MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[newbie2013]

Thanks for the confidence boost, gabby. I need to get my head straight and not get too far ahead of myself. I need to take one step at a time...

 

[ProfWife]

If it helps, I've also seen people with a high number and only a singleton. So, it really can go either way.

And either way, I'm super excited for you!

 

[newbie2013]

Thanks Profwife. I'm good either way. I'm just excited that I have proved I can actually get pregnant. First time ever, so that's a bonus. Whether it is twins or a singleton, whether it lasts to a successful delivery or doesn't, I'm still happy to know I can get pregnant. That's a big relief. One step at a time should become my motto because I need to keep reminding myself to do that.

 

[kksy9b]

i love your motto

went and got my blood draw done today. thankful that charles sat super super still on my lap or she wouldnt have been able to take it. next up is taking my last frer (possibly ever as this is likely our last baby ) sometime next week, probably Monday. Then just wait for my first appointment in early June!

 

[ProfWife]

Deleted...just needed to vent...

 

[momwithbabies]

Yay, Newbie!! Congratulations and best wishes!!!

 

[newbie2013]

Thanks momwithbabies! How are you doing?

Profwife - why did you delete your vent!? I'm happy to read someone else's vent - I've written enough of my own!! Vent away...

 

[newbie2013]

Second beta back - 3015 @ 14dp5dt! Doubling time of about 39 hours

Still thinking it is high, considering I'm now roughly 19dpo...

 

[ClandestineTX]

Doubling time is perfect!

 

[ProfWife]

Doubling time is great! That's terrific! However many there are, they are nestling in nicely!

I deleted the vent because I just sounded like a whiner...I'm just battling some really bad feelings of being let down but simultaneously inadequate. Just doesn't feel like I'm really high on the priority list for my husband right now, and his little remarks are cutting very deeply - yet it doesn't matter how hurt I am...he's right and that's the end of the true discussion. My opinion, my view, doesn't seem to matter.

 

[athena87]

Newbie with ds my hcg was 400 at 19 dpo and 800 at 21 dpo. They didn't do one this time. You're numbers are terrific!

Prowife I'm sorry things are rough, hope they get better soon.

 

[momwithbabies]

Thanks momwithbabies! How are you doing?

Profwife - why did you delete your vent!? I'm happy to read someone else's vent - I've written enough of my own!! Vent away...

I'm doing well. Just started Weight Watchers and got a FitBit for Mother's Day (which is today in the U.S. - I wasn't sure if it's the same everywhere else, lol). I'm not overweight, but I eat like crap and you can see my rolls more and more. I'm hoping to feel better about myself. I'm starting off great on day 2, but we shall see if I can keep up this enthusiasm.

Your numbers sound great! I know your mind is going a thousand miles a minute, which is just preparing you for motherhood

 

[momwithbabies]

ProfWife: I hope everything is okay. I know my husband and I have fought many times about him putting work before family. Yes, please feel free to vent - heaven knows I have plenty of times. But you just need to.

It is so frustrating when they don't seem to get it. I am the worst to offer advice, nor did you ask for it, but know that I'm here to listen.

 

[ProfWife]

Thanks, ladies.

It came down to a major communication breakdown...

I thought he was going to be with me all day today. Even though our daughter isn't born, we both think of this as my first Mother's Day (US, of course). So, I had one set of expectations. He thought that our picnic out on Friday with a mini-maternity photo session (our photographer didn't have the time to take all the ones I wanted before a major storm rolled in and ended our session) was our "Mother's Day outing" so that he could work today while I went back to my hometown to see my own mom and sisters solo.

It was just really frustrating and heartbreaking because I had these visions of roses, quality time, etc. ...something to really celebrate my first Mother's Day while he thought it was okay to decide about 12 hours beforehand to do something "special" (he still doesn't seem to understand that when he takes time to actually PLAN something, it makes me feel special...when I feel like it's a last minute, seat of the pants decision that I end up planning half of there's a bit of the "magic" that is lost...we've dealt with this since our second anniversary, and it still doesn't seem to really sink in, even 7 years later).

We ended up working it out. I'm still a bit unhappy with him over the fact that it seems like everything related to our marriage or relationship becomes a last minute thought while he plans out everything else in life in meticulous detail. Even the card (which he bought earlier this week) was written in and signed less than 2 minutes before he gave it to me before church...

It just comes down to thoughtfulness. I don't feel like he invests a whole lot. Part of that is because (unknown to him), I've already been working on his Father's Day stuff (June 5) for almost a month. We're due right about that time, so I know I won't have the energy to do anything then.

Let's just say it was a bit of a mess...

 

[kksy9b]

i hope that once she is here he will re-prioritize you and the family.

 

[ProfWife]

I think it will be quite a wake up call for him. Don't get me wrong, please. He is a wonderful man who has a heart of gold. He just also has a lot of things he wants to do in life to improve our situation, but I don't think he realizes that I'd rather have him than any of the material things his advancing career could ever give us. I'd rather give up our pretty cushy life and have him than have a bigger budget or home but miss him.

In other news...I just found out I'm GPS negative! No antibiotics for me! So thankful as the most common ones that wouldn't hurt our Anne I'm highly allergic to.

 

[newbie2013]

I totally understand what you mean, Profwife. I hope it was a wake up call for him. And I hope he does reconsider his priorities. I'm glad you shared your frustrations with us. I hope it helped.

All is good with me. I finally got a bit more sleep last night and I'm going out with some girlfriends after work today, which I'm looking forward to. It will be hard not telling them because they've been such a support to me over the last few years, but I'm not ready to share this news with them yet. I may see them once more before I travel to Australia in June for a holiday, so I think I can keep my mouth shut until after I get back (I'll be about 16 weeks by then).

 

[kksy9b]

Yay for GBS negative! I had it with DS and am hoping to not have it this time...that IV was horrible.

And I totally get it. My husband can be the same way and honestly, part of it is something that is incoded into a mans DNA. They have this primal instinct to provide for their family. What they have to learn though is balance. I think when she is here it will be a wake up call for him, or at least I hope so. The first year is HARD and can be so so so difficult on a marriage as you learn to adjust. I would continue to voice your concerns, Dont keep it in. If you do, it will be exponentially worse when she is here and pp emotions and lack of sleep are thrown in. I would tell him directly what you need from him and expect from him once she is here. It will all work out hun in the end and I hope he comes around soon for you.

Newbie- have fun with your outing!

 

[newbie2013]

Outing was fun, but I made the big mistake of eating like I normally would - we go all out! Soup, big main meal and I was at my limit. I'm already bloated badly, so that didn't help. Then we decided to go to a chocolate dessert place and I almost threw up. I didn't have anything. I just couldn't stomach any of it. Even looking at their's made me feel sick... Chocolate is my favourite...

 

[ProfWife]

Give it some time. You'll be able to adjust your meal expectations (smaller portions of the things you love...you get a wider variety). Once you're stuffed, nothing looks good, even if it is your all-time favorite!

There's not much room for food in my stomach at this point, but if I'm careful, I can still get the variety of tastes I love in smaller (but often more frequent) doses. I'm glad I'll be back to eating normally by the summer. I tend to almost gorge on sweet watermelons during the hot summer months. ;-)