LDC
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We had an appointment today following severe water on the brain found at 20 week scan. We got told today that the prognosis for baby is really not good, and that if we continue then there are likely to be further complications and extremely impaired motor skills at the very best.
Oh and I made the horrendous decision to end the pregnancy (I can't even bare to call it anything else) after having discussed this following the poor diagnosis at the 20 week scan.
I'm due in for the tablet on Thursday and the delivery on Saturday.
I don't even know how to feel. I'm so confused, I don't feel that it's fair. It's not fair to anyone.
I've bawled my eyes out and am now numb. Just waiting for the day for it all to happen.
I don't even know if we're having a girl or a boy.
I feel like a monster for making such a decision.
My oh has been wonderful and he's off work now until next week. I've called work and told them not to expect me in. I'm panicking now about work - because it's happening at 21.5 weeks I'm not covered by our maternity policy (I would be if it were 24 weeks plus) so it goes to sick leave. I can self cert for 5 days (taking me to Tuesday) but what do I do? I feel like it's an extra stress I don't need right now. I'd like to think I can't work 3 days after delivering but then I've chosen this so does that mean I can? I don't want to be racing to the drs next week after what is going to be a horrendous time to try and get a sick note.
I just want to crawl into a hole and forget.
I feel so alone xxx
Oh and I made the horrendous decision to end the pregnancy (I can't even bare to call it anything else) after having discussed this following the poor diagnosis at the 20 week scan.
I'm due in for the tablet on Thursday and the delivery on Saturday.
I don't even know how to feel. I'm so confused, I don't feel that it's fair. It's not fair to anyone.
I've bawled my eyes out and am now numb. Just waiting for the day for it all to happen.
I don't even know if we're having a girl or a boy.
I feel like a monster for making such a decision.
My oh has been wonderful and he's off work now until next week. I've called work and told them not to expect me in. I'm panicking now about work - because it's happening at 21.5 weeks I'm not covered by our maternity policy (I would be if it were 24 weeks plus) so it goes to sick leave. I can self cert for 5 days (taking me to Tuesday) but what do I do? I feel like it's an extra stress I don't need right now. I'd like to think I can't work 3 days after delivering but then I've chosen this so does that mean I can? I don't want to be racing to the drs next week after what is going to be a horrendous time to try and get a sick note.
I just want to crawl into a hole and forget.
I feel so alone xxx