General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[shaescott]

Done he was 18 in the first movie so he is a baby to you now lol, he looks like a baby to me too. Although, he was never my type lol.

Ugh sorry about the OB cancelling. I would definitely ask about the smell. Lochia can definitely smell musty and earthy, but I would ask about the change in color and skunk smell, just to rule out infection.

Take all the time you need with the ticker I feel like there’s nothing wrong with saying 9 weeks, you held her in you that long.

Tdog yeah I’ve definitely heard of PCOS causing elevated LH throughout the cycle

AFM temp went up a bit but bleeding picked up so I’m calling it CD1.

 

[DobbyForever]

Shae my type of guy is any guy who can’t wink so

I’ll pretend I know what lochia is lol. I’ll try to ask.

thank you. And I’m sorry about the bleeding picking up.

I keep trying to tell myself that if this is how the NY starts then it can only technically go up from here? I’m excited for what this year brings everybody.

 

[Flueky88]

Dobby Lochia is the name of the bleeding and discharge after birth. Mine was always a musty, earthy smell

Alright respond more later as I need to finish work up and take girls out in the snow before it melts

 

[DobbyForever]

Ooo have fun in the snow!

I guess that would make sense. It honestly felt like I gave birth so birth like side effects. Sigh.

I somehow missed the doctor calling. She went straight to voicemail and naturally no callback number

 

[DobbyForever]

So she said I can bring her in but she will be treated as medical waste. She hasn’t heard of any other options, but she said she’d ask her colleague who doesn’t get in for a few hours. So back right square one. If they had just said so days ago then ugh ugh

 

[tdog]

Omg @DobbyForever I'm raging for you that made me frustrated for you what on earth are they thinking, you are grieving a loss of you beautiful baby girl and they just pissing around (sorry for swearing but it's annoyed me) they need to get there finger else I'll get on next flight and give them what for on a serious note I hope they ring with answers soon xx

 

[DobbyForever]

HAHAHA so doctor calls back and says good news we actually have a funeral home that will do it for $125. It’s ten miles away. I call them and they’re like cool, so we need a letter from the doctor stating you had a mmc and both you AND the dad must come in to sign authorization. And I’m like the dad isn’t in the picture so I doubt I can convince him to drive out there to sign an authorization form, and she’s like we can’t do it if he doesn’t sign off on it. And I’m just here like wtaf I get it but also I don’t get it.

 

[shaescott]

Dobs ugh that’s such bullshit I’m so sorry

 

[Flueky88]

Dobby that's bull that the father has to authorize when he wants no part of this. I'm so sorry this is happening

Shae very interesting about the strange spotting. Agree with Dobs that I wouldn't get my hopes up yet. Curious to see what happens for you over the next few days.

I'm glad it's not just the south. We really aren't equipped well to handle much winter weather and most people don't know how to drive in it. I avoid if able to but I have driven many times in snow and occasionally ice. Ice is usually our biggest problem here. Our snow was "snowman snow". We only got 2 to 3 inches and has melted fairly quickly. Will probably freeze into ice tonight.

Tdog, I've heard pcos can affect opks and if you are on some sort of bc then not sure they would be reliable.

Gigs yes we have the same kind of weather. Was seriously 70s on Saturday and then snow late Sunday night into early Monday morning. The girls were excited. I was because I could stay home lol as a home health worker I hated winter weather. If it was bad though most people would cancel their visit before I could ask to change their visit date.

Winter I used to be decent at driving in snow. I just haven't done so lately and it makes me more nervous now than it used to. I know it's about no sudden movements and keeping momentum with hills. My dad taught me how to drive in it when I visited Wisconsin one Christmas. I was thrilled then as I was like 17 years old and fearless lol

So funny about how LO pronounces magic LMAO. S would try to pronounce "ship" but "sh!t" was what was heard. V will deliberately say "sh!t" sometimes and that's definitely from me. Ugh, it is the one I used the most. Well of cuss words lol. I usually don't drop F bombs unless I'm pissed off.


As for HP, I saw an ad for it on my firestick home page but hadn't got around to watching it. I'm so behind in movies and shoes.

We got to play in the snow for a bit. Girls had fun but they didn't want to stay out too long. Roads are cleared off now but will probably be ice tomorrow so just planning to stay home tomorrow and WFH as usual.

 

[shaescott]

Bruh my natural cycles app is now only giving me 5 safe days, I’m about to delete that damn app and just go with the first 12 days are safe cuz clearly I’m not pregnant anyway

 

[tdog]

@DobbyForever that is bollox what if you had a sperms dona then what you do there what a load of crap

@Flueky88 I don't think they be reliable at all I only purchased them when I stopped the injection so we didn't fall I have loads left that are just screaming so you no me had to just do one xx

 

[Flueky88]

Tdog I can understand. I kinda missed POAS so I started tracking O even though DH had a V. To be fair I like seeing how long my LP is and when to expect AF so

Shae sorry AF has started I tried some different cycle tracking apps but FF is my fav

 

[gigglebox]

Will write more later
Dobs, call around to funeral homes yourself. You don’t need a referral. Someone should do it if you explain the circumstance. If they pull the “we need the father’s consent” just explain the father wants no part if it and isn’t communicating with you. Someone WILL help you, just call around.

and I hate to suggest it but move her to the freezer if you can’t get it sorted today.

 

[DobbyForever]

I’m just tired of fighting. I, like any off center person who has been on a diet of peppermint vodka for four days, decided to build her a funeral pyre. And then I couldn’t find the lighter exactly where I left it, so I moved her to the freezer. I’ll bury her on Thursday assuming A can go to school. He has a runny nose so if it doesn’t clear then I can’t take him. If I was a better person, I’d just keep him home until Monday. But I need to bury my daughter so too s* for everyone else. If I could take him to the aquarium, it’d be different but we still got the germs. Isolation until Thursday.

Shae I also like FF but yeah I mean hey I say 12 days is still safe plus f* it if it’s not. Sounds like the ball is rolling anyway. Obviously still want you to live out my dream but meh I say forget the app

tdog I do second Fluek that I get it. Nice to know your body and when you O/get AF but yeah the implant and/or pcos could be mucking things up. I know I took a few opks with my bcp and they were high and I was like wtf I thought combo prevents ovulation so I put the tests down haha

afm the new saga is trying to find my Samsung charger for this phone LOL

 

[shaescott]

Highly considering not doing BBT anymore, just taking OPKs, and abstaining from CD13 to 2 days after +OPK. I’ve never had a +OPK and not ovulated. Based on when I got AF (I have super consistent luteal phases), I essentially ovulated CD18, which made it O-6. Since clearly CD12 was indeed a safe day, as I’m not pregnant, I don’t feel too bad sticking with that. The more I think about it, the more I think I just wasn’t pregnant at all at any point. I can’t be 100% but that’s the sad conclusion I find myself coming to. I hate to admit it to myself, but I just don’t think I was pregnant. Which means that SO does not have supersperm and I shouldn’t feel bad not acting like he does. It might be less stressful for me and make me less obsessive if I have less data points to obsess over, while at the same time still knowing when to expect AF due to the OPKs so I don’t just not realize I’m pregnant for a few weeks or something, considering my irregular cycles. It just feels dumb to pay $10 a month for an app to tell me when to not have sex when it’s either going to be wrong and tell me I’m safe when I’m not or freak out and put me as fertile 13 days before my earliest ovulation. Like at that point I’ll just calculate the 5 days before my earliest O and put it a day before that.

Dobs ugh hugs. How many days quarantine is Thursday? If it’s just a day short, don’t worry about it honestly. Not medical advice, just my personal opinion. My work has us come back if we’re still symptomatic after 10 days. We have one nurse who feels like she got hit by a train but has to come to work because it’s been over 10 days since symptom onset.

 

[DobbyForever]

Oh damn yeah if it’s a paid app 100% get rid of it. It’s tough because you chart the data, which causes what if stress. But then if you don’t chart it, that causes what if stress. So just follow your heart and play around with what works tracking wise and what doesn’t.

because he’s not vaccinated and won’t wear a mask at school, his ped has him on the traditional 10 day from his test not even symptoms. She said me though I only need a 5 day isolation because I’m fully vaccinated BUT since I didn’t test then the safe thing is for my quarantine to start when his contagious period is over so technically she wants me In isolation until 1/11 and I’m like lol my boss wants my ass back at work. Even my mom’s boss was like let’s not discuss this vis email which is code for I know your exposure was less than six days ago and you don’t have a pcr test but we need your a** to come to work

 

[DobbyForever]

If we were going by symptoms he could go today BUT he is clearly ornery and has a runny nose so probably better she went by test not symptoms though the letter does say 10 days and 24 symptom free

 

[tdog]

I do love to no my body and when af is going to be tbh I hate the unknown, but I have a period every 30 days on the dot, I always ovulate cd 15/16 so I should no it but our body's can be stupid at times tho xx

Shae I use ff to just fathom when I ovulate or have af and tbh it's never been wrong for me I found bbt stressful when I was ttc I had to stop doing it and letting my body just do what it wanted xx

 

[shaescott]

Dobs if he’d be clear now by symptom onset I wouldn’t feel bad sending him on Thursday.

Tdog ever since I got my IUD out a year ago my cycles have still been irregular (they were irregular on the IUD too), so unfortunately relying on FF’s predictions won’t work. I’ve had cycles as long as 50+ days. My luteal phase is always the same (13 days), but my follicular phase is all over the place. It definitely reacts to stress and illness, moving delayed ovulation 2 weeks and getting COVID delayed it a week.

AF seems to be heavier than usual this month, I started leaking a tiny bit after 5 hours with a regular tampon, normally I can go 8 hours with one no problem. Part of me is like “cp???” but I think it’s just wishful thinking.

 

[tdog]

Shae yea I prob wouldn't rely pn any of the apps tbh if your irregular xx