MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[ProfWife]

So sorry this one didn't work out.

Our RE's office is considering switching to freezing all embryos unless only one results and is of questionable grade. Their rationale is the higher success rate with FET afterwards. I also think it has something to do with all the chemicals and stress the body is under during a stim cycle. (Out of the 7 IVF babies in my support group, 6 of them were from a FET...4 of those followed a failed fresh cycle - chemical or negative. The other two couples had all frozen without a fresh transfer. They just waited a month.) There's always hope.

Praying they can do it again as quickly as you're ready and that you and hubs will be on the same page for how many to try this time.

 

[athena87]

So sorry newbie. Sending hugs and prayers your way.

 

[momwithbabies]

Dang, I am so sorry to read this! Sending hugs your way!

 

[newbie2013]

Thanks ladies. I'm feeling better today than I didn't yesterday. I'm looking forward to seeing the doctor to to plan a way forward. I'm hoping to convince him to do the fet straight away. Mentally and emotionally, I'm ready, so hopefully physically I am too.

I've also read about fet being more successful... so hopefully!

 

[ClandestineTX]

Did you have your follow up yet?

 

[newbie2013]

Yes. I have to wait for my next cycle. It means I have to pull out of a work trip, but I'm ok with that.

 

[momwithbabies]

It's been quiet. Everybody doing okay?

Spring Break is in full swing at my house! We aren't doing anything special, but I've enjoyed hanging out with my kids.

On a serious note, my husband and I held each other and cried Saturday. I know that sounds kind of weird, but it felt like a break through. My grief over losing my baby has been intense lately, and coming up on a year, it's been tough to go through. Especially when everybody else has seemed to move on, if that makes sense. I think of my baby every, single day...I long for another baby to fill the hole in my heart. My husband is afraid to disappoint me. It took 5 years to conceive the last one, and I miscarried. I feel like my body failed us. We both broke down, voicing our fears and sadness. It felt comforting to know he still cares.

Sorry for the rant, but I pray every day for peace with whatever is meant to be. I think of you ladies often, and pray everything works out for all of us.

 

[ClandestineTX]

I'm hanging in. Will be 11 weeks on Friday, still so skeptical that this might *really* be it. Hubster is desperate to tell his people on April Fool's Day. I have been extremely luck to seemed to have dodged the MS bullet, but my fatigue is similar to the way I felt with full-blow unmedicated hypothyroidism - just super, super tired.

I am keeping you ladies here in my thoughts and I have my FX for you all.

 

[ProfWife]

Make sure they keep an eye on your thyroid. The fatigue was bad for me in first tri as well...2nd tri really does get better. Fatigue has returned for me in the third though...so has heartburn...

 

[ClandestineTX]

I have had it tested every 6 weeks, last time was March 1st. So far, it's holding perfectly. I did land a trip to a maternal-fetal-medicine specialist/ high-risk OB for my "advanced maternal age" (I'll be 35 in July) and my hypothyroidism, but that's not until March 30th. Will still be followed as usual by regular OB and midwife group, just get bonus appointments for those.

 

[momwithbabies]

Praying the thyroid problems stay away! That wouldn't be fun to add to the "normal" pregnancy things.

 

[athena87]

I'm almost 15 weeks now, I have to have my thyroid tested too but not because I have issues, but because my mom, sister, and grandmother all have issues with theirs.

Clandestine hope it stays that way, I dodged the morning sickness bullet too. I was so sick last time, the whole time I was afraid it would happen again.

Prowife how are you?

Momwithbabies how are you?

 

[kksy9b]

momwithbabies- i'm glad you are able to find comfort and support with your hubby and to know that he is still hurting too. it's not odd at all to feel safe to grieve with him and hopefully by doing so, you are able to start the process of moving forward. i pray for you that one day soon you will have your sweet rainbow in your arms

profwife- when are you due again hun?

clande- glad you were able to avoid MS! Do you feel comfortable announcing in a few weeks or do you want to wait a bit longer? you are so close to second tri!

athena- i can't believe you're 15 weeks already! pregnancies on bnb just seem to fly by. are you going to find out the gender or keep it a surprise?

newbie- how are you doing?

AFM, all is well. We decided to wait one more cycle before trying- there is just a lot going on right now and DH needed a little more time. It will work out well though. DS's 2nd birthday is coming up and i've been up to my eyeballs in preparations (throwing a big toy story party and doing all the crafting myself). We also have family pictures, my parents coming to visit, a dinner with friends at our house and establishing a new structure with DS's speech therapy. I'll be set to ovulate about a week and a half after the party and it will be much more relaxed (also right at DH's bday-- he has no complaints about having a fun bday present lol). I also hit my weight loss goal this morning!! I've officially lost 70 pounds since DS was born and I feel so much better and healthier going into the next pregnancy!

 

[ClandestineTX]

Kksy, amazing on the weight loss! As far as "announcing" April 1st is the start of second trimester, he's only got a few people left really, most of his family is deceased. We aren't doing any big announcement, not putting anything online. Think we will tell my mom the 31st of March then his handful of people April 1st. Work will find out when they have to, but not before!

And my hypothyroidism is controlled with 112 mcg of Synthroid! I'm on a higher dose than folks twice my age!

 

[kksy9b]

thank you clande! it's definitely been a journey but i'm really proud of my husband and I (he has lost 48 pounds). We are healthy now and its an amazing feeling.

best of luck telling your families...it makes it more real i think when others get to join in on your excitement and preparations

 

[athena87]

Kksy9b we find out the gender on April 19, which is my sisters birthday. We are planning to do a gender reveal party. I have strong feelings that we are having a girl. I've had 2 dreams, one at the ultrasound with the tech telling us it's a girl, and then one at the reveal party and we open the box and pink balloons come out. I haven't decided how I want to do the reveal though. Congrats to y'all on the weight loss. My husband joined a gym at the beginning of the year and did a 6 week program and lost 20 lbs. He has made a lot of changes and they are working for him.

Clandestine glad it's under control! My mom has grave's disease and had to have her thyroid removed a few years back because they couldn't get it under control.

 

[pathos]

I kind of started to fancy all this ttc and pregnancy talk. You are bad influence

 

[ProfWife]

kk - congratulations on meeting your goal! That's awesome!

I'm doing pretty well. I'm exhausted, but my long-term sub job ends tomorrow. My replacement (who was on maternity leave) for the course I developed and taught the last 6 years will be back the day after Spring Break. I'm SO relieved to go back to sub status. I'm actually on "restricted" status (English dept and emergency situations only). I'm 10000000% fine with this.

Little girl (Anne) is moving and grooving regularly. She has the hiccups right at this moment. We were given a clear bill of health except for my iron being low. So, I'm on some supplements for the time being.

We're considering trying to get our 4D ultrasound session soon and maternity pictures late this month or early next month. All our childbirth/breastfeeding/CPR classes are next month and I just got my materials for childbirth labor options. SO much to do before she arrives!

Clande - as annoying as having the extra appointments are, I think you'll love having the extra perk of bonus ultrasounds to see your little one growing.

 

[momwithbabies]

I'm almost 15 weeks now, I have to have my thyroid tested too but not because I have issues, but because my mom, sister, and grandmother all have issues with theirs.

Clandestine hope it stays that way, I dodged the morning sickness bullet too. I was so sick last time, the whole time I was afraid it would happen again.

Prowife how are you?

Momwithbabies how are you?

15 weeks?!?! That's exciting! Congratulations!!!

I'm doing okay. Started AF today, but I didn't mope around and hurt too bad. Last cycle was a bad one with debilitating cramps. We shall see how the night goes...thank you for asking about me! I appreciate that, so much!

 

[momwithbabies]

momwithbabies- i'm glad you are able to find comfort and support with your hubby and to know that he is still hurting too. it's not odd at all to feel safe to grieve with him and hopefully by doing so, you are able to start the process of moving forward. i pray for you that one day soon you will have your sweet rainbow in your arms

profwife- when are you due again hun?

clande- glad you were able to avoid MS! Do you feel comfortable announcing in a few weeks or do you want to wait a bit longer? you are so close to second tri!

athena- i can't believe you're 15 weeks already! pregnancies on bnb just seem to fly by. are you going to find out the gender or keep it a surprise?

newbie- how are you doing?

AFM, all is well. We decided to wait one more cycle before trying- there is just a lot going on right now and DH needed a little more time. It will work out well though. DS's 2nd birthday is coming up and i've been up to my eyeballs in preparations (throwing a big toy story party and doing all the crafting myself). We also have family pictures, my parents coming to visit, a dinner with friends at our house and establishing a new structure with DS's speech therapy. I'll be set to ovulate about a week and a half after the party and it will be much more relaxed (also right at DH's bday-- he has no complaints about having a fun bday present lol). I also hit my weight loss goal this morning!! I've officially lost 70 pounds since DS was born and I feel so much better and healthier going into the next pregnancy!

Thank you for the encouragement. I hope one day we can have another one. I'm interested in adopting, but my husband doesn't seem to be. Plus, it's super awkward to bring up...I have no idea why, but it is.

That's some amazing weight loss! Congratulations!!! You must feel and look great! I seriously need to stop eating so much, but I have been more active lately, which is rare for me, lol! It's tough to take care of yourself sometimes! But as moms, we have to