[OPEN] 1st child due late July/August 2011

[BattyNora]

Is that scan your first scan?

We have our first scan next weds and we can't wait - it feels like we've waited an age! The only thing with the UK, is this scan will be the first actual test we've had to confirm the pregnancy - no bloods, no pee or anything before - so it's going to be such a relief finally seeing twiglet!

 

[turtlebeach]

Hi to everyone and welcome to all you newbies

I'm relaxing a bit more now... I spoke to my mum and she said she didn't have any sickness with all 3 of us kids and to stop worrying about the fact my sickness stopped. Its actually come back slightly but vey mild which is nice as i've had it pretty bad.

I ordered a doppler at the weekend and have been hoping it will arrive everyday but it still hasn't - fingers crossed for tomorrow! I can't wait to try and use it even if it is a bit early.

rducky - Thats awful that yor pregnancy was published on FB. We have only told my parents, brother and sister and MIL for the reason we trust no one else not to publish it on there! My work don't know yet because i'm waiting until the scan to make sure all is ok (getting tricky thou as i've really popped out this week, i'm a uk 6/8 which is XS so it really shows on me i'm trying to hide it with clever dressing!)

Is anyone else starting to show??? My mum is wondering if mine is twins!!! but i think i'm starting to show early as my frame is so small.

We also haven't told any friends yet as we are waiting till after the scan. Its going to be very tricky as i'm meant to be my close friends bridesmaid when i'm almost 7 months. She got my dress over a year ago and there is no way its going to fit or that we can change it for another style in the same colour as she has other matching bridesmaids... i'm getting worried about how i'm going to tell her... I know she will be pleased but I know its going to stress her

On a plus I look like i've had an overnight boobjob. Before pregnancy I was wearing a 32A i got measured today as it realllllllly didn't fit and i'm now a 30D!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[turtlebeach]

Is that scan your first scan?

We have our first scan next weds and we can't wait - it feels like we've waited an age! The only thing with the UK, is this scan will be the first actual test we've had to confirm the pregnancy - no bloods, no pee or anything before - so it's going to be such a relief finally seeing twiglet!

Its crazy isn't it. I was so shocked that no one has actually tested me yet! I've seen the doc, had 2 midwife appointments and been to A&E for pains yet still no one has done a pregnancy test or taken my blood etc. I've got a free prescription card/NHS dental treatment card for being pregnant yet - anyone could go in and say they are, its a bit bad really!

 

[HarliRexx]

Hi everyone. Sorry I disappeared for a while. I've actually been pretty depressed. The constant nausea and fatigue has gotten to me mentally and DH has been pretty frustrated the past few weeks because he feels like he has to do everything himself. Truely it takes so much energy just for me to spend 15 min on housework and it's just been impossible for me to keep up with everything. Plus as I think I mentioned to you guys before I have chronic back pain and now I have to get extra therapy because my sciatic nerve pain is so bad. I also got a very less than enthusiastic response from my family when I announced my pregnancy at Christmas. I've had to hold in my sadness at their response because I knew if my DH caught me crying about it he would call my fam and yell at them.

Someone mentioned their pregnancy was outed on facebook...so was mine! By an aunt I am not close with at all. I feel like it's completely intentional because common sense should tell you that if someone hasn't announced their pregnancy themselves it's because they're not ready to yet.

One good piece of news is I had my first scan on Christmas Eve. I was 9 wks at the time. Everything looked great...baby is in a good place in my uterus, strong heartbeat, we even saw the baby move a little! It was so wonderful and it really helped give me peace of mind.... made it seem "real" and gave me assurance that my baby is healthy and that my pregnancy is progressing properly so far. The other good news is that my nausea hasnt been as bad the past week or so. It's back to just coming and going instead of lasting all day.

I've missed you guys and I probably should have been on here venting a little instead of just bottling everything in and getting depressed. You are a good support and I thank you all for that!

 

[SMFirst]

Hi Harli

I am really glad to hear that you and the baby are healthy - I was worried

But it's really too bad you are not feeling happy. I think it's common during pregnancy and alot could be blamed on hormones. It must be hard for husbands to comprehend what you are going through but if you really opened up I'm sure your husband would be supportive and less frustrated.

Also very unfortunate to hear your family didn't give a great response - I wonder why? Well regardless it's your life and you and your husband will have a wonderful start to your own family with your baby

I just can't understand how anyone could blab about someone's pregnancy (escpecially on FB - I mean, it's one thing to accidentally slip and say something but to type it out?) - sorry about that too..

But absolutely come and rant on here, and maybe we can help sort things out for you, or at least listen!

 

[rducky]

Hey Harli,

Glad to see you back. We were getting worried...

It's disappointing that your family wasn't excited about the baby. I wonder what the problem is. Seems to me that it's news to be celebrated.

Have you explained to DH how tired you are? I have to say that I'm not pulling my weight at home either. I just can't manage it with work as well. It's really not easy if you're feeling sick to your stomach. I think we all should have a couple weeks of fatigue left, and then in 2nd trimester, things should start looking up again.

The facebook outing is definitely irritating also. I'm still not over it, so I understand how you feel!

 

[rducky]

So, we had our nuchal translucency ultrasound done today. It was also the first time seeing the baby. It was really great!

Nuchal measurement was 1.12mm, the tech said that at my gestational age they want it to be less than 3mm. Heartbeat was 168 beats per minute. She identified 2 legs, 2 arms, stomach, bladder, hands, feet and we even saw the 2 hemispheres of the brain in one pic. She was really professional and knowledgeable. She said that the baby measures about 5cm from crown to rump, and about 7cm if the legs are stretched out.

Now, I can't wait for all you ladies to go for your scans...I want to see the babies!

I really felt a lot of relief after seeing the scan. Also feels quite real, finally. Here's a pic:

https://i1117.photobucket.com/albums/k587/rducky20/BABY_32.jpg

https://i1117.photobucket.com/albums/k587/rducky20/BABY_36.jpg

 

[rducky]

Oh, and my dates were moved up by 2 days based on the measurements, so I've changed my ticker.

 

[SMFirst]

Great pics rducky!! Glad everything went well and you had a good tech (sometimes they can be cold and unhelpful I've heard)

I like the little hand

There's a wive's tale that says a heartbeat more than 140 means girl... hmm..

Will you find out the gender? We are not going to.

 

[HarliRexx]

WOW! Those are great pics! Looks very different than my 9wk pics. It's amazing how much the babies grow and develop in just a few weeks! I don't know how to post pics or I would have shown you mine.

DH and I had a long tearful discussion tonight and I think things will be better between us now. And yes, I do hope that in just a couple weeks we will all feel more like ourselves again.

Looking back, I think my family's lack of a reaction had alot to do with my dad. Growing up, none of us, my mother included, were really allowed to have opinions of our own. It was just what my dad says goes. So I think when my dad just sat there saying nothing, no one else really felt they could say or react much either. It doesn't make me any less excited to be a mom, so I'm trying not to let it bother me.

We hope to find out the gender. I think it makes it too hard to plan and for others to buy gifts if you don't.

 

[rducky]

We will be trying our best to not find out the gender. I really would like it to be a surprise. The tech asked us today if she should say if she saw any clues, but we said no.

Harli, if you open a photobucket account (it's free) you can easily post your pics. You upload the pictures into photobucket and then you use the url link to post them on here. When you're typing a post the little square with what looks like mountain and a sun in it up top is the button you press to insert a picture. It will say "please enter the url of your image. Then you would copy the url from photobucket and paste it in the box. After that, if you click preview post, you should see your pic. Hope that makes sense...Maybe there's someone else out there who can explain it better.

I'm glad thing are better with your DH. With time, your family (especially mum) will probably get more excited too.

 

[SMFirst]

Harli - my dad is actually quite similar. My husband thinks my mom, sister and I don't show appreciation for my dad because we don't share much with him or interact much now, but I keep telling my husband he didn't grow up with my dad!

So when we told my parents and DH's mom my dad didn't say a word either but I didn't really care - my mom and DH's mom were excited

That's really good you and your DH talked Everything will be good soon enough!

 

[turtlebeach]

Hi everyone. Sorry I disappeared for a while. I've actually been pretty depressed. The constant nausea and fatigue has gotten to me mentally and DH has been pretty frustrated the past few weeks because he feels like he has to do everything himself. Truely it takes so much energy just for me to spend 15 min on housework and it's just been impossible for me to keep up with everything. Plus as I think I mentioned to you guys before I have chronic back pain and now I have to get extra therapy because my sciatic nerve pain is so bad. I also got a very less than enthusiastic response from my family when I announced my pregnancy at Christmas. I've had to hold in my sadness at their response because I knew if my DH caught me crying about it he would call my fam and yell at them.

Someone mentioned their pregnancy was outed on facebook...so was mine! By an aunt I am not close with at all. I feel like it's completely intentional because common sense should tell you that if someone hasn't announced their pregnancy themselves it's because they're not ready to yet.

One good piece of news is I had my first scan on Christmas Eve. I was 9 wks at the time. Everything looked great...baby is in a good place in my uterus, strong heartbeat, we even saw the baby move a little! It was so wonderful and it really helped give me peace of mind.... made it seem "real" and gave me assurance that my baby is healthy and that my pregnancy is progressing properly so far. The other good news is that my nausea hasnt been as bad the past week or so. It's back to just coming and going instead of lasting all day.

I've missed you guys and I probably should have been on here venting a little instead of just bottling everything in and getting depressed. You are a good support and I thank you all for that!

Hi Harli

So glad you are back and all is ok! Sorry to hear you have been feeling down I understand where you are coming from as i've been suffering from pelvic pain which is also effecting my lower back (i've had previous surgery in that area and have metal plates etc so with all the hormones causing movement thats why). Yours sounds worse than mine however so I can understand why you are feeling depressed. Pregnancy is hard enough on its own without added pain Our house is a mess too, I know its hard espeically if your OH isn't being helpful. Have you tried getting him a pregnancy for dads book or something which explains how tired you are feeling etc and then tell him you are 100 times worse because of your other pains?

Its great news that you had a scan and all is well must have been lovely to see little bean!

Big hugs x

 

[turtlebeach]

Rducky - AWWWWWWWWW!!!!

Bet you are so pleased your bean looks so cute! glad to hear all is going well and that all the sizes etc are as they should be.

Look at its cute little hand! aww

xxxx

 

[SMFirst]

That's a great wedding pic you posted on the "Faces to Names" thread rducky
What day was your wedding? Ours was June 12, 2010.

We're the same age too My b-day is in May..

 

[rducky]

That's a great wedding pic you posted on the "Faces to Names" thread rducky
What day was your wedding? Ours was June 12, 2010.

We're the same age too My b-day is in May..

Our wedding was June 26, 2010 and my birthday is April 20th, so we're pretty close!

 

[Bonniep]

Hiya all, im new to the site, been on a few times to look up things but never spoken.
I am 29, very happily married, and due with my first child around 30th july and id love to be part of your group.
I was trying for just over a year, i have endometriosis so i was facing clomid, operation etc but i managed to avoid it all
I had a scan at 6 and half weeks as i was getting terrible pains and thought it was sumthing bad, but luckly baby was fine.
I have my 12 week scan this friday which im very excited about.

It would be lovely to be friends with you all, so maybe we can be support and help for each other, i know as its my first i could do with a bit of help from women in the same position as me lol.

Love to you all xxx

 

[SMFirst]

hi Bonnie, welcome

Well you found the right age group A few of us are also 29 and expecting our first!

Good luck with your scan. Mine still feels so far away.

And I still haven't received my doppler but hopefully today or this week..

I've felt more emotional in the last few days (maybe hormones again?) - I cried over my cat again when we received her ashes on the weekend, and then today I can't get my mind off worrying about this pregnancy again (and getting near tears)

I better get busy at work to distract myself!

 

[rducky]

Welcome, Bonnie! I think you have found the right group. It's so great that you got pregnant before needing the treatments. Congrats!

Susan, I think that your doppler will help with the worry. Once you hear the HB, it really is a relief. I hope it arrived today. I definitely found that once I had my doppler, the wait for the ultrasound got a bit more bearable. I definitely didn't use it every day, but I did get it out to check once or twice a week.

I'm also feeling the hormones. Little things tip me off...some movies have had me shedding a tear, when I wasn't usually like that before. I think it's completely normal about your kitty though, losing a loved pet is really hard.

 

[HarliRexx]

Welcome to Bonnie and any new gals I missed!

I'm gonna try to post my scan pics. Thanks for the good instructions rducky! You can't see a whole lot of detail, but you can see the little arm and leg nubs! In the 2nd one the lightest area is the heart.

Alot of us really are about the same in age, I'll be 29 in less than 2 months.

Is anyone else at that awkward in between stage where your regular clothes are nearly too tight but the maternity clothes are still too loose? Frustrating! I only have one pair of pants that actually fit properly now.

https://i210.photobucket.com/albums/bb131/limegreentj/baby1224.jpg

https://i210.photobucket.com/albums/bb131/limegreentj/babyheart.jpg