Pretty loved the birth story! So glad you’re all doing well. Been loving your posts on insta
Gigs that’s awesome that you can hubs have a system that you can both get some time to do your own thing. I’d be wary of the raw milk just because I’d be assuming it’s got a high fat content since it hasn’t been processed. Not that I know anything, but I did Google it and the first response said raw milk typically has over 4.5% fat where store bought whole milk has 3.5%. But obviously the fat content of raw milk will vary more because it’ll be based on a bunch of factors in the cow’s life vs being processed. I do hope you find a suit that you look! It’s so easy to say it to others to love your body and accept it because it’s beautiful but so hard to turn that talk inwards. While I don’t believe in finding a suit to please others, you should feel happy and confident in what you wear and live your best life. So hoping you find the suit that makes you light up. I do agree that weight is so finicky so definitely focus on the non numerical wins as well. I’m sorry about the chemo recommendation and I’ll keep my FXed that there’s another option and, if not, that the chemo works and isn’t too hard on her. I got no insight on the u/s pics lol but I agree girl just from lack of obvious penis. There was no hiding A’s lol.
I feel y’all on the trust issues with babysitters. I haven’t used
care.com. I looked at it once for au pairs but they were out of my budget. Usually when I was a teen, I was hired by word of mouth/ friends of family or family friends. In college, I was hired through a college job site. I know mentioned that you live in a pretty rural area so that may not be an option. Sorry everyone is having a tough time finding a reliable and trustworthy sitter. FXed
Flueky sorry to hear about the ultrasound results, but I’m glad you’re not worried. Idk much about that or surgery, but I hope things either resolve on their own or the surgery is minor and goes smoothly. Hoping the tractor hunt goes well! And so glad V’s birthday went well! I echo everyone else about MIL. That’s really difficult that she’s being so stubborn but you did what you could and said what you had to say. Hugs. I’m so sorry you had covid.
Glad to hear things are improving and hopefully you’re back to 100% soon. And that everyone else in the house is holding up well too.
Winter re swimming, I haven’t gotten A lessons because he won’t listen LOL. My friend got private 1-1 in her parents’ pool for her daughter during the pandemic. I’d say she got a handle of lessons before she got into it with the teacher and fired him. I took A to the pool like 2-3 times and tossed some basic info at him (blow bubbles, kick, use your arms). We got the kids together yesterday for a pool day, and honestly you’d think my kid had the lessons and hers had never been in a pool. We do use those vests with the floats attached though because buoyancy is not a thing for either kid LOL and mine loves to jump in and swim around with no mind to how deep the water is. YES right?! Making friends as an adult sucks! We met a mom at the kinder orientation and she was like so eager to get my number and get the kids together. I told her about A’s ASD and speech and she texted back this long sweet reply that her nephews have ASD and it’s nbd. But guess who has ghosted me since! Hugs. I met a teacher who is a single mom at this training but she lives north of here and I’m moving so it’s like we’d never realistically hang out. She wants to get together next week but A- I don’t want to drive that way and B- I don’t want to build a friendship just to ditch it in a month. I do feel bad though because I know adult friend making sucks and she was so hype to get our boys together. It’s so much worse than dating. I’m glad she ended up getting back to you! Woot! Re lh surges. I test compulsively LOL. I usually get two days of positives then the the third day I’ll go negative and that’s when I O. So if I had missed the first day of my surge, I’d still see it the second day.
Shae sorry the backyard plan fell through. I’m glad you found a barn in your price point! Reminds me of the proposal with Sandra B and Ryan R. Love the pictures of the venue! I like the idea of silk flowers, especially if it’s more cost effective. I don’t know how crafty your friends are, but I know watching “Bridezillas” that DIY parties are a thing. I feel like if there was alcohol and music and my friends, I’d enjoy sitting around making centerpieces and silk floral arrangements. That’s nice that the etsy seller will show you the arrangements before fulfilling the order/ shipping. It’s not my day and both are gorgeous, but I’m right there with you. Something in between the two bouquets would be perfect. I don’t know anything about the actual wedding day, but it sounds like you’re covering all of your bases and it’s going to be a beautiful day. The wedding industry and social media just want you to think you have to spend boat loads of money. My cousin spent 50k on hers, and for what? A bunch of unnecessary show and now she can’t afford to find a place to live because she can’t afford to pay two months rent upfront and her credit sucks. So I do agree think about any impending financial goals. I know you’re eager to TTC right away. When do you want to buy a place or what’s the rent like in the area you want to raise your babies? Do you want to vacation? Are you going on a honeymoon? While I don’t think any of that should stop you from having your dream wedding, I will say that the advice I always hear from my married friends is to never take a loan to pay for your wedding. Like for me, I wouldn’t mind it just because I have equity. So when I opened the HELOC to pay for my custody battle, it’s a 10 year term with a 25,000 line of credit. I used all $25. My payment is only like $100/month and it doesn’t impact my credit score. In fact, it improved it because I paid off my credit cards, which is what really hurts your credit. So my credit score was 805 then dropped to like 720 and now is up to 864. I know the funds are tricky, but sounds like you’re really being mindful and practical about it. Hehe. I also feel you on the I know when I’m ovulating because day to day I love my life and don’t want another baby but then suddenly for a week I’ve got baby brain HAHA.
AFM well I basically filled you in haha. The only downside to this new job is that it will be work. I teach in a very proficient school, so if you don’t really show up then the kids don’t suffer academically. This school definitely needs you to actually teach haha. I’ve gotten a bit complacent though so it’ll be a good kick in the pants.
Only other new thing is I have A’s second transition meeting tomorrow. Last one was HEATED. The gen ed team is coming to this one. I did take A to meet with the kinder teachers and rsp teacher 1-1 last week. The RSP teacher was a first year fifth grade teacher when I was in fifth grade there lol. She was like I didn’t have you but I remember you were next door with Andrea! Not a lot of black kids roll through that school LOL But she was like my observation is he’s really compliant. Obviously you know his deficits but a lot of kids come in lacking the fine motor skills. She said he responded really well to the timer and if/then statements (stuff he’s been working on with his BT) and that she actually thinks he could be more independent and successful with a part time aide. My friend/ his advocate was saying if she thinks he only needs a p/t aide then she’s not going to push SDC first. Which she did say that her recommendation for gen ed would be to start with a P/T aide then check in after 3-4 weeks to make any adjustments as needed. But she did also say SDC would could be a benefit just for the smaller class size and larger teacher ratio so he may learn independence faster in that situation. But it’s K-3 and honestly A is going to adapt to his peers and I know once they put kids in SDC it’s basically impossible to get them back to gen ed despite what people say.
My mom finally woke up in her divorce and realized that everything I was saying is true. So they’re going to end up in court probably. The only thing I wasn’t shocked by but was new was that the mediator said if my stepdad’s goal is to protect the kids then they should just put everything in the kids’ names now. And my mom said sure, let’s do it! And he said no. Then they argued about the properties because my mom’s two properties will be worth far less than his two. And he was saying but the potential of her two is better because the lot sizes are huge and she could develop them into huge money makers. And my mom said with what money would I do that? And so my mom said well if you think what I’m getting is so much better then we can switch. And he immediately said no. Like I’m not shocked because it’s not about the kids at all. I know it’s not about my brother/me/A. And I had a suspicion it wasn’t about the twins and was about him/his son from his first marriage. But this just confirms it. He's trying to keep her from going to court by saying that when he signed the house to her he legally only owned half, so she only would get a 1/4 which is less than what they're negotiating now. But the thing is he lied to her and said he owned it outright. And even gave her a deed that showed they owned it together not him, her, and his ex wife. And honestly I know he stalled signing the divorce papers for his ex so I think for sure he intentionally waited to sign them until after he signed the house to my mom for this exact moment. Either way, my mom found the hidden paperwork and snagged it before she left the house to prove he lied to her. He doesn't know she has it. And he lied to her about having a key to her house because I asked her for a key and literally same day HE gave me a copy of the key saying he made it for me that morning! So hello! I told my mom he literally does divorce mediation/cases, so he wouldn't even need an attorney. He knows you'd have to go get an expensive attorney. If what he's saying is true, after a year of arguing in mediation going to court would be better for him. So obviously he doesn't want you to go to court for a reason, which is he's getting a better deal in mediation than he would in court.
! She did text back and we said we'll try and do something next week. I'll let her follow up on that and see if it actually happens. 
I'm so glad that you made a Mom friend! 
We had a group of 3 of us for about 3 years, all with young babies or pregnant/TTC together etc, and it was great! Then one left right before COVID, and the other left when COVID hit... I think I've been a bit lonely the last two years. I don't need lots of friends, but 3-4 would be nice! 
how is your oh? 
Lovely flower ideas in those pictures! 
and I have a couple of friends from various stages of life. But I moved around a lot, so no old friends where we live now to just kind of casually hang out with. Most of my friends from earlier on are childless, too. (I'd never quite realized that!) I have a few friends from high school/college/old jobs to email/text with- but that's not quite the same. Anyway... I should probably get into some sort of hobby for myself and spend some time with adults doing some kind of common interest. Mom friends would be nice, too! Thank you for the kindness and understanding, y'all! And I feel the same about my OH, shae. He's my best friend 
but it's hard then when you rely so much on one person for everything.
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got on the external area again, mostly my fault cuz I kept moving my body into the 
. He was fully aware of what I was doing lol. So here we go again for another TWW. 
good thing I ordered a size up. I’d be due in early March. Clearly I’m getting ahead of myself here but I’m also realizing that this is really the last month I could get pregnant and potentially fit into my dress. I really gotta be smarter about avoiding (unless of course it’s too late for that). 
