I worry I will shake the baby

[Duffy]

Hey sweeite,
YES I have thrown Fruit, pillows even DVD's a pin/bingo markers at my Oh I always had a temper on me and react by throwing things. And when I was pregnant my hormones where threw the roof so I was very errrrr I won't say but lets just say oh had a right to feel picked on

When Karissa was in my arms a mothering insinct of love and protection swept through me, when she cried and still does I don't feel annoyance I feel overwhelming my baby crying mama will hold you rock you make you feel better. My temper and annoying short temper melted away you could say I grew up and matured and handled/acted out things like adult lol. Your going to be amazed at how in control you will be when you hold your baby, sure your get annoyed but honnie if you love that baby the very thought of shacking or being mean to your baby will make you SICK pysically sick, your natural mother intincts will kick in, hugs babe your get through this trust me and you will be a AWESOME mommy.

 

[Lara310809]

I have anger issues too, and I was worried that I would lose my temper with my LO. TBH everyone gets stressed out and everyone has times when they're reaching their breakig point, but you just have to keep in your mind that this baby is unable to communicate any other way. It cannot tell you what it wants, and frankly, as long as the baby is fed, changed, warm and loved, it's okay if it cries. There's a lot of pressure to find out what's wrong and solve it, but sometimes they're bored and I bet sometimes even they don't know why they're crying; they're just grouchy. All you can do is think what it could be and do what you can.

But if you're worried I would recommend talking to someone about it. Perhaps your MW can put you into an anger management class, because having my LO has stretched my patience much more than anything else has. I've had to leave the room at some points, just to calm down because otherwise I will shout at her.

As for the family side of thigns, I think it's important to work on the relationship you have with your OH while your LO is still in the womb, because it's sad for a baby to be brought up in a house of tension and anger; especially if things are being thrown around - one day you may not realise LO is where they are and they may accidentally get hurt.

It takes a strong person to admit what you have, and I admire you for your courage. The important thing is that you realise there is a problem, and you want to fix it. Good luck hon, please talk to someone about it.

 

[leoniebabey]

Ok this worries me. If your temper is that bad,maybe you should of got some help before deciding to have a baby

that was rude. She was asking for support and advice not to be judged.

Aside from that, dont worry i was exactly the same. Especially going through my teenage years. I'd throw anything as a way to get out my frustration instead of hurting people i'd hurt the bottle or bag or whatever was next to me but i dont feel angter towards people, especially not my baby i'd never do anything to hurt him. i never get angry if im holding or anywhere near my baby. Im sure you'll find one your LO is here you'll feel the same but if not speak to your doctor they might be able to help you
x

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

Everyone else has given great advice. Congrats on your little girl xx

 

[Second Chance]

Hunnie, i think this fear of yours may be unfounded, I have had many fears like that as well... But once you are in the situation you just know what to do, and I think the fact that it is foremost in your mind is a good sign that you are aware of it and dont need to worry... Sometimes you just have to walk away! I hate to hear my son cry but sometimes I just cant do it anymore, and you will see that it will be ok