Moving over from the ttc after loss thread

[bobster]

I typed a really long reply while on holiday but the Internet in the hotel was so patchy I lost it! Oh well back now and had a lovely holiday. Jack was as good as gold travelling. He calls an aeroplane a 'ham' for some reason lol.

How did colposcopy go Jane? Good luck for scan today. What time is it? I'm sure it won't come to ivf but if you got really impatient I guess it's always an option that's there which is nice to know. What job did you apply for? I think the first one after a long time is bound to be rusty but I bet if you did it again it would be much easier.

Mlm so glad Audrey is settling in her big girl cot! She sounds like she's doing so well and you've established a good routine. Does it feel weird being jobless? Will you go back to work when they are a bit older or be a stay at home mum? Must be a relief not to have the pressure to go back like you did with Norah.

Mack I wouldn't worry about close birthdays either but it's whatever works best for your family. It might be nice for them to have shared celebrations. And you have to remember it will be normal for them to have that and we like whatever's normal and familiar to us as older kids and adults. Plus it may not even happen the first cycle as its only a 20% chance each time. Are u still feeling better?

My 13 week scan today. Do you think it will be too early to find out the sex? I'm so nervous that something will be wrong or bub will have stopped growing. Ate loads of hams etc on holiday and didn't check if the cheese was pasteurised or not that I sprinkled on my pasta for several meals. Argh the worry! I will update you later.

 

[GI_Jane]

Welcome home bobster. Pleased you had a good trip and jack was a star on the plane. Was it good weather?

Scan is at 3pm what time is yours?

Colposcopy showed I had an ectopy and they offered to cauterise it but I decided not to have it done as it doesn't cause me any grief apart from the bleeding after sex and I really don't trust that local anaesthetic works after a bad experience previously and the thought really puts me off.

Will be thinking of you bobster, no reason to think anything is wrong. Wasn't that long ago you did a cheeky scan at work and bubs was happy.

I think some private scan places can tell you the sex from 16/17 weeks- not entirely sure though. Will you find out this pregnancy? I think you didn't find out with jack?

 

[bobster]

Yes I want to find out so we can get everything sorted beforehand. I have a mountain of boys clothes piled in jacks wardrobe so I want to get them all ironed and ready to go in good time.

My scan is at 1:45. I'm so nervous. Tried to find the heartbeat on a Doppler and of course I can't find it.

Glad they found the cause of the bleeding. Ectropians are so common. I would say about 1/4 of women I examine have one.

Good luck for the scan at 3. I hope you get some answers. And don't worry if there's still cysts as it doesn't mean it won't happen. They are far more common than you think too. Will you see the gp again for questions after the scan or will you see a gynaecologist at the hospital today?

 

[GI_Jane]

I think 13 weeks is too early to find HB on a doppler for a lot of women bobster. But none the less it is still worrying and the waiting before scans is the worst (and having a very full bladder!).
Is Jack at nursery and OH going with you?
I don't think I've ever ironed Gregs clothes!

Greg is at nursery this morning so I'm keeping busy cooking a lasagne for dinner tonight and applying for jobs.

Glad it was only an ectopy and nothing else more sinister. I wasn't too worried when I went as my smears have been clear.

I think the cysts on their own or the one tube issue on their own are not big deals but having both together is what upsets me as coupled together my chances of conceiving are much lower.
We have an appointment with the GP next week to go over the report from today and decide next steps. Hoping the sonographer will be good this afternoon and will talk me through what he sees even if he cant offer me an interpretation.

Good luck bobster, will be thinking of you

 

[mackjess]

Good luck both of you with your scans!

 

[mlm115]

Yes, good luck on your scans! Please give us the updates!

 

[GI_Jane]

How did it go bobster?

Scan showed both ovaries are enlarged and irregular shapes and given the number of cysts/follicles and their location on the ovaries the doctor said they meet all the criteria for polycystic ovaries. Now we know we can discuss next steps/treatment with the doctor next week.

 

[bobster]

So glad you got some answers Jane. Hopefully they will start you on some meds which will help.

Scan went well but the sonographer wasn't the nicest and she only gave us one picture got 6 pictures with Jack. She said oh I only got one picture so I won't charge you. I was really hoping for more pictures as they are so precious. Hoping I don't get her for my 20 week scan. She said I'm 14 weeks exactly but I'm abdolubtly sure of my dates of sex and I make it out at 13+2 so not sure if baby is just going to be huge haha.

 

[mackjess]

Sorry about just one photo, but at least it's a perfect one!

Jane, I'm glad they are being so proactive and you will be getting a treatment plan soon.

 

[GI_Jane]

He's waving! So pleased all went well bobster. What is your official due date now? Have you now announced to everyone?
How is the morning sickness and your bump? Showing quicker?

Mackjess what did you decide to do this cycle? Are you in the 2 WW now?

Not seeing the GP until next Thursday and according to the NHS guidelines metformin/clomid can only be prescribed by a specialist so I guess will be a wait to get a referral to there. DH and I are positive though and will keep trying in the mean time. I'm back to ditching the sugar and eating better. Went to the gym this morning! Thinking of doing another half marathon in the spring.

 

[mlm115]

Glad you know what's going on now Jane. At least with having those answers, you can get the treatment you need. Hopefully it won't affect you ttc, especially since you and dh are being so positive!

Adorable scan bobster! Did they try to predict the gender at all? I'm guessing boy, I don't know why.

 

[bobster]

No I asked her but she said it was too early. I'm really itching to find out. I think it's a boy too as I think I saw something that looked like a willy on the scan but can't be sure. So excited to find out this time!

Due date is 19th April now. Yes I'm starting to show a bit now Jane.

Hope the appointment with the specialist hurries up. Glad you are feeling positive. Where are you in your cycle? Good idea on the marathon as it will help distract you from ttc I bet.

 

[GI_Jane]

April is a lovely time of year to have a birthday. Mine is in April and usually falls during the Easter school holidays
Is your house buying going through ok? When do you hope to be in?

Both our oven and washing machine have decided to break down this week and engineer can't come out for another week! So annoying.

How's it going mackjess and Mlm?

 

[bobster]

Oh my god how unlucky! How are you going to manage? Do you have a dry cleaners or friends you can use? Lots of salads for you for a week!

 

[bobster]

We're waiting for the mortgage valuation report now. We paid 7k more so if they say it's not worth what we offered we may have to try and negotiate. I hope they say it's worth what we offered but because it's got no central heating that may decrease its value to below the offer price.

Mack when's o due?
How's mlm? Have you joined any baby groups?

 

[mackjess]

No oven? I hope the stove top still works!

Mlm, are you happy to be done with work now? Daunting I'm sure but I bet quite satisfying to be home with both girls.

House stuff can be so stressful. Ours luckily happened really smoothly. The buyers of our house were moving here from another city, and the sellers we bought from were moving out of state. Both parties needed things settled quickly to plan their moves, so it helped us a lot. No going back and forth on things on either end. And I love our new home. You will have so much fun decorating.

Jane, I just remembered when I didn't know I had celiac yet and I was so unhealthy and my labs came back and my hormones were so out of whack that I wasn't even ovulating. And I was pregnant less than 2 years later without trying because I listened to the doctors to get healthy again and started ovulating. It's amazing what doctors can do for us now. I really had heard wonderful things about metformin and I know from experience how making changes to be healthier can help out. kudos to you for being so proactive. So many women aren't and women's health is so complicated you really do have to speak up for yourself.

Finishing up af here, o date is Friday I think. And guess what? I feel terrible, have an awful chest cold and probably going to the doc tomorrow to make sure it's not bronchitis. I only have a couple days to get to feeling better!

Still going to the neighborhood picnic today though. I know I'm not contagious since this started Monday, and I'm excited to meet everyone. Perfect fall day for it.

 

[GI_Jane]

The Stove top is working thankfully!

Thanks mackjess. I think the hardest part right now is waiting for appointments. Unless it's an emergency healthcare in the uk moves quite slowly. Perhaps it will happen for us naturally in the meantime!

Hoping the mortgage valuation will go ok for you bobster. In the grand scheme of things £7k is not a lot of money for the bank so try not to worry. I find the whole conveyancing part of buying/selling so stressful. You're lucky yours was straightforward mackjess, it moved really quickly.

Want to go and see the new James Bond film

 

[mlm115]

I hate mortgages and dealing with all of that. Something always seems to go wrong, ugh. Good luck Bobster!

You seem so positive Jane, that has got to help your chances of ttc! I bet it will happen for you naturally too.

Yes Mack, I am very happy to be done with work. It's kind of weird, since I've spent my whole career pushing myself to advance, but everything changed after kids! As hard as it is, I'm very happy to be home with my girls full time. I'm just working on filling our time with play dates, activities, etc so we don't get bored. Thank goodness for Pinterest and all of the activity ideas, haha!

 

[mlm115]

Also... I definitely did not get lucky again this time with a great sleeping baby. Audrey is still getting up usually twice in the night. She is also fussier than Norah was, particularly in a crowd. Went to a party yesterday and she screamed until I was able to get her to sleep. She seems to get overwhelmed and fights her sleep.

 

[GI_Jane]

It's so tiring Mlm isn't it- Greg still doesn't sleep through (maybe like 1/3 of the time he will but then he's up at 5am and ready to go!)
Im hoping that since I've paid my sleep dues with Greg, next time around I'll get a good sleeper!

Are jack and Finn still good sleepers?