familygirl30
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Hi their, Do you think it would work if once my OH has ejaculated through foreplay i could put him inside me straight after?Advice please.
Hi their, Do you think it would work if once my OH has ejaculated through foreplay i could put him inside me straight after?Advice please.
Thank you for the reply I was hoping him inside me after ejaculation would be ok but will have to think of other way,so frustrating.
Hey Janey, I am with you. AF arrived on Wednesday. Feeling quite negative, used to look at symptoms and imagine the best but now just assume the worst.... I turned 39 a few months ago. We have been TTC 13 months now, but a lot of those months there was no chance of conception due to performance anxiety.
Gonna go to GP soon as have never felt there was any point discussing why we are not conceiving as there wasn't a chance for so long. Scared of OH's reaction to this tho. Worried this may bring back performance anxiety just when things are better on that front.
Sorry, not many positive vibes here! I feel so old and tired today
How did it go on Friday Katherine?I couldn't think of someone famous but my workmate announced she is pregnant yesterday, after 4 years of TTC and she is 44!
My oh does take Viagra and it helps heaps!
I've had a shit time this cycle when af showed up...I'd been feeling really hopeful as we did twice rig in the fertile period...when af came I was gutted, couldn't stop,crying...
Feeling much better now and off to see my gp Friday about my progesterone and amh....fingers crossed...
Hello ladies!
Welcome familygirl. I too do at home insemination. You will get the hang of it. It takes all the pressure off of performing! Haven't been successful yet, but still trying. I have my DH finish in a cup, he takes it to me, I draw the sperm into the syringe and in it goes. inject SLOWLY, if you do it to fast it will just come out. Having an orgasm(not vaginally) is recomended because if makes the cervix dip down to collect the sperm. I wait about 30 minutes before I get up. you will have fall out, don't worry, it is just the semen fluid, not the sperm.
SARAjewel, will your husband to at home insemination? have you discussed it? it is so much easier than the stress of performance. And according to my doc, it should work.
A few updates on my end. My husband had his sperm tested and it was abnormal. Not terrible but abnormal. The mobility is low which I feel is a result of him smoking pot. Some people take one of many mood medications.... my husband likes pot. It relaxes him and helps with his anxiety and I normally don't care. He is responsible and has a good job but I think it is doing a number on his sperm not swimming right right. He has agreed to quit so that is good news! He is also seeing a uralogist to discuss the results and see if there is somjething he can take improve them faster. And he is going to get a script for Viagra or Cialis. Not only does he suffer from the "finishing" problem, he is now loosing his erection. Even though we do the syringe each month, I would like to actually have sex. The syringe has replaced all need for it. So we are working on that as well.
I do have a friend who said it really helped her husband finish better. I think that fact alone that thier penis so erect, excites them!! Also, sorry for any TMI, but there are adult toys out there for men that may help ....We have tried a few things that I think helped. Just a suggestion. If you want more info, feel free to ask.
I just bought a fertility monitor. I am done with these OV test strips. I can't tell what is what. DONE! bought the monitor and expect to get it tomorrow. It was expensive but so is IUI and IVF.
Not feeling anymore HOPEFUL but also not giving up. Just controlling what I can control! I am CD14 today, we are starting insemination tonight and off we go.....
Katherine, how was the docs?
Juniper, he smokes daily when he has it. I don't think that if your OH is taking a hit every fortnight(had to google that) it's a huge problem. that isn't allot but if the test comes out irregular then he may want to stop. My husband is going to have to expalin why has stopped to his friends and they better be supportive.Janey, can I ask how much pot ur DH smokes? My OH has 2 friends that smoke a fair bit of pot, so when he visits them it is inevitable that he ends up partaking also. He doesn't really even enjoy being stoned very much, but he does it to be sociable & says it would be anti-social to refuse. Up until now (TTC) I couldn't care less about it, but now it does worry me. A couple of times he has purposely refused but Even if it's only once a fortnight it still worries me. We are getting his SA done soon so I guess that will be telling. I'm hoping it'll be ok, but I guess if it isn't then he'll just have to start being rude & anti-social : )
Juniper,Yeh I completely agree janey- the other thought I had was that he is being kind of voyeuristic & getting off on reading the posts... Which is gross & like one of the other girls has said, also makes me feel slightly uncomfortable writing all this personal stuff. But I'm not gonna let some weird guy put me off. If he posts again I don't think I'll be able to stop myself telling him that he should be keeping his opinions to himself!!
I know wot u mean about the occasional smoking stuff, and my OH has been pretty good trying to avoid smoking it around Ov time. But I'd prefer he stopped altogether until we've got a BFP... Then he can do wot he wants. Think I just find it a wee bit annoying bcos I know he doesn't even like it that much- he says it makes his buddy talk too much, & he on the otherhand struggles to talk or concentrate!! : ) what a pair!!
So will u reschedule the urologist then? If so how long will u leave it?
oh no.......now I am nervous!! I did a practice run and it came out fine but it was only in for a minute. they say to push (like your having a bowel movement) and it releases it...gosh I hope it comes out. eeek!Last night I had my DH "finish" into a Soft Cup, and I put that in (no problem!) and we went to sleep. This morning, sadly, I couldn't fish it back out! I tried and tried. I had to have my DH get it out. He's such a good sport! Thank god he was still home or the nurse would have had to do it at my follicle check u/s this morning. That would have been mortifying!
Anyway, went in for the follie check and it's still too small - only 10mm. I go back on Saturday to see if there's any progress.