Manchester?

[youngwife20]

oh and its like your baby heard you!!! he isnt a 9/11 baby woohoo xx

 

[emzul]

OMG OMG!!!! AWW IM AT WORK AND THIS MESSAGE MADE ME PROPPER SMILE!! HE IS SOOO ADORABLE! OMG YOU DID IT!! WOW! AND YOU GOT ON THE MET A DAY AFTER GIVING BIRTH!! WOW , AND WHAT PRESCRIPTIOSN DID YOU BOTH NEED??

im so happy for you hun!! what pain relief did you have? and wow that is such a quick labour for your first! i bet you were both suprised!!

i feel amazing apart from tired i just feel so great and every week i feel closer and closer to the day she/he will arive and only 3 weeks before we find out!!

has all your family seen him? how are you feeling?? apart from emotional xxxxx

and your baby is looking at the camera lol little poser xxxxcongrats hun

Awww thanks! He is a little angel. I needed a new prescription for my Tinzaparin injections, which they changed 3 times!! and Charlie has a dilated kidney so he is on antibiotics and he will need a scan in the next week or so but apparently its quite common and hopefully the antibiotics will help.... but it doesnt seem to be effecting him so all good fingers crossed!

Yeah my waters went at 10.30pm Monday and he was born at 01.54am Tuesday morning! So just under 3 1/2 hours!! I did it with a little Gas and Air but it was making me feel drunk and then tired so when I pushed him out, was purely breathing through it!! LOL had a small tear and had to have 3 stitches, which was worse than giving birth!!!!!! Nailed the G&A when she was doing them, I was in that much pain having that done I was gulping it down!!!!

Yeah DH was suprised, to calm him down I told him I expected it to take all night! But I actually knew it was going to be quick, from 10.30 to midnight I was already 3cm.... and the contractions started just 4 mins apart so I knew he wouldnt take long.. and then went from 3cm to 10cm in an hour and a half!!

I am feeling good, was tired but last night he slept for 2 hour intervals so I slept for 2 hours at a time, have relaxed a bit now, first few nights I didnt sleep, was constantly thinking I wouldnt hear if he cried and was worried he might stop breathing and all sorts, but he is fine LOL

Yeah the main people (family wise) have seen him now, DH Mum, Nan and brother came up as did my Mum and Stepdad... but they got lost finding the hospital so only ended up being able to stay for the last 20 mins of visiting times have friends and stuff coming over in the next few days too and I will of course be taking him to work to show him off!

My Dad, his wife and my Nan and Grandad came up yesterday but my Mum is being a bit competitive LOL she was really annoyed that MIL saw him first, so I said "well if you had gotten directions like I said, you would have been first."

Then she was getting mardy because my Dads wife came up and saw him, and Mum keeps saying "well she isnt his Nan anyway, but I am"..... so I told her to grow up! LOL THEN she went in a mood because we are going to MIL's house on Tuesday as its her bday on Weds, and I said we would go and see her on Friday.... so she sulked and said she wanted us to go to hers first!

Its just because she loves him so much and is quite far away so she cant just pop and see him, I thought it was quite sweet at first but I had to tell her to act her age, and its not a contest, he is her Grandson, but he is MIL's aswell and he is around for the rest of her life!

Wow, only 3 weeks, bet you are counting the days!!!! xxxx

 

[youngwife20]

Aww i can see that she just loves him lots! and its good you just said it like it is to her though!

and ive never heard of a dialated kidney , did they detect it in the scans tht u had? or just after he was born? and im glad its not effecting him.

and wow a propper natural labour! apart from the stiches (ouch) that sounds like a perfect first labour everyone says how long its gonna be lol your one of the lucky ones lol fingers crossed i am too haha

was it as painful as you thought it was gonna be?

and its good your not worrieing as much now i imagine i will be the biggest warrier ever!! how long you taking of work again?

oh and i am for sure countin down the days i realy have feelings of the baby being a girl though i dont mind either way i am so impaitent and wanna know now xx

 

[emzul]

Aww i can see that she just loves him lots! and its good you just said it like it is to her though!

and ive never heard of a dialated kidney , did they detect it in the scans tht u had? or just after he was born? and im glad its not effecting him.

and wow a propper natural labour! apart from the stiches (ouch) that sounds like a perfect first labour everyone says how long its gonna be lol your one of the lucky ones lol fingers crossed i am too haha

was it as painful as you thought it was gonna be?

and its good your not worrieing as much now i imagine i will be the biggest warrier ever!! how long you taking of work again?

oh and i am for sure countin down the days i realy have feelings of the baby being a girl though i dont mind either way i am so impaitent and wanna know now xx

Yeah I had to be a bit arsey with her because although I know she just loves him that much but it is a bit immature LOL she rang me the other day and Charlie was having him bum changed (he isnt too keen on being naked LOL so we have to be lightening quick changing him!) and he was crying.... Mum had to hang up because she said hearing him cry was making her want to cry!

Yeah they noticed it at the 20 week scan, thats why I had to have extra scans just so they could keep an eye on it. Apparently its when urine goes back up the urethra (I think!!) and sits there and can cause infection and the kidney enlarges... its more common in boys, and apparently 1 in 200 babies born have t have antibiotics/scans after birth. But its like the MW who came on Friday said, if they were THAT concerned they would have scanned him straight away, and the antibiotics he has are very general ones, that are used for lots of things, which again makes it seem like it is quite a common thing?

The contractions were worse than I thought they would be! They came very fast and got quite strong quite quickly, which I suppose in a way was good because I wasnt having them for hours and hours. They felt like when you reeaaalllyy need to go to the loo... but they were further down than I was expecting? I thought they would be across the bump, but they were right low down.
I wasnt under any illusions that giving birth wouldnt hurt.. that was more of a stinging pain (hence me saying to the MW I felt like I was going to rip in half! ) but that was over quick because I just pushed to get him out!

I think Mother intuition plays a big part, I "knew" he was a boy from the start, nothing to indicate he was, no way of explaining it, I just had a feeling! Awww I am so excited to find out when you know! What date is your scan?

I told work I was going back in March, but of course I can take a further 6 months if I want... but that will be unpaid... so I am just not going back! I hate my job, and by the time I have paid for my travel (£90 a month!) and childcare on top, I will end up working Full time for about £300 a month!!) and I dont like the idea of paying someone else to look after my baby if I cant be earning enough money to justify it! So I think I am going to look into training as a massage therapist, so I can basically pick when I want to work!

xx

 

[emzul]

DH teaching Charlie bad habits!!! LOL

 

[youngwife20]

haha that pic is so funny he looks like a fast learner

and my scan is the 06/10/2011il be 20+4 i think! il let you know as soon as i find out

and i hope those anti biotics do the job!

the contractions sound really bad lol hopefuly il be high ongas and air!! lol

and do you not have to go to like uni or something to study that?

and do you wannt any more kids? xx

 

[emzul]

Ooh yeah def let me know, I cant wait to find out!

Yeah the G&A was ok..... it just made me feel a bit drunk and then tired, but it works when you are in mega pain, because you take big panic breaths, so take more in and it works better. But I liked the idea of having something that would take the edge off and that I could be in control of.... with epidurals and other injected painkillers, you cant control how much they give, but with the G&A you can choose yourself how much to use, and it wears off pretty quickly.

No, dont need to go to Uni, there are quite alot of places in Manchester that do courses, found one where you go Tuesday nights for about 3 hours, and think its about 20 weeks... and at the end you are a fully qualified massage therapist... of course if you want to specialise (sports massage/baby massage etc) you need to do additional courses, but with the one I am going to do, you can either get a job in a salon/gym or whatever or you can work for yourself and just choose when you work and how much you charge, so that would be ideal! And you can charge anything up to £50 an hour LOL

Do you think you will be going back to work after you have LO? xx

 

[youngwife20]

emz- i think G&A is perfect for me lol for those reasons you said gosh hate the idea of an epi not being able to move and stuff.

and wow that sounds pretty good 50pounds an hour!! thats amazing money!!

and i will go back to work ( not that i want to lol) but its a good job but will probably go part time and then the days im working my mum will look after the baby as she works part time .

but i am hoping to delay going back to work till the 12th month of mat leave! but the last 3 months are unpaid so will think of some things to do to make a little bit of money while im not doing anything xx

 

[emzul]

Yeah I didnt like the idea of not being able to move if I had an epi, but of course with my injections there was a slim chance I would have been able to get one, and when I got to the hospital I had already done my evening injection, so would have needed to wait about 10 1/2 hours for that to wear off.... and he wasnt waiting for that LOL

But the G&A worked for me, it does make you feel tired, but def takes that edge off.

I am def not going back to work (where I do now), I would hate it, well I hate it anyway, but it would be 1000000 times worse being there and thinking about Charlie in nursery and me having to pay for childcare to go back to a job I hate and ending up with little money after paying out for travel and childcare!

I would probs go back to work if I had someone I trusted (like my Mum) to look after him during the day, but she lives miles away so hopefully DH will be getting good commission from this month on, and he is a really hard worker, and is even more determined to work hard now Charlie is here!

Oh I am excited for you for your scan now!!!!! Not long to wait.... Charlie has his scan on the 10th October... not looking forward to that, I know I will cry LOL but as long as it helps to make sure his little kidney is ok then it will be worth it xx

 

[youngwife20]

aww i hope the scan goes well! and i dont like the idea of the baby going in nursery to young! i always think " what if something happens and there too young to tell me about it "

AND THIS IS RANDOM BUT MY INNIE belly button is turning into an outie woohoo lol i think i look more pregnant now lol im 18 weeks today

i always find it weird why its half way there when its 20 weeks when heres only 4 months left?

how are you enjoying being a mummy are you getting much sleep xx

 

[emzul]

Oh dont get me started on the whole pregnancy timeline thing LOL its like you need a degree in Maths to work out how pregnant you are, when you conceived, how long is left etc... its 40 weeks, which is 10 months isnt it? But then you think a month is 28 days... 4 weeks, but only Feb is 28 days... which is where the extra 1 month comes from?! Its very confusing! LOL

I may have to have a rethink re: childcare me and DH have been looking into how much we will get Tax Credits wise etc and it works out £10.43 per week?! So if I dont work, once my Mat Pay stops in July 2012, I would only be getting £80 per month Child Benefit and £40 a month Tax Credits.... £120 per month... so may need to go back to work afterall... which is a bit of a buggar, but hoping DH will be earning big bucks by then... so maybe I wont?

With Mat Pay, which is just short of £500 a month, we can survive, thats based on DH only coming out with his basic, but he works on commission also, so hopefully he will be earning a couple of grand a month commy too which would be awesome, but I am being a realist at the moment LOL and working it all out on the bare minimum....

Sleepwise... he isnt too bad... sleeps alot during the day, and at night goes anything between 1 1/2 hours and 4 hours... but always wakes twice in the night and then again about 6-7.30 in the morning... so trying to make him go 4 hours between feeds as of this morning. We have (without realising it!!) been feeding him every time he wakes/cries and so he isnt going more than 2 hours without being fed... so need to try and make him go longer so he has fewer feeds, but they will be bigger, he will be genuinely hungry and then hopefully will then sleep longer at night because he is fuller!(think the way we have been doing it means he is never truly hungry and we are constantly topping him up with milk) so hoping this works... started it today, and he went from 6.45am to 10.45am before he got his bottle, and then he fell asleep straight after... he is still asleep now! Hope he doesnt wake up screaming to be fed LOL cos he has another hour and 15 mins to go!! LOL but I gave him some cooled boiled water and that seemed to calm him a bit... but suppose best to do this now, during the day while neighbours are at work and not too many people can hear his screams!

Oh you have all this to look forward to! Ha ha but no matter how tired I am, or how long it takes to settle him, just one look at his little face makes me melt! He pulls so many funny faces and makes lots of weird nosies (his "squeaky wheel" sound is one of our faves!) that I never get bored of looking at him so no matter how many times you have/will hear it... they are soooo worth it!!

How long now til you find out the sex?! So exciting!!!! xx

 

[youngwife20]

Ha if I need a degree in maths to work it out I've got no chance lol I'm even crap at simple maths lol


Aww u were sure u didn't wanna go back - but if u had to maybe go back a few days a week? I hope ur hubby will make enuf so u dnt have to go back

Though I don't realy enjoy working I'd rather be a house wife and make lots of kids lol as I think baby making is my real calling in life lol I want loads!

But then I thought I've worked all my life so I may feel bored at home once baby gets older so I'll maybe work 4 days or 3 days a week just so I'm getting out the house


Is ur mat pay like part goverment or whatever then part topped up by ur work?
I've only been @ my work 6 months or 7 by the time I go on mat leave so I won't get anythin other than mat alowance I think duno if I'll get smp tho I think there about the same? Not sure!
May I ask what ur hubby does? My hubby is a dry stone waller so he works in the country , he's self employed so he won't get paternity leave or anything but he'll take of 2 weeks around when the babys due

And being a realist is good! That's what I do I'm writing a list of all the bills out etc and rent and then working how much we'll have left but I'm not good at working things out lol so my husbands doing it realy! But when were working it out we always over estimate what the gas and elec. Bills would be for example so we know aprox how much we'll have left over. At the momment my husband pays for most things but I'm thinking if I start paying for more stuff beforermy mat leave tht means he can save more than when I'm on mat leave he can take over most things again ? What do u think ? (None of tht made sence I dnt think lol )

Are u breat feeding or form feeding?

And isn't it to early to make him go longer with more gaps between feeds?

I heard about a week to 2 weeks old babys have growthspurts and can eat every hour or every half hour!! Gosh I'm planning on breatsfeeding exclusivly so my boobs I imagine will be sore lol

Oh I get what u mean he'll feed for longer which will sustain him for longer - sorry I'm replieng as I read so u may have alredy answered what I was wondering the further I reaad lol

Its amazing u getting into a routine this early weldone! When my baby gets here for the first month I think I'll just get used to her and then try and start a routine lol

Wow he drinks water already?

And its so exciting reading how u r with him and stuff gets me excited and I jst can't wait for my little one to get here!!


And!! I have some news for u!! Haha

I had a scan a few days ago! Because I was having some problems with. A cyst coz the baby was pushing on it so they did a scan to check everythings ok! And first we saw 5 fingers!! Like so clear and the consultant couldn't believe it because the babys so small n cudnt believe how clear the imagine was!!

Also!! The baby was waving the legs about showing us the goods!!

So I haven't made an official anouncment because he said tht we will confirm on the 20 week scan 6th of october!

But!!

The babys
A

GIRLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!

Exactly what I thought she was she just would not close her legs lol she was just flapping them around lol


But incase she was tucking it away and is actually a he I decided I'll keep my mouth shut till the 20 weeker lol

I'm reeeelly happy I didn't mind either way but I just knew!! Xx

Sorry I'm writing this long message on my fone so. A lot of short hand lol xx

 

[youngwife20]

Do I win the price for the longest message ever lol sorry! X

 

[emzul]

Ha if I need a degree in maths to work it out I've got no chance lol I'm even crap at simple maths lol


Aww u were sure u didn't wanna go back - but if u had to maybe go back a few days a week? I hope ur hubby will make enuf so u dnt have to go back

Though I don't realy enjoy working I'd rather be a house wife and make lots of kids lol as I think baby making is my real calling in life lol I want loads!

But then I thought I've worked all my life so I may feel bored at home once baby gets older so I'll maybe work 4 days or 3 days a week just so I'm getting out the house


Is ur mat pay like part goverment or whatever then part topped up by ur work?
I've only been @ my work 6 months or 7 by the time I go on mat leave so I won't get anythin other than mat alowance I think duno if I'll get smp tho I think there about the same? Not sure!
May I ask what ur hubby does? My hubby is a dry stone waller so he works in the country , he's self employed so he won't get paternity leave or anything but he'll take of 2 weeks around when the babys due

And being a realist is good! That's what I do I'm writing a list of all the bills out etc and rent and then working how much we'll have left but I'm not good at working things out lol so my husbands doing it realy! But when were working it out we always over estimate what the gas and elec. Bills would be for example so we know aprox how much we'll have left over. At the momment my husband pays for most things but I'm thinking if I start paying for more stuff beforermy mat leave tht means he can save more than when I'm on mat leave he can take over most things again ? What do u think ? (None of tht made sence I dnt think lol )

Are u breat feeding or form feeding?

And isn't it to early to make him go longer with more gaps between feeds?

I heard about a week to 2 weeks old babys have growthspurts and can eat every hour or every half hour!! Gosh I'm planning on breatsfeeding exclusivly so my boobs I imagine will be sore lol

Oh I get what u mean he'll feed for longer which will sustain him for longer - sorry I'm replieng as I read so u may have alredy answered what I was wondering the further I reaad lol

Its amazing u getting into a routine this early weldone! When my baby gets here for the first month I think I'll just get used to her and then try and start a routine lol

Wow he drinks water already?

And its so exciting reading how u r with him and stuff gets me excited and I jst can't wait for my little one to get here!!


And!! I have some news for u!! Haha

I had a scan a few days ago! Because I was having some problems with. A cyst coz the baby was pushing on it so they did a scan to check everythings ok! And first we saw 5 fingers!! Like so clear and the consultant couldn't believe it because the babys so small n cudnt believe how clear the imagine was!!

Also!! The baby was waving the legs about showing us the goods!!

So I haven't made an official anouncment because he said tht we will confirm on the 20 week scan 6th of october!

But!!

The babys
A

GIRLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!

Exactly what I thought she was she just would not close her legs lol she was just flapping them around lol


But incase she was tucking it away and is actually a he I decided I'll keep my mouth shut till the 20 weeker lol

I'm reeeelly happy I didn't mind either way but I just knew!! Xx

Sorry I'm writing this long message on my fone so. A lot of short hand lol xx

I have been looking into nursery costs incase I do have to go back to work.... the cheapest one I have found is near us, its about a 5 minute tram ride, and thats £31 a day... for the full month (5 days a week) its £580! Thats cheap compared to the ones I saw in Manchester, some of them are well over £700 a month! Its scandalous LOL But this one near us also does half days (8am-1pm or 1pm-6pm) @ £22 a day... which for 5 days a week would be £440 per month.

It all depends on what DH is bringing home I guess. He is a recruitment consultant for an IT company, he works on contracts though, so he basically speaks to companies (clients) to find out if they need any people to work, web developers/web designers, that kind of thing. But he only puts forward people on short contracts, anything from 3 months up to 12 months. He gets a percentage of their wage, but rather than get one lump sum per month, he will get a smaller amount but over the course of the contract... I know it is confusing..... there are 2 departments where he works... Contract and Permanent

So if someone is looking for a permanant job, they go to another section of his company, they put this person forward for interviews, and once they are accepted for a job, the consultant gets a percentage (I think its about 5% of their net wage) from the company that hires them so eg: 5% of a £20,000 wage would be £1,000 commission for the consultant in one lump sum BUT

DH does contract, so someone wanting a web designer to create a website for their company, which will take 6 months to create go to my hubby. He finds suitable candidates, puts them forward for interviews etc then when one (or more sometimes!) is accepted, he will then get a % of their daily wage (some of these people earn £700+ PER DAY!! lol) which works out less, but he is guaranteed that every month for the length of their contract (so every month for 6 months)... so as he builds up his clients, say he has 10 out working at a time, he gets a percentage of each of their wage, every month for the length of their contract! So even though he gets less, he gets it every month, so it works out more? If that makes sense! But because he needs more people working, it takes alot longer to build up, but its better than permanent, because he can have a couple of shit months, but still be getting commission from deals he made months earlier whereas the guys on permanent if they have a shit month, they get no commission.

LOL looks like I am trying to beat you with the longest reply!!

I have worked for my company for well over 2 years so I get 90% of my wage for the first 6 weeks I am off, then 33 weeks of SMP, which is about £125 a week.... I think even if you have worked for less than the cut off time you can still get SMP direct from the government, which is about the same? But I guess you wouldnt get the 90% for the first 6 weeks? Its all very confusing this SMP, CTC, WTC and all that LOL we have been told that we will only get £10.43 a week child tax credits, because our combined incomes are £38,000 so we wont get alot.

He is doing better today, he went from 6.15 til 9.30am and then from 9.30 til 1.15 so he is doing much better today!! Yeah water they can have from any age I think? I just boil the kettle and put some in a bottle in the fridge and use as and when. And I am a little bit ashamed to admit it, but I bought him some dummies today I said from day 1 I didnt want him to have one, but yesterday from about 4pm til 7pm he was a right whinger!! He cried pretty much the whole time, and it was awful! So I am going to use the dummies only in a crying emergency! But I think its worth it if it calms him down and makes him happy!

I am Formula Feeding, there was no guarantee that the blood thinner injections I am on would or wouldnt effect my milk, so we didnt want to take any risks! He is pretty happy on the bottle though, he put on 4 1/2 oz in 5 days! LOL

Yeah I think your idea of you putting more to the bills and your DH putting some into savings is a good idea! me and DH have never been the best with money, but since Charlie has arrived, we have been really good with money! Just realise there is more important things we need to spend money on like nappies and formula!

We are hoping to move and get a new car in the next few months, and fingers crossed, DH should be getting a £5k lump sum due to some other company stealing some client from him! So DH's company are suing this other company, and he will get this money which would be fab! We would be able to move straight into a new place and get a new car in one go LOL

Ohhhhhhhh that is amazing news!!!!!!! A little girl . See, I told you, Mothers instinct is always right!! LOL Awww I am so pleased for you both! Is your DH happy?

Oh I bet you are ssooooooo happy!!! What names did you have again?

xxx

 

[emzul]

H I think I may have beat you on the longest message.... mine has been sent to an Administrator to be checked before its put on! LOL I must have been proper rambling!!! xx

 

[youngwife20]

Gosh thats actualy really expensive considering most the baby does is sleep! and poo lol thats alot of money to just do that! wow

that job sounds really cool! does he work alot of hours or just normal full time?
AND wow as im reading the explination that sounds like reeeeeely hard work!!

have you watched friends with benifits? the woman mila cunes or whatever name is is a recruitment consultant but i didnt get it at first but now it makes sence lol thanks

ive never heard of ctc or wtc! whats that lol and i am easily confused lol but do you apply for smp with your matb form? or what? lol when did you appply? and when did you hand in your matb form?

aww wow that is amazing sounds like hes really feeding well!!

Does that mean your milk still comes in how do you get rid of it? pump and dunk? ( like pump it out then chuck it?)

me and hubby started saving for baby fund before i even got pregnant lol

my husband wasnt good at saving when we first got together but hes so good at it now lol hehe im amazing at saving ( mostly) apart from my one vice of getting taxis everywerre coz im so lazy which is so bad lol but im cutting down!

wowwwww 5 grand in one go!!! gosh thats awsome!!

and aww my mums so amazing shes opening a savings acount for the baby so when shes 18 she can access the money or i can give it to her. my mum is just so amazing she even got the carpet done and now we have laminate floorin ( i dont live at my mums but baby will spend alot of time there lol ) and the carpet was in a crap state from when the other owners had it and she was like " i dont want my grandchild crawling on this carpet" lol shes just so excited!!!

im hoping to pass my driving test before baby gets here so will need a car too! but nothing to expensive but nothing tro cheap to as i dont want it breaking down witrh a new born in the back seat!! so alot of expenses will be coming out so will for sure be spending less.

Have a works doo on saturday which im not loooking forward too! its at tiger tiger in town! gosh. all i can think is people staring at me saying whats a pregnant lady doing here lol. im going with another pregnant lady from work. but im only going for the buffet then im off home lol

and the name im keeping a secret till the birth lol il send it to you in an inbox as i dont want noeone stealing it lol

ahahahahahaha how funny! why would they send it to admin lol you did beat me!!

haha


have you been out much since charlies been born?

i cant believe you got on a tram like the day after he was born i would have got a blody taxi lol or sent my husband lol

i dont think il leave house for the first few weeks lol xxx

 

[emzul]

Gosh thats actualy really expensive considering most the baby does is sleep! and poo lol thats alot of money to just do that! wow

that job sounds really cool! does he work alot of hours or just normal full time?
AND wow as im reading the explination that sounds like reeeeeely hard work!!

have you watched friends with benifits? the woman mila cunes or whatever name is is a recruitment consultant but i didnt get it at first but now it makes sence lol thanks

ive never heard of ctc or wtc! whats that lol and i am easily confused lol but do you apply for smp with your matb form? or what? lol when did you appply? and when did you hand in your matb form?

aww wow that is amazing sounds like hes really feeding well!!

Does that mean your milk still comes in how do you get rid of it? pump and dunk? ( like pump it out then chuck it?)

me and hubby started saving for baby fund before i even got pregnant lol

my husband wasnt good at saving when we first got together but hes so good at it now lol hehe im amazing at saving ( mostly) apart from my one vice of getting taxis everywerre coz im so lazy which is so bad lol but im cutting down!

wowwwww 5 grand in one go!!! gosh thats awsome!!

and aww my mums so amazing shes opening a savings acount for the baby so when shes 18 she can access the money or i can give it to her. my mum is just so amazing she even got the carpet done and now we have laminate floorin ( i dont live at my mums but baby will spend alot of time there lol ) and the carpet was in a crap state from when the other owners had it and she was like " i dont want my grandchild crawling on this carpet" lol shes just so excited!!!

im hoping to pass my driving test before baby gets here so will need a car too! but nothing to expensive but nothing tro cheap to as i dont want it breaking down witrh a new born in the back seat!! so alot of expenses will be coming out so will for sure be spending less.

Have a works doo on saturday which im not loooking forward too! its at tiger tiger in town! gosh. all i can think is people staring at me saying whats a pregnant lady doing here lol. im going with another pregnant lady from work. but im only going for the buffet then im off home lol

and the name im keeping a secret till the birth lol il send it to you in an inbox as i dont want noeone stealing it lol

ahahahahahaha how funny! why would they send it to admin lol you did beat me!!

haha


have you been out much since charlies been born?

i cant believe you got on a tram like the day after he was born i would have got a blody taxi lol or sent my husband lol

i dont think il leave house for the first few weeks lol xxx

His hours are 8.30am til 7pm, he gets to finish at 6.30 on Thurs and 5 on Friday, but he does work later if he needs to, he is very comitted to it, which is great.... yeah its very confusing, he is always coming home and explaining things to me, and I just nod and act like I am following him LOL but its quite complex!

Yeah childcare is a huge cost, its no wonder so many women dont go back to work after they have a baby, it works out most are better off NOT going back! WTC are working tax credits, you get these if you return to work, and CTC are child tax credits, the less you earn at work, the more you can get, but since I am on £20k and DH is on £18k basics, we are at the higher end, so dont get much.... child benefit everyone gets, which is about £20 a week.

SMP my work sorted out, I just told them after my 12 week scan I was pregnant, when I wanted to leave and how long for etc (although you can always change these dates) and they sorted it, MATB1 form I had to get from the hospital because my MW was crap and never returned my calls about it! I gave it to my work when I was about 25 weeks....

Breast milk just goes after a few days if baby isnt taking it.... was pretty sore though LOL I was like Jordan for 2-3 days! But they went down after about 5 days, MW just said "dont stimulate them or your boobs will think baby is feeding and it will take longer to dry up!"

Aww bless your Mum, mine is the same, 1st grandchild so she is also totally over the top excited about him! DH's boss, who we have asked to be Godfather has said once we have him christened, he will put a grand into an account for him! Yeah have been out quite alot! Went for a chinese buffet when he was about 6 days old, been to Blackpool to see MIL, Shropshire to see my Mum, took him to my work last week and also met some friends for lunch on Friday too.... he sleeps the whole time when in the pram or carseat! LOL

I think the last reply I posted I put something about a book in it, and named the book and author, but the Admin said the author likes to sue forums who mention her book, so she has took that part out LOL xx

 

[youngwife20]

oh i cant get working tax credits until after baby is here. I work full time and stuff but i cant qualify till im 25!!! and neither can my husband till novemeber when hes 25


so how much do you think you and your hubby would need to earn to get the most out the child tax credit? because id work part time if it would mean i got more money because it is annoying that the harder you work the less you can get lol

and wow!! that is a really nice boss!

amd wow!! you really are amazing!! its great your getting out so much!! did you feel yourself and back to normal right after birth?

people always say how shit they feel for weeks lol and all the bleeding!! gosh i wont be going anywere . people compare postpartum bleeding to a blood bath!! scary.

you can inbox me the book name lol xx

are you gonan start your driving lessons again? im doing my lessons at the momment but i find it so tireing lol x

 

[emzul]

oh i cant get working tax credits until after baby is here. I work full time and stuff but i cant qualify till im 25!!! and neither can my husband till novemeber when hes 25


so how much do you think you and your hubby would need to earn to get the most out the child tax credit? because id work part time if it would mean i got more money because it is annoying that the harder you work the less you can get lol

and wow!! that is a really nice boss!

amd wow!! you really are amazing!! its great your getting out so much!! did you feel yourself and back to normal right after birth?

people always say how shit they feel for weeks lol and all the bleeding!! gosh i wont be going anywere . people compare postpartum bleeding to a blood bath!! scary.

you can inbox me the book name lol xx

are you gonan start your driving lessons again? im doing my lessons at the momment but i find it so tireing lol x

Oh yeah I think I remember seeing something about being 25 on the forms, but I am 27 so I ignored that bit LOL. I think you have to earn under £17,000 (slightly more, but its less than £18k) combined (or just one wage if only 1 of you is working!) to get more... and then obviously the less you earn, the more WTC or CTC you get? So even if I stop working altogether we still wont get more than £10.43 I dont think, because DH is on a £18k basic... but he doesnt have to include his commission luckily or we wouldnt get a penny!

Its not alot, but its an extra £40 a month we wouldnt have so I am not complaining, after all, we chose to have a baby and shouldnt expect money left right and centre! LOL

After the birth I felt ok, bit sore and when I had to go back to the hospital the day after discharged I did feel a bit light headed! But all in all, I have been good, but I am one of them that wont just relax and do nothing... DH keeps moaning at me because Charlie will nap a few times a day, like now he has been down since 1, just over 2 hours... and I have been doing housework!! DH says "did you have a sleep today when he did?" and I say "well I was going to, but then realised the washing had finished, so I hung that to dry... then I noticed he only had 3 bottles made up, so I did the rest.. and by then he was awake so I didnt have time!" LOL since Chris has been back at work, I havent had a nap in the daytime and he gets annoyed at me, because I get up with Charlie every night when Chris has work the next day, I dont think its fair on him to have to go to work knackered, so I volunteered to do all the getting up during the week......

But I am going to my Mums on Friday til Sunday, so she said she will have him for most of Sat so I can get some sleep, bless her! But I know I wont, because I am arranging to see friends LOL xx

 

[emzul]

I want to do my lessons, but I dont know when I will be able to find the time now?! I would do one of them intense courses, but I would have to go back to my Mums to look after Charlie, or put him in daycare while I did it.... so I dont know, will perhaps see how DH commission goes, he said when he has lots of commission coming in, he would pay for a course.... just means would probs need to pay for a weeks childcare too while I did it!

xx