Not coping no friends & dunno how to rebuild my life

[Laura2919]

Hi Im in a simular situation to you.
I have just split with my husband of 14years, he cheated on me last year and we got back together and planned this baby, everythign was fine untill the one he cheated with had his baby 4wks ago and now he is off with her and the baby who is seemingly still in hospital.
I dont ever see a way back from this situation as he has happily dumped his 4 kids and his pregnant wife without a second thought x

Ahh I am sorry hun. Men can be such horrible gits sometimes...


How you feeling today hun? I just found out FOB is seeing someone and that they were talking to each other before we even split! Lovely... Men are just complete shites arent they! Seems like there are many of them the same...

 

[sambucababy]

Hi Im in a simular situation to you.
I have just split with my husband of 14years, he cheated on me last year and we got back together and planned this baby, everythign was fine untill the one he cheated with had his baby 4wks ago and now he is off with her and the baby who is seemingly still in hospital.
I dont ever see a way back from this situation as he has happily dumped his 4 kids and his pregnant wife without a second thought x

Hun men simply amaze me - I cannot believe what makes them do the tings they do, Im still cracking up myself at the moment so not much of a support but the ladies on here have been gret post when you need to someone will always help / be there for you.

good luck to you all x

 

[Scarletvixen]

Thanks

For some reason he dont see why i have chucked him out the house, he thinks its ok to be there with her and the baby (btw he sent a txt to my phone by mistake telling her we werent together!) and then walk back into our lives here when he has dumped the kids and doesnt do anything for them, he also thinks that the split is just until things "are sorted out" how the hell do you sort a mess like this out?

Rant over sorry for hijacking your thread hun

 

[sambucababy]

Thanks

For some reason he dont see why i have chucked him out the house, he thinks its ok to be there with her and the baby (btw he sent a txt to my phone by mistake telling her we werent together!) and then walk back into our lives here when he has dumped the kids and doesnt do anything for them, he also thinks that the split is just until things "are sorted out" how the hell do you sort a mess like this out?

Rant over sorry for hijacking your thread hun

Men are increadably complex I just dont understand my ex, despite the vile thinghe has done i love and miss him and in an ideal world wud have him back, but in reality he would just do it to me time and time again. Ur exx sounds complex too, what do his family say? My exes family have totally blanked me since he left and our daughter but then again i dont know what he has said he seems to alter his story dependant on who he is around at the time.

Maybe if the property is jointly owned or rented he feels has has a right to be there, Its a horrible time, worse for you with so many kids to fend for but I honestly just feel Im not in the best place to advise. Maybe if thats the case with the property get some free legal advice . As much as I miss my ex, I find it easier when he doesnt phone or text or I dont see him but then equally I feel gutted when he doesnt as he no longer cares for us.

Where I go from here I dont know, dont worry bout hijacking my thread I only started it as I thought if I could write my thoughts / feelings down it might help and sometimes an outsiders advice or opinion is much more objective than to those close to you. Take care and look after yourself x

 

[Scarletvixen]

Thanks hunni

Not suprisingly he dont want his family to find out about any it, how he is going to keep that from them i have no idea but they wont hear it from me as its not my place to say anything if they ask.

Suppose we will get there in the end, i know its going to be difficult but we are strong and we will make it xx

 

[Laura2919]

You both deserve much better than you have. Dont ever take them back no matter how lonely and how sad you feel because one day those feelings will pass and you will meet someone who will genuinely love you...
remember you didnt do anything wrong. Those scummy men did. My FOB included

 

[sambucababy]

You both deserve much better than you have. Dont ever take them back no matter how lonely and how sad you feel because one day those feelings will pass and you will meet someone who will genuinely love you...
remember you didnt do anything wrong. Those scummy men did. My FOB included

None of us did anythiing wrong other than love and trust them, if I wasnt so lazy id make a voodoo doll of him and constantly insert pins in him 24-7 lol or maybe its the year for men and mid life crisies x

Take care ladies x

 

[Laura2919]

I hope it picks up for us all soon

 

[sambucababy]

Just updating my online rant lol - feeling much better in myself since stopped the antidepressants and started a different course - the last lot sent me loopy and made me feel very very low.

Looked back through my diary since ex left - he seems to text every 4 days on cue and in 8 wks has seen our daughter once what a disgrace.
Anyhow he text me yesterday ........DAY 4 saying do u want me to get ur dads MOT done for him {he normally does it as my dad is disabled} and how is my little girl? I txt back saying she is fine and thanks for the offer but we will sort the MOT.

Now when he first left I started getting silent calls on my mobile and I told him and he accussed me of accusing her GF which I never, when he had calmed down he said if I got anymore wud I let him know. Now the last 3 days I been haaving them randomly during daytime / work hours onn my house phone - as I have caller display I dont answer and no messages have been left so I mentioned it to him that id had a few.

He text back saying well who has the house number I pointed out hardly anyone except him, his fam and my fam, he then re offered about the MOT and aked me to give his little girl a big kiss from him, which I didnt reply to as i think u've the time to come and collect my dads car and take it for MOT and bring it back yet u dont see ur own daughter.

Anyhow odd thing is no more calls.......................coincidence hmmmm

 

[Kagerou]

Would it be a pain to change your number?

I have been reading your thread from the start and it shocks me how he can actually talk to you knowing what he's done, the whole thing is just outrageous. You are doing really well though!

 

[sambucababy]

Would it be a pain to change your number?

I have been reading your thread from the start and it shocks me how he can actually talk to you knowing what he's done, the whole thing is just outrageous. You are doing really well though!

Thank you I am feeling a bit better still having off days though, the home phone doesnt bother me and im hoping to move house so will have a new number then which i wont give to him.

I have to let him have my mobile really for our daughters sake but I know what you mean his actions behaviour are outrageous, he has baffled all my friends, doc, and evenn my relate counsellor..............complex guy with issues !!

 

[Laura2919]

Nice to hear your having some good days. Seems like things could be looking up. I hope it continues.

He lied to you, for years, never go back to that.. Always look forward xxx

 

[sambucababy]

Nice to hear your having some good days. Seems like things could be looking up. I hope it continues.

He lied to you, for years, never go back to that.. Always look forward xxx

You and me both this is about my 3rd good day - I ve been through hell just couldnt go there again, thanks hun x

 

[Laura2919]

Its really good to see you happy.. keep those smiles on your face...

 

[Kagerou]

You should give us his number/FB and let us talk sense to him!!

 

[sambucababy]

You should give us his number/FB and let us talk sense to him!!

Lol now theres an idea !!

 

[Laura2919]

Lol. He wouldnt survive if he had me for an ex. I can be a right nasty cow mind you my ex deserves everything he gets. I hate liars and cheaters!

 

[sambucababy]

Lol. He wouldnt survive if he had me for an ex. I can be a right nasty cow mind you my ex deserves everything he gets. I hate liars and cheaters!

fairplay to u laura i used think i was an evil bugga been compared to janine off EE at times but this totally threw me !!wish u lived nearer u make me laugh !!

 

[Laura2919]

Lol. He wouldnt survive if he had me for an ex. I can be a right nasty cow mind you my ex deserves everything he gets. I hate liars and cheaters!

fairplay to u laura i used think i was an evil bugga been compared to janine off EE at times but this totally threw me !!wish u lived nearer u make me laugh !!

Where do you live? Obviously here in UK to be referring to the darling bitch in EE
Oh FOB said I was a witch and that anyone who got with me deserved a medal fair play to him lol

 

[sambucababy]

Lol. He wouldnt survive if he had me for an ex. I can be a right nasty cow mind you my ex deserves everything he gets. I hate liars and cheaters!

fairplay to u laura i used think i was an evil bugga been compared to janine off EE at times but this totally threw me !!wish u lived nearer u make me laugh !!

Where do you live? Obviously here in UK to be referring to the darling bitch in EE
Oh FOB said I was a witch and that anyone who got with me deserved a medal fair play to him lol

I live in Birmingham UK - where do u live hun.
I reckon both our FOB's wud get on great they both total d**ks !!