General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[kittykat7210]

Just wanted to say I'm alive and hello. Sorry busy with tge girls and just been a bit down. Hospice was called to my cousin with the brain tumor. I just feel, I don't know how to say. I spent so much time with her and my bro in the summer as a kid. I've already lost him and now her very soon. It's not fair but I know life isn't fair. It just freaking sucks. She never got to see my girls, she never got to marry or have kids. She was an amazing person and the world is losing one of the sweetest people I've ever known. She was so talented with art as well. I looked up to her so much.

Anyways, great job pacific on making at least one successful potty training attempt.

Gigs sounds like your plate is full. Be sure to update when you can. Oh and I think we've all pwp

Shae yay for AF finally arriving.

Kitty good luck testing!! How was your timing??


Sorry for those I forgot. I'll keep reading and update when I can.

Oh my god Flueks I’m so sorry about your cousin! My cousin died of a brain tumour at 14, fought for 2 years! She was a champion ice skater who was supposed to go to the olympics so I feel your pain!

Timing was good ( 0-3 and 0 day) but I’m having really heavy spotting and worried that despite my temp rise I’ve somehow got my period

 

[pacificlove]

Oh I am so sorry flueky! Comforting thoughts for all of you during this rough time.

Gigs, thanks. L is having a nap, so we are using a pull up... And here I thought diapers were pricey!
Diapers weight a lot in the trash and we pay by the kg when we drop it off! No curbside pickup, we have to bring it away and pay....with 2 kids in diapers the trash gets heavy fast at least it's not super expensive!

Gotta go, L woke up, hopefully he'll let me take the pull up off without a melt down.

 

[DobbyForever]

Need help with bump Id please

I have them too. They don’t itch like my bug bites rn itch

 

[pacificlove]

Dobs... Hmm, no idea: flea bites? You have dogs correct? Even if they are regularly treated you could still bring fleas home on your clothes if say a pet at a place you visited had fleas.
Gnads? Noseeums I think also leave similar marks here in our woods.

 

[DobbyForever]

We were at a dog friendly park yesterday and we did pet my friends’ two dogs. One knocked A over too poor guy had a huge scratch across his stomach from it. I’ve been bad with the dogs flea stuff lol but oddly enough I noticed my bites at my mom’s where my dogs are 100% outside only.

Glad you’re leaning insect bite. The daycare was concerned because a kid has a bad case of HFMD as of yesterday in his class. I figure bug bite as well

 

[PrettyInInk42]

Dobby - I did a search for "boy birthday party themes" (since it looks like that's what I'll be planning for a while) and there were some pretty good ones. Couldn't hurt to look. And no idea about the bites. Sorry.

kitty - FX this is your lucky cycle.

shae - Yay for AF!

PL - Good job with the potty training. The weather's still not warm enough for us to try that method, but I think I have an idea of something that may work.

Flueky - So sorry to hear about your cousin. How much longer do they think she has?

Re: Amy Schumer. I heard a little about that. I follow her on IG and she's definitely showing everyone the "glamourous" aftermath of having just given birth. She's so great. lol

Re: PWP. I probably would, but I prefer a proper keyboard to my phone for long replies. And SO spends enough time in there for both of us. lol

AFM, I'm finally 1000% sure I'm feeling tiny kicks. Can't wait for SO to be able to feel them and for Alex to interact with my belly. SO and I also just DTD for the first time in like 2 months. He and Alex were alseep and I was watching porn, so I figured "there's no time like the present." lol. Anatomy scan is this Saturday and I can't wait.

 

[DobbyForever]

Thanks Pretty! Tbh I’m a store bought mom and I’m satisfied still from last year. This year would be small. Likely just family only. But if I do something my bff works at the local, family run party store. Essentially Party City stock but a neighborhood fam/name. They give teacher discounts plus she would happil score some swag at her employee discount for me. Def post pics of your stuff though!!! I love seeing what everyone does

Can’t wait for your scan! I’m going old wives as well with girly hb. I know your sneak peek said boy but idk been feel pink for you this whole time

Fluek biggest hugs

Shae yay for af sorry about hearing the proposal could be a ways off. That’s sweet of you to let him do his thing though

Kitty fxed and baby dust!

Gigs sorry things are a bit much rn. Hopefully the storm and dust settles soon

Re potty it was like literally a one off thing lol. He by no means is anywhere near any real potty training. Kid can walk around with a brick in his pants and not care. Doesn’t undress. But it is reassuring that he knows the vocabulary and purpose of potty. Still hoping daycare just handles it haha. They do teach them about potties and they have them on the 1-2 room just for the exposure. They also do the sign for potty. Wishful thinking.

He ages up into the next room this summer. It’s technically and officially “discovery PRESCHOOL” wtf I’m so sad lol

 

[pacificlove]

Dobs, I tend to think on the harmless side when it comes to stuff like that, however I am not an expert I'd keep an eye on it, if it gets better or worse, maybe wash your bedding (that's a lot of times where fleas will get you) and hand out some flea meds to the dogs that would be my approach!

Thanks on the potty training compliments. Well it got a bit too chilly outside after dinner so we had to stop and I put the pull up back on him. We had 3 out of 5 successful pees and he kept trying for a poop at the end of the day as I had promised him a homemade popsicle for now we are going with high value rewards until I can hopefully slowly replace them with smaller rewards. an hour later I got a phone call that our sheep got out. Seriously the only night where I am alone at home this month! So pack up the kids and do the 30 minute drive over to my midwifes property. Thankfully her hubby had got home by then too and helped me with the fence and sheep. Their 7 year old was on babysitting duty, aka entertain and play with L and I found my baby "helping" my midwife do her notes from another birth while chewing happily on her thumb when we were done in the field. Grateful for her and her family!
Anyway, we think a bear may have spooked the sheep. Mw says she sees one every couple of days while driving through her neighborhood. The bears are attracted by a lot of established fruit trees and berries it seems.

So that was my day...

 

[pacificlove]

Dobs, the good news in that bittersweet moment of aging up in daycare is that it gets cheaper .. at least here it does.

 

[claireybell]

They don’t stay babies for long Dobby makes me sad aswell.. not sure about the bites but def doesnt look related to HFMD - poss bites, are they itchy??

Gigs u are alive Lol! Glad that all in all is ok, you’ll have to send me the YouTube link for your disc golf channel I think you be great at doing the home schooling

Pacific thats fab about potty training, im not even entertaining it atm lol! Im dreading it tbh :-/ but.. fx when she starts day nursery in August again when i go back to work, she’ll see others using the potty/toilets & want to join in - heres hoping!

Kitty fx its just random spotting after ov’ing.. is it quite red blood or darker browny looking stuff? Lotsa baby dust your way hun how many days since Ovulation?

Flueks huuuge hugs, im so so sorry to hear about your cousin im thinking of you lots & sending cyber love your way

Its half term here, SO’s been around alot the last few days, we been to a couple of parks etc but generally he’s just pis***g me off!! He’s completely rubbish with Hayden & all hes doing is moaning at his crying etc ! Hes a baby, grow up & be the Dad - no, actually grow up & be an Adult, its a f**king baby!!! He never picks him up or anything, hes so loud around him with tone of voice & it makes Hayden cry so no wonder he doesn’t settle for him either! he’ll come into a room & leave hrs later & wont even acknowledge or interact with him! I know he’s not ‘baby friendly’ as such as he prefers them when they are moving about abit more but grr! He called him a wetwipe yesterday as he was whingey & key saying he’s broken & that Riley & Nuala were never like it (yes they were) I’m just waiting for the comment of ‘you wanted to have the baby’ as he wasnt exactly planned! Made me upset! Sorry just ranting here!

 

[claireybell]

Oooh Pretty baby movement flutters How lovely

 

[kittykat7210]

It’s official, I have a hormone problem! 3rd cycle in a row where despite raised temps I’m getting my period at only 2dpo

 

[shaescott]

Flueks so sorry about your cousin SO’s best friend’s stepdad (who raised him) died from a brain tumor at 35 years old. It’s just awful. He was put on hospice as well. Sending love and prayers.

Pretty so exciting about the kicks and anatomy scan on Saturday!

PL sorry about the sheep escaping, glad things were figured out and so cute E was just gnawing on the midwife’s thumb. Bears aren’t common around here despite all the woods so it’s crazy to me that seeing bears is like a weekly occurrence up in your area. The only predators we have around here are coyotes and mountain lions, and I’ve only seen a coyote in person once (through my window), never a mountain lion. We have foxes too, but they’re not gonna take down anything but rabbits I expect. I usually see turkeys, deer, rabbits, and squirrels.

Dobs no clue about the bumps, just that they look like some kind of insect bites most likely. So crazy that A is moving up soon, they grow up so fast

Kitty aw dang will you be going to see a doctor for hormone testing?

 

[claireybell]

Kitty get yourself to the Drs hun.. tell them you guys have been ttc for over 6 months now & same issues keep happening, otherwise they’ll just say keep trying etc & monitor your cycles blah blah. So sorry, i can only imagine how frustrating this is for you

So SO did actually apologise yesterday for his stupid behaviour! He’s stressed with work & finds it hard to bond with Hayden as he doesn’t settle with him etc but will try to make more effort with cuddles & interaction. Weirdly, he calmed down with SO last night, have had a screaming Hayden on/off for couple days now, I’m guessing teething as i pumped him with Ibruprofen just before another bottle at 930 last night, was awful like a pain upset scream & he finally settled & slept until 5am this morning! & he never has a late bottle :-/

 

[Flueky88]

Kitty that's awful about your cousin. It's so sad that some people's lives are taken so soon. Death is hard anyways but I find some harder than others. So sorry your LP is really short. I agree with CB, tell them you've been trying for longer than you have so you are taken seriously.

Pacific how is potty training going??

Dobby all I can tell is does not look like spider, mosquito, or bed bug bites thankfully. I'd just treat any symptoms like itching so he doesn't scratch and possibly get an infection. It doesn't look like HFMD. V had decreased appetite and fever along with bumps on hands, feet, buttocks and legs.

I'm doing a small birthday party for V. One thing is money and other is S taking up so much of me. Next year will be better. Will As daycare costs go down with him going to a new room/level?


Pretty I honestly haven't asked. Hospice comes in with prognosis of 6 months or less. She was given 6 months at very best back in February. I'm guess a month or two to be honest but too scared to ask. Dealing with death isn't my strong suit.

Enjoy sex while you can. It's hard to have time for it with 2 under 2. I'm looking forward to S being less clingy so we can do it more. Oh and so excited for you on Saturday!

CB it sucks men just don't bond like we do with babies. DH does better when they are older.

Shae thank you.

AFM thanks everyone. Feeling a little better. Spoke with DH and he's willing t call into work a day or two to stay home with the girls so I can go. However, S will need to be taking a bottle and he refuses to let me go alone. I'll have to see if mom could go with me. If I'm back to work, I'll also have to see if I can get off.

S didn't take to nanobebe bottle sadly. I've decided I'll just keep trying everyday with my avent bottle. Making sure I'm patient, calm and she's not super hungry. I'm also just going to put formula in the bottle instead of EBM. Once she's taking the bottle I'll work on getting her to drink EBM from bottle.

Vs birthday is tomorrow. I'm just amazed with her growth over the past 2 years. Don't have anything planned for tomorrow but we have a party for her Saturday.

 

[pacificlove]

Flueky, i agree,talk to your repro doctor about the issues, sorry you are having these trouble conceiving.
Time goes by so fast with kids. All of our kids are turning 2/3 years old, which means we've all been talking that long too! Maybe even longer . Happy birthday to a bright young girl!

Potty training is going ok. L does notice when he has to go, and sits down on the potty. A few times now I have just had to go inside to grab something and L greets me back very proudly holding the box of gummy bears. Yepp, He peed in the potty! Maybe a few more days and I'll add the level of wearing big boy underwear.

Cb, glad to hear SO has come around. Maybe he can just hold and walk a tired baby around. My DH is great at having fussy baby fall asleep while walking, better luck then I have!
Teething...you are not alone, we have joined that group again too

 

[pacificlove]

More on the potty training saga: DH came home from work early as I had to catch up with some of my own stuff at home and with him gone for the previous night... nothing got done.
Anyway: DH dressed him up and they played in the yard. Then they went into the (carpeted) living room and just as DH asked me on my opinion of pants or no pants L takes a pee. He just forgot. After that I went into serious work mode and L figured out that even if he did a tiny pee, he'd get gummy bears each time

 

[DobbyForever]

Hahaha so it was def bug bites before but now it’s def HFMD r_r

 

[gigglebox]

Dobby oh no, how do you know? Do you have it too?

Kit, i am sorry you're having these issues. What is your next step? Will you visit obgyn?

Fluek ugh I am so, so sorry tonread about your cousin. I hope you get to spend some time with her soon. Is there a reason you couldn't bring S along if she won't take a bottle?

I am still running on fumes. 2&3 and me all have a cold that seems to be nothing in the day but stuffy nose and cough at night. This week has seriously felt soooo long, and monday was a hokiday! I am getting increasingly freaked out about homeschooling...

Also, my SIL & bro just miscarried this week. Took them 14-15 months to conceive. I am so sad for them, and sad also that my little blood niece/nephew will have to wait still. Bust mostly I hirt for SIL, i know we can all relate to her heartbreak. The especially sad part is this came days after her grandmother died. Side note, my bro took a pic of his dog laying in her room after she died (the dog loved her & vice versa) that went viral on reddit.

And lastly hubs is so busy at work that they are overwhelmed. Not a bad problem to have but yeah...chaos and he has been coning home exhausted. As such they want to hire me once a week to manage the front desk. We'll see how this works...not to mention I'm supposed to be homeschooling soon...not sure how that will work but we'll see.

 

[claireybell]

Oh no Dobs.. poor A, do you have it aswell? TIP - if A has the blisters on his lips/tip of tongue, numbing teething gel with Lidocaine in or ulcer relief gel is really good for soothing so he can try to eat, all Nuala wanted was ice lollies & cold drinks bless

Oh Gigs im so sorry to hear that my thoughts go out to all you guys.. the silver lining I guess is that at least they know they can conceive which after so long ttc is great to know but still doesnt take away the pain atm, big hugs