OH performance anxiety - 6 BFPs so far!!!!

[janey211]

SARA SARA SARA...I am so excited for you!!!! Sending you a HUGE congratulations your way.

 

[HPMINI]

Well done Sarajewel! Really pleased for you!

 

[SaraJewel]

Well done Sarajewel! Really pleased for you!

Me too! Thank you, although it all started to get better when I took your approach of telling OH when was a "good" week, so thank you very much for your advice x

I hope you are enjoying being a Mum, must feel so strange!!!

 

[viccat]

viccat and sarajewel - and others too.

Just wanted to say I had exactly the same concerns you did but just to let you know that at the age of 39 and 5 months, on 2nd December at 6.07am I gave birth to Thomas Anthony weighing 7lb 4oz!

Awwwww .... congratulations HP - really pleased for you. What a fantastic Christmas present!

Well I have news of my own........... Turns out it wasn't starting after all, spotting stopped pretty much straight away.................

Waited til was a week late (agonising) and got on Wednesday!!!!!!

It feels really unreal but exciting but then scary too!!!

OMG!!! I really didn't think it was your month after your last post. Brilliant news SJ!!!!! I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for a happy and healthy 9 months.

 

[kelly1973]

sara just popped in ahd yessssssssssssss you go girl over the moon for you bloody brilliant xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[kelly1973]

wow this thread is quiet xxx

 

[SaraJewel]

wow this thread is quiet xxx

I know!

Keep it going girls, this thread kept me going when everything felt completely hopeless........

 

[kelly1973]

happy new year ladies xxxxxxxx how you feeling sara xxxxxxxx

 

[HPMINI]

Hi all

Being a mum is great but I'm not going to lie, so tiring!! Fun though!

Thomas is doing well and has a good set of lungs. He is so worth it!

 

[kelly1973]

so glad hp can we see some pics xxx

 

[HPMINI]

I'll try and upload one or two!

 

[HPMINI]

 

[SaraJewel]

Oh wow he is so cute!!!!!

I am doing fine thank you Kelly. A bit queasy/tired at times but otherwise OK!

How is everyone doing?

I don't think this is the place for pregnancy chat.

Maybe this thread will fade away naturally, but if anyone is having the difficulties/stresses I had, I can say I found it very supportive to know others are going through the same thing It gave me a lot of hope.

 

[kelly1973]

hp hes adorable xxxxx

 

[HPMINI]

Thanks! I am biased but he is very beautiful and currently asleep! It's exhausting but worth it! Good luck with yours Kelly!

Sara - now the title indicates how many bfp's we've had I think, personally, that it's ok to talk!

And if people find it supportive it's all good!

 

[smurfy]

Thanks! I am biased but he is very beautiful and currently asleep! It's exhausting but worth it! Good luck with yours Kelly!

Sara - now the title indicates how many bfp's we've had I think, personally, that it's ok to talk!

And if people find it supportive it's all good!

Congratulations to all of your who got your BFP, I hope your pregnancies go well and very healthy. I have tried going through the posts but cant see your road to BFP, would a few of you mind sharing these with us, ie opk, when DTD etc what was different, thank you

 

[HPMINI]

I used a Clear Blue Fertility Monitor but rather than focus on the 48 hour window I would tell my husband when it was a good week.

 

[Katherine1209]

I havent been online for quite some time but wanted to pop in and say hi to you all...
Sara, was so happy to read about your bfp! And Green how are you going? Kelly, i cant believe ur 30 weeks already..wont be long until you get to meet your baby too!
Gorgeous pic HPMINI...he is just beautiful.
As for me, i am now about 16 weeks and tonight felt my first flutter...what a lovely feeling. I cried, not that that is unusual at all...it seems to be my main pg symptom, tears!

 

[Katherine1209]

Hi Gustav,
My OH uses viagra regularly and he doesn't really like to dtd without it now, he says it makes him feel like he's 20 again...lol and it really took the pressure off maintaining erection for him, it just stays up regardless ...and it totally worked for us this last month...we did only dtd once this last cycle too! And he gets his online so didnt have to go to dr...

Congratulations, i hope all is going well for you. Can I ask when you DTD in terms of your ovulation day, not sure if you used opks or not thanks

Hi Smurfy, i was using opks, which was positive on cd10 in the am, we only DTD once that whole month and it was on cd 12 in the am...part of me still cant believe it! In fact I really had no symptoms at all and only tested that night as my af hadnt come...sometimes its one or two days late anyway, so i wasnt expecting a double line! We had our IV appt all set up for five days later too!
I am about 16 weeks now and really looking forward to my 19 week scan.
Hope things are going okay for you x

 

[Hyacinth76]

Hello
This is my first post on the site, but this thread has been a bit of a lifeline for me whilst my OH and i have been TTC.
I'm so pleased to see the recent successes, and it gives me hope that it could happen to me.

My story is fairly straight forward. We've been TTC for around 18 months. Around 6 months ago we went to the Dr's to see what was going on. OH's tests came back with good results for his swimmers. My scans showed that I was ovulating frequently, but that I potentially had PCOS.
We were prescribed Clomid, and started to take it around 3 months ago.

My OH has never been very fussed about DTD, and so we've never had an active sex life. He often can't finish, which I think makes him want to DTD even less.
Since TTC we have been averaging DTD once or twice a month.

My Dr prescribed 3 months of Clomid, and we came to the end of the prescription last month, with no success. I'm using the Clearblue OPK so that I can let my OH know when a good time to DTD is, as spontaneity isn't really his thing!

Timing has been a huge issue. We both work away from home a lot, and the ovulation window always seems to fall when one of us is away.

So this month I start my cycle without the Clomid medication, and the prospect of another trip to the doctors to speak with them about what we do next. We didn't mention the performance issues before, but I think as my OH can see the disappointment each month is bringing, that he might be willing to talk about it to someone who can help.
It all feels a bit much at the moment, and I am struggling to deal with this months disappointment.

Sorry, that's a really long first post! Thanks for taking the time to read it.