I will say that although I'm not going to bother with the Chinese charts because they have been 50/50 for me (right, wrong, wrong, right) and I don't want to be obsessing over new moons and such because I know that drives my testosterone up, I will be trying some old wife's tales, so I can sort of let go of some of the control. I am the type of person who writes lists and worries over everything especially things I can't control. I wanted to include every single sway tactic but after much reading I realise this is my obsessive nature taking over and could actually be the reason a sway might fail. So I've got myself a rose quarts necklace, and some pink ribbon to tie round a wooden spoon to keep under the bed. There's also one about keeping a girls outfit under the bed but I can not being myself to buy one knowing it may never be worn. I'll also write a letter to my future daughter to keep under the bed.
I know these things are old wife's tales and in actual fact the acts themselves can't possibly sway, but the point is to realise I can't control everything and to put some faith into something else and learn to just relax. Even down to the fact that last time I'd spend the whole day walking round praying in my head "pleeease please just let me be pregnant this month, let it be a girl. I neeeeed a healthy baby girl"