Radkat, Sorry I missed you on my last reply! I think any good employer is already noodling on who can replace you should you decide to stay home, so even if you don't say and they can't ask, they should be doing some succession planning just in case! I'm so thrilled that you will be moving back to your family. If you are in Cali now, the cost of living will also most likely be lower where u move and having that family support is a true blessing. You go girl!