Northern Ireland TTC

[LittleAurora]

well I didn't have a period after my 1st and I was breastfeeding him, and I got pregnant again when he was 10mths old!

 

[Dragonfly]

so you got pregnant without a period? nothing is happening here at all in that department, no pregnancy or period.


just want to rant.
I would like to remind my son he is not in gym class and my hair is not a climbing rope! GRRR! now he just ditty nipped me. Getting beaten up by a baby, call PSNI please lol

 

[LittleAurora]

yea I got pregnant with no signs of a normal period! no spotting or anything! It was quite a surprise! lol

ps police notified

 

[Dragonfly]

Typical the police still arnt here lol

william is covered in his breakfast as I decided to let him try himself as he was getting fed up with me feeding him.

I got loads of preg tests in the cupboard to disappoint myself with lol got them from that diagnostic site for cheap. Cost a fortune in shops. £3 for 10. Same as hospital tests.
feel like crap today, all foggy headed and tired. And have cramps! i get cramps but never a period which makes me wonder as i had them when i was preg at the start and i thought i was getting a period but it never came. William came 9 months later instead lol

 

[LittleAurora]

ohh fingers crossed!! I have those cheap tests as well but idont think that i am pregnant this month. My body hates me and is teasing me atm!! I dont know what happening!!

 

[Dragonfly]

its aweful when you get a neg : ( I wasnt trying the first time but then we where not preventing it either. But I know I feel disappointed at a neg test. I really feel for poeple who havnt concieved yet as it must be crushing to get a neg all the time. It happens when its meant to happen I believe so I have tests for when I start getting iffy with no periods and sicky. I would want a girl next time though, i wouldnt mind either way obviosly but a girl is cool. Then William can look after his sis when they are older.

 

[LittleAurora]

how are you gettin on?

 

[Dragonfly]

I got ovulation tests and no ovulating anyway, done a preg test to make sure and nothing. Somehow I dont think it will be till i stop breastfeeding I will have proper ovulation. Took me 5 months to get preg last time after I stopped pill and we didnt prevent it,. but then I didnt know about all this ovulation I just had a heartattck when I missed my period .

Its great not having a period though. It will happen when its meant to. Again we arnt even preventing. Cant use condoms its like being shagged with a baseball bat with nails and fire (TMI! lol) i want a baby around the same time anyway as William was born, i liked being more pregnant over winter.

anyway hows it going for you?

 

[Aaisrie]

Def not great having periods!! I got mine back 2.5 weeks after birth and I WAS breastfeeding - what's that about!!

 

[Dragonfly]

sod that! I am dreading mine as hormones will be all over the places and i just got used to the way I am. My mum is convinced there is something wrong with me still! she wont listen. My womb is barron

 

[Aaisrie]

You have to remember all mothers think they know best!! My mum wanted me to put Saraya on her tummy to sleep... er no! lol

 

[Dragonfly]

I hear wild stuff to! give the child alchol! etc

My mum even got chocolate for william and we rowed for weeks about it, I ate the head of her when she handed it to me! she couldnt understand why I was upset! says it wont do any harm to him! I am not starting that stuff. Then she said , " dont know how we got by" I sincerly hope she wasnt feeding me chocolate at 7 months old!oh and the famous "how do other people do it " I dont care how they do it I wont be feeding my child sugar and junk food OK! i am angry now lol my aunt started on me again as she cant wait till he is eating sweets to give him some and I am having some time of trying to keep them away with the junk food. I wanta healthy chld and what he dosnt have he wont miss. But that makes me the devil and a nasty mum apparently. He will get when he is older as a treat for something he has done and not as an every day food. i am not going into this trend of feeding my child into a monster. I am unhealthy enough for us all but am trying and will have to lead by example.

I can see my family buying him selection boxes for xmas. I am that afraid i cant leave him with them in case they fill him with chocolate and I have to deal with the aftermath of a sugar hit, sugar come down, tooth decay, possible diabetes and childbhood obesitya nd the rest (ok thats not happening from one choc but it goes to that) . I seen the mistakes my mum has made on my sister (5 choc bars a day and is voilent!). Mum 20 stone at least and cant breath for fat on her and yet they claim to eat healthy and go to weight watchers for years.

 

[Aaisrie]

I totally agree the "It didn't do you (my neighbours kids, santa's kids etc etc) any harm". My cousin has a wee boy who is 5 weeks older than Saraya and her MIL and grannyIL lol bought her son an easter egg each (he was about 3-4mo old!) and said to HOLD IT IN YOUR HAND TO MELT IT FOR HIM!!!! WTF WHY?! I get so mad when I see people feeding their kids that crap - people think the pic in my sig is chocolate on Saraya's face, it's actually pumpkin, sweet potato, blueberries and apples!! It's one of the Ella's kitchen range. I was going to a BF group and my daughter had spent some time in hospital because of failure to thrive and because of which had been put on meat, spuds, the whole lot including high cal milk. When I went to the group after getting out of hospital the HV proceeded to say, in front of the group, that I shouldn't be giving it to her and that no-one else should follow MY example!!!

 

[Dragonfly]

what a dick of a hv! you had to do that and she shouldnt have done that infront of a group! and its not like you where feeding her chocolate which you could have done. I get angry to when I see babies eating biscuits and choc at a few months old, I was told also to melt down the choc! one of my friends had her baby just before easter and she said the kids where feeding it chocolate from eggs! baby was 6 weeks old and she loved it according to her. I kept my fist in my mouth as I wouldnt like to say to anyone what they feed their baby,but when it comes to mine I will say plenty.

Someone in here said once they seen a mother pour coka cola into a babies bottle in a shopping centre! why ruin the health so early and especially a heath that isnt yours! I aint exactly a bean pole, i am fat , still got my jelly belly and cellulite and my teeth are not good. But I do not intend to have my baby in the same way.

oh i get the ellas kitchen things to, i havnt got that pumkin one yet, i was weary of it lol i do get the banana one though, i like the handy packs.
ps your sig is a box at the mo, seems not many pics are showing for me today.

i got a refund from kiddcare for pram, i send them a pic of william cramed into it and they said i can have it in vouchers, means i have to get my next pram oinlnie with them and spend £20 on delivery!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my parents got me the pram originally and i wanted a cheap one as i didntw ant to put them out, was i stupid! not i have to take £20 off a new pram just to get delivery in as I cant afford a good one. I seen one there that looked ok but i seem to be shite at choosng prams and its hard to tell online.
i will have no pram now till they sort of after the courier comes to get it, Thats the second time i rang about it as the first they didnt want to hear about it. can get a buggy now or something bigger and new

 

[Aaisrie]

What happened with the pram? Sorry I missed the story I think?

Yea I agree about people feeding their kids. Saraya gets biscuits but they are the organix ones which have no sugar only sweetened with grape juice. Mum tried to give me baby biscotti for her yesterday and I was like "no, there's sugar in them" shes like really? I showed her it's the 2nd highest ingredient in it - I bet most people don't even check just assume because they're for babies that they are healthy... My OH won't even let her have the baby coco that's in the jar, one of the stage 2 desserts, he is mega super strict on what she eats!! I'm gonna give her some toast soldiers for the first time today

 

[Dragonfly]

I am keeping William off the gluten till he is past a year. I am allergic to it and its crap trying to get food, which explains why I eat crap basically. I dont want him to have it, so I give him a better chance of not getting it by waiting. My mum thinks thats all shite to and that Its my fault I am allergic to glutenn. Also that sugar is ok if you brush your teeth .Errm what happens after it goes past your teeth mum???? does no harm (yeah look in the mirror). And diabetes runs in the family. I say my sis will end up with it with her sugar contents he has a day as dad and his mum have it. And no way will myu kid eat what my mum made us pizza and chips every night! infact when i was 12 she left me to do it. She couldnt cook. If dad was there it was a bit nicer and it was spuds and something else. I plan on growing stuff to.

Pram was to small. I notised at 3 months it wouldnt last and now at 8 its so narrow william is stuck in it like a sardine. I send pics to kiddicare and said it wasnt as discribed! up to 4 years old my ass.
I will attach a pic if it will let me. The straps are also out as far as they will go so i have no more time left with it and he is only 8 months old. Big waste of money. least they are doing something anyway.

 

[Aaisrie]

Wow that sucks about the pram - I got the Ultima 8 in 1 from Mamas and Papas and I RAVE about it because it's the best pram in the world - it's still massive around Saraya and she's just 7 mo. My cousin's wee boy looks massive in his car seat, like he doesn't fit.

That sucks about your folks, it's one thing that they made their own decision on how to raise you guys but to push that onto you is just wrong. Especially when you say there is diabetes in the family. You are totally right about allergies, the longer you don't test it the better the chance of not having it - that's why you aren't meant to give nuts until the kid is 1, it's the same thing. My FIL is just as bad, when I talked about Saraya being put to sleep on her back he said "Well it didn't do me any harm being on my tummy" it's like yea but what about all the kids who died of cot death around that same time? Why risk it!!!

 

[Dragonfly]

its the main cause of sudden infant death syndrom alright. And I dont understand why other poeple expect you to take the risk as they dont know anyone it has effected. I dont fancy taking that risk. Then your called to safty coincious? can you be to safety concious? I rather be safe than sorry. But apparently all this stuff now is mumbo jumbo and just there to scare people and there is no truth in it, even though there is plenty of proof! some poeple are stuck in a decade where they refuse to see how things have advanced for the better in childcare. My own mum actually knows notihng about pregnancy despite having3 kids and called me a hypocondraic when I had possible pre eclempsia dn blamed sites likethis and google on putting it in to my head. And I had symptoms, was visited every day by a midwife, they had to induce me when i was over due as my bp was to high for to long and they didnt want to risk it. But she says i was full of shit. I was shocked when she didnt know anything I was talking about! she wasnt even interested in feeling the baby just snapped that she had been there before.

sorry I must say my mum is stone cold bitch with no feelings at all apart from when she dosnt get her own way. I even missed scans over her as she had my dad out shopping and i got in her way.

 

[Aaisrie]

Omg that's awful... I can't believe that. My OH and MIL were both like all you do is look online, you should trust your instincts (this was after my DD was born and I was concerned about stuff with BF) it's like we work in a family business and alll our customers were coming in saying to my OH that I had to give Saraya water to drink, she needed it etc, I told him we didn't need to because I'm BF and she gets what she neesds from that, he didn't believe me - even though I showed him tonnes of evidence online and in the bounty magazine!! He secretly phoned the maternity ward and asked them!!!!

LOL we are getting into a right ol rant here aren't we!! Your folks (no offense meant) seem totally wrapped up in themselves and don't seem to care a fig about you, I feel so sorry for you having to go through that because I'm sure you were really scared...

 

[Dragonfly]

My mum is slightly different now as I snapped at her so much over the past few months. Think my hormones where going mad and I was literally going to strangle her with the attidude she gives me. I done nothing the way she wanted, she didnt get to choose my sons name, I didnt give my son our surname he got his dads and she went mental at that! i didnt want over crowding visotors right after birth at hospital as I was afriad of not feeling uyp to it so she said i had no right to say who could visit me and i was being rude! I am not having him christened and she dosnt like that, i am having him at home on xmas day as there are so many visitors and i dont have a car i cant get around them so they have to come to me, she didnt like that. She actually said " you only have one house to go to" my grandads, has she forgotten my other halfs side??she has no regard for them at all! she hardly stays 5 mins to see william,they have never brought william out of the house like darrens mum has. Even the feeding was a row with the chocolate I mentioned. I cant do a dam thing right to please her! she even rowed about what school he would be going to already. Says the rest of the family cant understand why i wont have him christened so i think they have stepped back and are digraced to be honest. Apparently people are asking...yeah right. Then it was about my pets! god she never stops saying to get rid of them, I am sure she would shot them herself if you gave her a gun. Always sayd she has no time for me to busy doing someting like shopping, my sister commands her about all day and has a time limit on vsiting william, she stands by the door and orders my mum away from him. And they let it happen. (she is aitistic teen who gets away with everything);.
Havnt had any peace from when he is born from them. Now I dont care as i told them straight that i gave birth to him not them.

and breath!
i really wish i could just not get wind up about it when I even mention my mother and start into a rant about her.