MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[kksy9b]

Thank you everyone for the well wishes! i'm going tomorrow for a consult and get the order for a blood draw. As long as those numbers come back okay (not sure if they are doing a second set or not), we will start announcing this weekend to family in town and next weekend to our out of town family who we are visiting.

Newbie- how are you feeling hun? good luck with telling your mom!

gabby- so nice to hear from you! hope all is well!!

melann- yes, i've heard around 6 weeks or so you start getting the hook effect. you can dilute your urine to get a positive still though

profwife- hope you start getting some relief soon i was checked from 36 weeks on and spotted every time but no more than that. At 36 weeks, I was 1 cm 50% effaced, 37 weeks 2 cm 50%, 38 weeks 3 cm 50% and my doctor told me she didn't think i would make it to my due date. I was due on April Fools and my little guy played a nice joke on all of us. I stayed 3cm 50% for 3 more weeks. At 41 weeks I was 4cm 70%. I didn't go into active labor for 4 more days and he was born at 41+5. You really just NEVER know...baby will come when baby wants to come!

 

[newbie2013]

I'm feeling good, but tired after a night of insomnia. So happy it is teacher appreciation week and we've given everyone the afternoon off (well, leaving at the same time as the kids instead of having a faculty meeting). I'll be heading home for a nap!

I posted my tests from the last three mornings on my journal. Today's Is definitely darker!

 

[RaeChay]

Profwife- never had bleeding with checks- not even with membrane sweeping (though this time I did bleed after a pap). I also wasn't remotely dilated until listeriosis put me in labor at exactly 40 weeks- and even then, only a fingertip until I got pitocin.

Sex won't put you into labor at 35 weeks. There's a decent enough chance it won't at 40 weeks either

 

[ClandestineTX]

Kksy, you are far more confident than I am! I'm 18 weeks on Friday and still only barely telling people! And not even all!

 

[kksy9b]

I think if we had as hard of a journey as you did, I would be hesitant as well to announce. Praying that in the coming weeks (especially after 24 weeks) you can feel more confident

 

[kksy9b]

So the blood work ordered wasn't for betas. They will check progesterone but otherwise just the new OB panel (HIV etc). The lab was super busy so will go later this week to get it done. I had a good progression on the FRER and now I want to go tell everyone! First appt set up for one month from now when I'll be 9 weeks.

 

[melann13]

I feel like it goes in streaks a little bit. Early on I was ready to run down the halls telling everyone. Now that tomorrow is 10wks I kind of want people to mind their own business. I think that I've also told most people in my immediate proximity though, which makes life SO much easier. I know my students were talking about it (a nice Chem prof who knew came to tell me that she overheard them debating it in her lab , so it was a relief to tell them and just be able to get dressed in the morning without being paranoid about whether they'd be able to tell. Yesterday I wore a more fitted shirt and when I came downstairs, DH says, whoah! Just putting it out there huh? I said yup... not going to bother trying to hide it, let em talk. There are still 4 people in my dept (out of 16) that I haven't told directly. I just don't want to have the conversation with 2 of them because I think they're sexist. The other 2 I have very limited interaction with and seems strange to just go knock on their doors and say "hey, guess what?"

 

[newbie2013]

I can't even begin to imagine what it will feel like to tell people that I'm pregnant. DH and I were talking yesterday and i said those words for the first time. I told him that my af was due yesterday and obviously hadn't come. He asked me "what does that mean?". I answered "it means I'm pregnant". Unfortunately he was referring to something else completely - apparently not listening to me!

I'll be going in for my beta tomorrow, results in about 24 hours. We'll be going over to see my MIL briefly and will pick up the results on the way home. DH leaves very early Friday morning, so our celebrations - if there are any - will be short lived.

The main question that's going through my head is - What now? I know I'll have a beta tomorrow, but I've never allowed myself to think of what happens after that. Never asked the doc what his protocol is for after that. After I get the beta, I'll send him a message telling him and will ask him what's next...

 

[RaeChay]

newbie - my guess (just from being around baby boards) will be a referral to an MFM and setting up ultrasound around 6-7 weeks? but it may work differently, since you are in a different country.

I'm just so excited for everyone

Hopeful, I'm still sending you good baby vibes!

 

[ClandestineTX]

Newbie: It depends on your clinic. Mine would have monitored me through first trimester then transferred to OB. Since we did it without the RE, I only got in before eight weeks because I was a new OB patient, and even then was a nurse visit and didn't see the doc until 10 week! You will wait a lot. Don't be scared if you get another spot or two. Try not to be scared. I had very minor spotting in the 5th week that ruined most of my first trimester for me. Ask when you go in for the labs or the results for the next step and how they proceed if things continue to be well.

Still no show here, but I can feel a muscular lump. I think the relaxin kicked in today, because all my joints are achy. I'm still quite selective about telling people. Still keeping things off Facebook, probably until after delivery!

 

[newbie2013]

Beta is 1252! I'm 12dp5dt! Doc said to come for a scan after two weeks, but I think I'll go for another beta on Saturday to set my mind at ease. I guess I'm officially pregnant!

 

[kksy9b]

yay!!! amazing number!!

 

[RaeChay]

Twins!

 

[melann13]

Yay!

 

[ProfWife]

That is a REALLY strong number! Congratulations!!

 

[ClandestineTX]

Fantastic beta! How would you feel if it were one versus two or the other way around? I remember you being apprehensive about twins in the past.


Kksy: What's your doc's plan after the progesterone and other panel?

 

[newbie2013]

Hmm... I'm not actually sure! Twins scare the hell out of me, but one baby also scares the hell out of me!! Haha! I *think* I/we can cope with twins, but any more than that would be too much. One would be good because things are less complicated, both with the pregnancy and afterwards, but I would like two kids and I'm not sure I can go through the whole IVF process again (I know I have a frozen emby, but there's no guarantees with that). If I had greater support here (DH's family are not generally helpful, but then I have never needed them to be), then I'd be more excited at the prospect of twins. If I lived close to my mum, for instance, it would be different. As it is, I already know that I'll be a working mum, but the baby would be with me at work with a day-nanny looking after him/her, so working, with limited support and twins - gulp!

 

[kksy9b]

It will all work out exactly like its supposed to newbie. It will be a huge adjustment whether there is one or two. If there are twins, it will be all you know caring for them so will seem like normal, if that makes sense?

Clande- I'm going to go get my draw done today and then I have my first appointment woththr doctor on 6/4 (ill be 9 weeks).

Question for you all- I was on vitex prior to getting pregnant. I asked the doctor and she said it was fine to continue but I'm not sure if I'm comfortable with it or not. I've seen a lot of conflicting information to its affects. Do you all have any experience with this?

 

[newbie2013]

Just noticed your profile pic, kksy. That's so cute! Love the tshirt!

 

[gabbygabz]

newbie! Excellent number and not for nothing, very in line with where I was beta wise with my 2 beans. Like others have said, it will work out the way it is supposed to but for some relief on the prospect of twins, I am a working attorney and my husband is a guidance counselor, our girls have been with a day time nanny since 4 months old and we have very very limited family support and we are making it work! It would be a lie to say it hasn't been challenging, but there's a strength in doing it that is empowering and really, you will be continually shocked at what you're capable of whether it's one baby or two! And yea, if you want two kids (like I did) there's a real efficiency to not having to take the IVF road again! Either way, so so happy and excited for you and will keep following along!