MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[newbie2013]

Hahaha! You guys must be so sick of my drama over the last couple of weeks! Hopefully it will end soon

 

[kksy9b]

Not sick of it at all!!! You have been on this journey for so long and I think we all want to see you have your turn and get that beautiful baby so glad the spotting has eased up

 

[momwithbabies]

Yay for Spring Break! Mine will be here in a week! I hope that spotting goes away and stays away!

 

[ClandestineTX]

What are you talking about, my friend, newbie? You do realize profwife and I have only the tiniest lead on you, right? Been here from the start not closing this thread anytime soon, at least not until us, you, and Hopeful all take home LOs.

Regarding the progesterone supps, I had brown spotting from them too. I never took the back door approach, just put them a little lower. Hated all the discharge. They are actually more advanced than the PIO injections, developed to make it easier and more convenient for people to supplement. Absorption is comparable between the two, I think the supps have lower systemic side effects. I think I'd have preferred the shots, myself.

And no pressure, test if/when you feel comfortable. I do feel a little like I'm waiting for my own test on your behalf, but I'm strong and can wait!

 

[newbie2013]

Thanks ladies! Clande, you brought tears to my eyes. Your words made me giggle too. You're right - Hahahaha!

Back door option resulted in almost no discharge at all, which was a welcomed surprise. I don't think I can do it all the time, though - awful feeling. I also think it absorbed more as I've had nausea for a few hours after it. Unfortunately, if it stops me from spotting, I'll continue at least alternating (and making sure I insert lower to avoid hitting my cervix).

Just over 36 hours until the beta... still in my pajamas, so no POAS tomorrow. Will definitely buy one or two tomorrow to test before the beta (so I'm not waiting so desperately on Tuesday!).

Glad we're sticking together. You're all my biggest support through this.

 

[ProfWife]

Don't you dare worry about this supposed drama. This is called support...it's what those of us who really understand this journey do. You have been a huge support to me and all the other women here. It's a privilege to be here for you now.

With putting it in the "back door" as you put it, remember that it's absorbing much faster. That likely explains any nausea. I had to use normal suppositories for a while years ago (hemorrhoids), and it isn't overly pleasant, but if you make sure that they are inserted all the way and you won't get a bad of an uncomfortable feeling. I remember the weird feeling the first few times I used them, but that does go away.

I so hope you get a positive test in a few days. It would be such a beautiful thing to get to celebrate with you.

And like Clande said, we are not going anywhere any time soon. :-D

 

[newbie2013]

Hormones are really annoying! I feel so angry right now. Doesn't help that my mother in law is here right now either. She drives me nuts. I just called Dh who is on his way home from work to warn him that I'm seriously stressed. I did, however, buy some tests on my way home one earlier. Planning on doing one tonight and another in the morning so that the beta isn't too much of a shock either way. Going to lie down on the couch for a while...

 

[newbie2013]

Stark white negative after an almost 4 hour hold. Very disheartening. I know it Is not conclusive because it is a cheap, cheap test but I thought it would have shown something. A little over 12 hours until the lab opens and I plan on being their first customer. I hope the result doesn't take too long to come through. I'm expecting a negative beta, though. If it is, I'll try to make an appointment with my doc tomorrow to determine when to do a fet.

 

[ClandestineTX]

Hugs. Big, big hugs. Statistically speaking, FET has better odds.
What DPT are you?

 

[newbie2013]

I'm 12dp5dt today. Did another 4 hour hold (this time with almost no liquid intake) and another negative. As expected. Still 7.5 hours before the lab has the results back. I drove around trying to find another lab that could do it quicker but only came up with labs that would do it slower! Told DH that we'll have to wait until tonight. I actually think he's more disappointed that I am, but then, I've been expecting it to be negative for the last few days.

I've also already told DH that I didn't want to go through the whole IVF process again. We've got three frozen so hopefully one of those three will stick for us. I just don't think I could go through the whole thing again with stims and egg retrieval - if anything, that was more emotionally taxing for me that this two week wait. We've got three more chances. With three good looking blasts (Although this one was a good looking on as well!). I hope that my doctor gives the go ahead for a natural FET cycle soon, even this coming month if possible. Although if that happens, then DH and I need to make sure we have our preferences solidified in front of the doc because DH will probably be out of the country on the potential FET day - depending on when af actually starts (I'm suspecting sooner rather than later). I want to continue with a single transfer, but DH and I need to be 100% on the same page if it is going to happen when he's away. I'd prefer to do it this coming cycle, because I'm likely to be out of the country at the right time the following cycle.

Already moving on mentally... Preparing for the FET.

 

[kksy9b]

 

[ClandestineTX]

FET, especially if they will do it right on the back of a fresh cycle, does have better success rate. I think it might be the body getting primed during the fresh cycle, but not too much, which it needed to be for the retrieval.

I think it's reasonable to set limits with what you are comfortable with. I don't know if I ever could do IVF. We have already decided if something happens to this pregnancy, we will keep trying for 2016, but I don't know that I could do more than this. I think it takes just some type of incredible strength to put yourself through that with no guarantees, just the hope that it might work out. You are super strong, my friend, and I have you in my thoughts.

 

[newbie2013]

I never thought I would be able to do ivf either. Never crossed my mind that I would need to. But I surprised even myself by the way I have handled it so far. As I said, I don't want to do another fresh cycle, although Dh wants to try again if none of the frosties work. Easy for him to say - his part of the process is easy! I was thinking today that we will probably try a single transfer and if that doesn't work and we still have the other two, we might be as well putting them both back together. I'm pretty sure my doctor will push for two at the first fet but I'll resist as much as I can.

Results will be ready in less than three hours and I'll book an appointment to see the doctor as soon as the negative is confirmed. will let you guys know as soon as I can.

 

[ClandestineTX]

FX for whatever plan gets you a take-home BFP.

 

[newbie2013]

Negative beta as predicted. Doctor appointment on Thursday.

 

[ClandestineTX]

I'm sorry and extra sorry you have to wait until Thursday. All the waiting sucks.

 

[newbie2013]

This process is definitely a lesson in patience. I knew I'd have to wait until Thursday. He doesn't come to this clinic on Wednesday...

 

[RaeChay]

hugs, newbie. I'm sorry the fresh transfer didn't work out. I am kmfx for your FET!

 

[kksy9b]

I'm so sorry newbie i hope the FET brings you your bfp

 

[pathos]

sorry newbie.. tww is energy draining, life sucking and it feels forever. You will have your baby/babies and we will cheer for/with you.

Since you mentioned east/west - I remember a fertility doctor (at a conference) talking about how in Western European countries with cheap/free public health care, ivf success rates were really really low compared to those in the Middle East. It is not about tech, expertise but time and care invested in the procedure. It is all about reputation and competition of course.