OH performance anxiety - 6 BFPs so far!!!!

[SaraJewel]

Oh dear Katherine, sorry to hear that It must be in the air because OH and I had our worst argument in ages at the weekend. Admittedly we were facing becoming homeless at the time which isn't great!

[All sorted now - just got the stress of moving to deal with. Which seems a minor inconvenience compared to the possibility of having to live in our tent]

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Whats happening then Viccat? When do you move into the new property? How long were in you sleeping in a tent? Conducive to BDing? Sort of romantic!

Im hating my TTC obsession this month. I started temping halfway through my cycle and thought I had Ov'ed before I started temping and yet all my temps seem to be very low (from what I read on various forums) for post ov dates. Does that mean I have a progesterone problem? Did I not Ov? Am I still to Ov even though Im on CD19 (of a 26 day cycle)? If that is the case, do I have a short luteal phase so no chance for egg to safely implant! I feel I know a little bit too much and yet too little about too many things and Im wondering if temping isnt healthy for me. Is it just another obsession. We really went for the BDing this month too but it seems all to no avail. Hoping for an HSG soon, away with work for most of October so will come back with vengeance in November - when I will be TTC number 1 aged 40!! aRGH!
Katherine, sorry about your tests saga. Not fun.

I was about to start temping but ended up having a month off as we were apart during that crucial fertile period. I have to say, it's the best I've felt in ages, not having to worry about TTC at all!

So I've decided not to temp, not to OPK, just to go for it every 2-3 days until we know the fertile period is likely over and try and relax a bit more about the whole process.

I guess that's why I've not been on here for ages.

Hope everyone is OK?????

 

[Katherine1209]

Hi Sara, glad things are going okay for you...I agree that the more relaxed about it I am the better I feel in the long run...I too have been trying to relax a bit more, but it's not always easy....

I've had such a relaxed day today. Did a bit of gardening with oh, made a lovely lunch and cooked dinner as well, watched some trashy reruns of the bachelorette...now just preparing myself to go back to work Monday...boo!

I have been drinking a lot of green tea and stuck to my healthy eating and exercise plan...I noticed a lot more ewcm this month..could it be the tea??

 

[viccat]

Hi SJ - lovely to see you around again!

Not a lot to report - other than the arriving 2 days early. I don't think I ovulated this month, which wouldn't be a surprise considering the amount of stress we've been under.

Still packing, and cleaning, and packing, and cleaning. Feeling a bit glum about the probability of getting pregnant naturally at the moment, and as a consequence indulging myself with a mini-mid-life-crisis.

On the plus side, we're all set to move at the weekend AND we had an offer accepted on a house to buy today. It is a doer-upper which I hope will help give me an absorbing project for a few months.

 

[starbaby]

My ex hub was similar, we tried 5 years to conceive, in fact not only could he not "finish" via intercourse, he couldn't maintain his "status" either in the end my daughter was conceived via home insemination with his swimmers in a femcap, not very romantic but effective all the same!
Incidentally the dreadfully disatisfying sex life had a strangulating effect on our relationship which is why he is an EX husband, but if you two can enjoy eachother without the "finishing" part then thats a good thing, just maybe try the DIY AI for the fertile phase and then just enjoy eachother pressure free for the rest of the time?
Good luck hun, x

 

[starbaby]

Dear God, i didn't realise this was such a LOOOONG thread! Obviously my response was designed for the original post, and i wish now i'd seen its somewhat moved on since then! Ha ha! Sorry!

 

[greenjelly]

Dear God, i didn't realise this was such a LOOOONG thread! Obviously my response was designed for the original post, and i wish now i'd seen its somewhat moved on since then! Ha ha! Sorry!

starbaby. Your words are very welcome at whatever point they arrive in the thread! I love a success story!

SJ so nice to see you back again! We all hijacked your thread and it felt wrong without you. I am likely to be away alone for my October fertile window so that will be a break for me. Is it nice just to not be thinking about it all the time? I imagine it is. I am so much better when I am in the office. When I work at home, I am constantly googling various symptoms and questions. So unhealthy!
Viccat, good news about the house. Im not sure I ovulated this month either. I still keep thinking I might get that elusive first ever BFP though!

 

[HPMINI]

Greenjelly - the month I didn't appear to ovulate and only had high fertility indicated on the CBFM and never actually got to peak - was the month I conceived! So the test must have picked that up instead!

 

[SaraJewel]

Good luck green!

Aw you're all so nice having me back! It was defo lovely having a break tho! Hardly thought about TTC at all, was like being back to the old me!

Viccat sorry re AF coming early.

HP how's the pregnancy going?

Kath, more ewcm could be due to better hydration.

And Starbaby, any comments are welcome so thanks for sharing!

Well we did it a couple of times in the fertile period so who knows! I think I have googled every symptom possible and every time I end up getting AF so have finally given up on doing that! YOu're right, it's totally addictive!

SJ x x x

 

[HPMINI]

SaraJewel

Pregnancy is going fine - we are now at 29 weeks! All midwife checks have been good. I stop work on 2 November! Eek! We have some things that we need but need to make a list to check out what else we need!

I feel like a very lucky person, going from thinking that it was something that wasn't going to happen, to actually achieving it!

It's all possible. Fingers crossed!! I think it happened when I wasn't expecting it and was starting to give up hope! Fate!

 

[janey211]

Hello Ladies..

AF arrived today. Can't say I am surprised. I find myself thinking more about it not happening then it happening. I had my second progesterone test on Friday so just waiting for the doc to call and tell me it was low. This was the 6th month of ttc, so I guess off to the specialist we go. I turn 39 on Sunday (and our 6 year wedding anniversary), everyone wants to celebrate and I want to go to sleep. We will continue on the journey but remain level headed and prepared for the worst. Geesh, you can tell I have my period!

I hope you are all well and wish luck for positive vibes.

 

[viccat]

Hello Ladies..

AF arrived today. Can't say I am surprised. I find myself thinking more about it not happening then it happening. I had my second progesterone test on Friday so just waiting for the doc to call and tell me it was low. This was the 6th month of ttc, so I guess off to the specialist we go. I turn 39 on Sunday (and our 6 year wedding anniversary), everyone wants to celebrate and I want to go to sleep. We will continue on the journey but remain level headed and prepared for the worst. Geesh, you can tell I have my period!

I hope you are all well and wish luck for positive vibes.

I am sending your way Janey, I know exactly how you feel. I didn't feel like celebrating my 38rd at all a couple of weeks ago. I am just building up to visiting the GP myself, and to be honest, not feeling much like doing it.

What about you? Will you definitely go to a specialist, or is it the talking?

 

[HPMINI]

I really hated New Years Eve last year - knowing it was the year I turned 39
Fortunately fate worked my way which is good as I wasn't good at plucking up the courage to visit the doctors!!

 

[janey211]

Viccat,

yes we will go to a specialist. I will do IUI but not IVF due to cost. My progesterone was slightly higher 5.5 , up from 3.5 but no where near what it needs to be. My GYN gave me pregnitude, a supplement used to assist with ovulation. I also requested a sperm analysis for my husband which he is going to do tomorrow. I just want to make sure that is ok so we at least know it's on my end. She suggested to wait 2 more months while on this pregnitude and if everything is ok with his sperm analysis then we will do a low dose of clomid.
My GYN doesn't want me to run to a specialist because it hasn't been a year yet, but I keep reminding her I am 39! I really need to get back on a healthy track. I was doing really well with eating and exercise and totally fell of the wagon. Got to get back on track!!!

Good Luck to everyone!

 

[viccat]

That sounds a pretty well thought out action plan Janey. I will be interested to see how you get on, because (at the moment) I don't want to do anything too invasive/costly either.

I will keep my fingers crossed for you

 

[SaraJewel]

Hello Ladies..

AF arrived today. Can't say I am surprised. I find myself thinking more about it not happening then it happening. I had my second progesterone test on Friday so just waiting for the doc to call and tell me it was low. This was the 6th month of ttc, so I guess off to the specialist we go. I turn 39 on Sunday (and our 6 year wedding anniversary), everyone wants to celebrate and I want to go to sleep. We will continue on the journey but remain level headed and prepared for the worst. Geesh, you can tell I have my period!

I hope you are all well and wish luck for positive vibes.

Hey Janey, I am with you. AF arrived on Wednesday. Feeling quite negative, used to look at symptoms and imagine the best but now just assume the worst.... I turned 39 a few months ago. We have been TTC 13 months now, but a lot of those months there was no chance of conception due to performance anxiety.

Gonna go to GP soon as have never felt there was any point discussing why we are not conceiving as there wasn't a chance for so long. Scared of OH's reaction to this tho. Worried this may bring back performance anxiety just when things are better on that front.

Sorry, not many positive vibes here! I feel so old and tired today

 

[Zeri]

Hi Sara Jewel, sorry to hear you're feeling down. I'm pretty much in the same boat as well. I've been considering asking DH to try Viagra, to help with the performance issue. Not sure how he would react to it...but I think it might help. As far as I know, Viagra helps them have a solid erection, as so they don't have to worry trying to get it up and failing...know what I mean? Do you think that might help your OH?

 

[viccat]

Oh SaraJewel, chin up hon - you are NOT old!

Hey - I've got an idea. Each of us should think of a famous lady who is the same age as us, and is an inspiration on the aging fabulously front!

I've always been cheered up when I see pictures of Kate Moss partying and going to festivals and stuff. Heck she still gets modelling contracts even now, so "ya boo sucks" to being 38.

 

[greenjelly]

Oh SaraJewel, chin up hon - you are NOT old!

Hey - I've got an idea. Each of us should think of a famous lady who is the same age as us, and is an inspiration on the aging fabulously front!

I've always been cheered up when I see pictures of Kate Moss partying and going to festivals and stuff. Heck she still gets modelling contracts even now, so "ya boo sucks" to being 38.

Good idea Viccat. How about Patricia Hodge? I know not particularly in our age range but the nurse at my GPs told me that she used to be Pat's nanny and that Pat only gave birth to her first child at age 42. She thought she would never get pregnant but did! So I hold her my mind for positive thoughts. She does look pretty good for her age too.
Chin up Sara J. Completely understand your feelings but I hope you are feeling slightly happier today.
xxxx

 

[viccat]

Good idea Viccat. How about Patricia Hodge? I know not particularly in our age range but the nurse at my GPs told me that she used to be Pat's nanny and that Pat only gave birth to her first child at age 42. She thought she would never get pregnant but did! So I hold her my mind for positive thoughts. She does look pretty good for her age too.
Chin up Sara J. Completely understand your feelings but I hope you are feeling slightly happier today.
xxxx

I'm liking Patricia Hodge - according to Wikipedia she then had her second aged 46

 

[Katherine1209]

I couldn't think of someone famous but my workmate announced she is pregnant yesterday, after 4 years of TTC and she is 44!
My oh does take Viagra and it helps heaps!
I've had a shit time this cycle when af showed up...I'd been feeling really hopeful as we did twice rig in the fertile period...when af came I was gutted, couldn't stop,crying...
Feeling much better now and off to see my gp Friday about my progesterone and amh....fingers crossed...