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Late July-to-Early August Babies
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kmac625
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I was just looking on the Babies r Us website and the dresser I want is on sale for $179 (reg. $299). We just bought the glider the other night and we haven't cleared out the second room to turn it into the nursery yet so there's nowhere to put the dresser yet...I really want to buy it though lol. I might talk to hubby about it tonight lol...
angelmyky
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hey everyone. went to see midwife today and all is ok. i got my results back too for those bloods we all have to do. im blood type A+ and i dont have HIV or Hepatitis B or Syphilis.... 
and my iron levels are fine. my blood pressure is normal too so its good that everything is ok. i gave my urine sample in too so within a weeks time i will get the results to find out if i still have that urine infection and if i do then i will know how bad it is. i havent had any pains for about 2 days now. apart from the normal baby growing pains, but im used to those now. shes also put me down for due 23rd August but im keeping the date that i worked out (24th). i asked her when i'd get to hear the heartbeat and she said its not til im 16 weeks gone.....and im not seeing her for another 5 weeks instead of 4 weeks because shes going away so i'll be 17(ish) weeks when i finally get to hear the heartbeat, so that sucks. i asked her about those home Dopplers and she thinks personally it might be a bad idea because if theres a chance you cant find the heartbeat one day then i may panic etc, eventhough the baby may be fine. so i dont think im going to get one. i was in a 50/50 stage of wanting one. my OH asked her about those TENS machines you can get for home and she thinks theyre a good idea for when you are in early labour.....my OH is getting me one later on in the pregnancy. bless him, hes trying to help me already.
oh erm, for the past 1-2 months i get this bad feeling 1-2 times a week where im not sure if i am doing the right thing, if i'll be a good mum, if i deserve to be pregnant, etc....i end up crying soooo bad and i get really low about what i end up saying about the baby because i say really bad/horrible things when im in that mood. well i was in that depressed mood yesterday/lastnight and i ended up crying. the worst part of it was that i ended up saying to my OH that i wasnt sure if i want the baby....he didnt know what to say. i felt so guilty and disgusted by what i was saying and how i felt but it didnt stop me saying it. well when i first met my MW she said because of my Depression and Anxiety that i had before the pregnancy she will put me through to see a specialist midwife. i thought i wouldnt get to see her til later on in the pregnancy because she mainly deals with woman who are further gone, but i talked to my MW about what i was saying lastnight and how i was feeling lately and she completely understands. she says that because i already had issues before i got pregnant then it will mutliply now that im expecting and that most woman get those feelings during pregnancy too. shes put me through to see the specialist in 2 weeks time and if i ever need to talk to someone then i can ring her up at work and she'll talk to me. she said its normal to feel like you wont be a good parent etc, but because i already have problems with myself then she thinks its best i see someone who can talk to me more about it.....i think the specialist is like a pregnancy counsellor or something. not sure yet but my MW was really nice about it.....eventhough i feel mega guilty for what i said lastnight.
well anyway, today i woke up really wanting the baby and im pushing myself to get help with those bad days. i dont want to end up being one of those mothers who deny their baby when its born, i wont allow it to happen so im sorting my emotions and bad feelings out as soon as possible so i can build up my confidence and strength for my lil raver.
sorry if that sounded bad. i just needed to get it off my chest.
well for the part about buying things.....i already have a few bottles, a sterilizer, pack of dummies (pacifiers), 2 small boxes full of baby clothes (my OH's mum keeps buying them), 2 teddy bears, a pushchair and 2 car seats (one thats from newborn and one thats from 6 months+).....erm cant remember what else because we are storing them at my OH's parents place. im superstitious about some stuff, like the one about never have the pushchair in YOUR house til after the baby is born, store it at someone elses.....i cant remember why though. my mum is also getting alot of wool because shes knitting the baby things....shes already done a huge blanket (i mean proper huge lol), a pair of fluffy booties, a pair of fluffy scratch mitts and a small fluffy hat to match the booties/mitts. they look so cute. ive also given a try at knitting, ive never done it before but im doing the basic knit and its pretty good, im making a blanket (i know it wont be perfect but its the first thing ive made for the baby)....
back to the TENS machine.....is anyone considering getting one? i really think i will. hope you are all ok. x
and my iron levels are fine. my blood pressure is normal too so its good that everything is ok. i gave my urine sample in too so within a weeks time i will get the results to find out if i still have that urine infection and if i do then i will know how bad it is. i havent had any pains for about 2 days now. apart from the normal baby growing pains, but im used to those now. shes also put me down for due 23rd August but im keeping the date that i worked out (24th). i asked her when i'd get to hear the heartbeat and she said its not til im 16 weeks gone.....and im not seeing her for another 5 weeks instead of 4 weeks because shes going away so i'll be 17(ish) weeks when i finally get to hear the heartbeat, so that sucks. i asked her about those home Dopplers and she thinks personally it might be a bad idea because if theres a chance you cant find the heartbeat one day then i may panic etc, eventhough the baby may be fine. so i dont think im going to get one. i was in a 50/50 stage of wanting one. my OH asked her about those TENS machines you can get for home and she thinks theyre a good idea for when you are in early labour.....my OH is getting me one later on in the pregnancy. bless him, hes trying to help me already. oh erm, for the past 1-2 months i get this bad feeling 1-2 times a week where im not sure if i am doing the right thing, if i'll be a good mum, if i deserve to be pregnant, etc....i end up crying soooo bad and i get really low about what i end up saying about the baby because i say really bad/horrible things when im in that mood. well i was in that depressed mood yesterday/lastnight and i ended up crying. the worst part of it was that i ended up saying to my OH that i wasnt sure if i want the baby....he didnt know what to say. i felt so guilty and disgusted by what i was saying and how i felt but it didnt stop me saying it. well when i first met my MW she said because of my Depression and Anxiety that i had before the pregnancy she will put me through to see a specialist midwife. i thought i wouldnt get to see her til later on in the pregnancy because she mainly deals with woman who are further gone, but i talked to my MW about what i was saying lastnight and how i was feeling lately and she completely understands. she says that because i already had issues before i got pregnant then it will mutliply now that im expecting and that most woman get those feelings during pregnancy too. shes put me through to see the specialist in 2 weeks time and if i ever need to talk to someone then i can ring her up at work and she'll talk to me. she said its normal to feel like you wont be a good parent etc, but because i already have problems with myself then she thinks its best i see someone who can talk to me more about it.....i think the specialist is like a pregnancy counsellor or something. not sure yet but my MW was really nice about it.....eventhough i feel mega guilty for what i said lastnight.
well anyway, today i woke up really wanting the baby and im pushing myself to get help with those bad days. i dont want to end up being one of those mothers who deny their baby when its born, i wont allow it to happen so im sorting my emotions and bad feelings out as soon as possible so i can build up my confidence and strength for my lil raver.
sorry if that sounded bad. i just needed to get it off my chest.
well for the part about buying things.....i already have a few bottles, a sterilizer, pack of dummies (pacifiers), 2 small boxes full of baby clothes (my OH's mum keeps buying them), 2 teddy bears, a pushchair and 2 car seats (one thats from newborn and one thats from 6 months+).....erm cant remember what else because we are storing them at my OH's parents place. im superstitious about some stuff, like the one about never have the pushchair in YOUR house til after the baby is born, store it at someone elses.....i cant remember why though. my mum is also getting alot of wool because shes knitting the baby things....shes already done a huge blanket (i mean proper huge lol), a pair of fluffy booties, a pair of fluffy scratch mitts and a small fluffy hat to match the booties/mitts. they look so cute. ive also given a try at knitting, ive never done it before but im doing the basic knit and its pretty good, im making a blanket (i know it wont be perfect but its the first thing ive made for the baby)....
back to the TENS machine.....is anyone considering getting one? i really think i will. hope you are all ok. x
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Hey Girls! I'm due on 1st August! Feels a million miles away at the moment though. I'm 19 and was just looking for someone to chat to really. I've got friends and family but not the same talking to people that are going through the same thing and hopefully feeling the same haha. I feel like I've had a bit of a cack start to my pregnany to be honest. Everyone around me says just chill and enjoy it but I just dont feel like I can due to being judged and so on. I have a family member that I also feel judges me based on the decision she made to have a termination at my age and it really does make me think sometimes, am i being selfish keeping the child? I have my own business, i have my own car, i'm still with the father of my child i wonder what it would take for them to have faith in me.
Anyways enough rabbiting on about that i hope your all doing well!
When is everyone due then? x
Anyways enough rabbiting on about that i hope your all doing well!
When is everyone due then? x
kirstyderby
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Angel - Only had time 2 pop on the other day n read the posts, didn't get chance 2 reply. Its like a mad house here 
. Dont worry we are all here if you need some1 2 talk too.
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Im feel really mixed up sometimes and wonder if havin 3 kids under 2 1/2 is a little crazy, then i think i know it will all be o.k. Im sure you will be a great mum and when LO is here you will wonder why you had all those crazy thoughts...
There are so many people out there who can help you if you feel you need it hun...
My num is on my FB if you wanna text me hun
Hi princess welcome to our group. Im due on the 25th july with #3
AFM - I've been to the docs about my back. Had a car accident in 2006 and i keep having problems with it, they are sending me back to Physio. Apart from that im all good.
How is every1 else?
. Dont worry we are all here if you need some1 2 talk too..Im feel really mixed up sometimes and wonder if havin 3 kids under 2 1/2 is a little crazy, then i think i know it will all be o.k. Im sure you will be a great mum and when LO is here you will wonder why you had all those crazy thoughts...
There are so many people out there who can help you if you feel you need it hun...
My num is on my FB if you wanna text me hun
Hi princess welcome to our group. Im due on the 25th july with #3
AFM - I've been to the docs about my back. Had a car accident in 2006 and i keep having problems with it, they are sending me back to Physio. Apart from that im all good.
How is every1 else?
angelmyky
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hello and welcome. sorry to hear that you feel a family member is judging you etc but i think its what you and your OH feel that counts. everyone else should understand that you have a good life and a right to being happy. noone can tell you what you should or shouldnt do, if i was you then i'd just focus on myself hun. i will add you onto the front page with everyone else. im due 24th August....got put back in january.
i think ive got everyones dates right but if i havent then please let me know and i'll change them asap.
Angel - Only had time 2 pop on the other day n read the posts, didn't get chance 2 reply. Its like a mad house here
Im feel really mixed up sometimes and wonder if havin 3 kids under 2 1/2 is a little crazy, then i think i know it will all be o.k. Im sure you will be a great mum and when LO is here you will wonder why you had all those crazy thoughts...
There are so many people out there who can help you if you feel you need it hun...
My num is on my FB if you wanna text me hun
Hi princess welcome to our group. Im due on the 25th july with #3
AFM - I've been to the docs about my back. Had a car accident in 2006 and i keep having problems with it, they are sending me back to Physio. Apart from that im all good.
How is every1 else?
i was worried that i might have offended someone by what i said. so thank you for putting my mind at rest. im feeling alot happier about the pregnancy lately. not had any bad feelings for about a week or so now, felt the odd day of being fat but my OH treated me to some new clothes the other day so im happy. got my first pair of maternity jeans, i just didnt want to go up a size in normal ones lol.
oh thats good that you're going back to physio. i damage my ligament in my ankle October 2008 but it still gives me trouble now, so ive been tempted to go back to physio but i kind of feel like theres no point because it was so long ago now.
well im off now, had a sicky day today so ive rested ALL day. i only seem to get it like once a week now so thats getting better i suppose.
hope you are all ok. xx
kmac625
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Welcome Princess! Pregnancy can be tough even without having family members giving you a hard time. I'm 34 and due on July 30th with my first.
Angel, sorry I hadn't replied. I haven't been to this page in a few days. Sorry you've been feeling so down. I used to have bad depression when I was a teen and early 20's so I understand completely. Glad that you're getting the proper care though and that your OH is being sweet to you (aren't maternity jeans the most comfortable thing ever!).
Kristy, physio should hopefully help you out. I had really hurt my tailbone about 8 years ago when I fell down some cement stairs and the last week it's started to hurt again. I mentioned it to my chiropractor at my appointment today and he's now doing some adjustments to help me out with it.
Things are going well otherwise here. We bought the dresser on sale this past weekend, but had to get a different colour than what I wanted...ah well, baby won't care if one of the dressers doesn't match lol. Hope everyone else is having a nice week.
Angel, sorry I hadn't replied. I haven't been to this page in a few days. Sorry you've been feeling so down. I used to have bad depression when I was a teen and early 20's so I understand completely. Glad that you're getting the proper care though and that your OH is being sweet to you (aren't maternity jeans the most comfortable thing ever!).
Kristy, physio should hopefully help you out. I had really hurt my tailbone about 8 years ago when I fell down some cement stairs and the last week it's started to hurt again. I mentioned it to my chiropractor at my appointment today and he's now doing some adjustments to help me out with it.
Things are going well otherwise here. We bought the dresser on sale this past weekend, but had to get a different colour than what I wanted...ah well, baby won't care if one of the dressers doesn't match lol. Hope everyone else is having a nice week.
kmac625
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Where's everyone hiding? I hope you're all having a good week and feeling well! Nothing new with me...can't wait for my anomaly scan next week. My dh is worried that they'll find something but I'm just excited to see baby again. I'm not concerned that there's something wrong (I hope I'm right!). Hopefully baby will cooperate and we'll find out if we're having a boy or girl...we both think it's a girl. Have I mentioned how excited I am!!!!!
angelmyky
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lol im not hiding, just dont go online that often and when i do its always a rush so only get time to check mail etc.
hope your scan goes well. ohhhh let me know what you are having and i'll put it up on front page. my scan isnt til 6th april so im hoping the next 5-6 weeks go quick....i just want to know. my OH's friend said she thinks im having a girl....dont know why though. ive had mix dreams now of having a girl or a boy. for the first 6 weeks i had a feeling it would turn out to be a boy but then after that i had feelings it would be a girl....but now since about 12th week i feel like im having a boy again. its strange. i just want to know NOW!! lol.
does anyone have names picked out? i have a name for each gender.....we chose them before i even got pregnant lol. x
kirstyderby
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Hi girls,
Kmac - Good luck with the scan next week. I've got mine on the 12th, can't wait to find out
thats if it hasn't got its legs crossed.
As for names we're waiting to find out what it is first, my other 2 were nameless for a couple of day after they were born cuz we had a couple of names to chose from....
Think this 1 is gonna be difficult to find a name for.
My maternity pay has now ran out, so im looking for a job
, i got made redundant when i was pregnant with Indiana, but because i was working there when i was 15 wks they had to pay me my maternity.
Hope ur all well...
Kmac - Good luck with the scan next week. I've got mine on the 12th, can't wait to find out
thats if it hasn't got its legs crossed.As for names we're waiting to find out what it is first, my other 2 were nameless for a couple of day after they were born cuz we had a couple of names to chose from....
Think this 1 is gonna be difficult to find a name for.My maternity pay has now ran out, so im looking for a job
, i got made redundant when i was pregnant with Indiana, but because i was working there when i was 15 wks they had to pay me my maternity. Hope ur all well...
angelmyky
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awww thats cute kmac
me and OH wanted ourselves into the baby's name, so if its a boy then the name is Elliott Michael Grimwood, because my OH's middle name is Elliott and his late uncle was Michael (they were close). if its a girl then the name is Rosee Ann Grimwood, because my middle name is Rose so i like the name Rosie but wanted to spell it abit different and my family tradition middle name on my mums side is Ann, my mum has it, my grandma, my sister, my neice, etc....we wanted names that arent common but arent unknown either. we're keeping the names, just need to know whether its a boy or girl now lol.
oh yeh kirsty sorry i disappeared for so long yesterday on facebook, tea took longer than i expected lol then we went for a chill out. erm was wondering, if you fancied meeting up sometime for a (non-alcoholic) drink or something.....im on facebook most days, i will be checking mail etc alot lately because we've had some really bad news lately.....quick alot of bad news. so if you send me a message on there sometime if you want to meet up then that would be great, if you dont fancy it then its fine.....
anyways everyone im off now, family stuff has got to me alot, had a loss in the family, found out today so im a little shook by it and sad. hope you're all ok. speak soon. x
me and OH wanted ourselves into the baby's name, so if its a boy then the name is Elliott Michael Grimwood, because my OH's middle name is Elliott and his late uncle was Michael (they were close). if its a girl then the name is Rosee Ann Grimwood, because my middle name is Rose so i like the name Rosie but wanted to spell it abit different and my family tradition middle name on my mums side is Ann, my mum has it, my grandma, my sister, my neice, etc....we wanted names that arent common but arent unknown either. we're keeping the names, just need to know whether its a boy or girl now lol.
oh yeh kirsty sorry i disappeared for so long yesterday on facebook, tea took longer than i expected lol then we went for a chill out. erm was wondering, if you fancied meeting up sometime for a (non-alcoholic) drink or something.....im on facebook most days, i will be checking mail etc alot lately because we've had some really bad news lately.....quick alot of bad news. so if you send me a message on there sometime if you want to meet up then that would be great, if you dont fancy it then its fine.....
anyways everyone im off now, family stuff has got to me alot, had a loss in the family, found out today so im a little shook by it and sad. hope you're all ok. speak soon. x
kmac625
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So sorry for your loss Angel. That's tough in the best of times, let alone when pregnant and hormonal. I love the names you have chosen though...I liked Elliot but my dh didn't.
Kirsty, good luck with the job hunt...that can't be easy when pregnant and with 2 lo's at home.
Have you guys been watching the olympics at all? Right now I'm watching the women's final in curling...Canada is likely going to win gold YAY!
That's tough in the best of times, let alone when pregnant and hormonal. I love the names you have chosen though...I liked Elliot but my dh didn't. Kirsty, good luck with the job hunt...that can't be easy when pregnant and with 2 lo's at home.
Have you guys been watching the olympics at all? Right now I'm watching the women's final in curling...Canada is likely going to win gold YAY!
angelmyky
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thanks kmac. we are all coping with it. im just finding it hard to go see my dad because it was his best friend that died.....he was a very close family friend and also had 3 kids with one of my cousins (they havent been together for around 7-8 years though). but he was going through alot of emotional trouble but none of us realised how bad it all was. so all i got to do is be there for my dad now. my OH is comforting me and supportive so im doing ok.
my OH wasnt too keen on having Elliott because he didnt really like his middle name but its grew on him now i think because i love it so much.
i know how tough it is to find a job kirsty.....im looking too, i was on the sick but they stopped my claim in january so i had to start claiming jobseeker
im appealing against the cancellation for income support but i knew i would be waiting a while and theres a chance they might still stick to the original decision so i need the jobseekers money. im looking for jobs but i know noone will employ me because im pregnant. apparently if im still on jobseekers when i turn 29 weeks then i have to start claiming income support for a pregnant person and its the same crap pay as jobseekers. i wouldnt mind having a job because the money would help us so much but at the same time it worries me because of the pregnancy.....who would employ someone for a few months then pay maternity leave......derby is crap for jobs too and i dont have much experience so that doesnt help either.
i hope you get a job soon, i know how tough it is trying to afford things on such crap money. but i know its worse for you because you already have 2 kiddies. i still live with my mum (i pay her though) and i have a cat to pay for (food, litter, vet bills etc) but i do get help if i need it. but me and my OH want our own place, the only reason we havent is because of the money and alot of people rip you off nowadays so we are going through the counsel....hopefully we'll get something this year, but i dont mind if its not until after the baby is born. im having my mum and OH with me when im in labour so it would be easier if i lived with her for a month or 2 after the baby is born.......just incase anything happens (not jinxing myself though lol).
but theres one huuuuuuuge problem with still living with her......my OH cant move in til we sort the money out because we'd be taking on half-to-most of the bills in the house, we dont mind that but her "EX" or "BOYFRIEND" or whatever they are at the moment is a complete D!CK (sorry for language).....they were together for 18 months and then in 2008 he raised his hand to her so she kicked him out and they broke up for 6ish months but she gave him another chance (after the other thousand times before) and it seemed ok but then last year he started turning into a prick again....he has cheated on her loads of times, hes hit her, he treats her like crap, he's a leech who takes her for whatever he can get, he never makes her happy.....i could go on. hes also bought me and my OH into their arguments before eventhough there was no need, hes said things like "oh go get shaun..." "you think you're so tough because shauns here...." etc. hes said things about me, my 2 sisters, anyone he can annoy me mum with.....he hasnt lived with us for about 1 year now, hes been living with my sister and her fiance (his brother) and he has even got between then alot too, they split up before christmas (but got back together) and i think its all because of him.....he talks to my OH's parents about us and says things about us that arent even true...etc. and hes told them things or lied about things which has p!ssed me off because he has NO part in our life. as far as im concerned hes just a waste of life and someone needs to give him a good battering.....im against violence normally but if you had met him then you'd understand why im so angry and disgusted with him. the problem is that my mum still lets him into her life, so he stays over sometimes and me & my OH HATE him, we cant stand him because of everything hes done to my mum and what hes said about us....my mum knows how we feel about him but she still lets him into the house when we are around. she said that she'd never pick a guy over her own children but it looks to me like she already has.....she deserves so much better but just wont get rid of him. he makes me sick. i have to tolerate him eventhough i just wish he'd disappear out of our lives. if my OH moved in with us then i would tell my mum that as long as we are paying half-most of the bills then he has no right to be in the house, i would literally ban him from being around me and my OH. i dont want him around my baby.....i want to be around my mum when im in the late stages of pregnancy but if things carry on how they are now then i will move out and distance myself more than i want to......i wont leave my mum completely but i will make it obvious that he has pushed me away. this sounds bad but you'd hate the guy too......
to top it off, this morning me and my OH went to his parents. we are staying here for a fews days, (we do it every other week), and his dad plays pool with my mum and her "EX" (boyfriend) and apparently he told my OH's dad on thursday night that my mum is going away with him in August sometime.......now i have been around my mum everyday since then and shes not said ANYTHING to me or my OH. plus what annoys me, is that if its true then theres a chance that i might go into labour when shes away. i feel sad about it because we talked about her being there and she said she wanted to. if its true that shes going away in August then i think that is the last straw for me......he always says things to my OH's parents and we've never even been told or had it mentioned to us.
sorry for the long post. think this is the longest ive done on here.....just got alot on my chest but no amount of talking or writing seems to make me feel better about the situation. im just sad that shes chosen him over her own children......we all hate him. i talk to him occasionally but only because of my mum, i dont want her to feel bad because i hate him but now i dont care. he doesnt care how awkward he makes you feel, eventhough its your own house. i shouldnt feel so horrible in my own home. thats why i spend so much time in my bedroom or at my OH's parents place.
anyways, i'll stop talking now, because ive gone on too much, hope you're all ok. xx
my OH wasnt too keen on having Elliott because he didnt really like his middle name but its grew on him now i think because i love it so much.
i know how tough it is to find a job kirsty.....im looking too, i was on the sick but they stopped my claim in january so i had to start claiming jobseeker
im appealing against the cancellation for income support but i knew i would be waiting a while and theres a chance they might still stick to the original decision so i need the jobseekers money. im looking for jobs but i know noone will employ me because im pregnant. apparently if im still on jobseekers when i turn 29 weeks then i have to start claiming income support for a pregnant person and its the same crap pay as jobseekers. i wouldnt mind having a job because the money would help us so much but at the same time it worries me because of the pregnancy.....who would employ someone for a few months then pay maternity leave......derby is crap for jobs too and i dont have much experience so that doesnt help either. i hope you get a job soon, i know how tough it is trying to afford things on such crap money. but i know its worse for you because you already have 2 kiddies. i still live with my mum (i pay her though) and i have a cat to pay for (food, litter, vet bills etc) but i do get help if i need it. but me and my OH want our own place, the only reason we havent is because of the money and alot of people rip you off nowadays so we are going through the counsel....hopefully we'll get something this year, but i dont mind if its not until after the baby is born. im having my mum and OH with me when im in labour so it would be easier if i lived with her for a month or 2 after the baby is born.......just incase anything happens (not jinxing myself though lol).
but theres one huuuuuuuge problem with still living with her......my OH cant move in til we sort the money out because we'd be taking on half-to-most of the bills in the house, we dont mind that but her "EX" or "BOYFRIEND" or whatever they are at the moment is a complete D!CK (sorry for language).....they were together for 18 months and then in 2008 he raised his hand to her so she kicked him out and they broke up for 6ish months but she gave him another chance (after the other thousand times before) and it seemed ok but then last year he started turning into a prick again....he has cheated on her loads of times, hes hit her, he treats her like crap, he's a leech who takes her for whatever he can get, he never makes her happy.....i could go on. hes also bought me and my OH into their arguments before eventhough there was no need, hes said things like "oh go get shaun..." "you think you're so tough because shauns here...." etc. hes said things about me, my 2 sisters, anyone he can annoy me mum with.....he hasnt lived with us for about 1 year now, hes been living with my sister and her fiance (his brother) and he has even got between then alot too, they split up before christmas (but got back together) and i think its all because of him.....he talks to my OH's parents about us and says things about us that arent even true...etc. and hes told them things or lied about things which has p!ssed me off because he has NO part in our life. as far as im concerned hes just a waste of life and someone needs to give him a good battering.....im against violence normally but if you had met him then you'd understand why im so angry and disgusted with him. the problem is that my mum still lets him into her life, so he stays over sometimes and me & my OH HATE him, we cant stand him because of everything hes done to my mum and what hes said about us....my mum knows how we feel about him but she still lets him into the house when we are around. she said that she'd never pick a guy over her own children but it looks to me like she already has.....she deserves so much better but just wont get rid of him. he makes me sick. i have to tolerate him eventhough i just wish he'd disappear out of our lives. if my OH moved in with us then i would tell my mum that as long as we are paying half-most of the bills then he has no right to be in the house, i would literally ban him from being around me and my OH. i dont want him around my baby.....i want to be around my mum when im in the late stages of pregnancy but if things carry on how they are now then i will move out and distance myself more than i want to......i wont leave my mum completely but i will make it obvious that he has pushed me away. this sounds bad but you'd hate the guy too......
to top it off, this morning me and my OH went to his parents. we are staying here for a fews days, (we do it every other week), and his dad plays pool with my mum and her "EX" (boyfriend) and apparently he told my OH's dad on thursday night that my mum is going away with him in August sometime.......now i have been around my mum everyday since then and shes not said ANYTHING to me or my OH. plus what annoys me, is that if its true then theres a chance that i might go into labour when shes away. i feel sad about it because we talked about her being there and she said she wanted to.
if its true that shes going away in August then i think that is the last straw for me......he always says things to my OH's parents and we've never even been told or had it mentioned to us. sorry for the long post. think this is the longest ive done on here.....just got alot on my chest but no amount of talking or writing seems to make me feel better about the situation. im just sad that shes chosen him over her own children......we all hate him. i talk to him occasionally but only because of my mum, i dont want her to feel bad because i hate him but now i dont care. he doesnt care how awkward he makes you feel, eventhough its your own house. i shouldnt feel so horrible in my own home. thats why i spend so much time in my bedroom or at my OH's parents place.
anyways, i'll stop talking now, because ive gone on too much, hope you're all ok. xx
kirstyderby
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Hi all,
Angel - Big sounds like a really shitty time at the mo, ur mums BF sounds like p***k .
Would love to meet up, let me know when ur free? Im free most days/evenings.
I had my mum n OH with me my first time n they were huggin n cryin together
while i was sat there high on gas n air and pethidin... I hope ur mum sees sense or she could miss out on a great experience.
As for the job, i still haven't found anythin yet, TBH im struggling finding somthin 2 work round OH's hours, i need somethin part time cuz we wont get any help with childcare ( they say OH earns too much but they dont see that we have a big mortgage n we have children to support 
BTW love the names Angel n Kmac, I like the name Atlanta for a girl but not sure bout boys yet
Kmac - is it this wk you've got your scan? Mines next, I can't wait....
Hope your all well speak soon
Angel - Big
sounds like a really shitty time at the mo, ur mums BF sounds like p***k . Would love to meet up, let me know when ur free? Im free most days/evenings.
I had my mum n OH with me my first time n they were huggin n cryin together
while i was sat there high on gas n air and pethidin... I hope ur mum sees sense or she could miss out on a great experience.As for the job, i still haven't found anythin yet
, TBH im struggling finding somthin 2 work round OH's hours, i need somethin part time cuz we wont get any help with childcare ( they say OH earns too much but they dont see that we have a big mortgage n we have children to support BTW love the names Angel n Kmac, I like the name Atlanta for a girl but not sure bout boys yet
Kmac - is it this wk you've got your scan? Mines next, I can't wait....
Hope your all well speak soon
angelmyky
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hiya kirsty....yeh hes a total pr!ck (putting it mildly). i got pushed over the edge yesterday, he told my OH's parents on thursday night that him and my mum are going away on holiday in August which upset me because if it was true then she said nothing to me. we talked about her being there for the birth, and as im due in August then there could have been a chance she wouldnt be there....so i flipped out. i send her a mail on facebook (privately) asking if it was true, that i thought she wanted to be at the birth, how much i hate him, how uncomfortable he makes me feel in my own home, how bad he treats her, etc. it was a long message, as you know, once i start typing i cant stop lol. i felt bad for what i was saying, i told her i wouldnt make her choose but he is pushing me away and one day i will end up just leaving because of him, etc. she phoned my OH saying that its bull, etc then sent me a message saying that its not true, that she'd never miss the birth and wouldnt dare go away at such a crucial time, especially when she knows that i would need her.....she said she will sort the situation out, etc, and that shes not happy about how hes making me feel or what hes been saying to people.....my OH hates this guy too, i know that if he got pushed too much then he'd flip and i know he wouldnt back down so im trying to sort it out myself. im the only one who's told her completely how much of a d!ck he is and that im fed up of him....neither of my 2 sisters have even bothered to tell her any of what i said, and as for my brother.......well im p!ssed off with him too, ive been tempted to text him to say how much hes upset our mum but i know he'd ignore it....hes a stubborn ass. my mum hast seen him for around 1 year now and he hasnt even sent her a text asking how she is, etc, for over 6 months.....hes gone really distant and we dont know why but my mum is cut up by it, so im tempted to message him. im sorting out one bloke whos annoying me so i will do the same to my own brother......i dont even think he knows im pregnant. he didnt even seem bothered that i got engaged last year, all he text me was "i guess congrats are in order, would have been nice of you to tell me yourself...." etc, and that was the last thing i heard from him, that was september last year. grrrrr some blokes just dont know how to act do they....i just feel sorry for my mum, i know she loves her ex but she needs to let him go, and she is cut up about how my brother is towards her (they were soooo close before).....2 people she loves and they treat her like crap. i wont allow it to carry on.
thats good you want to meet up too, im free most days too, evenings i spend either with my OH and my mum or with him and his parents so would have to be daytime. we can sort it on facebook sometime if you want, i check it everyday, hardly come on here unless i check my mail.
my mum said she wants to be there, we talked about it and she's definitely being there. my OH is too....im just hoping hes not like a couple of those guys from that "one born every minute".....the lad last week i would have knocked him out for saying those things..."women go through this everyday, whys it so hard for you...." "you got a low pain thresh hold or something...".....idiot. me and my mum were flipping out at the tv screen lol.
she said the only problem about being there with me is that she doesnt like seeing any of us in pain.....she was there when my neices were born and she said she just kept thinking....."i wish it was me instead..." bless her.
that sucks that they wont help out....silly government isnt it. im fed up with them, my OH keeps saying that if we were foreign then we'd get as much help as we want. and to be honest i agree, they get everything (im not racist though) but im fed up with struggling so much.
awww i like the name too. ooooh not long for you both now is it. if you let me know if its a boy or girl then i'll stick it up on front page with the dates. 5 weeks tomorrow and i find out.....not as quick as id hoped but its coming so fast. i just cant wait. and 2 weeks til i hear the heartbeat for the first time too, so exciting. finally get to hear that little beat.
well im off again. done another long post lol. im full of words on here but in person i can never seem to find the words....probably shyness or something haha. hope you're all ok. take care. xx
thats good you want to meet up too, im free most days too, evenings i spend either with my OH and my mum or with him and his parents so would have to be daytime. we can sort it on facebook sometime if you want, i check it everyday, hardly come on here unless i check my mail.
my mum said she wants to be there, we talked about it and she's definitely being there. my OH is too....im just hoping hes not like a couple of those guys from that "one born every minute".....the lad last week
i would have knocked him out for saying those things..."women go through this everyday, whys it so hard for you...." "you got a low pain thresh hold or something...".....idiot. me and my mum were flipping out at the tv screen lol. she said the only problem about being there with me is that she doesnt like seeing any of us in pain.....she was there when my neices were born and she said she just kept thinking....."i wish it was me instead..." bless her.
that sucks that they wont help out....silly government isnt it. im fed up with them, my OH keeps saying that if we were foreign then we'd get as much help as we want. and to be honest i agree, they get everything (im not racist though) but im fed up with struggling so much.
awww i like the name too. ooooh not long for you both now is it. if you let me know if its a boy or girl then i'll stick it up on front page with the dates.
5 weeks tomorrow and i find out.....not as quick as id hoped but its coming so fast. i just cant wait. and 2 weeks til i hear the heartbeat for the first time too, so exciting. finally get to hear that little beat.well im off again. done another long post lol. im full of words on here but in person i can never seem to find the words....probably shyness or something haha.
hope you're all ok. take care. xx
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awwww kmac thats so sweet. congrats. i will put that you are having a girl up on front page scan picture looks cute
still not felt anything?! wow. i thought you start feeling things around 19-20 weeks for the first but apparently it can be upto 22weeks aswell....im 16+ weeks and not felt anything yet but i think it wont be too long. my baby is sitting high up, poking out aaaalot too and the only weight im putting on is on my stomach....well its not much but just rounder and harder. i sometimes get this strange feeling in my stomach....the only way to describe it is that it feels like the baby is scratching its nails on my insides, it doesnt last long and it only moves about 4cm across the inside of my stomach. i spoke to my mum about it and she said she got that alot when she was pregnant with my brother and it felt the same as how i described it lol.
oooooh i get to hear the heartbeat for first time next Thursday (18th)....i cant wait. then on 6th April i have my gender scan....then something else to look forward to, me and my OH are going to "Golden Sands" (in Mablethorpe) on 26th til 30th there's been so much bad stuff happen around us lately so its exciting that we have things to look forward to.
where's everyone disappeared off to? lol hope you are all well anyway. i haven't really been online much lately because of family deaths/illnesses and other stuff. but now that things are getting better then i should be more positive when i do visit the page more.
oooh i nearly forgot.....me and my OH are finally going to live together. we haven't so far because of money (he lives with parents and i live with my mum), i dont want to leave my mum just yet because she isnt well (never has been really) and she's going through a tough time so i spoke to her about sorting the place out so my OH can move in with us because obviously we need to and want to. and......its getting sorted, so within 1 months time we will be officially living together argh i cant wait. ive waited so long for this and its finally here....ok so its not our OWN place but my mum needs me just as much as i need her.
well im off now, OH wants to play on xbox 360 live lol so im going to play too before bed. take care everyone and hope to see some more gender news. xx
i will put that you are having a girl up on front page scan picture looks cute still not felt anything?! wow. i thought you start feeling things around 19-20 weeks for the first but apparently it can be upto 22weeks aswell....im 16+ weeks and not felt anything yet but i think it wont be too long. my baby is sitting high up, poking out aaaalot too and the only weight im putting on is on my stomach....well its not much but just rounder and harder. i sometimes get this strange feeling in my stomach....the only way to describe it is that it feels like the baby is scratching its nails on my insides, it doesnt last long and it only moves about 4cm across the inside of my stomach. i spoke to my mum about it and she said she got that alot when she was pregnant with my brother and it felt the same as how i described it lol.
oooooh i get to hear the heartbeat for first time next Thursday (18th)....i cant wait. then on 6th April i have my gender scan....then something else to look forward to, me and my OH are going to "Golden Sands" (in Mablethorpe) on 26th til 30th
there's been so much bad stuff happen around us lately so its exciting that we have things to look forward to. where's everyone disappeared off to? lol hope you are all well anyway. i haven't really been online much lately because of family deaths/illnesses and other stuff. but now that things are getting better then i should be more positive when i do visit the page more.
oooh i nearly forgot.....me and my OH are finally going to live together. we haven't so far because of money (he lives with parents and i live with my mum), i dont want to leave my mum just yet because she isnt well (never has been really) and she's going through a tough time so i spoke to her about sorting the place out so my OH can move in with us because obviously we need to and want to. and......its getting sorted, so within 1 months time we will be officially living together
argh i cant wait. ive waited so long for this and its finally here....ok so its not our OWN place but my mum needs me just as much as i need her.well im off now, OH wants to play on xbox 360 live lol so im going to play too before bed. take care everyone and hope to see some more gender news.
xx
