Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[wantbabynow]

hows everyone today? Minnie how are you feeling at the moment? I'm currently 11 dpo - so proud of myself for not testing I promised myself last month I wouldn't until I was REALLY late (if that ever happens) don't want to waste money by literally peeing on it!!!!. No symptoms at all. If my period doesn't come by 13th September I will test not any earlier (yeah right lets see how I feel tomorrow)

 

[DBZ34]

The knowledge that I'm going to spend a long weekend with friends who will definitely ask when DH and I are going to have kids and imply that we should get started soon...multiple times. Let's hope I can stay civil...I like having friends.

 

[Lazydaisys]

Dbz34 it's so refreshing to hear a post that sounds just like me. I thought about putting a Facebook status saying ' for all you people wondering when me and dh are going to have a baby - mind you own business!' I've no idea why people think its appropriate to ask and keep asking that question. I like having friends too lol xx

 

[MMMMinnie]

hows everyone today? Minnie how are you feeling at the moment? I'm currently 11 dpo - so proud of myself for not testing I promised myself last month I wouldn't until I was REALLY late (if that ever happens) don't want to waste money by literally peeing on it!!!!. No symptoms at all. If my period doesn't come by 13th September I will test not any earlier (yeah right lets see how I feel tomorrow)

Thank you. I am doing fine. I wish you some serious baby dust. I get a blood test on the 10th. Im scared and nervous but being as positive as I can be.

Thank you for checking in with me

 

[DBZ34]

Dbz34 it's so refreshing to hear a post that sounds just like me. I thought about putting a Facebook status saying ' for all you people wondering when me and dh are going to have a baby - mind you own business!' I've no idea why people think its appropriate to ask and keep asking that question. I like having friends too lol xx

Oh, yes. It's so nice to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. People, especially friends, always feel the need to get in your business. Somehow being your friend makes them feel entitled. I've been conscious of not asking anyone anything about their life plans (including kids and marriage) because I think if they wanted me to know, they'd tell me. Same goes for me. If I want you to know about when we're thinking of having kids, I'll tell you...until then, butt out.

 

[wannabemummyb]

My MIL has decided that there is noway we will be having a baby naturally so is telling everyone (including strangers she met at a party) that we will have to adopt! Yes it takes the pressure off but its our journey not hers! I dont even talk about it much to people so why should she?

 

[EmmyReece]

My MIL has decided that there is noway we will be having a baby naturally so is telling everyone (including strangers she met at a party) that we will have to adopt! Yes it takes the pressure off but its our journey not hers! I dont even talk about it much to people so why should she?

What a thing to tell people!!! She sounds absolutely nuts if she's telling people that. It's not her place at all to be saying anything about your ttc journey

 

[wannabemummyb]

The ironic thing is Emmy she doesn't know much about our journey other than I have PCOS and we lost a baby last year, she's drawn all her conclusions on her own. Another time, She told my step son he will be dh's only child and he was totally confused as he knows we want a baby but knows nothing about our struggles or mc...,,i don't want to go into details with him. She swings from one extreme to another, as when we first got married she was always on at us to get pregnant, i asked dh to have a word and tell her to back off. Generally i get on really well with her but not about this.

Sorry turned into a proper vent

 

[EmmyReece]

that's what this place is for, so you vent whenever you need to x

 

[madtowngirl]

The ironic thing is Emmy she doesn't know much about our journey other than I have PCOS and we lost a baby last year, she's drawn all her conclusions on her own. Another time, She told my step son he will be dh's only child and he was totally confused as he knows we want a baby but knows nothing about our struggles or mc...,,i don't want to go into details with him. She swings from one extreme to another, as when we first got married she was always on at us to get pregnant, i asked dh to have a word and tell her to back off. Generally i get on really well with her but not about this.

Sorry turned into a proper vent

What the actual hell? She has no right to tell your stepson such a thing, If, and only if, you wish for him to know about your ttc status, YOU TWO should be the ones to tell him, not HER.

Omg sometimes I just want to slap people.

 

[treeroot]

Happy one year TTC anniversary to me.

No venting needed. Other then to you Depression. You suck, and make this journey way harder then it needs to be. Back off and leave me alone!

/sigh

 

[nobump]

Got negative confirmed on Friday from our 2nd nhs IVF cycle. Feel crap now starting to take it out on DH..... after years of thinking we are unexplained. Low sperm count we now have low am. Just me and a bunch of crappy eggs.
Keep thinking if we had known sooner would we have opted to go private? Tried to use my eggs before they disappear for good. Or would we just be pooe ans childless. ...

 

[Lazydaisys]

Sorry no bump. Xxx

 

[MissCassie]

To My family!

I am getting no support from my family at all.
They are all being very judgemental people!
My partner and I have been together for 3.5yrs and are wanting to have our rainbow baby.

1 of my sisters has said. "it's the most unclassy thing I have ever done" should be married first bla bla. Said that I am juvenile and pretty much a slut!

She has also used clomid and conceived on it after a while of taking it. But refuses to talk to me about anything.
All I want is support and someone to talk to about it and she couldn't give e a shit.

My other sister keeps saying oh we just want to make sure your making the right decision and that you are in a happy health relationship. Which I am. My boyfriend is my rock and would be lost without him.

And my mother... she just keeps saying oh don't worry you'll fall pregnant naturally. And that it's just not my time.

It's a very stressful time and they are not helping.

Sorry for the long rant

 

[tommyg]

Kate Middleton - bitch.
Sorry needed to get that out.

 

[wannabemummyb]

Kate Middleton - bitch.
Sorry needed to get that out.

Yep agree

 

[k4th]

Kate Middleton - bitch.
Sorry needed to get that out.

^^this

Did not need to hear this after another bfn this morning.

Pleased for her (I do try to be happy for anyone who manages a bfp) but dreading it being "news" everyday for the next f**?!*g year!

 

[DBZ34]

Yes! This. ^^

This was not the way I wanted to start today...dealing with a m/c and hearing about the new royal baby. It's everywhere! Thanks, Kate.

 

[Miaw]

Kate Middleton - bitch.
Sorry needed to get that out.

OMG yes THIS! That is the kind of SHIT I HATE. Hearing about how other people conceived 2 babies and they started TTC AFTER ME! I just DON'T WANT TO FUCKING KNOW.

It pisses me off, I take all measures I can to not see this kind of stuff, no Facebook or twitter or anything like it. I don't go into the TTC or the TWW sections of this forum, because I that is what I have become. a BITTER, ANGRY, DEPRESSED sack of shit. And it's not so bad when I don't have to see babies, but with people like Kate it seems I have NO CHOICE, I don't read stars news or anything, but apparently her baby is important enough to make it to international news, more important than Ebola or Ferguson or anything else.

I DON'T WANT TO SEE IT. I JUST DON'T. What the hell do I do? never go on internet again? Never go out of the house?

I can't deal with this anymore, it's SO unfair. WHY DOES SHE GET TO HAVE 2 BABIES, AND I SIT HERE NOT EVEN ONE.

I just, omg... How long is this going to go on? Will I still be sitting here when we hear about baby number 3? I can't go trough this, I can't see everyone around me getting pregnant, having babies and I sit here, not moving forward, stuck in the same loop. This is driving me insane.

 

[madtowngirl]

I'm not so much upset about her pregnancy announcement as I am with the fact that it's on every.freaking.website.ever. I FUCKING GET IT! SHE'S PREGNANT!

Now I'm going to get slapped in the face at the grocery store with gossip magazines pasting her picture everywhere, watching her belly grow, knowing that I should have a bump by now.