Yeah, I was reflecting on that appointment and just found it unhelpful (and I would classify the scan issues the same way). I know nothing changed the outcome, but maybe we are just not a great fit. Her advice was to keep trying- I took myself to the fertility specialist off my own bat. So, basically, she suggested to try until three losses and then give up. 
I too feel like surely at 35 this isn't just the end of the road? Will see what the fertility Dr says. I have questions whether weight loss/thyroid meds/metformin and/or clomid would help me. And that IVF option seems pretty tempting. If we got healthy embryos, I do feel like I'd be a good candidate, given especially that my body doesn't even seem to want to let go when the outcome has been a loss 
Thank you for the feedback, ladies. I'm sure I'm being a little harsh in that it is nice to feel angry at someone, but also no need to stay on if I don't feel like we're a good fit.
I just want to buy myself some kind of jewelry to mark my losses, basically. The thing I had liked on that website was a rose gold ring with a cross cut out. It just seemed like it would fit the bill, and I like rose gold.
Im glad that you had a nice night, Dobby. Probably good to get a dry run in, and I'm glad that he treated you nicely. What was/is he looking for if he knows you guys aren't on the same page with big life decisions? I'm really excited to hear about your date with OA! What about a black shirt under the white cardigan? And I know what you mean about buying white! You basically have to wash it separate, but then none of us have that much white so it becomes a whole thing
I'm looking forward to a post-date breakdown!!
I haven't delved into what speech therapy would be covered for us. I got a list of places from the ped, but didn't like the look of any of them. The one I went to was a really nice boutique type thing, but we had to pay completely out of pocket. So I don't want to not take him and regret it, but also think it wasn't that value adding. So, may also keep working with him and then see what happens when he starts school.
Sorry that you got woken up, and that S is feeling rough, Flueky.
its so awful when they're under the weather and just miserable. I know it isn't the best habit, but I have a little collection of toys/books etc for moments like that. LO got a little spiderman guy with a web to help him through his covid experience. Did you try a covid test a day or two into your/their illness, flueky? Just bringing it up as I was feeling bad on a Thursday (aches) and tested negative. But it was a clear positive by the next day. of course there are all the usual illnesses going around too, though. And our ped said they're seeing double of all the usual stuff as mother nature seems to be making up for lost time when everyone was staying home. Kind of wild when you realize the balance that nature has created, and that it seems to rebalance it.
Shezza- how are you?
And hope you're good too, Pretty and Shae if you're reading along.
I too feel like surely at 35 this isn't just the end of the road? Will see what the fertility Dr says. I have questions whether weight loss/thyroid meds/metformin and/or clomid would help me. And that IVF option seems pretty tempting. If we got healthy embryos, I do feel like I'd be a good candidate, given especially that my body doesn't even seem to want to let go when the outcome has been a loss Thank you for the feedback, ladies. I'm sure I'm being a little harsh in that it is nice to feel angry at someone, but also no need to stay on if I don't feel like we're a good fit. I just want to buy myself some kind of jewelry to mark my losses, basically. The thing I had liked on that website was a rose gold ring with a cross cut out. It just seemed like it would fit the bill, and I like rose gold.
Im glad that you had a nice night, Dobby. Probably good to get a dry run in, and I'm glad that he treated you nicely. What was/is he looking for if he knows you guys aren't on the same page with big life decisions? I'm really excited to hear about your date with OA! What about a black shirt under the white cardigan? And I know what you mean about buying white! You basically have to wash it separate, but then none of us have that much white so it becomes a whole thing
I'm looking forward to a post-date breakdown!! I haven't delved into what speech therapy would be covered for us. I got a list of places from the ped, but didn't like the look of any of them. The one I went to was a really nice boutique type thing, but we had to pay completely out of pocket. So
I don't want to not take him and regret it, but also think it wasn't that value adding. So, may also keep working with him and then see what happens when he starts school. Sorry that you got woken up, and that S is feeling rough, Flueky.
its so awful when they're under the weather and just miserable. I know it isn't the best habit, but I have a little collection of toys/books etc for moments like that. LO got a little spiderman guy with a web to help him through his covid experience. Did you try a covid test a day or two into your/their illness, flueky? Just bringing it up as I was feeling bad on a Thursday (aches) and tested negative. But it was a clear positive by the next day. of course there are all the usual illnesses going around too, though. And our ped said they're seeing double of all the usual stuff as mother nature seems to be making up for lost time when everyone was staying home. Kind of wild when you realize the balance that nature has created, and that it seems to rebalance it. Shezza- how are you?
And hope you're good too, Pretty and Shae if you're reading along.
he also said we were ruining our record of having children by actually trying. then we took a test together, which is the first time I've ever done that. It was negative though. I won't tell you in his words what he said as it's kind of explicit lol, but he basically said Good, if he's going to make babies, he wants to give his best contribution, not a pull out fail lol. We went about our morning routines, then later he came up to me and asked if I was upset. I said maybe a little disappointed, but more confused (I've been feeling some of my early pregnancy symptoms these past few days, and with af being a no-show, I was starting to get excited). He just hugged me and said, "We'll figure it out" which is kind of our phrase. 
And listen, the more you get with these lower quality dudes, even just casually, the more you're tainting yourself before you meet someone who is of good quality. Good quality men aren't looking for quick lays, they want meaningful relationships with loyal women who can hold conversations and have something to offer other than sex (but yes, that too). Stop damaging your goods!
