Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[wantbabynow]

Thanks so much, you share your name with a good friend of mine. its so weird how even your own family (and mother I might add) with all good intentions say the most F**ked up stuff. They are in wait for our "good news" and we don't have any they attack us!!!! I have to remind my mum all the time - it's not my fault I'm trying chill out She sees my ttc journey as her personal problem. Where are you in your cycle? I'm on day 11, had a fight with my husband last night but as we're planning to have sex everyday this cycle we had to do despite our difference (thank goodness for doggy style) who said romance is dead?

 

[madtowngirl]

I hate this bullshit journey. I hate the baby envy. I hate that I've lost two babies. I hate that I feel so isolated and alone. I hate that some of us feel we'll never get pregnant.

I just hate this.

 

[nobump]

Lost for words, mother of 8, wants to use a surrogate so she can get an extra £70 a week on benefits!!! oh and a 5 bedroom house on us tax payers!!!!

 

[tommyg]

Lost for words, mother of 8, wants to use a surrogate so she can get an extra £70 a week on benefits!!! oh and a 5 bedroom house on us tax payers!!!!

WTF???
While I hate the idea of people not being able to afford food etc. I do agree there should be a cap on benefits. Sickens me to see what DH pays in tax.
How is she planning to pay the surrogate?
Please God tell me no surrogate would be so stupid to give such a wonderful gift (and it is a gift even if she is being paid) to such an unworthy woman? There are hundreds of childless women who deserve such a gift far more.

 

[Lazydaisys]

Nobump I saw that too in my magazine!! I hoped nobody would be her surrogate.

So I've been ttc for 3 years and tried iuis, just waiting to see if my ivf worked. I fear not at bfn at 11dpo, anyway here is my vent...

So I go on this lovely thread for testers for May 2013. People got pregnant over the year or so and people have been wonderfully supportive of people still trying. A lovely thread with the nicest of people. So this woman get a bfp last August -wonderful. She doesn't stay around to support others- fair enough she's got more exciting things to think about. Then today she comes back to the thread posting her latest bfps, which are obviously bfps she doesn't need advice and now she's saying she hadnt planned to get pregnant again until next April. Not sure if my ivf medication is making me hormonal but I'm furious!!!! She never commented on anybody else or considered anybody feelings. Surely she could have posted her test in a test gallery.

Rant over . Thanks ladies I feel better all ready! Xxxxxx

 

[Lazydaisys]

Oh she's moved her tests to a different thread think I am hormonal as it brought me to tears. X

 

[newbie2013]

Ah! I hadn't seen that post, LD, but I wondered what others were commenting on. Yep, I would have been frustrated to see them as well especially because she hasn't comment on any posts for a while!! And I don't have IVF hormones as an excuse!!! (Sigh) Patience!

 

[nobump]

It really winds me up when folk clearly use kids to get benefits or a council house etc...

 

[CareBear]

I have a rant that is partly not ttc related hope that is ok. Firstly I have a missing AF and bfn's. There is no reason why I shouldn't be pregnant, I had a positive opk and we dtd at the right time, but I'm figuring I'm not because obviously that just doesn't happen. So where is my AF! I want to be pregnant if I'm not that I want a new cycle to try again and not be in limbo. Secondly I failed my land law exam by 4% which just sucks and I've had to pay £65 to get it remarked and I will probably end up resitting it anyway. Was my last exam for my diploma and I failed, it's the only one I've failed but I did so I now have to wait and pray I do better next time and then get my diploma.

 

[MMMMinnie]

This is to "wantbabynow" from her post "I love that - my inlaws are soooo great too. My husband has 7 sisters and I live with my MIL, one SIL said to me "some women aren't natural producers" or "when you were pregnant you should have quit your job, then you wouldn't have had a miscarriage" oh and my favourite "we were so looking forward to the baby" oh well F**king sorry for ruining your plans with my ill timed miscarriage you MOFO's"


I want to punch them in the face for you. What in the hell is wrong with people these days. It almost seems that our entire society is developing into a "me,me,me" society. We need to change that. I am truly sorry that you went through such a horrific experience with no support from that part of your family. I send you baby dust and happiness.

 

[wantbabynow]

Thanks so much for your support my love, there are so many nice people on this board. Honestly I think sometimes you have to laugh at peoples ignorance, I know it's true that ignorance is bliss but I'd rather be articulate, sensitive, honest and considerate than walking around with my head in the sand!!! I know this is a horrible journey, but I truly feel that this challenge has brought me closer to other women, before I was a bit of a tomboy, this has made me connect wit women from all wlaks of life and that's the only part I like about this journey. Thanks again for your kind words - right back at you sister xxxx

 

[molly83]

Dear body, you are such an a**!!! You gave me every BFP symptom in the book including tender bb's internal instead of sensitive bb's, fatigue, car sickness ect and over night you turned them into pure AF symptoms including AF cramps. I hate you so much right now.. I was convinced this month was it! We had perfect timing, used the diva cup, took my daily prenatal, mint tea twice a day, turned down an energy drink that I was offered, haven't smoked in 6 months... Cruelest joke yet in the passed 3 years! This has never happened before..it has always been one or the other flat out. I could smoke a whole pack right now if it weren't for the fear of being a full time smoker again.

you just explained everything that happened to me this month...so unfair

 

[Lazydaisys]

Official test date - bfn. Told to wait and test again. (( I'm sick of waiting! X

 

[DBZ34]

Decided to tell my best friend about our fertility struggles...and the response I got? 'If you relax, it will happen for you'. I tried to explain why it's not a good idea to tell women who are LTTTC that....but it went in one ear and out the other. Cue the story about a friend who just relaxed and fell pregnant. I almost hung up the phone.

 

[Lazydaisys]

Decided to tell my best friend about our fertility struggles...and the response I got? 'If you relax, it will happen for you'. I tried to explain why it's not a good idea to tell women who are LTTTC that....but it went in one ear and out the other. Cue the story about a friend who just relaxed and fell pregnant. I almost hung up the phone.

That's so annoying, as if you didn't think of that! That's obviously what it is?

The silly thing is I bet you were relaxed when you began trying. It's the ltttc that becomes stressful.

Everybody has a 'friend' lol

 

[ttcmoon]

My God. In laws in different parts of world seem same. I thought only creepy oldies in India do not understand how miscarriage takes place and asks for leaving job.
LTTC and failures are toll taking. I lost all my hair. I do not have a baby..neither hair. I look ugly. I am hormonal. God save me.

 

[MMMMinnie]

Decided to tell my best friend about our fertility struggles...and the response I got? 'If you relax, it will happen for you'. I tried to explain why it's not a good idea to tell women who are LTTTC that....but it went in one ear and out the other. Cue the story about a friend who just relaxed and fell pregnant. I almost hung up the phone.

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This is the biggest reason why I find it so hard to have this discussion with anyone who has not went through this struggle. Like you, I have heard that same statement, "just relax and dont think about it." I am so tired of people giving advise about something that they have absolutely no idea about. Hello ignorant people THERE IS A FREAKING MEDICAL REASON WHY WE HAVE THESE STRUGGLES!!!!! Well in my case Im unidentified... what does that even mean? I have been asking for more tests but they haven't done it so all I can do is continue doing an IUI after every failure without knowing why in the hell it hasn't worked.

I didn't mean to lose it on my own issues. I suggest not bringing it up to her again. She will just keep coming up with stuff like... "if you change your diet you will be pregnant within a month" or "if your hubby eats this or that his sperm will not fail." JUst talk to us and we will push each other through this.

 

[madtowngirl]

Just saw that another high profile celebrity is pregnant. Thanks universe, for reminding me that I'm yet another year older and still have no baby.

 

[Lazydaisys]

I hate the celebrity baby updates. I've stopped buying the magazines that I use to love because there's always one splashed on the cover x

 

[MMMMinnie]

Just saw that another high profile celebrity is pregnant. Thanks universe, for reminding me that I'm yet another year older and still have no baby.

Agreed!!! I am so freaking tired of hearing about this. Screw them!