hello_kitty
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Hi ladies,
I currently have 2 boys aged 4 and 2.5. Last month I found out I was pregnant. Although this baby was a surprise, we feel truly blessed to be adding a new addition to our family. When I first found out, I swore that I wouldnt let the gender of the baby effect me, and like all other moms, I would love this baby with every cell in my body whether its a boy or girl BUT there are split moments where I feel the ache for a little girl and then brush it off and say it shouldnt matter. Right now, I am having another one of those moments. I just want to admit it somewhere, to someone, that I really want that little girl. My friends and family do not know that I am pregnant yet, and I plan to hide it for as long as I can since I am not too big on the announcement and just want to keep it within our nuclear family for as long as I can. Every time they see me, they keep saying things such as "oh you need to try for a girl." This really annoys me because its not within our control what gender we get and sometimes it feels like peer pressure.
Also, I know a lot of people will have pity for me if I end up with another boy. A relative tried to socialize with me and said I should start trying for a third and hopefully it'll be a girl, and my mom jumped in and said "never mind that, what if she ends up with another boy" Everyone is acting like having another boy is the end of the world. Yes, we would love a girl, but I also feel if this baby is a boy, he's been shunned from the start. People will be particularly interested in the gender scans and there will be a lot of disappointments.
There are already 4 grandsons on my husbands side and I know my husband's family would be over the moon (as well as my family) if I am having a girl.
I am only 6 weeks, so it will be awhile before I have the gender scan, but I have a strong feeling this is another boy, given the fact that we conceived on O day (same way as my last son) and based off the pregnancy symptoms. If you've had all the same gender, how did you feel by the second time or 3rd time and how did you come to accept it? Thanks.
I currently have 2 boys aged 4 and 2.5. Last month I found out I was pregnant. Although this baby was a surprise, we feel truly blessed to be adding a new addition to our family. When I first found out, I swore that I wouldnt let the gender of the baby effect me, and like all other moms, I would love this baby with every cell in my body whether its a boy or girl BUT there are split moments where I feel the ache for a little girl and then brush it off and say it shouldnt matter. Right now, I am having another one of those moments. I just want to admit it somewhere, to someone, that I really want that little girl. My friends and family do not know that I am pregnant yet, and I plan to hide it for as long as I can since I am not too big on the announcement and just want to keep it within our nuclear family for as long as I can. Every time they see me, they keep saying things such as "oh you need to try for a girl." This really annoys me because its not within our control what gender we get and sometimes it feels like peer pressure.
Also, I know a lot of people will have pity for me if I end up with another boy. A relative tried to socialize with me and said I should start trying for a third and hopefully it'll be a girl, and my mom jumped in and said "never mind that, what if she ends up with another boy" Everyone is acting like having another boy is the end of the world. Yes, we would love a girl, but I also feel if this baby is a boy, he's been shunned from the start. People will be particularly interested in the gender scans and there will be a lot of disappointments.
There are already 4 grandsons on my husbands side and I know my husband's family would be over the moon (as well as my family) if I am having a girl.
I am only 6 weeks, so it will be awhile before I have the gender scan, but I have a strong feeling this is another boy, given the fact that we conceived on O day (same way as my last son) and based off the pregnancy symptoms. If you've had all the same gender, how did you feel by the second time or 3rd time and how did you come to accept it? Thanks.