geekie- that's such crap. she shouldn't have ever said that. you can do it any way you decide if you prepare and set your mind to it. but it also doesn't mean you are weak using gas and air, an epidural, a birthing pool, hypnotherapy, Lamaze, medications, or have a C-section. these are all just tools to get a baby here. childbirth is something that takes a strong woman no matter what path that takes. shame on her!
I am not sure I want to know if I pooped lol. I do know I was there for a friend when she gave birth and she pooped. she heard them drop it in the bucket and asked what it was and the dr lied!!! so I wouldn't be surprised if they wouldn't say anyways!
I pooped both times but the nurses are so used to it and so skilled at cleaning it up in a matter of seconds before most anyone notices and your doctor is too preoccupied with getting baby out to care. You almost never notice it yourself since you can't feel anything specific down there or see it happening and your OH or whoever is in the room either doesn't notice or doesn't care because they're too busy watching baby's head crowning.
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She says I'm too weak. Mind you, she isn't a physician, but it really took the wind out of my sails if you know what I mean.
. I have a great sense of peace these days. Hope it lasts 
