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Expecting #3 :)
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Are you a wait til after the scan person or before the pee's dried on the stick kinda gal?
We told straight away with the first three if i remember rightly. I was far too excited to hold it in!! Then with DS i think i held out until about 8 weeks. My friends pretty much guessed straight away when i stopped drinking, but i denied it for a while.
If we are lucky enough to be pregnant again... I will probably tell my close friends straight away and hold off on my parents as long as i can. I know that sounds backwards, but our parents have forbidden us to get pregnant again. They will do nothing but worry alllllll the way through it, and the way i see it, the less time they know, they less time they will spend worrying.
It's shit, because after the first time all of the joy was stripped from a pregnancy announcement for us. At least i know my friends will be happy for me unreservedly. I wish it was different, but it's not and those are the cards i've been dealt so i have to deal with that.
In fact, it's maybe another reason not to bother. There's only me who would be genuinely happy. DH would either be surprised and then upset or otherwise he would be feeling coerced. My parents would out right tell me off. His parents probably wouldn't say much, but would be stressed about it. When did something so happy and lovely turn into something so potentially miserable?
Anyway, under normal circumstances i would tell everyone right away and have that excitement for as long as i could. No one knows how long a pregnancy is going to last and just because you see a heartbeat doesn't mean you will get to take that baby home. When something is so precarious why deny yourself any joy from it at all. Celebrate soon and with everyone. If it all goes pear shaped, those are the memories you will cherish.
We told straight away with the first three if i remember rightly. I was far too excited to hold it in!! Then with DS i think i held out until about 8 weeks. My friends pretty much guessed straight away when i stopped drinking, but i denied it for a while.
If we are lucky enough to be pregnant again... I will probably tell my close friends straight away and hold off on my parents as long as i can. I know that sounds backwards, but our parents have forbidden us to get pregnant again. They will do nothing but worry alllllll the way through it, and the way i see it, the less time they know, they less time they will spend worrying.
It's shit, because after the first time all of the joy was stripped from a pregnancy announcement for us. At least i know my friends will be happy for me unreservedly. I wish it was different, but it's not and those are the cards i've been dealt so i have to deal with that.
In fact, it's maybe another reason not to bother. There's only me who would be genuinely happy. DH would either be surprised and then upset or otherwise he would be feeling coerced. My parents would out right tell me off. His parents probably wouldn't say much, but would be stressed about it. When did something so happy and lovely turn into something so potentially miserable?
Anyway, under normal circumstances i would tell everyone right away and have that excitement for as long as i could. No one knows how long a pregnancy is going to last and just because you see a heartbeat doesn't mean you will get to take that baby home. When something is so precarious why deny yourself any joy from it at all. Celebrate soon and with everyone. If it all goes pear shaped, those are the memories you will cherish.