General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[WinterBub]

Shezza- I forgot to answer: they will start meds on CD1 of my next cycle (or the one after if this one starts too soon). They basically use your natural cycle and highjack it with meds: two weeks of drugs to encourage lots of eggs to be produced, and then a "trigger" to release them (and they'll do collection procedure after that). So, fingers crossed this current cycle doesn't end until I've been able to go in, sign off all the paperwork, see the Dr, and get my meds delivered. This is all happening very fast... But sometimes that's better for me mentally. We've decided to do it, so may as well go for it.

 

[DobbyForever]

Busy busy but just wanted to say love that things are moving and grooving for people! So excitinh

 

[Shezza84uk]

Shezza- I forgot to answer: they will start meds on CD1 of my next cycle (or the one after if this one starts too soon). They basically use your natural cycle and highjack it with meds: two weeks of drugs to encourage lots of eggs to be produced, and then a "trigger" to release them (and they'll do collection procedure after that). So, fingers crossed this current cycle doesn't end until I've been able to go in, sign off all the paperwork, see the Dr, and get my meds delivered. This is all happening very fast... But sometimes that's better for me mentally. We've decided to do it, so may as well go for it.

How exciting, I hope everything goes well.

AFM- I’ve been busy packing, that’s a task on
It’s own. It’s dawning on me that I may actually be insane doing this lol

 

[shaescott]

GUYS I THINK ITS HAPPENING

He told me to pack a bag for 4 days, and he’d said he was going to make it a vacation! He said he would’ve packed for me but he looked at my clothes and was like “I’m gonna mess this up” so bag is packed, I’m just hopping in the shower now and then we’re off! Unfortunately I sprained my wrist last night (heard a big crack and this morning it’s quite sore, no swelling though so not broken) and it hurts to use that hand so we’ll be picking up a wrist brace on the way

 

[WinterBub]

Woooooooooot! Love your news, Shae. Have a fantastic time! I can't wait to hear how it all goes Such a lovely life moment- enjoy it all!!

I'm sure that you've got this, Shezza. Make all the lists! I love a good organizational project, though I'm sure I'd be stressed too. Hope your packing and logistics all comes together.

 

[shaescott]

He goes “I’m not proposing, I don’t have the ring with me”
I reply “okay so you’re cool if I look in your backpack”
He looks at me and goes “no… I hate you, there was no way out of that”
And then he proceeded to scold me for being “too clever for my own good”.

 

[DobbyForever]

Girrrrrrl it’s happening. I was like taking out the trash and just out of nowhere thought, “Shae’s getting engaged this weekend. I feel it in my bones.” Lol how exciting! Stop asking questions! Go with the flow! Enjoy your trip and definitely details

Sheeza I agree you got this. Hoping everything goes smoothly with the packing

 

[DobbyForever]

Omg since were talking about weddings and budgets. This popped up on my memories in FB lol. I used to watch My Fair Wedding with David Tutera(sp?) and one bride told him, “I’m trying to have a Kim Kardashian wedding on a Gary Coleman budget”

 

[shaescott]

Will tell full story later but

 

[PrettyInInk42]

Will reply properly later, but Congrats shae!

 

[Flueky88]

Congrats Shae.

Dobby it sounds like it was good to break things off with OA. The choosing to do yard work or whatever with a friend over spending time with you was crazy!

Winter I hope all works out and IVF is completed before insurance change!

Shezza sorry for your loss. Also, very impressed with flying with multiple kids.

I don't really remember anything else. Sorry if I missed someone.


Sorry been reading along but my yearly exam at the end of the month showed I had an elevated liver enzyme. So I've just been preoccupied with why would it be elevated since I rarely drink alcohol and shouldn't have a fatty liver (I'm overweight but don't feel I fit the rest of the picture). Not to mention the rest of life keeping me busy.

Had baby shower yesterday for SIL. It went okay. The weather was crazy, it hailed, sleeved, snowed, and was sunny at times. It was 80 degrees Wednesday so weird shift. Supposed to be high 70s tomorrow. I'm off for a few days and we are going to the localism theme park tomorrow, possibly the local zoo Tuesday, and a couples massage for DH and me on Wednesday. The massage is my birthday gift.

I did book us a vacation early May, just going about 90 minutes away buy It's good practice before attempting a beach vacation.

Oh, V had her Kindergarten screening Friday. She passed and will start K in August. She kept dreading going to school for screening but she didn't want to leave afterwards.

Anyways, sorry for the selfish post. I'll try to keep up a bit better. Have a great week everyone.

 

[DobbyForever]

Agreed bout to shower and walk then go to the temple for Thai new year but congrats Shae!!!!

 

[shaescott]

I bet BnB will kill the quality but here’s more pictures. It’s soooo sparkly and I’m completely obsessed, I can’t stop staring at it
He brought me to a luxury lodge (apparently the old summer home of Richard Hellman aka the mayonnaise king) in the Catskills of NY, gorgeous views of the mountains there. Then yesterday we went to Albany to go see some attractions and so we could have a fancy dinner. We saw a WWII destroyer escort, it rained and made my hair very curly, we went to an art museum, then a cider brewery, then bowling, then finally the restaurant (which I picked out). He wasn’t sure if he was gonna do it then, but my nails were starting to get the tiniest chips in them and I told him that they wouldn’t last for the next day so he apparently decided in the parking lot for the restaurant he was doing it then. He thinks best on his feet, he cannot plan things in advance, it makes him super nervous (although he was still super nervous) so I went to the bathroom and in 5 minutes he coordinated with the staff for the whole thing. He’d brought the ring of course for if he got an opportunity. I knew what the vacation was for so he was like “yeah I actually forgot the ring at the hotel” and I partially believed him because he would 100% manage to do that but also his demeanor at the restaurant was very suspicious so I was suspicious the whole time. Yet somehow when he did it I was still shocked, it was like I had an aneurysm he waited for dessert, they came with the dessert on a platter and as they were starting to put it down he started his speech and immediately I was like “omg actually?” Or something like that, don’t remember exactly what I said. He continued his cute speech, it was like 2 sentences lol, I honestly only heard half of it because I was freaking out, and then he got down on one knee and asked me and obviously I said yes and about died of giddiness. The restaurant applauded, it was awesome. Then I looked at the dessert platter and they’d written in chocolate “will you marry me?”, I didn’t see it until after (which was his intention). I couldn’t stop smiling for like 30 minutes, I looked like I was going to explode of happiness. His eyes were all teary, he said he could barely see me halfway through the speech because he couldn’t blink away the tears welling up. The restaurant staff were amazing he said, they immediately were into it and thrilled to help. They even set up a camera on another (empty) table to film it. It was dark in the restaurant but you could see us still, he’ll probably edit it to make it brighter though. The server took a photo of us right after and I look all squinty because I was involuntarily smiling so hard

 

[WinterBub]

Congrats, Shae!! Love every part of your recap. Being that blissfully happy is confirmation that he's the one wishing you lots of fun planning the wedding, and a lifetime of happiness thereafter.

Hope that the liver result isn't anything to worry about, flueky. How high was it? And could you retake in a month or something to see if it has changed? Enjoy all your outings and the massages!!!

 

[Flueky88]

Beautiful ring and lovely engagement story Shae!

Winter yes they are rechecking at the end of this month. The normal range is like 7 to 54. Mine was 74, but in October mine was 10. Thanks we will enjoy, I'm hoping it's not as busy as last Monday so we can do more rides.

 

[WinterBub]

That's so weird, flueky to go from low/normal to so high in such a short period of time. Hopefully the next test is fine, and there's nothing further to do.

 

[WinterBub]

Argh.... I don't know what to do. Saw the IVF coordinator today and found out that insurance actually covers less than we'd thought, so it would be around $5k more than anticipated. And apparently my labs (specific to my PCOS) show me at high risk of developing OHSS (fluid in the abdomen after egg retrieval/pain/severe form can be life threatening). So FML. I want to do it, but not sure if it is totally OTT and unnecessary given the cost/risks/fact that I do have a child.

 

[Flueky88]

Winter oh no! I'm so sorry that it didn't go well with the IVF coordinator. I hope that if you do decide to move forward it is successful with minimal side effects.

 

[shaescott]

Flukes oh geez, I’m sorry to hear about the liver numbers. Hopefully it was just a fluke and a redraw in a bit will show normal levels. If not, I hope they can figure out what’s up and that it’s an easy fix.

Winter I’m sorry that IVF is looking to be less of a clear cut decision, I wish it wasn’t so expensive. I know that it’s elective, but I truly believe that insurance should cover it, at least if you don’t already have multiple children. Some people believe that we have too many people on earth and shouldn’t have more kids, but I believe quite the opposite. We absolutely have the resources for more people, we’re just not using them, and the birth rate has declined a LOT, putting us at risk. I also just believe that we are called to be fruitful and multiply, and that children are the biggest blessing. Anyway, point being, it sucks that IVF is so expensive and I believe it should be accessible to anyone who can afford to raise a child in general (aka they’re not homeless/at risk of homelessness or going hungry due to money).

AFM 1.5 weeks ago I started a nutrition and workout plan through a company that sells like protein powder and stuff, one of my coworkers uses it, they have an app and you get an advisor to message on the app, it’s like $13 a month. I’m trying to get in shape because I’m weak af lol. I was worried my advisor would be mad because during the surprise vacation I didn’t log my food or exercise, so I messaged her after getting back explaining why I’d not been following the plan/logging stuff over the past few days, and she was actually so excited for me, she’s been asking me all about the proposal and wedding plans. Phew! The nutrition plan isn’t super specific on what exactly to eat, it just tracks your macros, so I’m trying to hit a protein goal and be in the general area of a calorie goal, since I’m trying to gain muscle it’s like 2,200 calories and 140 g of protein, which can be hard to reach some days. I don’t really stress myself on being super close with the calories, I care more about hitting my protein goal. The idea that I might gain weight instead of lose it because I’m gaining muscle is a little stressful to me, but I care much more about being healthy than I do about the number on the scale, so if I gain a little weight but I’m clearly healthier, I’m okay with that. I’m trying to work out on my days off (4 days a week), and on my work days at least I’m usually meeting my step goal. Definitely not meeting the goal of 4 days a week yet, but that’s partially because I would’ve spent that 4 day weekend in NY working out if I was home, and I was not.

This post took way too long to write because I kept stopping and staring at the sparkles coming from my ring

 

[WinterBub]

Thanks, gals. It's so frustrating. I think the base issue is that OH would be plenty happy to just be one and done. But I've been through a lot up to this point, and I really don't want to end my baby years with sadness and loss. I want the happy ending. I also wish he understood that, and wasn't so caught up on the money. Yes, it's expensive, but i kind of feel devalued by him putting that amount of money above what I feel.

Your app thing sounds really good, Shae! And I 100% agree that being healthy is more important than what you weigh. Lovely that your coach was so happy for you! Everyone loves love it sounds like you're still glowing about it all, too