Hurry up BFPs!!! We are ready when you are :-)

[MrsBroodyPant]

Hilslo - sorry u felt likr crying at work. I feel like crying when i see people for the first time since what happened. It will get easier. Nice that u can see a rainbow! Thats a good sign! I saw a rainbow on our way home from the hospital after i had the baby and i took that as a good sign
Xxx

 

[ece77]

hilslo - I felt like crying when I met people who knew what happened. With other people, I was generally OK. It will get better with time, at least I hope so.

As for the temp question: my temps were high for quite a long time (36.5ish); then there was quite a dip (35.9), followed by a steady rise for 4 days, but never going above what I thought was my coverline (36.3). In fact FF thought that the dip was O. However I had 4 more flat temps (36.2) and then a considerable rise (36.5). I think I O'd at the last 36.2; because AF arrived 14 days after that. You may be experiencing sth similar?!

I'm sure it would make more sense if I could share my chart, but I can not figure out how to, for the life of me!

 

[hilslo]

I've tried and failed too! It would be fab to see everyone's charts to see how we're all progressing! x

 

[Nina83]

Hilslo,
I'm so sorry you feel like that at work. The bad days definitely come and go, and it seems that sometimes you're doing great and one person comes up to you, smiles and asks if you're ok, and then everything just falls apart But it slowly gets better.
Rainbows are a good sign! You need rain for a rainbow- don't forget that!

I think I shared my chart before, I seriously hate fertility friend, so I'm charting both at FF and countdown to pregnancy.
It took me forever to understand how to share my chart but here goes-
go to sharing, (top right) under charting home page, click "view"
Voila! Right click copy image code, and paste into insert image right here...

My chart is pretty bare and boring right now. I can't really read charts, but it is interesting to see others, and maybe that helps understanding mine a bit more.

https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/40f9e8/?i=5218639&

Here's the chart after I had the D&C, if anyone was interested...
I think if I did O, it would have been on cd16. I still had a BFP then so I wasn't checking with OPK.

https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/40f9e8/?i=5213847&

 

[ece77]

Wow, thanks Nina! So here it goes:

https://www.fertilityfriend.com/ttc/chartgraph_module.php?d=2013-03-09

I must admit I cheated a little by marking (+) OPK on CD 51, because FF wouldn't show the O day even after I marked first day of AF. I just wanted to see those crosshairs . Anyways I think it's quite reasonable for me to have O'd that day. I will not of course count this cycle in stats, so it doesn't really matter that I cheated .

 

[sarahkr]

i'm sarah, i had a m/c on tuesday, been trying since jan, can i join please?
i'm on the fertility monitor, i classed mon as cd1, but it isnt really a cycle, can anyone give me any advice please on when to try again? or when my af becomes regular? i'm so worried and scared, i just dont know what to do, i knew something was wrong since ovulation, i had in total 10 period pains in the tww which led to a loss i'm having a pelvic scan in june, i'm just wondering when it would be safe/possible to try again? i'm still cramping, and am really scared.
sorry to blabber on.... but any advice please? xxxxxx

 

[Nina83]

Hi Sarah
I'm so so sorry for your loss
Of course you can join, I'm sorry you're here though
Everyone is different, I think you're good to start intercourse after the bleeding stops. As for when to start trying again- we started right away, some people wait one cycle for dating purposes, some doctors reccomend 2 cycles... I believe that your body will let you know when it's ready, and it won't happen until it is.
I got AF about 3 weeks after my D&C, but I think that's considered early. cd9 today, waiting for ovulation (hope it comes)

 

[ticklemonster]

Hi guys, I just wanted to ask if I could join you all? I wasn't due til November but last weds found out I'd lost our baby. I had a scan due to some pain last weds I should have been 11 wks 5 days, found out baby had passed around 5/6 weeks classed as blighted ovum. I was so shocked as I just had a few pains last tues wasn't expecting them to tell me baby hadn't grown. Devasting is not the word. Anyway this is my second loss in 4 years we want to try again but I'm quite scared to start ttc. I've not had any bleeding since the d and c last thurs, just a little brown spotting when wiping. When can I expect my period to start? Thanking you all in advance and so sorry for everyone's losses x x

 

[xxDreamxx]

Ticklemonster - I am sorry for your loss. {hugs} welcome to our group!

 

[ticklemonster]

Ticklemonster - I am sorry for your loss. {hugs} welcome to our group!

Thank you x

 

[xxDreamxx]

Well right now, I don't know what to think.... Hubby called the hospital where our baby's post mortem is being conducted to make sure they received our paperwork etc and they asked him if we had picked a name and whether we knew the gender of the baby. He said, we had not chosen a name at the time and we'd only found out 2 days previously by verifi prenatal that we were having a girl.

The lady said to him that from their initial pathology report it appeared that the baby was a boy! She did say we have to wait 6 weeks for the full report.... so we have no idea at present whether the baby is definitely a boy or not.... (I cried when I found this out, but only because we found out from the verifi bloods 2 days prior to finding out she had passed....so all week I have grieved for a little girl and now I don't know whether I am grieving a son or a daughter).

The verifi apparently is 97.6% sensitive to XX and 99.1% sensitive to XY. So now we are totally confused. In the scheme of things, I lost a baby..... it doesn't matter what gender, I would grieve equally and if the baby had survived, we would have been in for an interesting scan had we got to 20 weeks and discovered a boy...

But, this was rather emotional news to hear. Guess we find out when the full report comes in.

 

[Nina83]

ticklemonster,
Hi Hun, I'm sorry for your loss , and of course you can join.
I was also due in November, I had a MMC early April.
I also had a D&C, bled very lightly for about a week. Everyone is different when it comes to AF coming back. I had mine about 3 weeks afterwards
Do you have a check up at the doctors?

 

[Nina83]

xxDreamxx,
Oh sweetie... I'm so sorry you're going through this right now, I can't imagine

 

[MrsBroodyPant]

Morning ladies!

Nina good luck for your new cycle. I hope u o soon. Looking at your chart between d&c and af, id say u didnt o. Thanks for sharing how to post a chart. I will give that a go!

Ece77 i can only see my own chart when u posted yours. Dont know why lol.

Hi Sarah, welcome. Sorry dor your loss. Is a fertility monitor good? Thats about the only thing i havent tried whilst ltttc.

Ticklemonster very sorry for your loss. Welcome to our group. Unfortunately i havent got a clue when af should come either. Its a waiting game...

Susan/dream sorry u are not sure about the gender. I understand how hard that must be. I was sure i was having a boy then when we found out it was a girl i was shocked. I had cvs which told us her chromosomes. Will u get a clear answer soon?

I hope everyone is well xxx

 

[ticklemonster]

ticklemonster,
Hi Hun, I'm sorry for your loss , and of course you can join.
I was also due in November, I had a MMC early April.
I also had a D&C, bled very lightly for about a week. Everyone is different when it comes to AF coming back. I had mine about 3 weeks afterwards
Do you have a check up at the doctors?

They have not arranged for a check up but have asked me to take a wee sample in next week? No idea what for?

 

[xxDreamxx]

Susan/dream sorry u are not sure about the gender. I understand how hard that must be. I was sure i was having a boy then when we found out it was a girl i was shocked. I had cvs which told us her chromosomes. Will u get a clear answer soon?

I hope everyone is well xxx

We will find out once we get the full report. To be honest, I had thought I was having a boy for 15 weeks and 5 days....because hubby has Jacobs syndrome (XYY) - I felt sure we'd snag a Y from his 2 BUT, really I had no idea. The idea of a girl was always something I had dreamed of...so for the 2 days after finding out, we'd been overjoyed (although, we'd have been equally happy with a boy....gosh it's hard to explain....I am sure you understand though).

I read the report now and verifi say that there is a small possibility that they might not pick up the baby's chromosomes and they could be those of the placenta (confined placental mossaicism) or that of the mother (chromosomal mossaicism)... so if they've picked up mine rather than the baby's "well congrats I am a girl" It does make me wonder about the other abnormalities it looked for....so guess we just wait and see for now.

Kind of goes with the bear they gave us at the hospital which said "In honour of Baby Gillespie" ------ My surname is NOT Gillespie!

 

[MrsBroodyPant]

I totally understand.
I was wondering what your DHs syndrome was as my baby had triploidy which is 3 sets of all chromosomes and she was xxx which i know if there is even one y it overrides to become a boy. Does your DH just have 3 of the sex chromosome 23?
We worried too about the disorder being isolated to the placenta only and that baby could be fine but she was born with defects so we know it wasnt.
When u get the full report u should know more. Sorry u have to go through this
Xxx

 

[xxDreamxx]

I totally understand.
I was wondering what your DHs syndrome was as my baby had triploidy which is 3 sets of all chromosomes and she was xxx which i know if there is even one y it overrides to become a boy. Does your DH just have 3 of the sex chromosome 23?
We worried too about the disorder being isolated to the placenta only and that baby could be fine but she was born with defects so we know it wasnt.
When u get the full report u should know more. Sorry u have to go through this
Xxx

Hubby is XYY so what he could have passed on is XYY if we'd had a boy or klinefelters but they are both chromosome abnormalities consistent with life and quality of life (we saw a genetic specialist a year ago when we both got genetically tested)

We will await the report and see what it reveals.

All these chromosome variations is rather confusing

 

[sarahkr]

Hi Sarah
I'm so so sorry for your loss
Of course you can join, I'm sorry you're here though
Everyone is different, I think you're good to start intercourse after the bleeding stops. As for when to start trying again- we started right away, some people wait one cycle for dating purposes, some doctors reccomend 2 cycles... I believe that your body will let you know when it's ready, and it won't happen until it is.
I got AF about 3 weeks after my D&C, but I think that's considered early. cd9 today, waiting for ovulation (hope it comes)

thankyou, see i havent had any real bleeding... its been err black sorry the dr said when i took the sample down, it was all in tact, and if i wasn't so in-tune with my body, most women probably wouldn't have even realized that it was in fact a sack... he did an internal and my cervix was still closed does that mean i'm not to class this as a cycle? or does it mean, the worst is over? or will i start real blood bleeding.. as my period length is usually 4 days, and theres not much there, and i've set the monitor, so i'm on cd4 today? i'm so confused the monitor will ask me for a stick on cd6... but he said not to try for 3 months i know, what i'm like, if this is a cycle af is due 9th june.... so should i leave this cycle and see if it regulates? xxxxxx

 

[sarahkr]

Morning ladies!

Nina good luck for your new cycle. I hope u o soon. Looking at your chart between d&c and af, id say u didnt o. Thanks for sharing how to post a chart. I will give that a go!

Ece77 i can only see my own chart when u posted yours. Dont know why lol.

Hi Sarah, welcome. Sorry dor your loss. Is a fertility monitor good? Thats about the only thing i havent tried whilst ltttc.

Ticklemonster very sorry for your loss. Welcome to our group. Unfortunately i havent got a clue when af should come either. Its a waiting game...

Susan/dream sorry u are not sure about the gender. I understand how hard that must be. I was sure i was having a boy then when we found out it was a girl i was shocked. I had cvs which told us her chromosomes. Will u get a clear answer soon?

I hope everyone is well xxx

hi everyone, sorry for your losses too, yes the fertility monitor is great, this was my first peak and i got pregnant... so i cant fault it, i just fault my body.... i knew something was wrong since ovulation and all the pain i was in, they are sending me for a pelvic scan... to see if i have cysts. see i went to see a psychic a couple of months ago, and she told me i was going to have a little girl, but she said there were problems in that area.... so after this m/c i insisted on having a scan, just to see xxxxx