IVF or FET November/December 2015 - chat thread

[klik]

Wish: Yes! Attaaaaaaaaack! Super happy your numbers are looking better! I wonder if your AFC has gone up, too!

Disneyfan: I am doing well, considering how violently life keeps intruding: DP's father has had a heart attack... I haven't shared because I didn't want to be negative, so please forgive the gushing now. DP was in the waiting room for ET with me when the call came in, but (very selfishly I say) I was very lucky that DP didn't notice the call until after he'd left the clinic, and could really be there with me during the procedure. His dad was already in hospital so it's not like DP not knowing for 2 hours delayed his father's treatment... I went to see DP's father yesterday in hospital and I'm quite sure he'll pull through, but in the meantime he's so deeply rattled by the experience that he's become disturbingly paranoid (Someone's broken into the hospital! Someone's trying to poison me!) The irony is that the last thing my doctor's assistant said to me after ET was to avoid stress because (she shouldn't have put it like this) "cortisol kills the embryo." Poor DP is trying as well as he can to shield me from all this, but he's, of course, extremely disturbed and worried (and angry at his dad, who suspected on Saturday that it was a heart problem but decided to self-medicate with aspirin til he was almost collapsing on Monday)... Ugh!!!!

So, given all that, I'm doing ok. Just behind on work and finding it hard to focus. I mean, I'll get a grip, but it's just tough right now. And of course I'm worried for DP's father and for DP's emotional state... And I hate to think what all this is doing to the embryo... Ugh, sorry again.

I'm still thinking fondly of you gals and rooting for you!

Disneyfan: how is it being back? Are you waiting for AF?

Amanda: thinking of you! Are you medicating or monitoring for ovulation?

Boopin: Hope your 2ww is less eventful than mine!!!

 

[Disneyfan88]

Wish - That's great that your numbers went up! My AMH was .64 3 years ago when I was 28. I'm curious where it is now. Get busy this weekend and best of luck!

Current plan right now is to work towards a transfer on July 21. Enough time (I assume) to clean up my diet after vacation, but not right around DD's birthday. I'm currently waiting for AF, and then at that point, my doctor will send me my medication calendar. We will be doing blood work to test all of my hormone levels as well as test for immune factors. I know I will be starting BCP after AF arrives, and I will on estrogen patches instead of estrace. I also have Lupron that I will need to administer, and another medication to prevent clotting (I think) after the transfer. Whatever it is we're doing, I guess I'll find out as soon as AF arrives.

Klik - I'm so sorry about DP's father. Hopefully he makes a smooth and speedy recovery and the stress for you and DP won't be too much. I'm glad that he was able to be there for the transfer. Try to rest when you can, and do your best to remain positive.

It's been super busy at work since I've returned from vacation. I REALLY wish I could turn back the clock and go back. We'd live there if DD had her way! She really had a great time, which made the trip all the more worth it.

 

[Asterimou]

Oh Klik, why do all these things come at once! It sounds intense and I think you should allow DH to shield you from it as much as possible. This time is about you and your embie getting to know each other and you should shut out as much of the rest as possible. That said, I don't think cortisol will kill the embryo, people get pregnant in war zones and I'm sure they are stressed! We can do so much to help but at the end of the day what will be will be and you probably have little control over it right now. Really wishing it to stick

Good news on your numbers Wish

And Disney, the 21st will be here before you know it.

Boopin: hope tww isn't driving you mad. Any symptoms?

 

[amanda1235]

Klik I'm so sorry! Sending you big hugs as you deal with all of that right now. I also think that whoever told you cortisol kills an embryo is completely insensitive and untrue. As aster said, if that was true, people in war zones, rape victims, abuse situations, would never get pregnant, and they do. Try not to stress about being stressed, we all know that's too easy to do as well.

Disney your plan sounds great! Everything will be getting started soon

As for me, I'm on a medicated FET, so estrace, baby aspirin and vaginal Viagra until lining is thick and trilaminar, then I continue all that, and add doxycycline, medrol, PIO after transfer. Next scan is on Monday!

 

[Disneyfan88]

Yuck - I hate medrol! No matter what I do or how fast I try to wash it down with water, I can never avoid that nasty taste in my mouth. And the needing to pee in the middle of the night.

I'll be doing doxycycline, medrol, and PIO just before transfer with PIO and another shot (yay me!) after. I hope your lining is getting nice and plush, Amanda!!

 

[klik]

Disneyfan: thanks! Apparently DP's father is feeling much better--he'll need bypass surgery (at least double) but nowadays doctors are really good at those. Funny, I've never heard of/been offered medrol. So interesting--hard to know why different clinics prescribe different things. When's your DD's birthday?

Asterimou: I thought that, too--if cortisol really "killed" embryos, how do babies get conceived and born in these utterly terrible circumstances? She was just trying to tell me to avoid stress but that kind of ignores the fact that life sometimes imposes itself! Thanks for the wishes!

Amanda: good luck building that lining! FXed for a lusciously thick lining for Monday!

Sorry again about the gushing yesterday--DP was late coming back from hospital, and I thought it was probably just because he was having dinner with his brother, but I couldn't get through to them so thought their father might have taken a turn for the worse! I told him off. He's already called today to say everything's ok, so at least he learned his lesson!

 

[amanda1235]

Klik, don't apologize! Glad it sounds like DP's father is doing better, bypass surgery is definitely very common nowadays. I've always taken medrol from the day EC, once a day for 4 days. It's a steroid, that has good anti-inflammatory properties, that I think is supposed to help with implantation. It's not the most fun medication, as Disney said, so lucky you it's not in your drug cocktail!

Boopin' how are you doing?

 

[boopin4baby]

Hello ladies - I'm doing good. I'm feeling some of the same symptoms as last time, but don't want to read too much into them. I'm going to buy a FRER while I'm out today and will test in the morning. I'll be 5dp5dt tomorrow, so I think I have a decent chance of seeing something if its to be seen. I'm off to see Alice Through the Looking Glass. Have a great day everyone!!

 

[boopin4baby]

UPDATE: I couldn't wait until morning.

Ladies - I just POAS and got a second faint line 4dp5dt!! I'm in shock right now and haven't told OH. He's at work and I'm all alone. So, thought I'd share it with my ttc sisters first.

It's very faint right now. I'll test again in the morning when I have more hcg in my urine. xx

 

[Disneyfan88]

UPDATE: I couldn't wait until morning.

Ladies - I just POAS and got a second faint line 4dp5dt!! I'm in shock right now and haven't told OH. He's at work and I'm all alone. So, thought I'd share it with my ttc sisters first.

No time to properly respond to everything just now but I saw this and had to say CONGRATULATIONS to Boopin!!!!!!!

You transferred 2, right?

 

[boopin4baby]

Disney - Yes, I transferred my 4BA & 4BB embryos. Fx'd they'll stick to the end. Beta is June 2nd.

 

[Disneyfan88]

I just read the earlier replies.

Klik - Don't feel sorry at all. We're here to support you through all the tough stuff, TTC-related or not. I'm glad DP's father is ok today. Hopefully all will go smoothly with his surgery. You're right - those are common these days, so I'm sure it'll all go ok. DD's birthday is July 5. She was born just after 7:30 pm on a Saturday evening -- after my water broke around 4:15 am the morning before (Friday!).

Medrol tastes gross and makes you pee a lot overnight. I take it in the evenings for 4 nights up until the night before my transfer.

 

[Disneyfan88]

Boopin - that's fantastic!! Perhaps twins??

 

[Asterimou]

Oh Boopin this s could be it! I'm sooooo happy for you xx that's a pretty good line for 4dp

Amanda: good luck with that lining, hope it gets nice and thick xx

 

[amanda1235]

Boopin'!!!!! That's amazing!!! I am honestly so very happy for you right now May you be the first of the positive run for all of us. You have given me lots of hope! I am crossing everything for you that beta's are nice and strong and that at least 1 if not both have snuggled in nicely for the long haul! How would you feel about twins?

 

[boopin4baby]

amanda - I'm extremely cautiously optimistic. I don't want to celebrate prematurely like last time. I'm kinda numb and don't know how to process this bfp. I'm just praying that these little beans stick!! I feel totally fine with having twins.

I hope and wish that we all get our take home babies.
Thinking of you klik.

 

[amanda1235]

I completely understand Boopin'. I am sure that I will feel the same way next time, but you have to just try and enjoy the moment, and be optimistic like you said. We are all rooting for you!! Take it one step at a time, and at least your beta isn't TOO far away!

 

[amanda1235]

I also only just noticed the proverb in your sig, and I think it's perfect.

 

[klik]

Amanda: Thanks! Yeah, we're still worried but at least we've got some reason to hope...

Disneyfan: Thanks! I know, it's super-nice to get support from you gals, but I also don't want to be a downer! Cool about your DD's birthday--so are you going to clean up your diet and just make an exception on that day? Also... I'm sorry you're having the back-to-work blues...

Boopin, last but not least! WOOOOOOOWWW! I know you don't want to celebrate too early... I really do... But every step in the right direction is a victory, and this is definitely one of them! Oh, I'm so, so happy for you!!! I'm going to stick to my official schedule and test on June 7th. I'll just have to vicariously enjoy your BFP in the meantime! Hang in there, and be super-nice to yourself! Hopefully this time it will stick!

 

[Wish2BMom]

klik - I'm so sorry for your FIL and all you're working through. it's so tough to have something like that on top of this already-stressful TTC stuff. Hang in there!!

boopin - WAHOO!!! congrats!! That's not faint at all!!