Hi Girlies
HUGs TO YOU ALL xxxx
I think this maybe a LONG post
I have suffered from MH issues since i was 18 ish, anxiety, depression, social anxiety, self harm, PTSD I been on nearly every antidepressant going, had counselling, stress management, cbt EMDR am currently having sessions with a mental health nurse weekly for mindfulness ( I refused to go to a group) and see my psychologist and MH nurse once a week too. I have been under the crisis team several times.
Since having LO it has got worse, I have severe PND and psychosis and often hear voices ( been on different meds but none stop the voices) I am TRYING to learn how to "control" them. The end of last year I was hospitalized for 10 weeks in a mother and baby unit I barley recognized DH or LO
couldn't look after me let alone LO. They had to feed me at first. It was a heartbreaking time.
would love to say I have been better since coming out but its an ongoing battle-I wander out of the house in the middle of the night and the police have brought me back finding me in a "confused state" have constant panic and anxiety attacks. i have had to surrender my driving licence to the DVLA and am not likly to be allowed it back anytime soon.
I am afraid it has effected my ability to be a mum, and that breaks my heart I have not been on my own with LO, more than 15 mins since last sep/oct time. It effects my every day life-the furthest I have been on my own since last Aug is to the library- 4 houses up and to LO nursery 7 mins walk away, and managed to do the shopping in a supermarket while DH and Lo was in the car outside (LO was asleep). That is it. I have a carer 2 1/2 days a week, and am just adding another one 3 x 3 hour s a week to take me out to the gym. LO goes to nursery 2 days a week, cause I feel they can look after him better than I can-Its hard to be this honest.
I have been on some pretty strong med and am on sleeping tablets, I have got up to go to LO in the night and fallen over stair gates and cats! ( sounds funny but the bruises arnt) DH mostly takes over the care of LO at night now _he still often wakes up after sleeping through for 2 months! Although am in the middle of a meds change and have been managing to get up with him so feel a bit more like a mum.
i struggled with motivation to wash and dress myself let alone look after the house and cook and look after LO.
When out shopping with my LO, I look at mum carrying children and putting them in the trollet chatting to them and carrying out there normal everyday lifes and thing "why cant I just do that"
To make it worse I worked as a nursery nurse for almost 10 years a nanny for 1 1/2 where I looked after a 7 month old did 14 hour days and was fine. Give me my own baby and I cant cope!
So while it has effected me looking after LO- It proves from all the post here, it dose not make YOU a bad parent.
I just wanted to let anyone who has MH problems you are not alone.
Ill come back and post on here if its ok?
xxxx