hygiene. And remind them as they get older and remind them that girls don't like stinky cheesy weenies.

Ohhh pl do you have a lot of gender neutral clothes?

 

[gigglebox]

Shae forgot to mention I had never heard of the fatal chromosome thing. That is really fascinating...can you be tested for it? I guess it's irrelevant really.

 

[pacificlove]

Gigs, I am hoping the mw will check on Monday... I mean, c'mon baby! I had L with me at the moms group this week, he actually saw me hold a 3 week old baby there. So I had a few opportunities to explain that those babies were "already out the belly" and he just stood in front of me watching. Since then he's been saying "baby in the belly" then points away from my belly and says "baby OUT the belly".

We have a few gender neutral clothes, and lots of boy/girl clothes (although I like our boy collection better). Most of which were hand me downs from a friend and what we added, but i have a feeling we'll just use most of the same clothes we used on L regardless of gender.... Pink bow for the head if it's a girl?

 

[claireybell]

Flueks i missed your update, sorry hun, glad all is looking organised, i still think you’ll hang in there until at least 37wks+ just take things easy as you say, sometimes over doing it creates an onset of pain! Is V excited about meeting her bubba sister?

We’ve always taught Riley of washing your winky properly in shower etc fx he wont be a smelly teen lol!

Pacific im going to wager that baby will be a Girl this time around, still cant believe hubs hasnt let slip, hes so good! My SO wouldve dropped massive hints by now as hes terrible at keeping secrets

Shae i hope you not swamped under in homework!

 

[shaescott]

Gigs “girls don’t like stinky cheesy weenies” ohmyGAWD

 

[shaescott]

CB the homework due tonight wasn’t bad, just math. Math is the easiest part of nursing school for me lol
Glad it hasn’t been an issue teaching Riley about proper weenie hygiene I think a lot of kids go through a smelly phase and then they figure out deodorant every day is a necessity and showering frequently is a necessity. I used to forget deodorant some mornings in middle school. I quickly learned to remember because I was a smelly hormonal mess lol. My little sister is getting better about it but still isn’t perfect, she’s lazy about shaving her underarms and that seems to make the smell worse. She’s almost figured it out. She’s even more of a smelly hormonal mess than I was, so I feel bad for her. Now that I’m older and my hormones are more level. If SO ever went through a smelly teen phase I missed it, by the time we started dating he always smelled nice.

PL I think it’ll be a girl, so exciting you’ll be finding out soon!

Gigs I don’t think so on testing.

 

[shaescott]

Just found this article about the x-linked fatal recessive.

A novel X chromosome-linked genetic cause of recurrent spontaneous abortion. - PubMed - NCBI

 

[pacificlove]

Hmm, i'll say I was good about deodorant, but shaving was a whole different story. My mom didn't do it, so it wasn't brought up in our house. Even my bff at the time came from an "earthy family" so she didn't shave either. Until I got teased one spring about my hairy armpit (literally someone wrote on my desk, shave your armpits), did I not realize how important of a thing it could be in our society. So that's when I started using my dad's shaver to do the job....

Shae, how is math ever easy?

 

[shaescott]

PL my mom wouldn’t let me shave my legs in middle school. She refused to buy me a razor until I got underarm hair (which was a bit late, I got my period in 7th grade and underarm hair in 8th grade). She shaves hers, but not super regularly, so sometimes it’s a bit grown in. She doesn’t shave her legs. Now I shave my underarms regularly and down there when it gets to a bush, but I only shave my legs occasionally. Sometimes during summer, and when I went to a wedding and my dress had a leg slit. I once went at least 2 years without shaving my legs lol. I haven’t shaved them since the December 1st wedding.
Re: math, it’s not exactly calculus, it’s just multiplication and division for dosage calculation, and we can use a calculator lol

 

[Flueky88]

CB I just realized your signature. My OCD wishes Hayden was born 1 minute later yeah I think I just did a bit much last night and that got things going. V doesn't quite understand. She absolutely loves babies and other kids. So hoping it goes well, I know it's different when that baby is there 24/7 and takes mommy's attention. She's actually a fairly cuddly girl. She kept pulling my arm around her last night when I went to escape her room

Pacific glad he's not really acting like he's sick. It amazes me how resilient they can be. Hope he gets over his symptoms quick.So cute about him pointing away for "baby out of belly". Score!! Awesome on finding diapers to use. We used Vs up except for some size 4s. Thanks, I hope she cooks a bit longer too. I'm not freaking out just cautious I suppose.

Shae I think teaching them young works and I'm sure a teenage boy wants to keep that clean. I'm thinking it's mainly geriatric men that aren't able to properly clean themselves anymore and/or caregiver doesn't clean them well there if at all. Again I have conflicted feelings but thankfully don't have to make this decision. Good luck on completing your homework. Drug calc was one of my strong suits. I'm fairly good at math not counting calculus. I never took calc as I didn't think it was pertinent for my career.

Gigs thanks for the reference. I am I suppose more cautious. So close to when things happened with V and the NP I saw at OB office was last one I saw before V was born. It's a bit silly but brings back memories. I also have to say I don't want to get to 40. 37ish weeks is fine by me I don't want a huge baby. Beggars can't be choosers though.


Shaving I used to shave arms everyday and legs fairly often too. I started with electric razor in 6th grade I believe. Now I rarely shave. DH actually got me to be a slacker on shaving. I do like to keep lady bits trimmed though. Getting hard to do though.

V was awake when I left her in her room and she didn't cry. Yay!!! I'm so proud of her

Greenie, J, Cppeace, campn, Tex, Fern and all the rest of our occasional posters, thinking of you and hope you are well.

 

[pacificlove]

Shae, i see, basic math. Ok, I can do that hopefully not too many formulas, etc to remember...

Flueky, awesome on V taking her big girl bed so well.
When we lived in AB I'd go weeks without shaving my legs in the winter... Yay for longjohns! No one ever saw my legs because the longjohns in mid Winter really only came off when I put on a fresh pair or a shower.
Now I like to keep things neat and trim, but lady bits are shaggy: for me not being able to see anything. DH has offered his help, but he has yet to follow through (he did more often with my first pregnancy)

And I totally hear you on not wanting to go to 40 weeks! So ok if baby came now itll come either way!

I think it was only the nb size we didnt use up, and we were ok with it knowing we'd have another. This time: I think a puppy is next.... so better use up all the diapers.