MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

Sorry to hear this newbie. Hope things look up for you soon. I do think it's possible. I found out today that my best friend is expecting #2. 2 years ago they were to the IVF point with their fertility after several years of trying. After all the tests/meds, they were told that IVF was the only way, and while they contemplated they went off all meds to save clomid cycles for egg retrieval. They ended up pregnant that cycle. She texted me today that even though their LO is just under a year, she is 10wks with #2. They are in complete shock as they were not undergoing any treatments as of yet. I do know it stings. She is very aware of others' pain, as I think most LTTCs are. Sad that your friend wouldn't be more understanding. My friend hasn't told anyone yet as our other friend is pregnant with #1 and she doesn't want to steal any of her spotlight, which is sweet. She only told me today, because I told her that I was newly pregnant and asked her to pray for us.
I hope that time flies by until you hubby comes home.

A blessed Easter to everyone!
 
I'm so sorry I was so negative the other day. Sometimes it is just too much... counting down for cd1 to wait for cd9-10 so I can go in for my first scan for my fet... cd22 and counting.
 
not long at all!!

i'm 9dpo today and so far BFN. still plenty of time
 
Negative days are very much allowed, Newbie. I had to take a massive break from FB after our MC.

kksy, certainly lots of time! I got BFPs with my daughter and this one on 11dpo. This time I took it at night on 11dpo and it was quite faint.

I had an HCG draw on Tuesday at 19dpo (second is today) and it was over 2000.
 
@Clandestine,
Massive congrats! I saw on a previous post that you're still in academia...
I made the jump to a faculty position this past fall. Good luck to you!
 
@Clandestine,
Massive congrats! I saw on a previous post that you're still in academia...
I made the jump to a faculty position this past fall. Good luck to you!

Congrats on your appointment! I'm still a postdoc, making a push for a faculty promotion now. Not ideal, but circumstances came up which made it better than I expect my chances will be for awhile. Meeting next week should give me some insight. Second trimester starts tomorrow, so hoping this gets sorted before the cat is out of the bag. Have only told my work bestie and she's kept it quiet so far.
 
That's impressive. I already had to tell my lab manager and a TA, and I'm only 5 weeks. We were going to be using something hazardous in a lab, and I needed to explain to my TA how to handle it and take care of that part of the protocol with the students so that I could be MIA for awhile. Wouldn't you know that they spilled it, so the lab manager had to clean it up and was mighty curious as to why I wasn't supervising my own lab. Rather awkward, especially for a new person... They were both cool about it. If my 8 week scan goes well (assuming my 2nd HCG comes back good from today), I'll likely tell my dept chair since it may require some adjunct arrangements. Still a long ways to go though, I'm not naive... just hopeful.
 
We have PCIA in our lab, thankfully I co-teach this term with a non-PhD instructor who is grateful for a little autonomy and confidence is her abilities. I've been able to let her run the lab those days, which has kept me away from it. She's my next to tell at work, but at least two more weeks when we get the genome test results back. May still swear her to secrecy though, I enjoy doing this without a ton of people in my business.

And I'm about to go to sleep for my last night in the first trimester. 13 weeks tomorrow morning. I never thought I'd see it.
 
I'm excited for your FET newbie. You're allowed to feel (and very much should allow yourself to feel) however it is you feel. We are here to support you.

And congrats melann13- glad you've been able to avoid the lab.

So happy for you to be in second tri, clandie!! Such a relief.
 
Thanks everyone.

Sometimes I can't even begin to wonder how my body hates me like it does... A few days before dh went away for three weeks, we got confirmation of the failed ivf. He's in transit on his way back home and I have been so excited about it. Honestly, we haven't dtd in such a long time, I can't remember when it was... It was some time before egg retrieval, which seems so long ago. I'm all set for tomorrow. I know he's going to be tired and jet lagged, but I'm ready to jump him as soon as he arrives! That was... until I went to the bathroom just now... I'm spotting :-( cd24... and just - it is just after midnight on cd24. Wtf? Doesn't my body realise that I want some fun before it takes control again? I know I should be excited because this means cd1 is imminent, and therefore, the fet is sooner than I expected... but a girl has needs! Just give me one more day! Not even that, he'll be home in a little over 12 hours! Frustration! (Sigh) At least it'll mean the fet should be soon :-)
 
Are you not allowed to DTD once CD1 hits? I've never been a fan so we dont, but my DH doesn't mind sex during my period.
 
I'm not a fan of it at all. I'd wait until it was finished.

Wow! Temps are looking good...
 
I'm the same way, it just isn't for me but my DH couldn't care less lol.

And thank you. I've not really had any symptoms besides more sensitive nipples and my CM Noy drying up like it usually does. But so far it's all BFNs on 10miu tests. Still time but I just really Dont feel like its our month. Wish I had started temping earlier so I couldnknow if the high temps are normal for me or not
 
Much to my great relief, the spotting held off for long enough for us to dtd! Now, I'm excited about cd1 approaching soon. Then, the count down to cd10 for my first ultrasound for ovulation. Then, fet 5 days later :-)
 
Happy to hear the witch cooperated for you! Not too much longer!
 
Glad to hear it Newbie! So nice to have DH home I'm sure.


AFM, anxiety here. I'm 5+2 today. Betas last week were great, >2000 on 4+5 and >4000 on 5+0, so just over doubling every 48 (I know it slows a little once they get high). However, after getting my second beta results yesterday, I replied to my doc because I thought they were going to check my progesterone, too. The on call doc when I ordered the labs didn't want to do it because he said low P is generally a sign of a unviable pregnancy, not a cause (unless you have a lot of history of course). But because my chart has a red flag on top that says I have an endocrinology PhD, they basically do whatever I ask them to so that I'll leave them alone (they don't need to know that I study hormones in bird brains, not human reproductive systems ;)
Anyway, my doc replied late yesterday and said they did run it and it was 13.2 and that it was normal and she'd see me soon. At 5:30 on a Friday. :(
I saw 13.2 and thought- oh crap. Baby is growing (hence the high betas), but my body isn't keeping up. With my daughter my progesterone was 21 on 11dpo. My previous doc said that anything under 15 was a concern. My best friend is 11 weeks and at 4 and 5 weeks her doctor gave her supplements to get her over 20. So now I'm feeling like my body is going to screw this up again. My first pregnancy was only my second month off BC, we saw a heart beat and then severe cramping started and it was gone. I ALWAYS questioned whether my body wasn't up for the task of producing enough progesterone so soon after being on BC. This time, I was going to give myself 6-9mos off pills before trying. I went off on January 6th, ovulated just days after that and got pregnant March 10th (from dtd 4 days earlier! (apparently NFP won't work for us)), so barely two months, though it was my 3rd ovulation off pills.
I feel like my nausea isn't nearly what it was a week ago (though I also wonder if I have gotten used to feeling a little off), and my uterus feels heavy (not like regular bloat), my chest doesn't hurt too bad this time, and raged like an SOB with my daughter, but perhaps after BFing for 17mos my boobs are like, "oh, you want us to be massive and swollen? Yeah we can do that..."
Anyway, I lost it a bit last night feeling like this is doomed. No spotting, no cramping (mild aches, but those don't concern me). I did reply to my doc (I know she won't see it til Monday), just asking for a little patience because my MC was so hard on my husband and I. I've only met her once, we just moved across state lines last summer, so I feel like I have no rapport with her, and she probably just thinks I'm psycho.
I asked for some clarification as to the reason different docs expect such different progesterone levels and to also explain that I understand that many pregnancies just aren't viable and bolstering them with exogenous progesterone is just delaying the inevitable. But I also asked if we could do another draw at 6 weeks (on Thursday) to see if numbers are increasing, and if HCG is and P isn't, that we consider supplementing given the BC stuff I mentioned above. I'm sure I'll probably be black-listed from the practice, but I promised that I'm really not usually a high-maintenance patient and that once I got past my 8wk US last time with my daughter I never pestered my doc again, just routine appts.
Anyway, thank you ladies so much for allowing me to rant. I need to work right now and prepare lectures for Monday, but I feel like I can't move on from this without getting it out. Today I feel nauseous and my boobs feel huge, so I thank God for that, and pray that it continues. I never thought I could appreciate an online forum as much as I do. You women are amazing and I am in awe of your perseverance. For that reason, I thank God for you as well. If you can spare a moment of your prayers for me, it would mean the world.
 
Newbie: Well done on non-ttc dtd and FX for quick time passage to FET!

Oh Melann... I went off the rails during week five too. Had a scan saw an embryo in the uterus with a heartbeat at 5w6d and started chilling out. Your reaction post-MC is unfortunately normal, but will pass. I wish I had better advice, but just try to stay busy and not to borrow trouble. Exercise has also helped me a lot!
 

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