Mum and baby parking would you park there if you are expectant?

[Faerie]

Oh, and btw even now if I saw a pregnant mum in a p&c space (crutches or not) then I wouldn't begrudge her. Then again the only place with p&c parking here is ikea, they do have spaces in big carparks for single women and old people though.

 

[x-amy-x]

nah wrong colour lol

 

[xpatchx]

I work in Sainsburys and those of our supermarkets that have Parent and toddler parking were made with the intention of pregnant ladies using them too. Obviously if you're 25 weeks and tiny, and it's not essential, then it's nice to leave them to those with 4 wriggly babies, but if someone is heavily pregnant, has SPD, or just can't walk very far, we like to try and direct them into those spaces so they can get in, do their shopping, and get out, without having to try and cross the carpark and squeeze in between other cars.

 

[Hevz]

I honestly wish I never started this thread now, I thought we might be a bit nicer ni this forum and talk it through in an understanding sort of way - I think this issue and hormonal women that feel strongly about a situation defintely dont mix.

To be honest, I have never seen a thread on here get to this stage of argument before. I think It's a good thread and has been interesting to see differing opinions.

It's also interesting to see how little is known about how debilitating SPD can be and how some people think that this should mean people with this condition should not go any where near a supermarket if they struggle to walk!




Thanks for the thread, I have enjoyed it and found it interesting. And I will keep reading peoples opinions. Xxxx

Hey honey
I have found it interesting too but I dont want to upset people and ofcourse everyone has their own opinions.

One thing I dont understand is the lack of understanding of other pregnant women, I always try to consider mums and children aswell and put myself in their position. I thought there would be more comradery.

For example my friend i used to work with was pregnant and was so ill through out her pregnancy she lost almost 4 stone (she was only 11.5 stone to begin with!) eventually her liver failed and she delivered through CS at 32 weeks, her son was ok but unfortunately he has epilepsy. At the same time another girl at work was pregnant and she had a wonderful pregnancy no sickness no pain ect and she even said to me "shes only pregnant, how come she has been signed off - think she making it up" i couldnt beleive it - as A non pregnant woman at the time I still felt awful for my ill friend I couldnt understand it.. and now I feel lucky as i comapre myself to her but I dont think a pregnant women who is having a lot of discomfort should have to put up with it unneccasarily. I guess thats just my opinion thanks everyone for your contribution xxxxx

Agreed, it does seem that people with uncomplicated pregnancies cannot understand the pain, emotion, worry etc that comes with a complicated pregnancy.

And the same goes for women with children not being understanding towards pregnant women (complicated pregnancy or not) but they had to go through it to have their child right?

Just like you said, a bit more comeradery is what's needed.

Xxx

We don't understand complicated pregnancies eh????

I guess we've had uncomplicated pregnancies eh? Maybe some of you should think before you type things like this as I couldn't have a more complcated gestational history, my 1st 2 babies died in my arms at just a few hours old and the other pregnancies were a mish mash of prem-labours, sciatica, spd, cyst the size of a melon on my placenta with my last one. Not to mention the severe depression etc ever since losing my 2nd child.

I won't go into Amy's situation as that's for her to say if she feels it necessary but I can assure you she far from "sails" through her pregnancies either



I am very understanding towards pregnant women, after all I have given birth 6 times and my youngest is only 1. I just don't know why some of you are arguing and trying to justify parking in space which isn't for you

 

[littleone2010]

Soo glad you are back Hevz.

 

[Tryin4Number3]

Everybody's pregnancy is different, with my first 2 i was fit and healthy right up to 2 weeks overdue and felt able to do anything. But this time (10years later) i'm really suffering.....high BP - rest as much as possible but don't confine myself to the house, piles, bad back, breathlessness, stitch in my groin if i walk to far, the list seems endless! At the minute i'm really struggling to get out of the car, we have a 3 door hatchback with really long, heavy doors that fall back on you unless you open them all the way. I try to do most of the shopping in the evenings when its not very busy and if there's plenty of parent and child spaces available i'll park in them!
When we went last week during the day we parked in a normal space and i accidentally hit the door of the car next to ours as i got in. Unfortunately the woman whose car it was was sitting in it at the time and she got out and made a big fuss about it even though there was no damage to either car! She actually said "why aren't you parked in a mother and baby space? You obviously need the extra soom!"
I think at the end of the day its up to the individual, if you feel you need the space park there! just be prepared to justify yourself to people who think you don't xx

 

[KayCee114]

I honestly wish I never started this thread now, I thought we might be a bit nicer ni this forum and talk it through in an understanding sort of way - I think this issue and hormonal women that feel strongly about a situation defintely dont mix.

To be honest, I have never seen a thread on here get to this stage of argument before. I think It's a good thread and has been interesting to see differing opinions.

It's also interesting to see how little is known about how debilitating SPD can be and how some people think that this should mean people with this condition should not go any where near a supermarket if they struggle to walk!




Thanks for the thread, I have enjoyed it and found it interesting. And I will keep reading peoples opinions. Xxxx

Hey honey
I have found it interesting too but I dont want to upset people and ofcourse everyone has their own opinions.

One thing I dont understand is the lack of understanding of other pregnant women, I always try to consider mums and children aswell and put myself in their position. I thought there would be more comradery.

For example my friend i used to work with was pregnant and was so ill through out her pregnancy she lost almost 4 stone (she was only 11.5 stone to begin with!) eventually her liver failed and she delivered through CS at 32 weeks, her son was ok but unfortunately he has epilepsy. At the same time another girl at work was pregnant and she had a wonderful pregnancy no sickness no pain ect and she even said to me "shes only pregnant, how come she has been signed off - think she making it up" i couldnt beleive it - as A non pregnant woman at the time I still felt awful for my ill friend I couldnt understand it.. and now I feel lucky as i comapre myself to her but I dont think a pregnant women who is having a lot of discomfort should have to put up with it unneccasarily. I guess thats just my opinion thanks everyone for your contribution xxxxx

Agreed, it does seem that people with uncomplicated pregnancies cannot understand the pain, emotion, worry etc that comes with a complicated pregnancy.

And the same goes for women with children not being understanding towards pregnant women (complicated pregnancy or not) but they had to go through it to have their child right?

Just like you said, a bit more comeradery is what's needed.

Xxx

We don't understand complicated pregnancies eh????

I guess we've had uncomplicated pregnancies eh? Maybe some of you should think before you type things like this as I couldn't have a more complcated gestational history, my 1st 2 babies died in my arms at just a few hours old and the other pregnancies were a mish mash of prem-labours, sciatica, spd, cyst the size of a melon on my placenta with my last one. Not to mention the severe depression etc ever since losing my 2nd child.

I won't go into Amy's situation as that's for her to say if she feels it necessary but I can assure you she far from "sails" through her pregnancies either



I am very understanding towards pregnant women, after all I have given birth 6 times and my youngest is only 1. I just don't know why some of you are arguing and trying to justify parking in space which isn't for you

Well show a bit of understanding then!

And as for the spaces not being meant for pregnant ladies... Read the post above from the lady who works at sainsburys

 

[littleone2010]

But hevz, thats your choice to suffer, you didnt have to. My tesco are happy for me to park there they have even brought stuff out to me, the lady who works at sainsburys even said they allow heavily pregnant woman to park there.

Im sorry you suffered too, but if you need to you CAN park there, if these stores are happy for heavily woman to park there, then Mothers with children will have to deal with that as it is their premises.

I wont be begrudging a pregnant woman when I have my little one, I will remember what its like. Someone very clever said there are alot more important things going on than this.. lets agree to disagree. xx

 

[nightkd]

I think it's just a case of being considerate at the end of the day - I'm 27 weeks pregnant, but I'm pretty small still and I have DH with me at all times if we're parking (seen as I don't drive!) so if there was a lady on her own with a baby in a carrier, or a heavily pregnant lady, I would happily give up the last expectant mother space for her Fortunately people over here seem to be a lot more thoughtful generally, so I can honestly say I've never seen someone who did not require a disabled/expectant mother space park there simply because it's a few feet closer to the door of the shop!

It bothers me when a disabled person parks in a parent and child space when there are disabled spaces available, because the parents and children can't park in the disabled spaces but a pregnant woman parking in a parent and child space seems perfectly acceptable to me, she's still a parent and she's carrying a child

x

 

[lizzieandzara]

Wow. Seriously think some people need to chill out.
'Spaces that arn't for you..' Hmm. Tesco sent me a permit to park in their mother and child spaces at 20 weeks... therefore I will use it. At the end of the day its a car parking space and if certain ladies feel like they need to use one- I for one do, I don't see the point in struggling when I don't need to- then they can. There are no laws against it and technically there is a child on board. End of.

 

[lizzieandzara]

Wow. Seriously think some people need to chill out.
'Spaces that arn't for you..' Hmm. Tesco sent me a permit to park in their mother and child spaces at 20 weeks... therefore I will use it. At the end of the day its a car parking space and if certain ladies feel like they need to use one- I for one do, I don't see the point in struggling when I don't need to- then they can. There are no laws against it and technically there is a child on board. End of.

 

[Boony]

just because they send them out at 20 weeks doesnt mean you should use them then!

At 20 weeks you certainly dont need the extra space!!

 

[lizzieandzara]

Cheers for the advice but i'll use it whenever i feel fit. I have used those spaces twice- once today and once maybe around christmas time. What is everyones problem. Moan at the gits in the fancy cars taking up disabled spaces and then skipping around the shops- not at pregnant people!

 

[Linzi]

I honestly wish I never started this thread now, I thought we might be a bit nicer ni this forum and talk it through in an understanding sort of way - I think this issue and hormonal women that feel strongly about a situation defintely dont mix.

To be honest, I have never seen a thread on here get to this stage of argument before. I think It's a good thread and has been interesting to see differing opinions.

It's also interesting to see how little is known about how debilitating SPD can be and how some people think that this should mean people with this condition should not go any where near a supermarket if they struggle to walk!




Thanks for the thread, I have enjoyed it and found it interesting. And I will keep reading peoples opinions. Xxxx

Hey honey
I have found it interesting too but I dont want to upset people and ofcourse everyone has their own opinions.

One thing I dont understand is the lack of understanding of other pregnant women, I always try to consider mums and children aswell and put myself in their position. I thought there would be more comradery.

For example my friend i used to work with was pregnant and was so ill through out her pregnancy she lost almost 4 stone (she was only 11.5 stone to begin with!) eventually her liver failed and she delivered through CS at 32 weeks, her son was ok but unfortunately he has epilepsy. At the same time another girl at work was pregnant and she had a wonderful pregnancy no sickness no pain ect and she even said to me "shes only pregnant, how come she has been signed off - think she making it up" i couldnt beleive it - as A non pregnant woman at the time I still felt awful for my ill friend I couldnt understand it.. and now I feel lucky as i comapre myself to her but I dont think a pregnant women who is having a lot of discomfort should have to put up with it unneccasarily. I guess thats just my opinion thanks everyone for your contribution xxxxx

Agreed, it does seem that people with uncomplicated pregnancies cannot understand the pain, emotion, worry etc that comes with a complicated pregnancy.

And the same goes for women with children not being understanding towards pregnant women (complicated pregnancy or not) but they had to go through it to have their child right?

Just like you said, a bit more comeradery is what's needed.

Xxx

We don't understand complicated pregnancies eh????

I guess we've had uncomplicated pregnancies eh? Maybe some of you should think before you type things like this as I couldn't have a more complcated gestational history, my 1st 2 babies died in my arms at just a few hours old and the other pregnancies were a mish mash of prem-labours, sciatica, spd, cyst the size of a melon on my placenta with my last one. Not to mention the severe depression etc ever since losing my 2nd child.

I won't go into Amy's situation as that's for her to say if she feels it necessary but I can assure you she far from "sails" through her pregnancies either



I am very understanding towards pregnant women, after all I have given birth 6 times and my youngest is only 1. I just don't know why some of you are arguing and trying to justify parking in space which isn't for you

Well show a bit of understanding then!

And as for the spaces not being meant for pregnant ladies... Read the post above from the lady who works at sainsburys

The point is you saying 'uncomplicated pregnancies' is a VERY sweeping statement.

YOU might think you have it tough but try a walk in someone elses shoes. I had early bleeding, SPD, false labour and other scares but on the whole Im thankful thats all I suffered. You only have to read a few threads on here to realise how difficult some ladies have.

Tbh I think you upset a few people with that comment and I completely understand why. There is such a thing as consideration.

 

[littleone2010]

Wow. Seriously think some people need to chill out.
'Spaces that arn't for you..' Hmm. Tesco sent me a permit to park in their mother and child spaces at 20 weeks... therefore I will use it. At the end of the day its a car parking space and if certain ladies feel like they need to use one- I for one do, I don't see the point in struggling when I don't need to- then they can. There are no laws against it and technically there is a child on board. End of.

I obviously Agree with this I have been trying to fight for this opinion all afternoon.... its obvious I dont have much of a life lol primarily because I feel like crap and cant do much!!

 

[Caroline]

If theres plenty of space then I don't have a problem with heavily pg women using the spaces or women with pg realted problems eg spd. I'd rather someone like that park in the spaces than ppl who think there 16 yr old is a toddler just cos there too lazy to walk, or ppl who just can't be bothered to park further away from the store.

 

[xpatchx]

The few times I've been at a store that needed me on parking duty, when sat down and told the procedure of THAT store, I was told that if I saw anyone in the P&C spaces without a child, I should challenge them, at what point if they turned out to be heavily pregnant then I should let them carry on, but anyone else needed to move, or be reported. We also do not challenge Disabled people parking in these spaces if there are no disabled spaces left.

A lot of stores overall wouldn't care if you parked in one whilst pregnant, but have to act on any 'report' thats filed by a fellow customer.

The spaces aren't law. Disabled spaces are there BY LAW, but P&C are there because we feel that it is needed for the extra space, but pregnant ladies ALSO need extra space.
Jesus trying to squeeze myself out of my MIL's car door when she's got someone parked next to her is a huge issue. I've hurt myself doing it a lot. Yeah she could drop me at the entrance, but with the mass traffic load of cars going past it's hard for her to stop and let me spend 3-4 minutes hobbling out the car.

I don't have SPD, I've had TONNES of complications but nothing to stop me walking, but I know it can be VERY difficult trying to get my backside out the car sometimes because I'm 6ft tall and carrying big.

Our local council offer obese people disability badges to get more space to get out their cars. If they're allowed a bit of leniance, stores realise people with beachballs on their abdomen do to.

Although I can completely understand people with children being upset when they have to leave their toddler on the side of the store parking lot whilst trying to sort out their other children.

At the end of the day, all the Sainsburys stores I've been based in have given equal rights to expectant and current parents and have never had a problem with it? But the person who said that it's everyones opinions, are right. Some places are very strict on who parks where, and you CAN get clamped if you're parked in the wrong place, but most supermarkets will turn round when you tell them you're pregnant, and have SPD, and let you off.

 

[dt1234565]

Blimey what a heated debate!

I think that once you have baby and that big car seat to try and get out the car youll understand why it really is best that people who have kids no longer in their bellies need those spaces more!

It should be perhaps that all supermarkets have expectant mother parking like someone mentioned Asda has, that would then solve the debate.

When on holiday once a pregnant lady nicked our sunbeds claiming she needed it more than us as she was pregnant, well her baby had a seat and we had an 18 month old and a toddler and needed them more than her! I think the same applies to the Parent and child parking too.

Dont all jump on me though, this debate is a hotty!

 

[littleone2010]

Linzi the point is that you chose not to park in the spaces, even though you had it tough when you were pregnant.. but they are available for pregnant women who are in alot of discomfort... if the store is happy for this to happen then you shouldnt have a problem with it either.
Can you imagine the PR bomb that would explode if say tescos blatantly told a heavily pregnant woman to park all the way the other side (mine is a huge tesco) when she is shopping alone? They just wouldnt, not because they love us but because all hell would break loose they would look like total B**stards.. they cant do enough for me, I have to go shopping alone and they even offer to get someone else to pack my bags when they see im alone but I always refuse... They are just trying to help us out dont be grudge us because we are trying to make things easier for ourselves, why am I going to make things hard? x

 

[Hevz]

Nobody here is stopping you are they.....if you think you're doing the right thing then why are you going on and on "justifying" yourself