January Jellybeans 2013!...

[ARuppe716]

I'm amazed at the comments some people think are appropriate to make. We went to a church event the other day and this old lady was offering cupcakes. She came up to us and said, "Well, you don't need any cupcakes, do you?" and laughed. I just acted like it was really funny and walked away because I didn't want to be rude back. And then today I was somewhere with my mom and a guy said to me, "Looks like someone's had too many french fries..." WHo the hell says that?! My mom was amazed, too!

As for the storm, here's hoping everyone is ok. It looks like NJ is going to have a fun few days! I got a few items at the store yesterday and gassed up my car. Also, if anyone has well water they recommend filling your tub to use the water to flush your toilet since the well won't work if the power blows. I didn't lose power in Irene and I'm hoping to be just as lucky this time around. I'm just concerned about getting work done and if I can get in to the office at all during the first half of this week. All the roads I take either flood out or are wooded and may be closed due to downed trees...

 

[DittyByrd]

I had one episode of mild brown spotting again today.

It's been 5 weeks since I initially spotted and went through my exams and ultrasounds. I have been taking it easy today, even took a nap. I am obsessing over every twinge, though, as I don't want to miss any signs of danger. The perinatologist told me I could certainly bleed again but if it was brown it was of minimal concern. Baby is moving as usual.

 

[Kaiecee]

I have such a tummy ache tonight maybe it was the coffee today with the cream on it since I don't agree with milk prods sometimes I have no idea all I know I feel like shit ill probably be sick later

 

[AJThomas]

So since yesterday evening my coughing has been making me throw up, I guess cause my stomach is so squished as is, as soon as I have a coughing fit stuff starts coming back up, ugh. I just hope Cayde is getting enough to eat despite that.

Everybody keeps saying "oh my, you're so small! Are you sure everything is ok with the baby? You need to eat more!" Its so freaking annoying but I just say well my midwife is happy with my weight gain and the baby is measuring what he should so whatever. I wonder sometimes if these people forget when they were pregnant, how annoying the size comments and corny jokes were.

Ditty, hope all is well and the spotting was nothing serious. I've dreamt that I've gone into labor the past 2-3 nites because the coughing caused contractions. Guess it didn't help that MIL called and gave a long lecture on pregnant women not coughing and how dangerous it is, I'm like if I have to cough I have to, I can't do anything about that.

 

[Betheney]

i don't like when people say pregnant women are small because pregnant women like to look pregnant and it's disheartening when you're going on 3rd tri and people say "you don't even look pregnant" and then the comments about you not "eating enough" start.

But i never thought that saying "OH MY GOD YOUR HUGE!!!" was offensive. I could care less if someone said i'm huge, i know they're talking about my bump and not my body. But i saw a thread on BnB a while ago and all these women HATED it. They kept saying "yes i know i'm fat, you don't have to tell me". Ever since reading that i've tried not to say pregnant women look big but it still baffles me how women find it offensive. I love big round heavily pregnant bumps!!

Aruppe - that's just weird that people make jokes about a pregnant belly and eating too much food. I've never had that happen. How effing strange.

The post baby questions are worst!!!! it's like people have no tact and just the fact you've given birth means people are allowed to ask you highly inappropriate questions.

"So did you poo during labour"
"So how annoying is post partum bleeding"
"Did you tear your vagina"
"Aren't your nipples just so SORE"

It's ridiculous!!!!

 

[ARuppe716]

Agreed... The food comments are so strange and unnecessary. And the people who make them think they are being so funny!!

I can only imagine the stupid post birth questions I will be asked!!

 

[els1022]

Nikki- your pics are beautiful and so are you!

Brier- you are WAY smaller than me!

So I am on bedrest for at least three days now. I was working and having stomach pain. i kinda winced and one of the other nurses told my OB who happened to be there (she's like a mom to me and knows about my history of preemies). She made me get on the monitor and it turns out I was contracting every 2-3 minutes. Nothing horribly painful, I thought I had eaten something bad bc I had gotten sick last night. Luckily my cervix is closed and thick and the baby looks awesome. She is estimated to be 4 lbs 3 oz already. So i'm to do nothing until Tuesday and I'll see my doc then.
I wasn't expecting any of this yet. With my history of 32 week deliveries I should've prepared myself mentally.

Ladies on the east coast, stay safe. I live in VA just south of DC so I'm in the path too.

 

[DeedeeBeester]

Haha, even my mom keeps commenting on how I'm going to feel when I get "more pregnant". I have to constantly remind people I'm already "very pregnant" Hahaha. I assumed it was because I had a parallel pregnancy with my sister and they must just feel like I'm still the one that's behind when my sister was pregnant, if that even makes sense.
I've even had to tell people how some people consider full term babies since week 37 and i'll be almost there around december 15, that seems to make more of a "oooh, that's soon" bell in them; instead of them thinking that's all the way down in January, even if it is just one week into the new year.

I also agree that I love it when I show my belly even more haha. (That's why I went with a striped dress) I love looking like a big pregnant lady! I've been overweight my whole life and self conscience about it most part of it, so now i'm finally in a place where I can say: Yeah, this belly you see is PREGNANCY belly!!! and not be super ashamed and trying to find 29894749 ways to cover it up. I just love it, and I also love the fact that Matthew is getting bigger in there. It's his bedroom! LOL

 

[snowangel187]

I get tired of people asking me if I've eaten, or if they need to take me out to eat. Of course I eat people. It's like a huge blow when somebody says crap only because I'm doing the best I can and if only they understood how uncomfortable I am. For one in dealing with contractions off and on, them my belly actually burns/hurts it's apparently stretching but I don't see how. I am constantly punched or head butted in the bladder. The burning in my throat is outrageous. I hate heartburn. people really should keep their comments to themselves!!

 

[DeedeeBeester]

Ok, small rant. I thought I could keep it just with me, but I think I'm still pissed.

Sister in law called me yesterday. She said she had spoken to MIL about my test monday. She told me that if I took the nausea pill I could cause birth defects to Matthew (without even knowing what pill they even asked me to take), and she said that if it was her, she just wouldn't do the tests to begin with.

Seriously? It's just the one pill, the one time and pregnant ladies take it all the time without having 1 single issue with it, healthy babies come along. I just didn't see it necessary... and besides... no body asked her! I did my own freaking research!

I didn't let her intimidate me and told her where I stood with my pregnancy. I realized that her being pregnant with her 5th kid didn't make her a GD specialist after all, from the things she tried to tell me to convince me to send my dr to hell with my test, I noticed she barely even knows anything about it. (She only accepted doing it with her first one) One of the things she said was that diabetes was a condition that only happened to old people, when we all know that's bull. Anyhoo, we hung up in good terms, and thought I was passed it, but I guess I really wasn't... because when I speak to hubby about it my face goes red and I feel pissed again LOL

 

[sassy_mom]

Sorry Deedee! What an idiot! OLD PEOPLE?! REALLY?! I just L O V E those people who stick their noses where you didn't ask and start giving opinions.

 

[DeedeeBeester]

Sorry Deedee! What an idiot! OLD PEOPLE?! REALLY?! I just L O V E those people who stick their noses where you didn't ask and start giving opinions.

It's just... strange. Sometimes I feel like I can't win with them when it comes to drs. Only God knows what happened to them that they can't manage to trust at all. Everyday I appreciate the fact that my husband, OUT OF HIS WHOLE IMMEDIATE FAMILY is the only one that really respects my decisions when it comes to pregnancy, even when it's his own baby. I mean, wouldn't I have to be hearing it from him if it were to be any body?

 

[sassy_mom]

Sorry Deedee! What an idiot! OLD PEOPLE?! REALLY?! I just L O V E those people who stick their noses where you didn't ask and start giving opinions.

It's just... strange. Sometimes I feel like I can't win with them when it comes to drs. Only God knows what happened to them that they can't manage to trust at all. Everyday I appreciate the fact that my husband, OUT OF HIS WHOLE IMMEDIATE FAMILY is the only one that really respects my decisions when it comes to pregnancy, even when it's his own baby. I mean, wouldn't I have to be hearing it from him if it were to be any body?

SO true! I think it is strange how when a baby comes into play, all of a sudden it is between you and your husband and EVERY member of the family!!! Like um, you weren't there when we conceived the child ... none of you had anything to do with that part, so keep your crap to yourself.

 

[DeedeeBeester]

Sorry Deedee! What an idiot! OLD PEOPLE?! REALLY?! I just L O V E those people who stick their noses where you didn't ask and start giving opinions.

It's just... strange. Sometimes I feel like I can't win with them when it comes to drs. Only God knows what happened to them that they can't manage to trust at all. Everyday I appreciate the fact that my husband, OUT OF HIS WHOLE IMMEDIATE FAMILY is the only one that really respects my decisions when it comes to pregnancy, even when it's his own baby. I mean, wouldn't I have to be hearing it from him if it were to be any body?

SO true! I think it is strange how when a baby comes into play, all of a sudden it is between you and your husband and EVERY member of the family!!! Like um, you weren't there when we conceived the child ... none of you had anything to do with that part, so keep your crap to yourself.

Yeah, haha. The never ending story, but they've been little by little teaching me how to not care about what they believe. I don't really care now if they resent the fact that I speak out clear and proud of what I want to do. Before I did a little that I wasn't having the same kind of birth plan they wished, but eff that. This time around I was just surprised that it wasn't MIL but somehow they still managed to send in a sting with SIL. Oh well...

 

[sassy_mom]

Sorry Deedee! What an idiot! OLD PEOPLE?! REALLY?! I just L O V E those people who stick their noses where you didn't ask and start giving opinions.

It's just... strange. Sometimes I feel like I can't win with them when it comes to drs. Only God knows what happened to them that they can't manage to trust at all. Everyday I appreciate the fact that my husband, OUT OF HIS WHOLE IMMEDIATE FAMILY is the only one that really respects my decisions when it comes to pregnancy, even when it's his own baby. I mean, wouldn't I have to be hearing it from him if it were to be any body?

SO true! I think it is strange how when a baby comes into play, all of a sudden it is between you and your husband and EVERY member of the family!!! Like um, you weren't there when we conceived the child ... none of you had anything to do with that part, so keep your crap to yourself.

Yeah, haha. The never ending story, but they've been little by little teaching me how to not care about what they believe. I don't really care now if they resent the fact that I speak out clear and proud of what I want to do. Before I did a little that I wasn't having the same kind of birth plan they wished, but eff that. This time around I was just surprised that it wasn't MIL but somehow they still managed to send in a sting with SIL. Oh well...

Yea inlaws can find ways of doing that. Pushing buttons ..... I have inlaws like that. I had to learn not to give a crap and stand up for what I believed in. Thankfully they leave us alone now. Well at least to some extent. My MIL has to cause trouble every now and then. We just ignore her.

 

[DeedeeBeester]

Sorry Deedee! What an idiot! OLD PEOPLE?! REALLY?! I just L O V E those people who stick their noses where you didn't ask and start giving opinions.

It's just... strange. Sometimes I feel like I can't win with them when it comes to drs. Only God knows what happened to them that they can't manage to trust at all. Everyday I appreciate the fact that my husband, OUT OF HIS WHOLE IMMEDIATE FAMILY is the only one that really respects my decisions when it comes to pregnancy, even when it's his own baby. I mean, wouldn't I have to be hearing it from him if it were to be any body?

SO true! I think it is strange how when a baby comes into play, all of a sudden it is between you and your husband and EVERY member of the family!!! Like um, you weren't there when we conceived the child ... none of you had anything to do with that part, so keep your crap to yourself.

Yeah, haha. The never ending story, but they've been little by little teaching me how to not care about what they believe. I don't really care now if they resent the fact that I speak out clear and proud of what I want to do. Before I did a little that I wasn't having the same kind of birth plan they wished, but eff that. This time around I was just surprised that it wasn't MIL but somehow they still managed to send in a sting with SIL. Oh well...

Yea inlaws can find ways of doing that. Pushing buttons ..... I have inlaws like that. I had to learn not to give a crap and stand up for what I believed in. Thankfully they leave us alone now. Well at least to some extent. My MIL has to cause trouble every now and then. We just ignore her.

Mine are pretty darn normal when it doesn't come to Doctors, health or pregnancy. I'm praying that they aren't that way with parenting as well, or I'll give a flying eff and send them straight back to where they came from

thanks for reading hun. I think I'm over it now... hahaha.

 

[Kaiecee]

People should learn to min their own buisness sometimes and it's sad that it includes family sometimes but at least ur strong enough to stick up for yourself and baby

 

[BabyHopeful2]

I just got done reading through so many pages. I was gone for a week with a death in the family. It's been quite a stressful time & a lot of traveling.

Nikki - your pix are gorgeous. I'm tempted to get a photographer now.

Has anyone else been having hip / pelvis issues? When I stand up, I look like I've ridden a horse for hours and cannot walk right. Looking foward to talking to the Dr. about this pain. It's more pelvis (almost feels like it's bruised all the time). Since I was gone last week, I just had my 3 hr glucose test on Friday. Have to wait until Monday for the results.

Re: inappropriate comments

I had a temporary job this summer. I was in my first trimester and my boss' boss' boss' boss (something like that) asked when I was due. I told her January 1 and she said she would have guessed October. I've always been overweight and gain my weight in my midsection. So it was hard not to take it personally.

Almost to single digit count down for weeks remaining!!

 

[Leinzlove]

I'm sorry for your loss, Babyhopeful2.

 

[Kaiecee]

My condolences go out to ur family for ur loss it must b hard