MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[ProfWife]

Temp bottomed out today (97.13) and the opk went +...

I'm glad my body appears to be running on track for a change!

 

[ClandestineTX]

FX for both of you!!!


@Profwife: we aren't worried about my number being "high" as it was still slowly climbing last time we checked it. It's on the way down, may have just started to fall, so it's OK for now. It can take up to 40 days for it to completely drop to zero, which is frustrating, but no cause for concern.

 

[ProfWife]

Wow. Still hoping you can go through this naturally without all the extra. You're a strong woman.

 

[Hopeful2014]

@Lazydaisys Good luck with ovulation and with tomorrow's meeting.

@ProfWife Fingers crossed!! I hope this is it!


AFM I'm recovering from the flu. My sister-in-law's family spread it through my husband's parents and then it got to us. Ugh. It was horrible. I'll spare you the details, but I was sick in all the ways. I've started feeling better today and was able to eat a little more and walk the pup. AF started today, which is no surprise because we all know she likes to show up at the worst times. However, this will be the last cycle that we will not be ttc. It will feel good to get back to feeling like I have some control over it. Of course it will be quite scary as well. We're getting ready to watch the new Godzilla movie. I hope everyone is doing well.

 

[RaeChay]

So excited for you hopeful. Glad you're feeling better after the flu.

 

[newbie2013]

Thanks for the reminder - OPK time!!! Negative yesterday around this time, so will check today. Good luck!

 

[ClandestineTX]

@Hopeful: I wish for you that all of your misery (flu/AF) pass quickly. And I hope this cycle feels quick for you! FX!

 

[newbie2013]

Good luck hopeful!!

 

[ProfWife]

@Hopeful - Excited for the final countdown to begin! May it pass quickly!

 

[Lazydaisys]

Sorry you have been so poorly hopeful. Excited for you start ttc again xx

Meeting went ok. I hope to do frozen transfer next cycle. Hoping I and everybody else get bfps before then xx

My dh asked the dr why we are unexplained and we got a hour long biology lesson at degree level. One day when we are cuddling our baby we will laugh about when dh wished he hasn't asked... If fact it's making me laugh now. Lol xx

 

[Hopeful2014]

@RaeChay Thank you. I hope you are doing well.

@ClandestineTX Thank you. I hope that this time next month (or even next week) we are both in a better place with all involved.

@newbie2013 Thanks! Good luck to you! Did you keep up with the opks?

@ProfWife Thanks! It's so strange that this will be the last cycle not trying. It is like a final countdown. This time next cycle I will be trying to get myself into starting again. How are you?

@Lazydaisys Thanks. What were the highlights of his biology lessons?


AFM I'm still feeling off. I'm not sick anymore, but I'm not 100%. I still have body aches off and on. I'm tired by the end of the day. I've had to cut back on my steps because I can't keep up. I've read that the virus can make someone not feel completely better for up to ten days. I hope it's soon!

 

[Lazydaisys]

We got percentages of normal couple getting pregnant every month. Egg quality decline chart. DNA stuff. My body rejecting the embryo, embryo unable to attach, unexplained theories. Days of lining and hormone levels, it was all way above my intellectual capabilities. I got the main message, even with good sperm and a good egg that have fertilised there is still so much that can go wrong. All quite depressing.

My dh has been very quiet since the meeting. I'm beginning to think we were better not knowing. My positivity is wavering today. 35 percent chance with frozen 5 day blast is quite low. X


Sorry you are still poorly hopeful xx

 

[ProfWife]

35% may seem low! but it would only be 20-25% without ivf.

My doc has seen better rates of success with 5 day frozen blasts than 3-5 day fresh in recent years.

 

[Lazydaisys]

Thanks pro wife. I suppose I've just pinned all my hopes on the next attempt working so 35 percent is quite low in that respect. It's better to be realistic. I will just have to wait and see x

 

[ClandestineTX]

35% is better than a non-IVF cycle (e.g. the rest of us) - so take comfort in that!


Hopeful - I am giving myself a pass on my steps for the next two months. I have a dissertation to finish. I'm doing what I can, but not sweating any of it. And I might not be TTC with you in October, after all. Hubster and I have been talking this weekend and we might table this craziness until after the new year. I have too many professional opportunities next summer - one a possible conference abroad - and that might be more important to me at the moment. And maybe giving my body a break from my most recent failure will do it some good.

 

[melann13]

Clande- I hear ya! This whole- let's finish a dissertation crap is rough! I told DH on Friday that I'm going to start needing a few hours on the weekends to keep up. I hate bringing work home and I don't do it nearly as much as other grad students (I credit the fact that I was out working in the real world for a few years and learned to split my time accordingly), but now between preparing for teaching next semester, finishing my dissertation and applying for jobs for next fall, I need more time than exists! I have been only going into lab two days a week since Felicity was born and working at home 2 other days a week while she's at a sitter, but this week I'm going into lab every day as I have actual lab work that I need to do (my third chapter). That means the writing etc is getting pushed to "off work" time. Boo.

 

[ClandestineTX]

@melann13: it ain't for sissies, that's for sure! I spent the entire summer in the lab, FT. I have 5 studies (aka Chapters II-VI). Thankfully, I have submitted two chapters as manuscripts and the others have been written up as abstracts for scientific meetings (all presented, except Chapter VI), and as preliminary data for grant submissions - so it's written up (mostly) - my job right now is restructuring it so each chapter is a brief introduction, materials and methods, results, conclusions and discussion specific to that chapter - with global introduction and summary sections. I must have it done on or before October 15th. I am trying to get it done by October 4th. My defense date is at the end of next month - like people flying in from out of town and such, so no wiggle room at all! And I'm teaching MWF mornings! Right now, I'm working the same piece of each chapter at the same time - like M&M - all sample preparation in rapid succession, to keep the tone and language as uniform as possible. I'm still really excited about my project and my conclusions and the big picture, but there's still just so much left to do!

 

[ClandestineTX]

PS. I have no idea how you are doing all of this AND managing a LO. Months like this one actually make me just a tiny bit grateful that I don't have kids yet. And I'm lazy, not applying for jobs. If the best available is a post-doc at my degree-granting institution and more adjunct work at the junior college I already teach at, that's good for me (for now).

 

[River54]

Lazydaisy - it was our second fresh ivf cycle that did it for us - our fs tried a diff protocol and whatnot, after seeing my response and outcomes of eggs etc after the first one. (we had no frozen - since they only freeze high quality day 5s)
I understand how frustrating/upsetting it is when the first one doesn't go as planned - after all our tests - we were still unexplained - the fs had a 'hunch' it could be egg quality - and had me on prescription supplements prior to the 2nd cycle for that.

You aren't alone - we also asked - and got a long explanation...
FX the one for the FET will be the golden one!

 

[melann13]

@Clandestine- fortunately I've been able to make the part time work so I still get time with LO and last night I worked from when she went to bed at 7pm until 9:30, so I get a little bit of time in that way too. My second paper was just accepted and will be published very soon. The third one is in process right now, but yesterday RNA extraction failed and we don't know why... so it's all new reagents and trying again on some pilot tissue. I'm planning to defend mid-Dec. The grad ceremony is the 21st I think and I want to walk since my undergrad institution was VERY small (800 students). My current university is 40K, so it's a whole different ball game and I want the fancy robes. I will still need to write the intro and discussion for the actual dissertation once this third project/paper is done, but I wrote a preliminary proposal that I defended last Dec (at 36 weeks prego and my committee liked it, so I'm going to use that as my framework for sure.
Have a great day!