OH performance anxiety - 6 BFPs so far!!!!

[janey211]

Spoiler

Hi Ladies,

I am still in shock as I write this. I am pregnant. Tested positive this AM. DH doesn't even know yet. I really didn't thing it would happen, but it did. Just goes to show you that you have have many obsticles:

abnormal ovulation ( not even sure I was at all)
Husband issues , low motility
Needing to do AI
Age 39

And you can still conceive. This shoud give you all hope for the future. I will say that this month and last month I wasn't crazy about it. I just picked the most active week and did AI every other day. The OPK's weren't working. I did use the instead cups this month and I was taking pregnitude. Maybe that helped or it was just the right time. I am so scared.....but so happy.

 

[Juniperjules]

Spoiler

Hi Ladies,

I am still in shock as I write this. I am pregnant. Tested positive this AM. DH doesn't even know yet. I really didn't thing it would happen, but it did. Just goes to show you that you have have many obsticles:

abnormal ovulation ( not even sure I was at all)
Husband issues , low motility
Needing to do AI
Age 39

And you can still conceive. This shoud give you all hope for the future. I will say that this month and last month I wasn't crazy about it. I just picked the most active week and did AI every other day. The OPK's weren't working. I did use the instead cups this month and I was taking pregnitude. Maybe that helped or it was just the right time. I am so scared.....but so happy.

Congratulations!!! Wot amazing news for you... It proves that it is possible! We're also doing AI & although I know it can work.. Sometimes it still feels silly & ridiculous.. But whenever I hear news like urs I'm reminded that it really can work. I had the cd21 progesterone test & it was 39.5, & we just found out yesterday that OH's semen analysis was good, no problems found. Of course there could still be other issues with me I guess??? But on the surface things 'should' be working ok. So you give me hope- thank you!

I really hope all goes well for you, good luck & enjoy a wonderful new chapter of ur life

 

[SaraJewel]

Hi lovely peeps...I have been having a bit of a break from BandB lately...mainly to stop my constant obsessing...and shock of all shocks I got a BFP tonight! I'm in total shock...can't believe it....we only DTD once this cycle and I had to go to work so no time for legs on the wall either...did I mention I'm in shock??
After 9 months of trying and our appt with fertility specialist is in two days!! Have to cancel...keeping my fingers crossed for a sticky bean...xx
So 40 and knocked up is possible!!

Katherine, that's amazing news, congratulations! Only once??? Wow........

 

[SaraJewel]

Spoiler

Hi Ladies,

I am still in shock as I write this. I am pregnant. Tested positive this AM. DH doesn't even know yet. I really didn't thing it would happen, but it did. Just goes to show you that you have have many obsticles:

abnormal ovulation ( not even sure I was at all)
Husband issues , low motility
Needing to do AI
Age 39

And you can still conceive. This shoud give you all hope for the future. I will say that this month and last month I wasn't crazy about it. I just picked the most active week and did AI every other day. The OPK's weren't working. I did use the instead cups this month and I was taking pregnitude. Maybe that helped or it was just the right time. I am so scared.....but so happy.

Fab news Janey!!! OPKs haven't worked well with me. When you said you used the instead cups, in what way did you use them??? For AI?

Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wow 2 BFPs in short succession!

 

[SaraJewel]

Hi All,

I've updated the title of this thread to show our success so far! Thought this might help keep others motivated and give us all some hope???

If anyone has any objection to this let me know.

Was feeling quite gloomy, AF came on Thursday despite VERY good efforts this month so was disappointed. Told OH was thinking of going to GP, he looked at me like I was a bit mad but when I explained about ladies over 35 having no success after 6 months, he understood. I guess I forget how much I have read about all of this and how little men sometimes know. I am resigning myself a bit to the fact that it may not happen, but feeling a bit more hopeful again after the recent good news!

CONGRATS again Janey and Katherine!!!!

 

[janey211]

Juniper....yes it works. It feels redic but does it matter? Only one thing matters that they get where they need to go. You can have your intimate time together with no pressure and just enjoy it. We never got the goods there naturally. We were gearing to try some meds for the husband to see if that helps but turns out, we didn't need to. It's funny because I also just purchased the first response fertility monitor, which was like 150 bucks......hoping I don't need that again! And not complaining about the money because it is still allot cheaper then fertility treatments which were right around the corner. I really hope my story helps you to keep going....because I had allot of obstacles. My progesterone test 2 months ago was only 5.5.....it should be way over 10. Husband motility was 26%...should be over 50.

I think you should use the instead cups for the AI......I had him deposit in there and inserted them. No leakage....no need for laying around for an hour.

Sara...yes, I used the instead cups for AI. This was the first month we used them. Could be a coincidence...who knows. But I really preferred it. And they say to use pre-seed as well. just put that in the cup with his "boys" and insert. I was going to start that next month as well.

I am so scared that something is going to happen. Keep thinking that I can't be this lucky. Must stop that and move forward as if all is well and we will have our baby by July.

You guys were the first people I told! I don't think my husband has really accepted it yet. He is happy but I don't think he thinks it is real. He was like...are you sure? How can you be sure? He doesn't want to tell anyone until we know everyhting is ok.

Anyway girls....keep going

 

[janey211]

sara, I love the new title. Hearing the BFP's helped me so much. I can't wait to hear good news for you all soon!

 

[viccat]

Hi all - so much good news! Katherine and janey I am so so pleased for both of you. Really thrilled that you've had your BFPs and it just shows, you don't need to be bonking like bunnies to be successful.

Send your spare baby dust our way, and have a happy and healthy 9 months girls!

 

[viccat]

Was feeling quite gloomy, AF came on Thursday despite VERY good efforts this month so was disappointed. Told OH was thinking of going to GP, he looked at me like I was a bit mad but when I explained about ladies over 35 having no success after 6 months, he understood. I guess I forget how much I have read about all of this and how little men sometimes know. I am resigning myself a bit to the fact that it may not happen, but feeling a bit more hopeful again after the recent good news!

Hey SJ - I just raised the GP idea with OH today too. He wasn't thrilled about the idea as he is a very private person, but accepted that it seemed like the next sensible step. No doubt I will have to give him a push to make the appointment, but we've got a couple of weeks before we are counting out this month.

I am sending you a as it isn't easy is it as time goes on?

 

[gustav72]

Congrats Janey!!! Thinking good thoughts for everyone else!!

 

[SaraJewel]

Was feeling quite gloomy, AF came on Thursday despite VERY good efforts this month so was disappointed. Told OH was thinking of going to GP, he looked at me like I was a bit mad but when I explained about ladies over 35 having no success after 6 months, he understood. I guess I forget how much I have read about all of this and how little men sometimes know. I am resigning myself a bit to the fact that it may not happen, but feeling a bit more hopeful again after the recent good news!

Hey SJ - I just raised the GP idea with OH today too. He wasn't thrilled about the idea as he is a very private person, but accepted that it seemed like the next sensible step. No doubt I will have to give him a push to make the appointment, but we've got a couple of weeks before we are counting out this month.

I am sending you a as it isn't easy is it as time goes on?

No it doesn't get any easier, quite the opposite really! I haven't even raised him having an appointment with his GP yet! 1 step at a time............ Hugs back

 

[gustav72]

So, since my last post a couple days ago, I talked to my gyn about our obstacles....she has referred me to a fertility information talk (it's how Kaiser does it), then I will have to get blood work and then they will most likely proceed with IUI...I'm nervous and scared. My OH already got his semen analysis and we did hear in the past couple of days all was fine with his results. We still await the viagra prescription, but guess with my age (I'll be 40 in less than two weeks), my doctor didn't want to wait around. This is all new to me...

 

[SaraJewel]

So, since my last post a couple days ago, I talked to my gyn about our obstacles....she has referred me to a fertility information talk (it's how Kaiser does it), then I will have to get blood work and then they will most likely proceed with IUI...I'm nervous and scared. My OH already got his semen analysis and we did hear in the past couple of days all was fine with his results. We still await the viagra prescription, but guess with my age (I'll be 40 in less than two weeks), my doctor didn't want to wait around. This is all new to me...

It is scary but you will be OK. Where do you live?

Stay strong..................

 

[gustav72]

Thanks SaraJewel...I have no idea what to expect and feel upset we can't get pregnant naturally, due to my husband's performance issues. We still will talk to his doctor about Viagra. It has really discouraged us more so this week, we both are in a funk. I live in the Bay Area, in California. I have Kaiser insurance, so they have you go to some informational meeting first, then blood tests, then nurse reviews it, then they assign you to fertility doctor...it all seems to take some time.

 

[viccat]

Looking on the bright side though gustav - at least his swimmers are good. From what I have read, that can be difficult to fix, and I do worry if we go for tests, what that might do for performance issues.

 

[KJM2]

Hope you dont mind me posting hear. My dh also had performance issues it was really bad at one point and nearly devasted our marriage. I know I put too much pressure on him to have sex on certain days even when hle didnt feel lilke it and couldnt finish then I wou get ld so upset then a vicious cycle would start to me I was living a nightmare in that I would never get pregnant. We resorted to using porn to help him. I was desperate I would have tried anything. We went through all the tests all normal and were a month away from private ivf when I finally got my bfp after 2 and hlf years trying. I never thhought it would happen. Fingers crossed you all get your bfp soon.

 

[gustav72]

Congrats KJM2!
True, Viccat! I'm thankful all is okay, as we were wondering if the performance issues were medically related. It seems it's more the pressure and anxiety of TTC.

 

[janey211]

One thing we tried that got him allot closer was.....well......cockrings (I am currenlty blushing They wear around thier penis and it makes it super hard..... it got him allot closer but not all the way. It is worth a try! You can purchase from
AdamandEve.com. They come in a non descript package so no one will know what you ordered. Maybe surprise him with it?

Sorry if this was TMI.

 

[gustav72]

Not TMI ....we've considered using them in the summer when the issues started, but haven't tried them yet. We will give it a consideration.

 

[greenjelly]

Just catching up and what amazing news! Janey and Katherine - congratulations! How wonderful it must be to see a BFP! I can only imagine. 18 months ttc and not the faintest line. Got an hsg on tues and might look to start acupuncture once I know the result of that. Going to a fertilty clinic open day tomorrow just to see what (expensive, no doubt) options there are. I too have just turned 40. Perhaps that is a good omen! Does anyone else feel they are much more keen on the baby thing than their partner? It makes me worry that if a baby comes along, it will put too much strain on our relationship...
Hope you are feeling good j and k and the other ladies who have had success during this thread!