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But that is reality in the real world outside forums Blah.
- The mw who told me that she cuddles people because she is a mummy and maybe one day I would understand.
- The friend who would not see me because it might be catching..
- The people who will not call our son by his name as it is not conventional.
- Numerous people who tell me that I have only had one child.
- the people who don't believe I gave birth to him. Dont know how they think he was born.
It goes on and on and on. There is probably not one person who has lost a child who doesn't have at least one example like this.
Yeah, that is what I was getting at with mentioning what various friends had said. I dont expect people to understand what my life or pain is like, they simply cannot but basic things like you still have to give birth, is something every person should be educated in.
I read pregnancy books, all had a small chapter on miscarriages nothing on stillbirths or neonatal loss. I went to antenatal clasess, no mention at all of loses. So when my daughter died, it WAS a complete shock that this had happened and I didnt have the internet so I felt alone, made to feel even moreso when the hospital told me we dont have the facilities to support you because this doesnt happen here It was the lonliest place to be, and it need not of been because there was nine other women that day delivering their stillborn baby, and seven ithers cradling their newborn as they said goodbye.
Awareness on a level that OBEM could give, couldnt be matched by a documentry and if people feel uncomfortable or scared, they have an off switch but if it makes one woman get checked or another feel less lone because she felt like I did then that is worth it to me