Moving over from the ttc after loss thread

[bobster]

Get well soon mack. Hope you feel well enough to catch the egg on Friday. I remember your move being really quick. I wish they were all that straight forward!

Jane I bet it will happen sooner than you think. Good idea to keep dtd while you wait for the next step from gynae. Hope the appointment doesn't take too long. I have also heard good things about metformin.


Mlm I hate those social situations when they go hysterical. Thr tiredness definitely doesn't help either. I dread the tiredness again! Does Audrey trigger Norah to get upset when she cries? Does Norah wake up during the night feeds? Hopefully only another couple of months and she'll be much more settled.

 

[bobster]

Luckily Jack is a good sleeper. He goes to bed at half 6 and usually doesn't wake until about 7 sometimes later. He did wake up at 5am very full of beans this morning though.. We've taken the cot sides off now (eventually!) and he still just wakes and shouts for us to go and get him. I thought he would toddle not our room. Lazy boy lol.

I really like the name Henry but OH has vetoed it. Have you ladies got any boys name ideas? We're really struggling to agree. He likes Arthur and Seth. I like both of those names but I'm not sure I can see us with either of them... It's so hard. I also like Harry but he says it's too common.

 

[mlm115]

Thankfully Norah doesn't wake at all when Audrey is up at night. No, Norah doesn't get upset when Audrey cries. She either could care less, or she says "uh oh, baby!" and tries to give her her pacifier haha. I think you're bound to have a good sleeper when #2 comes along Jane. It seems like most people get one of each.

Bobster, I really like the name Henry. I tend to like classic names for boys - William (Will) and Benjamin (Ben) were at the top of my list if I were to have a boy.

 

[bobster]

I love your name ideas. OH is so fussy though that we can't find one we both like.

Norah sounds so adorable. Hehe! I can't see Jack giving the baby a dummy as I bet he'd keep it for himself. We've just stopped it completely during the day and he just has it at night which he's not happy about.

The mortgage valuation was what we've offered so it's all systems go now! Expected move time is the end of January because of her chain with her new house. Yippee!

 

[mlm115]

Awesome news about the mortgage Bobster! Congrats!

I made a point to get a completely different kind of pacifier for Audrey than what Norah uses so that she wouldn't take it. Norah also only uses hers at night now.

 

[GI_Jane]

Yey bobster on the mortgage, all systems go. You can buy housey stuff in the January sales too!
We had two estate agents round to value our place this week. We desperately need more room and are toying with the idea of putting it up for sale in the spring. The oven and washing machine are now fixed and I had a job interview this afternoon. Got the GP tomorrow to discuss next steps so a pretty busy week all in all! Oh and I'm ovulating!

Greg has never had a dummy/pacifier and I think that's the main difference between him and his peers that sleep through. Last night he did 8pm until 06.30 am and that was bliss!

I like William too. Also like James, Ryan, Owen, Ewan, Aaron and Toby.

 

[GI_Jane]

Bobster your lemon is making urine! Cute but gross at the same time!

 

[GI_Jane]

How are you feeling mackjess, ready to get your eggo preggo?

I've got a head cold courtesy of Greg.

Dr has ordered a sperm analysis for DH and day 21 bloods for me to check I'm ovulating (will be day 29 because of my long cycles). Slowly moving forward

 

[mackjess]

I'm finally feeling better today, thank you, so I hope it's not too late for O-date tomorrow. I'm on antibiotics for bronchitis now, but I've read they are safe and remember taking them while I was prego.

Progress! Good news. Sorry about your head cold.

 

[bobster]

Yay Jane that's brilliant. I wonder why they are checking his sperm as you've had 3 pregnancies. Maybe just routine. It sounds like your doctor is quite proactive.
Mackjess welcome to the 2ww!

 

[GI_Jane]

Yes is routine before they refer you to the assisted conception unit.

Is your ticker a week behind bobster so you're 16 weeks now?

I think I ovulated Thursday so in the 2ww now. Had lots of EWCM so hoping this cycle was a proper ovulation. The bloods will show for sure.

 

[bobster]

Yay!! Did you get much dtd time in? It would be awesome if you 2 got bfps at the same time ewcm is always a good sign that you are in for a good chance.

Yes I'm a week behind nearly so will be 16 weeks on Tuesday. It's so weird I'm not doing bump pictures or planning or anything this time. I just feel so different to the first time. It's my last pregnancy so I really need to start enjoying it but I just feel a bit blaze about it really. I've been drinking too much coffee and even had a tiny bit of red wine the other night. These are all things I was anal about the first time. Poor baby haha! I'm sure I will start getting more excited as it progresses. I just feel daunted that I won't love it as much as jack or he will feel pushed out. I know it will all work out but his happiness is my main thought at the moment and I worry about how he'll adapt to sharing me. He's increasingly clingy recently.

Will hubby be able to do the sample at home and take it in? I always feel so bad for guys who have to go into that room. My friends husband had to do it so much when they went through ivf.

So what dpo are you both?

Mlm how is it going with you? Do you have other stay at home mum friends to socialise with during the week?

 

[GI_Jane]

Happy 2nd tri bobster! Have you started to feel less sick?
I'm sure it's normal to be more relaxed during pregnancy 2nd time around .....did you find that Mlm? It must be a strange thought to know that this will be your last (planned!) pregnancy.

DH was given a strict instruction sheet! He can do it at home but has an appointment to deliver at the hospital within 1 hour of doing it. From what I've read about the Ivf process, the male has it easy! Still, not really the romantic conception you would hope for!

Hope you all had a fun Halloween dressing the kids up!

I'm 3dpo, I'm hopeful but being realistic at the same time. Cheering you on mackjess.

 

[mlm115]

I know the male definitely has it easier, but that still sounds so unpleasant for your DH Jane! Hoping all of your test results come back good.

I think it's totally normal to feel like that Bobster. I was so much more relaxed when pregnant with Audrey, and definitely very concerned with Norah's reaction to everything. She adjusted just fine though, and from talking to friends, it seems like their kids all adjusted fine to new babies too.

I do seem to be somewhat busy now that I'm home. My sister in law stays home with my niece and nephew, and she only lives 10 min away so that is nice. We also do a weekly gym class which is fun. I just have to make a point to plan things so we don't get bored. Audrey is becoming more and more interactive which is fun. She's very vocal and smiley at home, I love it.

 

[bobster]

Aww I just think they get more and more adorable with age don't they. The more Jack grows and develops the more I fall in love. It's an amazing feeling!
Jane I have everything crossed for you this cycle. It's amazing that the sperm stay alive for an hour in a tub! You'd think they would all dry up wouldn't you. I would love to work in ivf as I find it so interesting how it all works. There isn't a place in York that does it otherwise I'd apply. How's the job hunting for you going? Did you hear anything from that interview? Yes feeling less sick now thank god.

Glad you are enjoying your time at home so far mlm. Yes planning is a must to keep you and the girls occupied. We will be on a real strict budget this time so that will be harder. Last time I spent a ridiculous amount on coffees and cakes from meeting friends but also on food as I made a trip to the shops my daily job! Must try not to do that this time. I put on so much weight!

Everything ok with you mack?

 

[GI_Jane]

The company asked for a 2nd interview so putting all my energies in to preparation.

I don't think I would have survived the last two years at home if it wasn't for all the classes we go to, having them in my week really adds structure. The days we don't gave anything planned drives me nuts.
I know what you mean about all the tea and cake bobster!

Do you think you'll do a conversion for midwifery bobster? Think you mentioned that once before.

How's the 2ww Mack?

 

[mackjess]

2WW is OK. Only 1 dtd and no symptoms so I think I missed it. But ready for the next!

Bobster- happy 2nd tri.

Jane, I have looked after you and Bobster mentioned classes and we have NOTHING like that in the midwest. MLM is there anything like that in FL? We only have classes for newborns and that's it.

 

[GI_Jane]

That's a shame re classes mackjess, I wonder why that is? I'm pretty lucky to be spoilt for choice here at both baby and toddler level and some cater to both ages and offer a discount for a sibling.

Will you take the full year off again bobster?

Keeping my fingers crossed for you mackjess, it only takes once
No symptoms with me either at 6dpo

Having a bunch of my bloods taken tomorrow. Just a shame I don't get the results for ages. DH was slow booking the appointment for his sperm analysis and can't get a slot for another two weeks ...waiting, waiting

 

[bobster]

No symptoms is often better I found! The months I had every symptom going I got bfn's! Good luck both of you. When will you plan to test? Also mack like Jane says it only takes one and there are millions in that attempt so don't worry you still have a great chance!

That's rubbish that he can't get an appointment for so long! But you never know he may not need it with any luck.

Well my news of the day is.... I'm having a little brother for Jack! Woooo! I just knew it as I had the same feeling as before but OH kept insisting its a girl so I decided to book a gender scan so we could start planning. I feel happy but also a little sad that I'll never experience the other side as we definitely aren't having any more. He's perectly healthy so far and not shy at all. We could see it straight away as his right hand was touching it Now you need to help me choose a name as I'm at a loose end.

 

[mlm115]

Wow!! So exciting Bobster! No surprise it's boy, you knew it from the beginning! How nice that they will have a brother to be buddies with 😀