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My mom just texted. My grandmother has been refusing more and more meals. She’s choking on anything my mom tries to give her. She looks good. My brother takes really good care of her. But probably at beginning of the end
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Hey ladies. Just spent close to 3 hours trying to speed read, but also retain like 13 pages worth of posts. So, bear with me.
First off, thank you to those of you who've been asking about me. I haven't been lurking cuz if I read something and don't reply right away, I'll forget what I read and just have to read it again. Gonna try to be on here more consistently going forward though.
Dobby - Sending lots of hugs and thoughts your way. I know you said your grandma lived a good life and got to see all of you go to college and all that, but I also know that doesn't make things easier. Just take whatever time you need to process and heal and we're all here for you whenever you need.
Winter - Hopefully your test results come back with some helpful info. FX your next attempt at TTC will give you a healthy, sticky bean.
I've also heard that fact about possibly testing positive for Covid up to 3 months after getting a proper positive. We do weekly rapid tests at work, but I'm exempt from that for now so I don't end up with a false positive.
Gigs - Don't really have much to say on whether you should go for #4 or not. That's a very personal choice. It's nice that your DH seems to be on board though. I've been weighing the option of going for a 4th myself, but my SO will almost definitely say no, so there won't be a lot of back and forth with us. lol
Flueky - Hope you all had a good time at the zoo and that the party goes well. Happy early Birthday to Serena.
shae - That sucks about the neighbours. Hopefully it'll give you the opportunity to move to a nicer place though. Or FX the neighbours shut up and/or decide to move out first.
Yay for the ring coming, but that was super unprofessional to leave it out in the open and lie about it being signed for. Glad it was safe though and that the proposal is probably just around the corner.
Hello/welcome back to you ladies who've come (back) to the thread.
AFM, things are just ticking along. 49 more business days to go, though I am considering treating myself to a day off next month. My friend will be sending out sprinkle invites tomorrow for April 9th (day after my 34th BDay). Baby girl is hella active, even as I was sitting here reading. I have my 4D scan on the 19th, but it looks like I'm only allowed to have one guest. SO suggested I take my mom cuz he "doesn't need to see the video live", but we'll see how things play out. I stubbed my right pinky toe pretty bad on Wednesday evening and it's still hurting. It's not bruised or sticking out at a weird angle, but it hurts to move and to wear shoes. Dunno if I wanna bother going to the hospital cuz I don't think I can get an XRay and, even if it is fractured, all they'd probably do is buddy tape it.
Here I am at 28w0d and a semi recent pic of the boys. Can't remember who said it, but someone said they looked like they were the same height. This is just to show they're not. lol
First off, thank you to those of you who've been asking about me. I haven't been lurking cuz if I read something and don't reply right away, I'll forget what I read and just have to read it again. Gonna try to be on here more consistently going forward though.
Dobby - Sending lots of hugs and thoughts your way. I know you said your grandma lived a good life and got to see all of you go to college and all that, but I also know that doesn't make things easier. Just take whatever time you need to process and heal and we're all here for you whenever you need.
Winter - Hopefully your test results come back with some helpful info. FX your next attempt at TTC will give you a healthy, sticky bean.
I've also heard that fact about possibly testing positive for Covid up to 3 months after getting a proper positive. We do weekly rapid tests at work, but I'm exempt from that for now so I don't end up with a false positive.
Gigs - Don't really have much to say on whether you should go for #4 or not. That's a very personal choice. It's nice that your DH seems to be on board though. I've been weighing the option of going for a 4th myself, but my SO will almost definitely say no, so there won't be a lot of back and forth with us. lol
Flueky - Hope you all had a good time at the zoo and that the party goes well. Happy early Birthday to Serena.
shae - That sucks about the neighbours. Hopefully it'll give you the opportunity to move to a nicer place though. Or FX the neighbours shut up and/or decide to move out first.
Yay for the ring coming, but that was super unprofessional to leave it out in the open and lie about it being signed for. Glad it was safe though and that the proposal is probably just around the corner.
Hello/welcome back to you ladies who've come (back) to the thread.
AFM, things are just ticking along. 49 more business days to go, though I am considering treating myself to a day off next month. My friend will be sending out sprinkle invites tomorrow for April 9th (day after my 34th BDay). Baby girl is hella active, even as I was sitting here reading. I have my 4D scan on the 19th, but it looks like I'm only allowed to have one guest. SO suggested I take my mom cuz he "doesn't need to see the video live", but we'll see how things play out. I stubbed my right pinky toe pretty bad on Wednesday evening and it's still hurting. It's not bruised or sticking out at a weird angle, but it hurts to move and to wear shoes. Dunno if I wanna bother going to the hospital cuz I don't think I can get an XRay and, even if it is fractured, all they'd probably do is buddy tape it.
Here I am at 28w0d and a semi recent pic of the boys. Can't remember who said it, but someone said they looked like they were the same height. This is just to show they're not. lol
I'm sorry, Dobby 
im glad she's so loved (what more can you want?) But sorry for you all. Thinking of you, and wishing you strength. Are you still talking to the guy you went on the date with? Just wondering if he's been there for you.
Hi Pretty! Lovely to hear that all is going well. You look great! And I absolutely love the boys' matching outfits
didn't you say your OH had gone from zero kids to 3? If I'm remembering that right, then I'd think #4 isn't totally off the table!! 
And I agree with Shae- may as well do the buddy toe thing for yourself. I've never heard that term before, but it fits so well! 
18m isn't too long in the grand scheme of things, Shae. We didn't have a huge wedding, but it was really fun to kind of get into all the little details. I'm not sure anyone cared or noticed my handmade seating chart, but I had a good time buying all the little bits an putting it together And yessssssss to wedding dress shopping! Do you have a style or particular designer in mind already?
Nothing too exciting going on here- I'm on here procrastinating working out.
im glad she's so loved (what more can you want?) But sorry for you all. Thinking of you, and wishing you strength. Are you still talking to the guy you went on the date with? Just wondering if he's been there for you.Hi Pretty! Lovely to hear that all is going well. You look great! And I absolutely love the boys' matching outfits
didn't you say your OH had gone from zero kids to 3? If I'm remembering that right, then I'd think #4 isn't totally off the table!! And I agree with Shae- may as well do the buddy toe thing for yourself. I've never heard that term before, but it fits so well! 18m isn't too long in the grand scheme of things, Shae. We didn't have a huge wedding, but it was really fun to kind of get into all the little details. I'm not sure anyone cared or noticed my handmade seating chart, but I had a good time buying all the little bits an putting it together
And yessssssss to wedding dress shopping! Do you have a style or particular designer in mind already? Nothing too exciting going on here- I'm on here procrastinating working out.
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Ps. Re: the same height comment, pretty: people say the dumbest things a couple of weeks ago, I was out with LO on his balance bike. He was wearing all blue or boyish clothes, the bike is blue, his helmet is black/blue, and he has hair similar to your boys... And a guy we rode by was like "she is just adorable!" I appreciate the comment, and it doesn't matter in the least... but how did you think he was a girl?!
a couple of weeks ago, I was out with LO on his balance bike. He was wearing all blue or boyish clothes, the bike is blue, his helmet is black/blue, and he has hair similar to your boys... And a guy we rode by was like "she is just adorable!" I appreciate the comment, and it doesn't matter in the least... but how did you think he was a girl?!I just googled all your terms above, Shae. And that would be beautiful. I'm not into trying clothes on in stores, but I loved wedding dress shopping! The ladies that work there are really good at helping you find what you want, too. Please show us pics when you start looking. Sadly, I don't live near any of my oldest friends so I haven't gotten to go and do that with/for anyone else.
ETA: haven't watched it in ages, but Say Yes to the Dress (specifically the one in the store in Georgia, not NY) used to be a guilty pleasure
Sadly, I don't live near any of my oldest friends so I haven't gotten to go and do that with/for anyone else.ETA: haven't watched it in ages, but Say Yes to the Dress (specifically the one in the store in Georgia, not NY) used to be a guilty pleasure
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Pretty lovely bump pic and your boys are so handsome. Love the matchy outfits.
Shae will we get to see the wedding dress before the wedding? I know obviously your wedding entourage sees it before SO, but I know he was pretty opinionated about seeing a bfp before us so where do we fall in wedding dress viewing?
Gigs oh man sorry that the rollercoaster is back on. Whatever you decide or whatever happens will be amazing.
Sorry that’s really all I recall at the moment. Just went blank
love you all. Appreciate the support. I’m ok emotionally because she’s suffering and I’m just glad she has gotten to see everyone/will pass at home.
I’m still talking to OA. We went out last weekend. Had a good heart to heart two hours conversation addressing everything. Side note, I think his daughter may have Down syndrome and he’s not ready to tell me. Reading between the lines a bit. But I’ve been wrong before. He has to travel for a couple weeks but we have a third date set when he gets back. He usually checks in daily but does occasionally disappear for 2. He asks often about my grandmother and how my family is doing and how I’m doing. He’s asked a handful of times (today included) how he can support me. And in my head I want to be like hold me LOL but that’s not where we’re at and logistics so I just say continue to listen to me and check in and give me hugs when we are together.
Shae will we get to see the wedding dress before the wedding? I know obviously your wedding entourage sees it before SO, but I know he was pretty opinionated about seeing a bfp before us so where do we fall in wedding dress viewing?
Gigs oh man sorry that the rollercoaster is back on. Whatever you decide or whatever happens will be amazing.
Sorry that’s really all I recall at the moment. Just went blank
love you all. Appreciate the support. I’m ok emotionally because she’s suffering and I’m just glad she has gotten to see everyone/will pass at home.
I’m still talking to OA. We went out last weekend. Had a good heart to heart two hours conversation addressing everything. Side note, I think his daughter may have Down syndrome and he’s not ready to tell me. Reading between the lines a bit. But I’ve been wrong before. He has to travel for a couple weeks but we have a third date set when he gets back. He usually checks in daily but does occasionally disappear for 2. He asks often about my grandmother and how my family is doing and how I’m doing. He’s asked a handful of times (today included) how he can support me. And in my head I want to be like hold me LOL but that’s not where we’re at and logistics so I just say continue to listen to me and check in and give me hugs when we are together.
I'm glad that he's being supportive, Dobby I know it's a weird grey area because you've just met. But hey, that bodes really well for a relationship going forward.
What makes you think his daughter has DS? I just learned recently that an old friend (we were good friends at one point in high school but lost touch, and haven't seen her in at least 10 years) has a daughter with DS. She would've been 33/34 when she was born, so not in the high risk 35+ just yet. It's full on being an adult, eh?
I'm so sorry for what you're all going through. I'm sure that your grandmother is glad to be surrounded by love and family at this stage of her life. I hope she's comfortable, and everyone else is dealing with it as best as possible.
I love those dresses, Shae! The first one in particular is stunning
And I can picture it even more beautiful with a veil.
I know it's a weird grey area because you've just met. But hey, that bodes really well for a relationship going forward. What makes you think his daughter has DS? I just learned recently that an old friend (we were good friends at one point in high school but lost touch, and haven't seen her in at least 10 years) has a daughter with DS. She would've been 33/34 when she was born, so not in the high risk 35+ just yet. It's full on being an adult, eh?
I'm so sorry for what you're all going through. I'm sure that your grandmother is glad to be surrounded by love and family at this stage of her life.
I hope she's comfortable, and everyone else is dealing with it as best as possible. I love those dresses, Shae! The first one in particular is stunning
And I can picture it even more beautiful with a veil.
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Agreed all very pretty. Love me a Maggie Sottero dress.
He made a comment when we were talking about transparency that he’s scared off women before by being totally transparent about baby momma/his daughter. So I know he’s like me and withholds certain things/downplays them.
BM was 41 when she got pregnant. She has fibroids and other health issues, so she had never expected to be able to get pregnant let alone deliver a healthy baby. He said her pregnancy was incredibly high risk. He mentioned that he got into an argument with the geneticist because the geneticist had basically told them to seriously consider alternative choices based on the screening. And he said he told the doctor, “Do you have a kid with DS? No. So you can’t tell us what’s it like, and you can’t tell us what we should do.” Now, it could have just come up as party of the advanced maternal age conversation but with all the NIPT testing available 4 years ago I have to think something came up as high risk for DS for them to have that conversation. She had some surgery as a baby. I know she also had a speech delay. He mentioned sensory issues after I mentioned A’s sensory issues. And, I know this is awful, but honestly when he sent me the picture of her my immediate reaction wasn’t awww cute kid. It was I wonder if she has DS. It would also make sense why they spend so much time together to take her places that I’d expect he could manage alone with a neurotypical child. I think it’s rude of me to ask, so I’ll wait to see if it comes up. I’ve told him A has a speech delay, ASD, sensory issues, and likely ADHD. But I definitely downplay it a lot. And maybe I’m just wrong and overthinking things and she doesn’t have DS.
ETA gas is $5.60/gal now
He made a comment when we were talking about transparency that he’s scared off women before by being totally transparent about baby momma/his daughter. So I know he’s like me and withholds certain things/downplays them.
BM was 41 when she got pregnant. She has fibroids and other health issues, so she had never expected to be able to get pregnant let alone deliver a healthy baby. He said her pregnancy was incredibly high risk. He mentioned that he got into an argument with the geneticist because the geneticist had basically told them to seriously consider alternative choices based on the screening. And he said he told the doctor, “Do you have a kid with DS? No. So you can’t tell us what’s it like, and you can’t tell us what we should do.” Now, it could have just come up as party of the advanced maternal age conversation but with all the NIPT testing available 4 years ago I have to think something came up as high risk for DS for them to have that conversation. She had some surgery as a baby. I know she also had a speech delay. He mentioned sensory issues after I mentioned A’s sensory issues. And, I know this is awful, but honestly when he sent me the picture of her my immediate reaction wasn’t awww cute kid. It was I wonder if she has DS. It would also make sense why they spend so much time together to take her places that I’d expect he could manage alone with a neurotypical child. I think it’s rude of me to ask, so I’ll wait to see if it comes up. I’ve told him A has a speech delay, ASD, sensory issues, and likely ADHD. But I definitely downplay it a lot. And maybe I’m just wrong and overthinking things and she doesn’t have DS.
ETA gas is $5.60/gal now
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I suppose that you will find out in time, Dobby. And I agree that it is best not to ask and to let him share any details as and when he's comfortable doing so. Glad that he is there for you, and hope that things progress as you want them to
Yikes on the gas. You're in the absolute worst place in the whole country for gas, but still- wow. Compared to 2019 we're paying more than double what we were then, but haven't quite hit the same stratosphere as you.
Yikes on the gas. You're in the absolute worst place in the whole country for gas, but still- wow. Compared to 2019 we're paying more than double what we were then, but haven't quite hit the same stratosphere as you.
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Dobs Jesus Christ $5.60???? It’s $4.20-4.30 here except at BJ’s, it’s $3.97 apparently. I just googled because last time I got gas was last week and it was like $3.50 at BJ’s then. It was $2.98 there a month ago. SO needs at least 89 in his car too, so he’s screwed. He drives an hour to work each way.
Also I love Maggie Sottero dresses’ vibe, they’re great!
Also I love Maggie Sottero dresses’ vibe, they’re great!
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Shae lovely dresses! Also, tww goes at a snail's pace for sure. Sorry about gas prices. It was 3.39 a week ago and now it's 3.99. I feel your pain.
Oh and it has been very warm here. 70s mostly and almost 80 on Sunday.
Dobby I couldn't even deal with those prices.
Hmm, sounds like you are probably right about his daughter, not that DS is bad. Well I am glad he is being supportive of you instead of bailing out or just pressuring you into other things.
I'll be thinking and praying for you and your family. Hospice provides resources to family members (not sure to what extent and that may vary by state and agency).
Pretty nice to hear from you. 3rd tri! Ugh, so exciting to be in the final trimester
Love the matching tops for the boys!
Winter the giraffe feeding went fairly well. V was able to feed the giraffe on her own. S tried and then just had me do it LOL. I'd say nother 6 to 8 months and she'll be ready to do it herself. V had trouble her 1st time.
The zoo was lovely. Just a "small" local one. It doesn't have the variety like the large city zoos have but it has a better "feel". We have annual passes so try to get in visits especially when school is in session.
Hope the week goes by quickly for you.
AFM back to work tomorrow. Had some good days off. Loads of fun at the zoo and outside Friday. Party went well Saturday. Chill day on Sunday. Today I got the girls out before the rain came and I also went clothes shopping. Got a bunch of cute stuff.
S loved her dollhouse. It was the last gift we gave her. When we opened her door she was jumping up and down while screaming LOL
Oh and it has been very warm here. 70s mostly and almost 80 on Sunday.
Dobby I couldn't even deal with those prices.
Hmm, sounds like you are probably right about his daughter, not that DS is bad. Well I am glad he is being supportive of you instead of bailing out or just pressuring you into other things.
I'll be thinking and praying for you and your family. Hospice provides resources to family members (not sure to what extent and that may vary by state and agency).
Pretty nice to hear from you. 3rd tri! Ugh, so exciting to be in the final trimester
Love the matching tops for the boys!
Winter the giraffe feeding went fairly well. V was able to feed the giraffe on her own. S tried and then just had me do it LOL. I'd say nother 6 to 8 months and she'll be ready to do it herself. V had trouble her 1st time.
The zoo was lovely. Just a "small" local one. It doesn't have the variety like the large city zoos have but it has a better "feel". We have annual passes so try to get in visits especially when school is in session.
Hope the week goes by quickly for you.
AFM back to work tomorrow. Had some good days off. Loads of fun at the zoo and outside Friday. Party went well Saturday. Chill day on Sunday. Today I got the girls out before the rain came and I also went clothes shopping. Got a bunch of cute stuff.
S loved her dollhouse. It was the last gift we gave her. When we opened her door she was jumping up and down while screaming LOL
Glad that the giraffe feeding went well, flueky! I'm half worried that I'd make him nervous. I like the idea of it, but would likely at least flinch and freak out a bit if it really licked my hand etc
Love that the doll house was such a hit adorable! Hope she has the best time playing with it. Did you buy any specific dolls for it? I so wanted calico critters when I was little! I think lots of accessory pieces are teeny tiny, though.
Love that the doll house was such a hit
adorable! Hope she has the best time playing with it. Did you buy any specific dolls for it? I so wanted calico critters when I was little! I think lots of accessory pieces are teeny tiny, though.
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Winter they give you carrots and you hold from one end and let their tongue wrap around the middle and/or other end. It's neat.
Just random barbie dolls. We already had some too. The accessories for this one weren't super small. Bigger than the ones for the barbie dream house we got V last year. I remember seeing the calico critters commercials last Christmas season.
Just random barbie dolls. We already had some too. The accessories for this one weren't super small. Bigger than the ones for the barbie dream house we got V last year. I remember seeing the calico critters commercials last Christmas season.
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Flueks the dollhouse thing reminds me of when I was a kid, my dad got me a big dollhouse with working lights and sounds, every room was the same size cube and you could stack them together however you wanted to make the house whatever configuration. Only issue was when the screw to change the batteries stripped lol. Every room had its own batteries since they weren’t attached. He painted G.I. Joes to look like the characters from Bonanza as well, and painted toy horses to match the character’s horses, and he gave them to me for Christmas. He’s an artist and he likes painting figurines, though he hasn’t done it in years. I also had a Barbie princess castle with an “elevator” which I was obsessed with, no electronics in that one. My sister got it when I outgrew it and she loved it too. I assume we gave it away at some point or donated it. I think we donated the large assortment of random Barbie dolls and Polly pockets.
My dad brought me to feed giraffes on a Disney World safari when I was 6 but unfortunately I was cranky that day for some reason (idk if I was hungry or overheated or just in a mood) and I was a brat and didn’t want to interact with them, said I was bored. I still feel bad about it, he’s an animal lover and he was pretty devastated. I’d love to do it now as an adult.
Currently 4dpo. My mom has no intuition either way, says the state of the work is making it a lot harder, chaotic energy in the way I guess. Idk. I have no strong feeling that I’m pregnant or not pregnant, just strong hopes lol. Definitely getting overly excited about it and I know I shouldn’t because it’s more likely I won’t get pregnant as it was a small amount of semen that got in me. I forgot that I wasn’t going to mention it to SO until he got back to avoid stressing him out, and I mentioned it yesterday on the phone with him. Oops. I was like “well you didn’t pee before going back in” and he was like “crap”. If you don’t want to get me pregnant, don’t be a dummy, dude.
My dad brought me to feed giraffes on a Disney World safari when I was 6 but unfortunately I was cranky that day for some reason (idk if I was hungry or overheated or just in a mood) and I was a brat and didn’t want to interact with them, said I was bored. I still feel bad about it, he’s an animal lover and he was pretty devastated. I’d love to do it now as an adult.
Currently 4dpo. My mom has no intuition either way, says the state of the work is making it a lot harder, chaotic energy in the way I guess. Idk. I have no strong feeling that I’m pregnant or not pregnant, just strong hopes lol. Definitely getting overly excited about it and I know I shouldn’t because it’s more likely I won’t get pregnant as it was a small amount of semen that got in me. I forgot that I wasn’t going to mention it to SO until he got back to avoid stressing him out, and I mentioned it yesterday on the phone with him. Oops. I was like “well you didn’t pee before going back in” and he was like “crap”. If you don’t want to get me pregnant, don’t be a dummy, dude.
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