Looking for people TTC after miscarriage

[Sallyanne81]

Well AF is definitely here but I have been treated to sushi with DH and at least I feel like my LP is lengthening now to about 12 days rather than 10 so trying to stay positive. I'm onto cycle 6 now. I feel like the stress of my new job isn't helping, I feel like I won't get my BFP until after I finish in June and I can relax.

Sorry for your loss Rose - My AF took about 4 weeks the 1st time and 5 weeks the 2nd time to come back (from the day I lost the baby rather than from when the bleeding stopped), I was 10 wks the 1st time and 6 the 2nd and it felt like forever both times.

 

[mumof1+1]

So sorry AF arrived. Fingers crossed for a BFP soon xxx

 

[MrsFruitie]

Hi Ladies, sorry I’ve not checked in in a while. It’s been mad with new job an holiday.

Firstly, to the new ladies, I’m so very sorry for your losses and I feel your heartbreak. We are all here for you whether you need a chat or and questions.

I’m a bit down at the moment as it’s now coming up to the date I was due had the miscarriage not happened. I was really hoping to be pregnant again before the due date but no luck and the chances of getting pregnant this month are slim.

It seems like a lot of the original ladies from when I started this post have been successful though, and this makes me extremely happy for them and continues to fill me with hope.

As I’ve said before, you are all an incredibly strong bunch of warrior women!

Hope everyone is doing ok.
Xxx

 

[RoseM87]

Hi again everyone,

Just wondering if any of you have been through this or know anyone who has, because right now I feel freaked out and unlucky and would love to hear some happy stories.

I spent the weekend in the hospital on IV antibiotics after it was discovered they had left some tissue in following my d&c two weeks ago. I then had to have a second d&c even though there's a higher risk of damage to the uterus doing two surgeries so close together. I'm now super worried that they've stuffed me up inside and I'll never actually be able to get pregnant. Also no sex for 6 weeks in total so TTC is going to take even longer... Can anyone save me from my pity party and tell me about a successful pregnancy following a similar situation?

Thanks

 

[Sallyanne81]

Hi Rose, I can't answer personally as I have never had a D+C all my MCs were natural, but being obsessed and reading tons of message boards like this I have read about lots of women who have had multiple D+Cs and everything has been fine and they've gone on to conceive. Obviously the waiting 6 weeks is frustrating because you are left in limbo for longer but try and use the time to look after yourself and OH and pamper yourselves a bit.

I'm just waiting for ovulation again, so nothing exciting happening here. The due date is always difficult, it gets easier but you don't forget, for example I'd have a 7 month old now had the other MC not happened. My SIL is a constant reminder that I'm not pregnant, she is still annoying the hell out of me, she is spending half the day in bed because both her and her husband are unemployed and she is tired apparently.

 

[Yellowmoon]

Hi Mrs Frutie- sorry you are feeling down. Due date will be hard. I've planned to be off work and be somewhere nice when mine comes around in May. Your time will come, it's hard to imagine at the moment, but it will.

Rose- sounds like you're having a rough time of it. I haven't had a DC myself so I'm not sure about that, but I agreed with SallyAnne, I bet you'll be fine. It's a horrible stressful time but you will get through it! We will be here for you every step of the way

Sallyanne- I am the same as you. Waiting for ovulation, I think it's gonna happen today, I am doing OPKs this month. I actually thought I had been ovulating really early, but it's CD15 today so I guess I wasn't... glad I decided to track now!

Your SIL is sooo annoying haha. She would rub me up the wrong way too!

In other news, I got my husband taking the men's preconception vitamins this month and we've both been having loads of fun together and doing loads of social stuff, will be interesting if this is the month something happens. I'll keep you all posted anyway, I'll be testing in about 2 weeks probably.

 

[napamermaid]

Can i join?

I had a d&c this morning. Got pregnant no problem but it never felt right. Had scan at 6 +4 no fetal pole. Then had spotting sat. Another scan Monday and only gest sac and yolk sac. No baby ever formed.
I was ok going in till all the medical staff commiserated with me. Going to theatre was horrific.
Anyway its done now.
V sore but bleeding light which is good.

How long did it take you all to get periods back?
How long did you or will you wait ttc again?

Im so sorry for all your losses xx

 

[Sallyanne81]

Hi napermermaid, of course you can join! So sorry for your loss too, it's such a difficult thing to go through.

My AF took about 4 weeks the 1st time and 5 weeks the 2nd time to come back (from the day I lost the baby rather than from when the bleeding stopped), I was 10 wks the 1st time and 6 the 2nd and it felt like forever both times. Both times I started trying again straight away, my gynae was not bothered about waiting a month like some are, I had a scan and she said I was about to ovulate so go for it.

I think I ovulated fri/sat this month a bit earlier than I though I would so I don't know about out timing this month. Oh well onto the 2ww yet again, I think we are on the 2ww together yellow, fingers crossed for everyone this cycle!!!

 

[Yellowmoon]

Hi Napamermaid, so sorry for your loss. It's a really tough thing to go through.

My AF came 5 weeks after bleeding stopped and cycle has been normal since then. We waited for AF to come before trying again. Currently in the 4th cycle tww.

Yep we are the same Sallyanne! It's nice knowing we are doing this together each month . I'm gonna take my first test on Friday I think. Can't help but do it early! It will be 4 days before AF due.

Fingers crossed for everyone xx

 

[Sallyanne81]

I had some test results back and my prolactin is high, does anyone have the same? I'm hoping it's something easy to fix. Hopefully I will get another appointment with the gynae soon.

 

[Yellowmoon]

Hi Sallyanne, I don't know much about that I'm afraid. But I think they will want to do more tests if they find that, just to see what's causing it.

Sorry I can't be of more help xx

 

[RoseM87]

Hi Napermaid, really sorry to hear about what happened to you. I can empathise with it "not feeling right". Even though I had a 6 week scan with a heartbeat before my miscarriage, I still had a sense that there was something wrong - which was right in the end, unfortunately. I guess sometimes we just have a weird intuition about these things.

In answer to your questions: I haven't got my period back yet but then again I'm only 23 days post my first D&C and 10 days post the second one.
The doctors told me we could start TTC again as soon as I get my period if we want, but we are also banned from sex for 4 weeks post second D&C (6 weeks in total) so we'll have to wait for that as well!

Good luck and hope you're feeling all right. It's such a horrible process for anyone to go through.

 

[napamermaid]

Rose thats awful. 2 d&cs. 1 is hard enough. Has the bleedingg stopped yet?

Its a week tomorrow for me. Bleeding is still here no lighter but no heavier.

I did a pregnancy test and its still blazingly positive....is that normal?

 

[RoseM87]

For the second one, the bleeding stopped after about 5 days and then only old brown blood when I wiped for a couple of days. got my first negative a week after the procedure (never thought I'd be so happy to see a negative result!)

After the first one the bleeding stopped straight away and then came back quite heavily after 11 days and I was still getting a positive. That's when I had the ultrasound and they found retained tissue which needed the second d&c. This is RARE though - apparently only 2-5% of cases. So keep it in the back of your mind if symptoms progress but it's probably not going to happen.

 

[Sallyanne81]

My hcg came down to normal in about a week but it wasn't very high to start with so maybe that can make a difference. My MC at 10.11 wks I bled heavily for about a week, the last one at 5/6 wks I bled lightly but for nearly 2 weeks in total. I think everyone is different. Keep an eye on it and if you are worried have you got a doctor or nurse you can contact?

I'm on progesterone now for the prolactin for 14 days after ovulation, until I have more investigations, so my testing day is next Friday. Any luck with the testing Yellow?

 

[alison29]

Hi again everyone,

Just wondering if any of you have been through this or know anyone who has, because right now I feel freaked out and unlucky and would love to hear some happy stories.

I spent the weekend in the hospital on IV antibiotics after it was discovered they had left some tissue in following my d&c two weeks ago. I then had to have a second d&c even though there's a higher risk of damage to the uterus doing two surgeries so close together. I'm now super worried that they've stuffed me up inside and I'll never actually be able to get pregnant. Also no sex for 6 weeks in total so TTC is going to take even longer... Can anyone save me from my pity party and tell me about a successful pregnancy following a similar situation?

Thanks

Hi,
I wanted to chime in so you don’t feel so alone having two procedures. I had d and c at 13 weeks in December. Then at the end of February had strange flood of blood so went to dr and they said something in there so had to have another d an c. So 2 days ago had that. It turns out some polyps had formed for them to remove. Really weird haven’t talked to dr yet. But I understand how awful it is to have this drag on and have two procedures. I hope your ok. Keep us posted.

 

[alison29]

Napamermaid it depends on how far along you were. It took about 5 weeks for my tests to go negative then af started a couple days later. But the dr was having me do blood work at that point cause she was concerned

 

[napamermaid]

Thanks for all your replies.
Its so worrying on top of everything else that cycle wont return to normal.
Im 40 and dh is 47 and we had given ttc till end of march. Just havent got time on our hands

 

[alison29]

I completely understand the urgency you feel to get pregnant again soon. So you are stopping ttc at the end of March?

 

[RoseM87]

Alison 29, thanks heaps for sharing and I'm equally sorry that has happened to you. I know polyps are fairly common so hopefully it's nothing to worry about! But having more surgery is awful as I know all too well. Fingers crossed for both of us that things get better from here and there are no more unscheduled hospital trips coming.