While there's no number that would automatically mean readiness (just like being 18 doesn't automatically make one an adult in mind, though too many kids who are 18 are offended if you don't think of them as mature adults), I absolutely would not support anyone under 22 trying to have a baby. I don't care that almost everyone under the sun who is 18, 19, 20, thinks they're soooo mature and ready.
I started TTC just after 19 because i knew of fertility problems ahead from medical problems when i was a teen. Low and behold i didnt conceive until i was 22 ...
That statement is just tarring everyone with the same brush and i completley disagree. Whilst i dont support under 18's TTC there are always exceptions to the rule and you should stay open minded to that
I agree Polo.
Aria, it seems like you always say things like "oh you
think you are more mature than everyone your age, but really your not-I think you are basing your own experiences on what you think everyone else is like-Everyone is different. I started ttc when I was 19, got pregnant at 19 and had Alexa at 20. Everyone around me knows I am more mature than most people my age-Michael and I didn't even start ttc until we talked it out with his parents to make sure it was the right decision-his parents will be the first people to say I am more mature than most people my age, and they never class me with anyone in my age group-like I said everyone is different, and no one knows what they are like, and capable of, except themselves and their family and friends (to an extent). It just seems like you have a lot of opinions, that you can't even back up with your own experience-like you didn't have a child young-you say you have friends and seen what they went through raising kids young-well that may be true, and I do not know your friends, but I am almost positive that those same friends will say that all the good things about having their LO in their lives overrides the bad things. I am not going to say about how a bad mother can be any age, and a good mother can be any age, because we all know that already, but one should not be judged based on their decisions that they have made-after reading some pages of your blog, I would think that you, would understand that!
As for your many references to tax money and people on assistance, Aria, I have no idea why you are so ignorant towards that topic! Obviously you have never had to be on social assistance before, so you have no idea what it's like. I, myself, have never had to go on assistance, thankfully, and hopefully never will *knock on wood* but there are people out there who need it, and that does not make them bad people, or bad parents at all. Life changes, and even with the most stable job, these days, that stability is not even guarenteed. I pay taxes, you pay taxes, everyone pays taxes-as far as I am concerned, I don't care where the taxes go, the same gets taken out of our income regardless how many people live on assistance, or don't live on assistance. Yes, we all know a couple of people who scrounge of benefits because they are lazy asses who think they shouldn't have to work, and have no intention of ever looking for work, but I don't think most people are like that.
You do what you have to do to get by in this world, and if it isn't hurting someone else, then why is that anyone elses business?
Anyway, I think that is all I have to say for now, sorry if I have offended anyone with this reply, that was not my intention, I merely had an opinion that I had to get out.