OH performance anxiety - 6 BFPs so far!!!!

[viccat]

Got an hsg on tues and might look to start acupuncture once I know the result of that. Going to a fertilty clinic open day tomorrow just to see what (expensive, no doubt) options there are. I too have just turned 40. Perhaps that is a good omen! Does anyone else feel they are much more keen on the baby thing than their partner? It makes me worry that if a baby comes along, it will put too much strain on our relationship...
Hope you are feeling good j and k and the other ladies who have had success during this thread!

I'll be interested to see what a fertility clinic considers a good starting point, if you don't mind giving us an update greenjelly? And good luck with your hsg next week.

I feel like I am more keen on the baby thing than my partner, because I was the one pushing to TTC. Once he made the decision he seemed on board and does talk about what life with kids would be like ..... but ..... still not enough DTD which does make me wonder. However, he is actually better with our pets and other people's small children than I am. He is a total natural, enjoys having them climb all over him, throws them around - they all adore him. So I reckon he would be a very relaxed and happy dad after the first few weeks (when he's worried about dropping a newborn). I think the strain would be caused only if I fretted about every little thing. That's not likely, eh?

 

[SaraJewel]

Oh I am definitely keener than OH. He would be happy either way. It scared the Sh*t out of him to start with, hence the performance anxiety, but he seems better now, hence virtually no/no performance anxiety.

I guess our next hurdle is that we may not be able to conceive.

It can be so exhausting! Haven't been to doc's yet but realise as time ticks by it is something I should do.............

Let us know what happens at the clinic Green. Do you need to go private because of age? You are in the UK right? Good luck x

 

[greenjelly]

So here is my update. We went to the Herts and Essex Fertility Clinic (Yes, I am UK based but I cant work out how to change my profile details!) on Sat. They offer an IVF package for £2800 which is quite a bit cheaper than other places I think. I had my NHS appointment today for what I originally thought was an HSG but apparently it wasnt. I met with a gynaecologist who looked at the results of my various tests I have had already and now it appears I am in the loop which I guess is good but annoying that I dont feel any further along the line with knowing if I have any physical problems. I was looking forward to knowing the status of my tubes but it seems that has to wait. I have to call on CD1 and they will book me in for the HSG on CD5. Whether they will be able to do it next month, Im not sure.
They did tell me I am too old for IVF on the NHS now (having just turned 40) but Im still not sure I want to go that route anyway.
So it seems we just need to have lots of sex next month and see if it can happen naturally. But I feel like we have been doing that for months and months already!

 

[SaraJewel]

Thanks for the update Green!

We are with you every step of the way. It is good that we can still have investigations on the NHS even if not IVF. I know what you mean about IVF, I'm not sure I would do it either but I suppose that's because I don't know what our situation is regarding fertility.

Good luck with your HSG when you get it x x x

How is everyone else? You are all very quiet. Not much happening with me. Not been to doc's yet, just continuing to try.............

 

[gustav72]

Thinking good thoughts for you Sara Jewel!

I (we) are going to our first "infertility" appt. the Wednesday after Thanksgiving. I haven't thought much about it since I've been celebrating my 40th birthday this past week...but, not that all the celebrations are over, I'm a bit anxious about it. I'm sure I will need blood work and my OH has already done all the sperm analysis. He is going to to his doctor this week to talk to him about Viagra...so, we will see. sigh.

 

[viccat]

Thanks for the update green. Interesting to hear that the NHS IVF assistance cuts off at age 40. I still don't feel like I want to go down that route, but at least now I know I need to think about it before then! I never knew there were NHS fertility clinics either ..... how naive am I?

Been quiet lately because we've been busy and I've been rather about TTC. I have decidedly fallen off the wagon in the last couple of months, drinking a bit too much and not taking my vitamins. The arrived at the weekend, in conjunction with the very cute niece and nephew which didn't put me in the best of moods.

On the plus side, I have been accidentally tee-total for the last week, and am feeling more focused about getting back on vitamins etc. so I am gearing up to be super-positive again. OH and I talked about going to the doctors again yesterday - just need to make the appointment now.

 

[SaraJewel]

Thanks for the update green. Interesting to hear that the NHS IVF assistance cuts off at age 40. I still don't feel like I want to go down that route, but at least now I know I need to think about it before then! I never knew there were NHS fertility clinics either ..... how naive am I?

Been quiet lately because we've been busy and I've been rather about TTC. I have decidedly fallen off the wagon in the last couple of months, drinking a bit too much and not taking my vitamins. The arrived at the weekend, in conjunction with the very cute niece and nephew which didn't put me in the best of moods.

On the plus side, I have been accidentally tee-total for the last week, and am feeling more focused about getting back on vitamins etc. so I am gearing up to be super-positive again. OH and I talked about going to the doctors again yesterday - just need to make the appointment now.

I feel the same Viccat, quite about ttc. Just assume I'll get AF each month, started today, and just feel like "whatever"...........

I made appointment with GP today. Don't really know what to say........ "hey, I'm 39, know I'm probably too old to have kids, but just thought I'd come to see what my options are.......... Oh and OH and I prob don't have enough sex, and tho most of the time he can finish, he still can't sometimes!". All that in 10 mins????? I think she will see me as a total waste of time...............

Hmmm, not feeling really positive! How is everyone else?

 

[viccat]

I feel the same Viccat, quite about ttc. Just assume I'll get AF each month, started today, and just feel like "whatever"...........

I made appointment with GP today. Don't really know what to say........ "hey, I'm 39, know I'm probably too old to have kids, but just thought I'd come to see what my options are.......... Oh and OH and I prob don't have enough sex, and tho most of the time he can finish, he still can't sometimes!". All that in 10 mins????? I think she will see me as a total waste of time...............

Hmmm, not feeling really positive! How is everyone else?

Not good either. This month we have DTD the grand total of zero times. It would quite literally have to be a miraculous conception.

More scary is that I have not been bothered enough to pester to BD at least once in the window. I have also pretty much stopped using the CB monitor. TTC is third on the list for the GP after looking at a dodgy mole and doing a smear test.

I am enjoying my work (which is very busy) and planning the house purchase. My cat has been ill recently so my spare time and energy is about trying to sort her out.

Bizarrely though, I've been teetotal for 3 weeks now Perhaps new year, new start?

So....... when is your GP appointment SJ?

 

[janey211]

Hi Ladies.

Just wanted to let you know that I am still checking in on you and hoping for good news soon. I can see from your posts that AI still isn't in play for you regularly. PLEASE start now!!!! It works!

anyway, always thining of you guys and hoping for good news.

 

[HPMINI]

viccat and sarajewel - and others too.

Just wanted to say I had exactly the same concerns you did but just to let you know that at the age of 39 and 5 months, on 2nd December at 6.07am I gave birth to Thomas Anthony weighing 7lb 4oz!

 

[SaraJewel]

viccat and sarajewel - and others too.

Just wanted to say I had exactly the same concerns you did but just to let you know that at the age of 39 and 5 months, on 2nd December at 6.07am I gave birth to Thomas Anthony weighing 7lb 4oz!

AMAZING!!!! Congratulations x x x

Well I have news of my own........... Turns out it wasn't starting after all, spotting stopped pretty much straight away.................

Waited til was a week late (agonising) and got on Wednesday!!!!!!

It feels really unreal but exciting but then scary too!!!

 

[gustav72]

Sarajewel!! That's amazing news!!! so happy for you...CONGRATULATIONS!!!

 

[Zeri]

Awesome Sara Jewel! Wow, such great news! You must be so excited! How did your DH react?

Also, if I can ask, which days did you BD?

 

[SaraJewel]

Awesome Sara Jewel! Wow, such great news! You must be so excited! How did your DH react?

Also, if I can ask, which days did you BD?

Thanks! I think I am still in shock!

He's really really happy!

BD CD10, CD12, CD14. Was a record number in the fertile period for us, did the trick!

 

[Zeri]

Awesome!!! Hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months!!

 

[greenjelly]

Sara Jewel! That is fantastic news. Congratulations. So well deserved. A long thread all thanks to you. 7 BFPs now is it? Wow! Keep healthy and enjoy!
And keep us posted on how you are feeling.
xxxx

 

[greenjelly]

I meant to ask Sara, any symptoms that made you suspicious? xxx

 

[SaraJewel]

I meant to ask Sara, any symptoms that made you suspicious? xxx

Hi Green and thanks!

It's 6 BFPs, I'm the 6th! Still feels like it's not real!

I think my BBs were slightly more tender than usual but they vary from cycle to cycle. I had spotting on CD31 which lasted only an hour or something. Then cramps like AF was about to start CD32 and 33 and off and on since then with a bit of acid indigestion thrown in for measure!

Feeling a bit tired but nothing like people have described.

Will be 6 weeks tomorrow. Main symptom has been acid indigestion/heartburn type feeling.

Good luck to everyone

 

[lexus15]

Well done & huge congratulations ladies..very inspiring as my OH has a low sex drive! Fingers crossed for the rest of us.x

 

[smurfy]

Hi Gustav,
My OH uses viagra regularly and he doesn't really like to dtd without it now, he says it makes him feel like he's 20 again...lol and it really took the pressure off maintaining erection for him, it just stays up regardless ...and it totally worked for us this last month...we did only dtd once this last cycle too! And he gets his online so didnt have to go to dr...

Congratulations, i hope all is going well for you. Can I ask when you DTD in terms of your ovulation day, not sure if you used opks or not thanks