Mid June and July Firecrackers Group Due June/July 2017!

[808malia]

For my delivery it will just be myself and my husband... I just wouldn't be comfortable any other way Anyone else can wait in the waiting room, lol!

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

808 im the same way.. I only want my husband in there for delivery... I want that moment to just us... Then family came in during the two hour recovery.

 

[lesondemavie]

Just DH in delivery for sure!

Also I passed my glucose tolerance test!!!

 

[DobbyForever]

Woot!! Congrats!

I wanted SO and my mom but both backed out. I'm not amused. I think I can guilt my mom into it lol but SO is hardcore nope call me when it's skin to skin time lol

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Leson congrats!! One hurdle down.

 

[Betty.Rubble]

With DD I had BD and my mum in with me but BD left to have a sleep and something to eat

This time it will be OH and maybe my godmother who is a midwife if she can get here.

 

[PrettyInInk42]

At this point, it's looking like it'll be BD and my mom in the room with me. I've had a couple other friends (one who's a doula, one who's already had 2 kids and who I've known for 12 years) offer to be there with me, if they are free and can get to the hospital in time (they live an hour away). I told them that's fine, as long as they stay where they can't see my lady bits. lol. Plus, it helps to have more people for pics and video.

So, BD told 3 of his co-workers the news yesterday. They went out after work for food and to watch the hockey game and I was free, so I joined them. They were all pretty surprised, but very happy for us. After 2 of the guys left, the one that remained said to let him know when the shower was (for him and his wife to attend) and asked if we had a registry. A short while after that, he just said "you know, I'm bad at keeping secrets and surprises, so I'll tell you now, I'd like to get you a set of nice cookware cuz you'll be eating at home a lot more now". I thanked him and BD kind of didn't know what to say and was feeling guilty for even thinking of accepting the gift.

I've been finding out a lot of interesting info about BD recently, even before I told him I was pregnant. He's told me that when he was young, his dad would be in the basement, drinking, and his mom would usually be somewhere else in the house, doing whatever. And when they split (when he was 5/6), his mom was a single working mom, so he didn't get too much face time with her. And, on more than one occasion, his father would turn up to the house (smelling like alcohol) to take him for the weekend and his mom would turn him away. He joined a baseball team as a kid, but never really made friends and he never saw any friends from school outside of school. He thinks this is why he has emotional issues and problems making connections with people. So, I told him that I had a good example of what to do as a parent (cuz of how great mine were/are) and he's had the example of what not to do, so I'm sure we'll do fine. As bad as it sounds, I'm hoping his "lonely childhood" will make him open to the idea of more kids, so our children will always have each other.

 

[DobbyForever]

Awww pretty yeah if his childhood sucked I can see why he made earlier pre-knowledge comments about not wanting kids. My SO was the same way. If he hated being lonely, he may definitely want more once your son is here and he falls in love. My So even asked about a second the other day and I'm the one squashing it now lol

 

[Weebles]

It's nice to hear that most people just want their BD/DH in with them. I guess it's pretty normal to feel like that. I think it's mostly anxiety, I'm worried MIL will be hurt or end up gate crashing. I still haven't made up my mind about my friend taking photos but I don't want actual push shots.. Just before and after and nothing at the business end. I know hubby could take some but there are events I feel like I only got to half experience because I was taking photos and I don't want him to see everything from behind a lense. There still time to make my mind up about it and she knows I might change it at any point anyway and wouldn't take offense to being kicked out. I guess the reason having pictures is so tempting tonme is because my son was taken away after only having him on my chest for a moment... I had my hands on him but didn't get to hold him until hours later. (Preterm) My mother (who I don't even remember being there let alone with a camera because she stayed back) got a picture and I'm glad to have it.

Pretty.. There are so many things I learned from my mothers bad example. Abuse or neglect doesn't have to be a cycle that is repeated. It's totally possible to learn from other's mistakes without making them yourself.

dobby... SO's mom sounds like a tool

 

[DobbyForever]

Lol she is. The irony is she would LOVE me if I wasn't black. We're both teachers, we have similar personalities... but nope. All she sees is color. Her loss.

I lucked out. My mom is pretty awesome. Yells too much but otherwise I love her. Stepdad is cool, too. Bio dad was lovely up to the day he died. Moment actually. Die died saving someone's life

 

[Catalyst]

I love my parents and my inlaws but no one will be there except my husband And he is so excited and would not want to miss this for anything!
My mum had asked me when i was about 20 that when I would have a baby if she could be inside. My mum was 18 when she had me, I had been with DH for 5 years when she asked so I understand she was starting to wonder about grandkids about 5 years later she got one, but she never asked again and I never brought it up cause although I had said yes at the time I felt as I got near delivering that I wanted to do this alone with DH (fiance at the time). So when I went in labor I called her and let her know we were on our way to the hospital. Funny thing is that few hours later she was there asking the staff how things were going haha. Small local hospital, knows most of the staff. And then she was standing in the hallway when they rolled me to the elevator to have a c section.
With my second, I had not delivered before the evening so they went ahead and went to this festival they had been planing on going on, just kept their phone close. So when he was born they were on theyr way home and dropped by, he is born just after midnight and they were there maby an hour after he was born, maby less.
This time I hope my mum will be here when I go in labor. Now I live in different town and it takes her 4-5 hours to drive here. My dad will probably be working (fisherman, goes for few days up to a week each time) but she takes her summer holiday around my due date (well due as a twin mom). She will be here to take care of our sons while we go have the twins. But there will be lot of staff when they are born, much much more than when I gave birth to my second son.

About the last name.. Here it is special tradition. My dads name is Sigurður, that is his first name so I am Sigurðardóttir (daughter of Sigurður). My DH name is Guðmundur so my sons are Guðmundsson (son of Guðmundur). My grandfather on mom side is Ármann so my mum is Ármannsdóttir (daughter of Ármann). Some single moms give their names to their babys, like my sons would be Jónínuson (son of Jónína). But here we dont put so much in the last name or the fathersname as we cal it here. I know sometimes it gives ppl hard time when they travel alone with their kids but.. So if you marry someone here you dont take their name you are still son of or daughter of and then your fathers names. DH is still Atlason and I am still Sigurðardóttir even if we are married.

 

[DobbyForever]

Hey pretty I think you asked earlier about keepsake scans. At least I think it was you i. I just asked my gyn because I really want to do another one and she was like they're totally safe. If you want it, do it.

 

[Maries_s]

3rd trimester is no treating me well

-the trip to the bathroom at 4am
-not been able to fall asleep again
-poor sleeping
-back-pain
-and BH that is taking my breath
-oh, and last time I stared to feel cramps like when period is coming

I'm going to start counting the BH since this is exactly what happened the first time with DD. But is too early!

Next appointment: Monday
PS. I made the reservation for the hospital tour for the first week of May.

 

[DobbyForever]

Sorry third tri is being poopy so far .

 

[Mummafrog]

I've just spent ages catching up!

Pretty - I'm glad you've got all the support you need you've still got plenty of time to create the perfect name. In my humble opinion the last name should be yours unless you're very committed to each other, but if you want him to be involved and he's being so good to you and trying to get closer, I think openly talking about first and middle names is really important. I think creating a few favourite combinations together takes the pressure off rather than trying to come up with THE ONE.

Maries - I'm suddenly finding things harder too feeling very slow and tired and eating is a pain with indigestion. Can't sleep well etc.

In terms of preparing stuff I think I will start at 30 weeks when I stop working shifts and am back at uni, I'll do the washing stuff first and get it put away and then think about packing my hospital bag. I have home births (hopefully!) but still need to have the same stuff in a bag just in case.
I've got a big amazon list of everything we need and add stuff when I think about it. I'm just going to turn it into a wish list for when family ask what they should get us so they can choose something

I've got my gtt and 28 week scan coming up in a couple of weeks and quite nervous about stuff coming up as wrong and then the consultant getting on my case :/ praying everything is still good.

My boobs have started leaking a bit! Which happened to me last time and it was dripping out while in labour haha (quite unusual). Making me excited about baby coming

During my first birth at home I had my OH, my mum and my best friend and two midwives. This time I have a student planned to come to my birth as well as two midwives so I think just my mum and OH otherwise it'll feel like too much. Mum and OH work really well together to support me and give each other rests etc and there will be someone with hands free for the cameras so I think it'll work well

 

[Catalyst]

3rd trimester is no treating me well

-the trip to the bathroom at 4am
-not been able to fall asleep again
-poor sleeping
-back-pain
-and BH that is taking my breath
-oh, and last time I stared to feel cramps like when period is coming

I'm going to start counting the BH since this is exactly what happened the first time with DD. But is too early!

Next appointment: Monday
PS. I made the reservation for the hospital tour for the first week of May.

Sorry to hear this. It aint treating me well either. I am out of breath alot, I cant sit, stand or do anyting for long before it starts to hurt. I have goten carpal tunnel syndrome and I suddenly got realy swollen (fingers and feet). And I just think. omg there are still about 7-10 weeks left for me.. how is it going to be near the end!

 

[PrettyInInk42]

Dobby - Good to know. I've already made an appt for May 20th, but they won't confirm with me or charge my credit card til 2 days before.

I'm just at the tail end of 2nd tri and I've noticed a tiny bit of trouble breathing, and a little more back pain, but that's about it.

We haven't properly discussed names again, but it was brought up in the car for a minute yesterday. I told him that I've really liked the name Alex since I was like 15 (and I actually have proof of this) and I would consider using his late grandfather's name as a middle name. His response was he was just throwing that out as an option; he's not too attached to it, but he definitely doesn't like Jared. I also told him he needs to understand that I always saw myself as a single mom, with 100% control over what I name my kids, so having to take someone else's opinion into account is an adjustment. A while later, he made a joke about getting a tiny Maple Leafs jersey made with his last name on it. I wasn't in the mood to have the last name convo, so I didn't say anything.

In other news, I've started inviting people to my shower and currently have more than a dozen confirmed. We've also started getting more friends offering us their old baby products that they don't need anymore. Car seat cover, a couple snowsuits, bottle warmer, etc. : )

And, lastly, I was visiting a few family members on Friday and 2 of them mentioned they knew a woman who was told 100% she was having a boy, but then she ended up having a girl. Am I an asshole for still hoping I could luck out like that? -.-

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Pretty youre not an asshole but now a days it's harder to mix up on an ultrasound then it used to be. We have so many people telling us that they knew someone who knew someone who was told they were having a girl but had a boy. My husband is still holding out hope that when baby comes out it's a boy.. So you're not alone.

 

[lesondemavie]

Pretty - There's always a chance by ultrasound that they are wrong, but these days it is slim. I work with a nearly 3 yo, and they were told she was a boy from the ultrasound. That's why I like the bloodtest they have now. I haven't heard of any mistakes from that, but they do still say "predicted" sex bc there is still a really small chance of error.

So I mentioned that I passed my GTT, but my protein and iron came back low. I bought some powders to make shakes in the am to remedy that. I'm also now convinced that both my back and abdominal pain is from gallstones. When I went in on 3/30, the first doctor I spoke to suggested that and wanted me to get an ultrasound of the area, but the doctor I saw told me it was just a muscle and sent me on my way. I read up on it more and it just exactly describes everything I'm experiencing I wrote my regular ob and demanded an ultrasound on Tuesday at my next appointment so we can check and see. I almost kind of hope this is the right diagnosis so I can get the care I need. So far the stretches the PT gave me are not helping at all.

 

[DobbyForever]

I second gag not an asshole at all. Also yay that shower plans are coming along! Glad you two are talking about names. . But ew to the Leafs cuz it's me. Looks like both our boys are 1-1 in the playoffs? Even the sharks are 1-1. Keeping us on our toes