Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[Miaw]

I'm not so much upset about her pregnancy announcement as I am with the fact that it's on every.freaking.website.ever. I FUCKING GET IT! SHE'S PREGNANT!

Now I'm going to get slapped in the face at the grocery store with gossip magazines pasting her picture everywhere, watching her belly grow, knowing that I should have a bump by now.

I feel the same exact way. Fine, be pregnant I just don't want to have to see it.

And you are so right about the damn magazines, we have at least a year of that ahead of us, bump and then birth and all the bla bla bla

 

[Prayingforno1]

I am so there with everyone venting on Kate Middleton. We started our ttcjourney before her baby number one and I am still at it while she announces bfp with second child. WTH is that even fair? I do wish her a healthy pregnancy but it seems so easy for some meanwhile I felt so down this morning about my struggles I didn't want to leave the house to go to work.

 

[ld276]

I've been ttc for almost 2 years now - my tubes are clear and I'm on my 5th round of clomid 100mg, which seems to be working. This month I had an injection that ensures you release the egg and I did an IUI the day after.


I am due in a few days and the months of disappointment have gotten to me and it's difficult to stay positive.


My doctor says that the next round of clomid will be my last and I will have to wait 6 months before I can go back on it - I asked if there was anything else I could do but he didn't suggest anything.

Just feeling down and defeated...

 

[nobump]

Hate my crappy eggs. Have returned to work after failed cycle. Had time of during cycle. Very unusual for me to have time off.... have explained to a few folk what has been going on. But feel like I will forever be the poor childless one in the corner.

Life sucks. Just feel sad.

 

[PyrusEK]

Found out yesterday that my neighbor/friend is preggers. She is #4 in the list of people I know who are popping out babies within the year.

DH and I spent a long weekend in Memphis with some old friends who have three kids. The two youngest, ages 6 and 8, were exhausting, but I can't believe how much I didn't want to leave them and how much I still miss them. I even enjoyed hanging out with the 16-year-old. They're not even related to me, and I would do anything for all of them.

Why, when I know I would give a child everything, can I not have kids of my own? Why do the crappy people who don't care about their own children at all get to have them and I don't?

 

[nobump]

Just been for an appointment at the clinic. Maternity unit next door. Go to pay parking. Pregnant women sitting smoking. Took a lot of restraint not to give her a mouth full.

Life is not fair.

 

[madtowngirl]

Argh, hangups! Hangups everywhere. AF is finally showing her face post D&C, and I get the run around about having my HCG checked to make sure it's below 5. If it's not, they won't prescribe Clomid this cycle. Ugh, the idea of having to wait another cycle is stressing me out. I don't want to wait anymore!

 

[cheetahspotss]

I hope i'm not butting into this conversation but I know how you ladies feel I posted a question in a different forum, 'Not trying, not preventing'. I really thought I was pregnant as I was 2 days late and I was 16 dpo. Then the third day, AF showed her face. I should've been pregnant by now because my partner and I of almost 4 years don't use any contraceptives. I'm young as well. Even though we're 'not trying' I still feel deep sadness because I know how easy it is for women my age to get pregnant. I don't know what's wrong. I don't know where else to turn to but here. I don't talk about this matter with anyone but my SO. Not even my mother whom i'm so close to. I would honestly be so happy if I had a chance to be a mother. I would love it. And I know how you feel when you see other ladies pregnant instead of you, it makes you depressed more than ever. It doesn't make me 'bitter' per se because I know I have time left but it still makes me very depressed. The only thing I can think of is that my cycles change all the time...i'm not irregular by no means as I have my period every month. But I always ovulate at different times..so it's kinda hard for me to track. It's that or there's something wrong with my tubes. I'm so very scared that I won't be able to have at least one child. My SO has been very supportive..whenever I bring this topic up he will talk about it with me and try to make me feel better. I just don't know what to do...sorry if I posted this in the wrong thread..correct me if i'm wrong. Baby dust to ALL of you!

 

[tommyg]

I hope i'm not butting into this conversation but I know how you ladies feel I posted a question in a different forum, 'Not trying, not preventing'. I really thought I was pregnant as I was 2 days late and I was 16 dpo. Then the third day, AF showed her face. I should've been pregnant by now because my partner and I of almost 4 years don't use any contraceptives. I'm young as well. Even though we're 'not trying' I still feel deep sadness because I know how easy it is for women my age to get pregnant. I don't know what's wrong. I don't know where else to turn to but here. I don't talk about this matter with anyone but my SO. Not even my mother whom i'm so close to. I would honestly be so happy if I had a chance to be a mother. I would love it. And I know how you feel when you see other ladies pregnant instead of you, it makes you depressed more than ever. It doesn't make me 'bitter' per se because I know I have time left but it still makes me very depressed. The only thing I can think of is that my cycles change all the time...i'm not irregular by no means as I have my period every month. But I always ovulate at different times..so it's kinda hard for me to track. It's that or there's something wrong with my tubes. I'm so very scared that I won't be able to have at least one child. My SO has been very supportive..whenever I bring this topic up he will talk about it with me and try to make me feel better. I just don't know what to do...sorry if I posted this in the wrong thread..correct me if i'm wrong. Baby dust to ALL of you!

Hi the vent / rant thread maybe isn't the best place to put your concerns however I would suggest that you speak with your GP 4 years of unprotected sex, presumably frequently couple of times per week, it's time to try something else. Other options include ovulation prediction kits and temping. I'd speak with GP to get the ball rolling, I assume you are UK infertility on the NHS is a sloooowwww process, meanwhile I'd try an opk.

 

[PiggieFarmer]

I should've been pregnant by now because my partner and I of almost 4 years don't use any contraceptives. I'm young as well.

Have you seen a doctor? OB/GYN first, then if that doesn't pan out quickly, infertility specialist. Best to get it checked out in case the issue(s) require some time to resolve. Maybe you have already done that (I can't tell from your description), just making sure. Good luck!

 

[cheetahspotss]

Hi the vent / rant thread maybe isn't the best place to put your concerns however I would suggest that you speak with your GP 4 years of unprotected sex, presumably frequently couple of times per week, it's time to try something else. Other options include ovulation prediction kits and temping. I'd speak with GP to get the ball rolling, I assume you are UK infertility on the NHS is a sloooowwww process, meanwhile I'd try an opk.[/QUOTE]

Thank you for responding...are there any forums on here that are for this topic? I want to be in the right place as i'm a newbie here...well I got checked not too long ago and my OBGYN said everything looked fine when she did an internal exam. I did have ovarian cysts over a year ago but those have gone away. Have been checked with ultrasounds...so everything should be okay. I'm not in the UK, i'm in the United States...i accidently put the wrong time zone, my apologies! I will change that ASAP.

 

[cheetahspotss]

I should've been pregnant by now because my partner and I of almost 4 years don't use any contraceptives. I'm young as well.

Have you seen a doctor? OB/GYN first, then if that doesn't pan out quickly, infertility specialist. Best to get it checked out in case the issue(s) require some time to resolve. Maybe you have already done that (I can't tell from your description), just making sure. Good luck!

Thank you for responding...I saw my OBGYN for problems I was having but those problems quickly diminished. I saw my OBGYN again, months after that and did exams on me and said everything looked fine. Thank you!

 

[PiggieFarmer]

You can try posting in the general LTTTC area:

https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/problems-trying-conceive

... assuming you don't see a recent thread with the same topic (probably not).

At this point I would definitely suggest a specialist. Blood tests, HSG to check tubes, follicle monitoring (by ultrasound), etc. Most specialists in the US are at "IVF clinics" though they should go through a bunch of diagnostics and possibly medication before suggesting IVF. (In other words, just because you go to an "IVF clinic" you won't necessary end up doing IVF.)

 

[Hope3]

This is more of a whinge than a rant.

I came off Facebook a while ago, mostly to avoid seeing the baby pictures of one of my in-laws (DH's cousin). I didn't go to her baby shower (couldn't face it) and I don't see her that often anyway so I've managed to avoid seeing the baby. I figured I'd make all the right noises when I see them next at the next family do.

It took a while to forgive her for quizzing me about my fertility journey when she didn't need to know because it turned out she was already pregnant (see previous rant on this thread).

Anyway, I came home to a photo card her and her partner had done which they've obviously sent out to everyone with pictures of her baby boy. Talk about rub salt into the wound.

I am pleased for her but sad for me.

 

[Lazydaisys]

My rant is why would a former ltttcer tell you to relax and it will happen? Have they forgotten how annoying it is when somebody says that.

Hope 3 -I am avoiding first birthday parties and babies that were born around the same time that my baby would have been due. I hate recieving baby thank you cards too. I chucked the last batch away. I was sick of seeing them.

 

[EmmyReece]

Seriously frustrated

A so called friend who knows of our struggles was an insensitive, self centred witch the other day. She knows I'm on a stupidly long cycle, yet when I told her (really excitedly) that I was close to ovulation, she immediately turned it back to her 2 pregnant daughters (who are both due around my birthday in january)

That felt like a bit of a kick to the stomach

 

[SKP]

4 years unexplained. Blocked tubes, 2 hsgs, 1 hysteroscope plus dnc,
Even 7 months with clomid. And also a lapro.
now dianosed with low ovarian reserve, so had to use donor eggs for ivf. 1st try this july unsuccessful. Meanwhile fb is nothing of pregnancies, babies, friends pregnant or again and again. Cant escape it aaah. The only thing thats on my side and im still young yet.

 

[cheetahspotss]

This is more of a whinge than a rant.

I came off Facebook a while ago, mostly to avoid seeing the baby pictures of one of my in-laws (DH's cousin). I didn't go to her baby shower (couldn't face it) and I don't see her that often anyway so I've managed to avoid seeing the baby. I figured I'd make all the right noises when I see them next at the next family do.

It took a while to forgive her for quizzing me about my fertility journey when she didn't need to know because it turned out she was already pregnant (see previous rant on this thread).

Anyway, I came home to a photo card her and her partner had done which they've obviously sent out to everyone with pictures of her baby boy. Talk about rub salt into the wound.

I am pleased for her but sad for me.

I avoid Facebook like the plague...all I see is pregnancy announcements. My cousin, is 6 months pregnant with her first child. She's not even excited about being a mother..she's just now telling everybody outside our family. I was so disappointed because she didn't even want this to happen, it's an 'accident' to her. And not the happy accident either. She just pisses me off because she really doesn't know how difficult it is for other women to get pregnant. Other women would die to have at least one child while she's over here about to pop one out not really wanting to be a mother. Early in her pregnancy, she even told me that she just wanted to run away from it all. And i'm just like woooow. It just makes me upset, it's hard to be happy for her pregnancy..but I am trying. Maybe her mindset will change, I don't know. Sorry for the ranting, but I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone with the Facebook thing or the cousin thing lol. Stay strong..baby dust to you!

 

[Hope3]

My rant is why would a former ltttcer tell you to relax and it will happen? Have they forgotten how annoying it is when somebody says that.

How insensitive! If 'just relaxing' was the answer we'd all be rushing out to get every spa treatment going.

 

[Hope3]

Cheetah you're so right about the attitude of some women. It seems so unfair.

Next time FB mess around with the layout they should invent a pregnancy announcement filter.

Oh I hate that I've become so bitter.