Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[MrstoMommy]

I am glad that after a long time trying to conceive that you have. However, do not expect me to drop down to my knees and kiss your hands. I am sick and tired of having people tell me I shouldn't be upset because they have been trying longer than I have...bull

I wish people would stop asking me when I am going to get pregnant.
I wish people would stop attempting to console me when I don't need it.
I wish people would stop telling me I have lots of time.
I wish people would stop telling me it will happen when it does.

Let me be. If I want to bitch, let me bitch. If I want to cry, let me cry. I will be the moderator of my emotions. I don't need no one telling me to chart, when or how to DTD, or any other "words of wisdom" from pregnant people.

Okay, vent over.

 

[xlouloux]

Starting to get really frustrated with this cycle, I know AF is coming! Why is it that when I decide I want to lose weight to maybe give us a bit more of a chance, that my cycle decides to f*ck up, after months of being regular. I just can't win.

 

[4magpies]

Happy vent; I woke up at 5.30am on a Saturday because I couldn't sleep because I'm so excited that my IVF drugs are arriving today.

When did my life get this wierd?!!

I'm more excited than I am on Christmas.

 

[Letsgo]

I won't even start with my frustration at my RE's fertility clinic staff issues whose turnover has delayed starting my treatment for months. Today it is enough to rant that on their fertility clinic website they feature not one but TWO birth announcements for clinic nurses. Thanks for the punch in the gut this week. In other news, my testing should be complete after yesterday's massive blood draw so I might be doctor shopping soon for a second opinion :/

 

[LoveCakes]

Can't believe that for the clinic website.

My rant is that our friends have a LO and one on the way. Their toddler is tiny for her age and has tummy problems but I've never seen her eat a vegetable, just her mums takeaway leftovers. They don't even have a high chair! Why does she get 2 babies when she can't even look after herself!

 

[LoveCakes]

Love this thread. Infertility has made me feel like such a bad person for all the evil thoughts, My worst one:

"Dear friend, if you keep eating so many takeaways while pregnant you won't need a baby blanket, you can just wrap it in a chip wrapper!"

 

[jcr1988]

today is our 2 year wedding anniversary, i thought by now we'd have a baby and one on the way but here we are still working on our first, I'm loosing hope and fighting depression over it all. at times this brings DH and I closer, other times I feel like I'm letting him down because I'm the reason we don't have babies yet.

 

[wannabemummyb]

At the end of a conference call today, one of the attendees says...."i won't be in first thing going for our 12 week scan".....really couldn't you have just said hospital appointment

 

[Mikihob]

I hate feeling depressed about not getting pregnant. Complaining with DH about the cost of his HCG shots and about the Inositol side effects and, and, and...he is really starting to feel bad because "it's all his fault." I don't know how else to console him when I can't even console myself! Blah!

 

[Teach2]

today is our 2 year wedding anniversary, i thought by now we'd have a baby and one on the way but here we are still working on our first, I'm loosing hope and fighting depression over it all. at times this brings DH and I closer, other times I feel like I'm letting him down because I'm the reason we don't have babies yet.

Snap! The 6th was our 2nd wedding anniversary too. I feel like I should have a one year old instead we are having tests done.

 

[Myshelsong]

Bi*ches BE DRIVING ME CRAZY!!!

People suck, Enough said.

 

[PyrusEK]

A few days ago my mom told me that I'm "just worrying about it too much." Yes, mother, I should just stop worrying about the chronic pelvic pain, daily diarrhea, super heavy periods, migraines, fatigue, low B12 levels, and infertility. If I just ignore them and be happy instead of continuing my search for answers, all those problems will magically correct themselves!

Oh, and my brother and his wife (both who I love dearly) just announced that they're preggers with their second child. Yay, I get to be an aunt again. But not a mother. Ugh.

 

[cntrygrl]

Pyros-- Have you been checked for endometriosis or uterine polyps?

 

[amari]

I love this thread so much.
My best friend just told me she's pregnant. It was their FIRST TIME not using any kind of birth control. I totally started crying (for me) when I talked to her on the phone about it, which is awful...I was trying so hard not to cry, but I just couldn't help it. And she said, "You were the first and last person I wanted to tell". Ugh, so crushing, in so many ways. I'm happy for her but at the same time, I'm so jealous I could bite the leg off a chair. Imagine never having to go through the TWW! Can you even imagine that? I can't anymore. She was really on the fence about having kids, too, you know? All of it is unfair. But, of course, life isn't fair, and don't we all know it. I wish i could just be happy for her, and not be a jerk about it. I mean, I AM happy for her. I'm sad for me, and I wish I could separate that from being happy for her. I just feel like everyone around me is having kids, and I have to watch it and be happy for them, AND I'M NEVER ALLOWED TO BE SAD ABOUT IT...or to ditch their stupid kid parties and baby showers and everything else because the whole thing makes me feel so bad I just want to hulksmash everything. It's bad enough with my Fertile Fanny SIL and her endless baby-related Facebook posts...I know my best friend won't do that stuff, but...I don't know. It sucks. It just sucks. Also just found out other friends of ours are having a second kid. Great. More kids I have to pretend to be excited about. I just want to have one kid. ONE. I would be happy with ONE. Okay? JUST ONE. And I'm sorry, I truly do feel for people who have secondary infertility, or any infertility, but when you want a fourth kid and I can't even have ONE, it's hard to feel sympathy. I'm so depressed...I hate it.

 

[amari]

Why am I surrounded my pregnant women when I don't get to keep mine? Feeling low today

I hear you. My best friend just told me she's pregnant after trying for exactly...
wait for it...
ONE TIME.
She only had to go through one TWW. I'm so happy for her, that she'll never have to experience this bullsh*t, but at the same time....
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Believe me, you're not alone.

 

[Miaw]

....... I just want to have one kid. ONE. I would be happy with ONE. Okay? JUST ONE. And I'm sorry, I truly do feel for people who have secondary infertility, or any infertility, but when you want a fourth kid and I can't even have ONE, it's hard to feel sympathy. I'm so depressed...I hate it.

Wow I know exactly how you feel, it's so nice to know I'm not alone. I have a friend who got really sick and had to have surgery and now is basically going trough menopause. (she's 27) There is options for her of course, and she can have hormones injected in her and everything, but it will be hard to have a second baby but not impossible.

I am so sad for her, and yet I also want to shake her and make her realize that she has one child (he is 2) and that she should count herself lucky to have him at least.

I don't pretend to know how secondary infertility feels, but one thing I do know is that there is no way it is as painful as not being able to have kids at all. It just does not compute in my head, how can 1 child be worse than no child. Just my opinion, if I can have one, I will be happy, I would like more and i'll be sad if I can't but at least I will know I was lucky enough for one.

I mean I can be sad for people not being able to have more kids, I just don't want them to say their are in the same situation as me. No you are not. Thank you.

 

[Miaw]

I won't even start with my frustration at my RE's fertility clinic staff issues whose turnover has delayed starting my treatment for months. Today it is enough to rant that on their fertility clinic website they feature not one but TWO birth announcements for clinic nurses. Thanks for the punch in the gut this week. In other news, my testing should be complete after yesterday's massive blood draw so I might be doctor shopping soon for a second opinion :/

What kind of dumbass (sorry) fertility clinic puts birth announcements on their website?

Do these people have no empathy at all? This has to be the worse thing I have ever heard about. You just cannot go lower than that.

 

[Unlucky41]

Hi I am new to this board but definitely not to TTC. We have been at it for 3 years now. Just had my 4th failed ivf cycle which resulted in one embryo arrested at day 2 hence nothing to transfer devastated

I am so so so sad and depress what to do now? the cycles are getting worse not better. I thought it should get better with the doctors knowing more and more.
Anyway all my friends either have two babies, pregnant or have one. I watch with envy. At friends place when I hear the children call out to their mothers my heart is broken to know that it is a great possibility that I won't experience this.

It definitely pains me to go to baby showers to have to go get a present at the baby's department. Now I rather just get a voucher. Life is not fair. God is not fair!! He can bless others with children why not me???

I just want to say I understand and totally feel everyone's pain!!!

 

[MItoDC]

We're taking the month "off" which just means I'm not temping - but it certainly hasn't stopped me from obsessing over it. Our timing was off, so I know it won't happen - BUT then I get to work today and my bosses boss has arranged a "Working Parents and Family Gathering" where "all new parents and soon to be parents" can gather with their young children. Oh! And everyone is welcome to come and meet the new babies after a the new families have breakfast together! YAAAAY.

Crushed to, yet-again, be excluded from that group.

 

[MItoDC]

Hi I am new to this board but definitely not to TTC. We have been at it for 3 years now. Just had my 4th failed ivf cycle which resulted in one embryo arrested at day 2 hence nothing to transfer devastated

I am so so so sad and depress what to do now? the cycles are getting worse not better. I thought it should get better with the doctors knowing more and more.
Anyway all my friends either have two babies, pregnant or have one. I watch with envy. At friends place when I hear the children call out to their mothers my heart is broken to know that it is a great possibility that I won't experience this.

It definitely pains me to go to baby showers to have to go get a present at the baby's department. Now I rather just get a voucher. Life is not fair. God is not fair!! He can bless others with children why not me???

I just want to say I understand and totally feel everyone's pain!!!

Welcome to the thread, Unlucky. It's so nice to come here where people understand.