OH performance anxiety - 6 BFPs so far!!!!

[SaraJewel]

Oh SaraJewel, chin up hon - you are NOT old!

Hey - I've got an idea. Each of us should think of a famous lady who is the same age as us, and is an inspiration on the aging fabulously front!

I've always been cheered up when I see pictures of Kate Moss partying and going to festivals and stuff. Heck she still gets modelling contracts even now, so "ya boo sucks" to being 38.

Thanks everyone! I am over my pity party now! I love Kate Moss too!

How is everyone?

Zeri, my OH has no probs with erection and his problems finishing are fewer and fewer (although they do still happen...........).

I am a bit more chilled out now and more focused on other parts of my life. I think I am more accepting now that this will take a long time and might not even happen. Not being negative, just a bit more realistic.

I hope someone gets good news soon!

 

[kelly1973]

hi ladies just popping in to say hi hope your all well, sara your not old im even older then you massive hugs to you all xx

 

[Juniperjules]

So ladies i got my blood results back today.. Day 21 Progesterone, Hep B & C, chicken pox, rubella, glucose, thyroid function, vitamin D.. Can't remember wot else.. All good. Except have mild vitamin D deficiency. Am paranoid about skin cancer so tend to stay out of the sun. So Am now taking Ostelin to sort that. My Progesterone was 39.5 which I'm told is good & means I most likely did ovulate.

I also got up the courage to talk to the Doc about my OH 'finishing' issues. She talked about whether OH would see an IVF doctor who is also an 'andrologist' (spelling???).. She also mentioned therapy?? But I pretty much know that my OH is unlikely to want to do that kind of stuff. Especially the therapy! No chance!! So I kept emphasising that our sex is great, but that it's only the finishing that's a prob & she simply said 'so probably if someone can just put the sperm in there then you'll be pregnant!' which sounded so nice & simple & easy! So we're gonna try that! Well, I haven't even had a chance to tell my OH about it, but pretty certain he'll go with wot I wanna do.

So she has referred us for IUI. I have to decide if we want to go public or private??? Private might be quicker. So she has sent the referral to the local women's hospital & I'm going to call tomorrow to see if I can find out what the wait time is?? If it's too long I'm going to consider going private. Our Medicare rebates a big chunk of the cost back so it might not be such a big difference. Apparently it might just get more expensive if u go on to do IVF... Which I pray we don't...

Anyway.. Have started the ball rolling.. Scary..

 

[SaraJewel]

hi ladies just popping in to say hi hope your all well, sara your not old im even older then you massive hugs to you all xx

Thanks Kelly! How are you feeling? Hope all is going well x x x

 

[kelly1973]

hi sara im good thanks still have wobbles but getting better as time goes on got my 20 week scan on the 13th so very exciting hugs to you all xx

 

[viccat]

Hi all ..... another busy week here. As expected the turned up on Monday. I was too busy to either a) log on and update or b) feel sorry for myself!

So, here we are at cycle 10. Oh is away at the moment, but I will have a talk to him once we're both back in the same country. We will try again this month, but I think it is time to visit the GP and see if there is something other than the lack of BD stopping us getting pregnant.

I feel more and more that this might just not happen, but am managing to stay philosophical most of the time.

 

[greenjelly]

Hi all ..... another busy week here. As expected the turned up on Monday. I was too busy to either a) log on and update or b) feel sorry for myself!

So, here we are at cycle 10. Oh is away at the moment, but I will have a talk to him once we're both back in the same country. We will try again this month, but I think it is time to visit the GP and see if there is something other than the lack of BD stopping us getting pregnant.

I feel more and more that this might just not happen, but am managing to stay philosophical most of the time.

I know what you mean Viccat. I celebrated my 40th birthday last week so really feel I have entered another era. It just doesnt seem to be happening for us either. I have an HSG booked for the 13th so that might shed some light on things. I temped last month but got no variation in temps at all all month so not sure what is going on. I am away with work now and forgot to bring my thermometer which I actually think is a bit of a blessing. Its just another obsession! I cant imagine how it would feel not to have AF turn up. I have 25/6 day cycles and regular as clockwork. I suppose its good that I never even get to think i MIGHT be pregnant. We have been trying for 18 months now. Not a sniff of a BFP. My OH's sperm is fine so it's something in my bits. I dont know of any gynae problems, as I say very regular periods. Am I just an unexplained infertility statistic?

 

[greenjelly]

hi sara im good thanks still have wobbles but getting better as time goes on got my 20 week scan on the 13th so very exciting hugs to you all xx

PS glad to hear things are going well Kelly. Do you have a bump yet?

 

[kelly1973]

hi green lovely to hear from you yes my bump feels massive ive put on a stone already first time ive ever excepted weight gain lol

 

[janey211]

Hello Ladies!

Juniper..glad you got the ball rolling. Those test results are great. You must feel better no?

Viccat, green....I now how you feel but we must not give up hope. It happens to people it should not happen to all the time...so why not us?

As for me, just waiting for AF to show up. I am cd 29 and I usually get it anywhere from 27-3. I have some cramping, so I assume she is on her way. Not allowing myself to think the cramping is anything other then what it is. I didn't get any positive OPK's last month and my timing was all ofther the place with AI. I am kissing October good bye.

My husband saw the urologist last week. Nothing major to report except that he agrees that the low motility is due to the pot smoking. He did way that his results "aren't terrible" and we should not feel too discouraged. e recomended a supplement that is supposed to increase it. We aren't going to take that one becuase it is $380 but I put a blend together with all the same ingrediants....we will see!

Good luck to you as usuall!

 

[Katherine1209]

Hi lovely peeps...I have been having a bit of a break from BandB lately...mainly to stop my constant obsessing...and shock of all shocks I got a BFP tonight! I'm in total shock...can't believe it....we only DTD once this cycle and I had to go to work so no time for legs on the wall either...did I mention I'm in shock??
After 9 months of trying and our appt with fertility specialist is in two days!! Have to cancel...keeping my fingers crossed for a sticky bean...xx
So 40 and knocked up is possible!!

 

[HPMINI]

Really good news Katherine! Congratulations!
I was getting to the stage where I thought I would see my doctor and get the OH there for testing, but turns out it wasn't necessary!
For everyone else - it really is possible!

 

[janey211]

Katherine....I am beaming for you! It means so much to hear good news! Congratulations and I hope all goes smoothly! Please keep us updated!!! YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[gustav72]

Congrats Katherine!!!! That's great news!

 

[gustav72]

HI All, I've been taking a break from the forum for a variety of reason, more to do with trying not to obsess so much. I've had a difficult few days....originally, I did post about my OH having some performance issues. He ended up getting his testosterone checked and a sperm analysis, all was fine. We put off TTC until we got results back since my OH's anxiety level was so high. We tried again this month when I was ovulating and he was having the same issues again!! He is so in his head with the pressure of TTC, we've been dealing with this since the summer, but now I am feeling very discouraged. He talked to his doctor about a Viagra prescription...this is unchartered territory for us....anyone else have success with OH using Viagra or similar supplement.

 

[nobump]

Hubby would rather sleep, he works makeshift I work normal hours are weekends enough.

 

[Zeri]

gustav, I'm sure viagra would help your DH, espeically if his testosterone is fine. then he wouldn't have to worry about maintaining his erection? the viagra would help with that, I should think. It would take some of the pressure off.

 

[gustav72]

Thanks...taking off the pressure is key, the pressure is killing our sex life and chances to have a baby! I am glad he is open to this as I know this hasn't been easy for him.

 

[Katherine1209]

Hi Gustav,
My OH uses viagra regularly and he doesn't really like to dtd without it now, he says it makes him feel like he's 20 again...lol and it really took the pressure off maintaining erection for him, it just stays up regardless ...and it totally worked for us this last month...we did only dtd once this last cycle too! And he gets his online so didnt have to go to dr...

 

[greenjelly]

Hi Gustav,
My OH uses viagra regularly and he doesn't really like to dtd without it now, he says it makes him feel like he's 20 again...lol and it really took the pressure off maintaining erection for him, it just stays up regardless ...and it totally worked for us this last month...we did only dtd once this last cycle too! And he gets his online so didnt have to go to dr...

OMG Katherine! amazing news! Congratulations. I am 40 and a week today so maybe November is the month for me! All the best. Keep it sticky! Is pineapple good for such things?

xxxx